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Forgiveness has never been a tool in our ten stage recovery process

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Forgiveness has never been a tool in our ten stage recovery process, but is a consequence of it. If we attempt to forgive before we ha...

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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Forgiveness has never been a tool in our ten stage recovery process, but is a consequence of it. If we attempt to forgive before we have exhumed and felt and grieved and healed the damages done to us we only engage in the delusion of a temporary, premature forgiveness that can so easily be undone when unresolved traumas erupt once again, which they invariably do. When we grieve we reconnect with the best of ourselves and with our pure life force spontaneously forgiving. And then our forgiveness is true, deep, pure, and permanent.<br />SHARE</span><br /><br /><br />The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Forgiveness has never been a tool in our ten stage recovery process

Forgiveness has never been a tool in our ten stage recovery process, but is a consequence of it. If we attempt to forgive before we ha...

Our recovery whilst working the ten stages is our full conscious connection with our core of truth our own child within.

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Title: Our recovery whilst working the ten stages is our full conscious connection with our core of truth our own child within.
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Our recovery whilst working the ten stages is our full conscious connection with our core of truth our own child within. Our unconscious,...

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Our recovery whilst working the ten stages is our full conscious connection with our core of truth our own child within. Our unconscious, which came into existence to buffer us from the traumas that childhood foisted upon us, is slowly dissolved through the recovery process, and especially through the tears of our pain, grief and suffering. The more we become conscious the more understanding we become, and when we become fully conscious, and have no unconscious left, we are rendered fully recovered. This is our goal, this is the goal of the ten stages, and through the manifestation of this goal we find ourselves optimally equipped to spread the message of truth and healing and honesty everywhere to all people and beings.We are the recipients of great power and authority as we have broken the shame and blame others have foisted upon us.</span><br />
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our recovery whilst working the ten stages is our full conscious connection with our core of truth our own child within.

Our recovery whilst working the ten stages is our full conscious connection with our core of truth our own child within. Our unconscious,...

All too often our recovery stages at the ten stages begs us to quit and dissociate.

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Title: All too often our recovery stages at the ten stages begs us to quit and dissociate.
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All too often our recovery stages at the ten stages begs us to quit and dissociate. It is so painful and protracted that it seems no one ...

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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">All too often our recovery stages at the ten stages begs us to quit and dissociate. It is so painful and protracted that it seems no one in their right mind would continue on it. This is why we keep in mind that this journey is difficult for everyone of us who undertakes it. We keep our focus on our personal goal forward progress, we constantly exercise the best patience, loving-kindfulness and the hardiest perseverance we can muster. Some days the best we can do is plod on forward, putting one foot in front of the other. As the old Chinese saying goes, “When your horse dies, walk.” And so we walk onward everyday! </span><br />
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

All too often our recovery stages at the ten stages begs us to quit and dissociate.

All too often our recovery stages at the ten stages begs us to quit and dissociate. It is so painful and protracted that it seems no one ...

Ten Stage Recovery is based on the premise that addiction cannot exist without the building block of dissociation

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Title: Ten Stage Recovery is based on the premise that addiction cannot exist without the building block of dissociation
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Ten Stage Recovery is based on the premise that addiction cannot exist without the building block of dissociation for us being split-off f...

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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Ten Stage Recovery is based on the premise that addiction cannot exist without the building block of dissociation for us being split-off from part or all of our emotions, inner truth, or history— all recovery programs that ignore this fact are doomed to terrible failure becoming ante-chambers to death and legalised drug dealing. Unfortunately this retrogressive answer is still contrary to all the evidence lauded in our troubled world as healthy recovery. Families love children who do not cry or whine, but achieve or feign happiness in spite of their misery. People who are dissociated are often confident, strong, and sure of themselves, because they lean on a totally false self, and lack the conscious feelings which invariably block this falsity. These people often look like the healthiest of all, and in the sickest social environments they rise to the top—and become leaders of so called drug and alcohol recovery services. They are often praised for their skill, power, and enlightenment, though in reality they are just mimicking a truly recovered person. The truly recovered person has earned his connection with his true self, and thus his enlightenment is not false, his confidence not built on sand, his leadership not built on corruption, and his motives conscious and pure—to his depths. </span>
  
 
 
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Ten Stage Recovery is based on the premise that addiction cannot exist without the building block of dissociation

Ten Stage Recovery is based on the premise that addiction cannot exist without the building block of dissociation for us being split-off f...

PLEASE DO NOT FORGIVE

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PLEASE DO NOT FORGIVE : 'via Blog this'

Hurt Child Within hurt ourselves and other people, and healed children heal people.

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Title: Hurt Child Within hurt ourselves and other people, and healed children heal people.
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When we are upset, frustrated, or enraged we lose control and act out our historical trauma on others, it is a clear sign that we are expr...

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />When we are upset, frustrated, or enraged we lose control and act out our historical trauma on others, it is a clear sign that we are expressing, usually through code, some facet of our history of childhood trauma. It is so easy to blame some person in the present for causing our greatest pain and upset, but when we deeply study our motives we discover that the root cause of our rage came decades earlier, and that this present target for our hysteria is just a replicated stand-in, often picked by us for that very purpose. Hurt children hurt people. We do not damage others for no reason: we damage others (and damage ourselves) because that is what we were taught. We hurt others in just the ways we were hurt by others, though often we disguise this by hurting others through coded means. No one causes destruction because they are   inherently bad. No child is born bad, and no one was created imperfect. Our imperfections come from our childhood history of damage. And when we heal that history we discontinue the trauma cycle. Hurt children hurt people, and healed children heal people. </span><br />
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Hurt Child Within hurt ourselves and other people, and healed children heal people.

When we are upset, frustrated, or enraged we lose control and act out our historical trauma on others, it is a clear sign that we are expr...

If we do not recover our buried, ancient traumatic history

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Title: If we do not recover our buried, ancient traumatic history
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If we do not recover our buried, ancient traumatic history we will invariably act them out, we replicate them in negative ways in our liv...

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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">If we do not recover our buried, ancient traumatic history we will invariably act them out, we replicate them in negative ways in our lives and on the world around us. Healing our traumas or replicating them are the two options that life presents us. The more we come to know our true child within through our healing process the more we realise how much we have acted out in our lives, and how much others have acted out on us. To break this cycle we struggle to recover. This gives our life greater value which changes the whole course of our genetic history. </span><br />
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

If we do not recover our buried, ancient traumatic history

If we do not recover our buried, ancient traumatic history we will invariably act them out, we replicate them in negative ways in our liv...

Our Ten Stage Recovery is our inner path alone

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Title: Our Ten Stage Recovery is our inner path alone
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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Our Ten Stage Recovery is our inner path alone, and ultimately we must focus on ourselves and take responsibility for our own actions. That is what it means to be an adult. Yes, we are all connected with others, and their foibles affect our path and sometimes present us with roadblocks, but when we focus on them and their journeys and their weaknesses and their problems we all too often lose sight of our own. Yes, we were traumatised by others, but now it is our job to recover ourselves. </span><br />
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our Ten Stage Recovery is our inner path alone

Our Ten Stage Recovery is our inner path alone, and ultimately we must focus on ourselves and take responsibility for our own actions. Th...

Our Child Within is still perfect within us,We come from perfection and we return to Perfection.

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Title: Our Child Within is still perfect within us,We come from perfection and we return to Perfection.
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We come from perfection and we return to Perfection. Our Child Within is still perfect within us. The core of our being is the perfecti...

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We come from perfection and we return to Perfection. Our Child Within is still perfect within us. The core of our being is the perfection we yearn for, and when we remember this, and keep it front and centre in our mind, we realise we have nothing to fear from looking within. Yes, the seas of our inner emotion and unresolved trauma can be stormy, but beyond those seas is a harbour of our own tranquility this is the harbour of our true self, our true centre of excellence. </span><br />
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our Child Within is still perfect within us,We come from perfection and we return to Perfection.

We come from perfection and we return to Perfection. Our Child Within is still perfect within us. The core of our being is the perfecti...

The corner-stone of the ten stages is honesty to ourselves firstly

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Title: The corner-stone of the ten stages is honesty to ourselves firstly
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The corner-stone of the ten stages is honesty to ourselves firstly which is so easily underestimated. When freed of motive, manipulation,...

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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The corner-stone of the ten stages is honesty to ourselves firstly which is so easily underestimated. When freed of motive, manipulation, and distortion, honesty is the raw power which breaks us from the shackles of our world perception, burning the false news that surround us and creating our new dawn into our real reality. We were raised in a world of lies and deception; when we tell the truth we open our paths into a whole new and unexpected way. </span><div>
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The corner-stone of the ten stages is honesty to ourselves firstly

The corner-stone of the ten stages is honesty to ourselves firstly which is so easily underestimated. When freed of motive, manipulation,...

The solutions to our ten stage recovery are all within us, if we take care to look for them.

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Title: The solutions to our ten stage recovery are all within us, if we take care to look for them.
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The solutions to our ten stage recovery are all within us, if we take care to look for them. Our Child within is the truest compass ever ...

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The solutions to our ten stage recovery are all within us, if we take care to look for them. Our Child within is the truest compass ever created, and if we connect the consciousness of our mind with the truth in our child we have a map that cannot fail. Our childhoods taught us that trusting ourselves brought us rejection from our parents and from others whose love we required. Now as adults we are free to return to trusting our inner birthright. We become a great autonomous force for good in our own lives and the life of others.</span><br />

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The illusion of our dissociation is the created label of addict or alcoholic.

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The illusion of our dissociation is the created label of addict or alcoholic. Dissociation finally creates addiction and really addicti...

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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">Dissociation finally creates addiction and really addiction fails to exist until it is acknowledged as the addict/alcoholic label. This building of the addictive personality is solely the result of dissociative thought ...I wish to escape from something, some thought, some repeated action. some trauma. These repeated action of unresolved escapism fail to work as a form of resolution spawning the addict , alcoholic as an entity in itself created to explain dissociation. Neatly avoiding the roots of addiction dissociation. This constructed new personality of addict/alcoholic exists as a separated personality. My name is....and I am an alcoholic/addict cements in place the displaced personality disorder and fails to take into account the dissociative disorder. Resulting in never finding peace except when it is confronted in the ten stages a program that resolves the traumas.</span><br />
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The illusion of our dissociation is the created label of addict or alcoholic.

The illusion of our dissociation is the created label of addict or alcoholic. Dissociation finally creates addiction and really addicti...

During our whole lives we are constantly looking outside of ourselves for approval to fit in.

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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">During our whole lives we are constantly looking outside of ourselves for approval to fit in. This happens first a child - when we adapt to meet our parents needs so that we can get approval.<br /><br />Then, as we get older, it could be a group of friends, or adapt to how we think our romantic partner thinks we should be - or the opposite - we rebel against how anyone thinks we should be and we stand out by not fitting in.<br /><br />No matter how we slice it, adapting ourselves to fitting in or being a rebel and standing out – all of these behaviours stem from our thoughts about what other people think. And living our lives from the perspective of what other people think creates massive pain in our lives. Because when we act based on what other people think, we are acting from the place of a deficit, that is - "I'm not enough, so I am going to change myself to be enough."<br /><br />And this core thought has caused A LOT of pain in our lives.<br /><br />And this core thought has caused a lot of our pain in general.<br /><br />The journey is that through feeling all of this pain, we come back to ourselves. And we stop identifying with what other people think we should be, or we stop rebelling against other people - and instead tune within and listen to whom we really are - at a heart and recovery level.Each and every one of us - and that includes - YOU - is a unique child. We have a unique gift. We are great at something. And life comes into balance and our fullest expression begins to be realised when we align with our true nature that of the child within rather than being a part of the herd or rebelling against the herd.<br /><br />The journey is within. When we listen to and act from that place - we are trendsetters - we are unique - we are special - and ain't no one else like us is made.And what's cool is when we start to belong to ourselves and express our child within - we put out a different frequency and, as a result, we start attracting and meeting others who are on that new wave length. And what's so cool is in doing so, we no longer need to chase people. When we belong to ourselves, we find who else we belong to.<br /><br />The joy of living a Self-Approved life is revealed when we begin to allow ourselves to be ourselves - we accept ourselves as we are - we accept ourselves as perfectly imperfect and the inner conflict begins to die down. And our true nature emerges and The Ten Stages supports us in miraculous ways.<br /><br /><br />How can you start to live a Self- Approved life today?</span><div>
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

During our whole lives we are constantly looking outside of ourselves for approval to fit in.

During our whole lives we are constantly looking outside of ourselves for approval to fit in. This happens first a child - when we adapt t...

What is a Dissociation Curse? Definition of a Dissociational Curse.

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Dissociation can be seen in you when you want to hide or disappear as if you are a thoroughly bad person.

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">Dissociation is an action which you have had chosen for you, more than an emotion like fear or grief.Its acquired numbness.Similar to these emotions is registers in the emotional brain as a deeply painful feeling. Dissociation can be seen in you when you want to hide or disappear as if you are a thoroughly bad person. You hang your head or hunch down, sagging your shoulders. You can’t look anyone in the eye.There is a reason for the pain in dissociation, you are running away, hiding out.<br /><br />During dissy moments you may even say you want to die. We strongly believe that the origin of our feelings of dissociation are rooted in early experiences of the family, group, tribe or social group sending signals of rejection to us. We are ostracised, shunned by our tribe or excommunicated from our family of origin.<br /><br />There is need for discernment because many report that a large majority of dissociation patients have a strong (but hidden) death wish. They may have given up hope on life. This set of the inner person against life will not be healed by affirmations. Even if the dissociation is explained, until the work of the ten stages is entered into the dissociation patient may constantly relapse. The real problem may not be the cancer of dissociation (symptom) it may by the patient (unconscious choice to give up.)<br /><br />This is why it is important to seek ten stage wisdom in meditation - Stage One: listen to meditation of letting go. Watch closely and ask some questions to discern the heartiness of the person's commitment to live, reasons to live. Were they closely bonded to one person who became their life?<br /><br />One of the profiles of the dissociated patient is a life where only one parent was the source of love and where only one other person was allowed into their heart. When that one person dies then they quietly let go of life. (Even if you are married to such a person you may not be the one person that they bonded to. It might be another love, or a child.)<br /><br />If you have dissociation in your life meditate on the ten stages understanding any possible wish to die and choose life positively daily. Meditation firstly clears the path to strong mental health.</span><br />
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Dissociation can be seen in you when you want to hide or disappear as if you are a thoroughly bad person.

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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">Bringing truth and compassion into our life<br /><br />We benefit from practicing truth, not just in private but in our daily lives.<br /><br />And one powerful way of expressing compassion towards ourselves and others is to practice truthful speech.<br /><br />It’s interesting to become more aware of why we’re untruthful. Sometimes it’s for gain (for instance exaggerating our role so that we gain praise); sometimes it’s because of fear (we thing that if people know the truth we’ll lose their esteem); and sometimes it’s out of ill will (we want to hurt someone). When we start to consider that when we lie we’re like puppets having our strings pulled by these negative emotions of craving, fear, and ill will, honesty becomes a kind of freedom.<br /><br />Sure, there are times when it’s best to leave thoughts unspoken – we need not only to practice honesty but also to practice kindness. And we need to speak at the right time. Trying to make “helpful” suggestions, no matter how well intended, can backfire when the other person is stressed or otherwise upset.<br /><br />But one of the main kinds of truthful speech that we need to practice in order to bring more empathy into our lives is something very simple. When we’ve done something hurtful to another person then we should be prepared to truthful or to confess what we’ve done.<br /><br /><br />Truth can be a form of meditation in action. Truth is being honest with another person about something we’ve done to hurt or disappoint them. And actually, when we’re practicing truthfulness we’re also being honest with ourselves.<br /><br />Have you noticed how often we rehearse lies and half-truths to ourselves? Ever done something like this? We’re on our way to meet someone and we left the house a little too late to get there on time. Plus, the traffic’s heavy, and so we find ourselves saying internally that we’re sorry we’re late but, boy, was that traffic bad. Recognize this?<br /><br />Being untruthful, whether it’s an exaggeration, an omission, or a downright lie, happens because of fear, craving (we want to get something or we crave approval), or ill will. Being untruthful is bad for us in part because it reinforces the hold that these negative emotions have on us.<br /><br />Back to that example from above, we often construct little alternative realities for ourselves to hide our failings. So when we apologize (honestly) to our friend for being late we’re not just telling them the truth, we’re also acknowledging to ourselves what the truth is. Some people construct such elaborate systems of alternative realities that they start to loose touch with reality all together.<br /><br />Sometimes these attempts at self-justification take over our lives so that over and over again we find ourselves drawn back to fantasy rather than sticking with our present-moment experience. One way to help let go of these repetitive cycles of painful fantasy is by being truthful, and another is through sharing pain filled thoughts.<br /><br /><br />Truthfulness involves letting go of our defences and allowing ourselves to be seen as imperfect. In doing this we give people the gift of being related to authentically.<br /><br />And we’re recognizing ourselves as imperfect as well. We’re giving to ourselves the gift of self-awareness and integrity.<br /><br />We’re not pretending to be someone else. The act of sharing is also profoundly reconciling. Because we’ve let go of our defences it allows the other person to forgive us. Together, truthfulness and forgiveness are means of communication that bring ourselves and others together in a deep way – a way based on a recognition that we are who we are and not actors pretending.<br /><br />Often we’ll avoid being truthful because we think, deep down, that truthful admission makes us look small, but actually truthfulness shows that we are big enough to admit to being wrong. And it’s OK to be truthful even when we haven’t meant to do anything wrong and sometimes even when someone has taken offense quite unreasonably.<br /><br />When we say we are sorry it doesn’t necessarily mean that we’re admitting that we’re at fault (although it can of course mean just that). The word “sorry” is closely related to the word “sorrow” although we rarely remember the connection. So “sorry” can instead mean that we are sorrowful that the other person is upset, even if they’ve completely misinterpreted what we said or did.<br /><br />Becoming Truthful in these circumstances can open a door to reconciliation in a way that a defensive “that’s not what I meant” never can. Once the other person has accepted our truth there will be time to explain what we really said or meant or did.<br /><br /><br />Sharing is similar to telling the truth, but is not necessarily directed to the person we’ve offended. When we’re sharing, we’re being honest with a third party (and with ourselves, of course) about who we are and what we have done. But in essence we’re standing in front of our ideals in a state of  honesty, admitting that we have fallen short of how we would ideally like to behave.<br /><br />So it’s only possible to confess to someone who shares the same ideals we do. If, for example, you shared that you were contemplating having an affair to someone who actively encouraged you to go ahead and be unfaithful, then that wouldn’t be very helpful for our truthful development.<br /><br />We should consider ourselves very lucky indeed if there is someone to whom we can share to in this way. We can consider ourselves lucky to have someone whom we can confide in, who can keep confidences, and who shares our truth perspective and won’t let us off the hook. That’s a real friend, and such friends are all too rare.<br /><br /><br />We should also, in the spirit of truthfulness, be prepared to understand others. To withhold truth in order to hurt another person or out of self-righteous anger is an abuse of the other person’s honesty and sensitivity. We’re hardly likely to encourage people to be honest with us if we punish them for it. Of course there may be times when we feel unable to share to</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"> someone instantly, and that’s okay. Genuine truthfulness will take time. But we should not withhold sharing out of anger or mean-spiritedness. We should give truth as freely as we are able.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">Bringing truth and compassion into our life in an often difficult environment<br /><br />We enormously benefit from practicing truth, not just in private but in our daily lives.<br /><br />And one powerful way of expressing compassion towards ourselves and others is to practice truthful speech.<br /><br />It’s interesting to become more aware of why we’re untruthful. Sometimes it’s for gain (for instance exaggerating our role so that we gain praise); sometimes it’s because of fear (we thing that if people know the truth we’ll lose their esteem); and sometimes it’s out of ill will (we want to hurt someone). When we start to consider that when we lie we’re like puppets having our strings pulled by these negative emotions of craving, fear, and ill will, honesty becomes a kind of freedom.<br /><br />Sure, there are times when it’s best to leave thoughts unspoken – we need not only to practice honesty but also to practice kindness. And we need to speak at the right time. Trying to make “helpful” suggestions, no matter how well intended, can backfire when the other person is stressed or otherwise upset.<br /><br />But one of the main kinds of truthful speech that we need to practice in order to bring more empathy into our lives is something very simple. When we’ve done something hurtful to another person then we should be prepared to truthful or to confess what we’ve done.<br /><br />Truth can be a form of meditation in action. Truth is being honest with another person about something we’ve done to hurt or disappoint them. And actually, when we’re practicing truthfulness we’re also being honest with ourselves.<br /><br />Have you noticed how often we rehearse lies and half-truths to ourselves? Ever done something like this? We’re on our way to meet someone and we left the house a little too late to get there on time. Plus, the traffic’s heavy, and so we find ourselves saying internally that we’re sorry we’re late but, boy, was that traffic bad. Recognize this?<br /><br />Being untruthful, whether it’s an exaggeration, an omission, or a downright lie, happens because of fear, craving (we want to get something or we crave approval), or ill will. Being untruthful is bad for us in part because it reinforces the hold that these negative emotions have on us.<br /><br />Back to that example from above, we often construct little alternative realities for ourselves to hide our failings. So when we apologize (honestly) to our friend for being late we’re not just telling them the truth, we’re also acknowledging to ourselves what the truth is. Some people construct such elaborate systems of alternative realities that they start to loose touch with reality all together.<br /><br />Sometimes these attempts at self-justification take over our lives so that over and over again we find ourselves drawn back to fantasy rather than sticking with our present-moment experience. One way to help let go of these repetitive cycles of painful fantasy is by being truthful, and another is through sharing pain filled thoughts.<br /><br />Truthfulness involves letting go of our defences and allowing ourselves to be seen as imperfect. In doing this we give people the gift of being related to authentically.<br /><br />And we’re recognizing ourselves as imperfect as well. We’re giving to ourselves the gift of self-awareness and integrity.<br /><br />We’re not pretending to be someone else. The act of sharing is also profoundly reconciling. Because we’ve let go of our defences it allows the other person to forgive us. Together, truthfulness and forgiveness are means of communication that bring ourselves and others together in a deep way – a way based on a recognition that we are who we are and not actors pretending.<br /><br />Often we’ll avoid being truthful because we think, deep down, that truthful admission makes us look small, but actually truthfulness shows that we are big enough to admit to being wrong. And it’s OK to be truthful even when we haven’t meant to do anything wrong and sometimes even when someone has taken offense quite unreasonably.<br /><br />When we say we are sorry it doesn’t necessarily mean that we’re admitting that we’re at fault (although it can of course mean just that). The word “sorry” is closely related to the word “sorrow” although we rarely remember the connection. So “sorry” can instead mean that we are sorrowful that the other person is upset, even if they’ve completely misinterpreted what we said or did.<br /><br />Becoming Truthful in these circumstances can open a door to reconciliation in a way that a defensive “that’s not what I meant” never can. Once the other person has accepted our truth there will be time to explain what we really said or meant or did.<br /><br /><br />Sharing is similar to telling the truth, but is not necessarily directed to the person we’ve offended. When we’re sharing, we’re being honest with a third party (and with ourselves, of course) about who we are and what we have done. But in essence we’re standing in front of our ideals in a state of  honesty, admitting that we have fallen short of how we would ideally like to behave.<br /><br />So it’s only possible to confess to someone who shares the same ideals we do. If, for example, you shared that you were contemplating having an affair to someone who actively encouraged you to go ahead and be unfaithful, then that wouldn’t be very helpful for our truthful development.<br /><br />We should consider ourselves very lucky indeed if there is someone to whom we can share to in this way. We can consider ourselves lucky to have someone whom we can confide in, who can keep confidences, and who shares our truth perspective and won’t let us off the hook. That’s a real friend, and such friends are all too rare.<br /><br /><br />We should also, in the spirit of truthfulness, be prepared to understand others. To withhold truth in order to hurt another person or out of self-righteous anger is an abuse of the other person’s honesty and sensitivity. We’re hardly likely to encourage people to be honest with us if we punish them for it. Of course there may be times when we feel unable to share to</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"> someone instantly, and that’s okay. Genuine truthfulness will take time. But we should not withhold sharing out of anger or mean-spiritedness. We should give truth as freely as we are able.</span><br />
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Bringing truth and compassion into our life in an often difficult environment

Bringing truth and compassion into our life in an often difficult environment We enormously benefit from practicing truth, not just...

In our last meeting at The Stages Academy we explored a subject that most of us are not aware of the strong ancestral voices of our ancestors.

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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">In our last Tuesday meeting at The Stages Academy we explored a subject that most of us are not aware of the strong ancestral voices of our ancestors.  These shame based betrayals often remain unknown, as they are passed unconsciously through the generations.</span><div>
<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /> Some of us are more sensitive to these by nature, and feel these wrongs as violations.  They question the source of this poison infecting them, since its source feels external to them.  As unnamed traumas begin to contaminate us, we start to perceive grave errors, dissonant from our sense-of-self.  This discernment begins in early childhood.<br /><br />If the sensitive child within is not crushed by the emotional limits of his parents, he distances himself from the traumas leaking through mother and father and begins a survival strategy.  Stepping aside from the emotional constriction of our caretakers and creates a secret world.  In this private world, we preserves what is best in us.  From this protected place, we observe those in our family and world who would destroy our original impulses and our authenticity holding on to these truths at all costs. Our devotion is not to mother and father or social propriety, but to these rare gifts of truth that remain at our core.<br /><br />If the child within persists in this self-preservation into adulthood, we will succeed in establishing a true identity, separate from the disguised cruelty of normalcy.  In so doing, we breaks the cycle of trans-generational ancestral voices. A new understanding of our child within emerges, consonant with our original birthed truth, begins.</span><br />
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

In our last meeting at The Stages Academy we explored a subject that most of us are not aware of the strong ancestral voices of our ancestors.

In our last Tuesday meeting at The Stages Academy we explored a subject that most of us are not aware of the strong ancestral voices of ou...

Ten Stage transitioning from our outer definition to inner truth is a lonely path.

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Title: Ten Stage transitioning from our outer definition to inner truth is a lonely path.
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Ten Stage transitioning from our outer definition to inner truth is a lonely path. We leave much behind—including conventional friends and...

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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Ten Stage transitioning from our outer definition to inner truth is a lonely path.<br /><br />We leave much behind—including conventional friends and limited family members.  We must also leave behind old definitions of ourself, constructed and endorsed by our constructed culture.  This too is a transition, a movement.<br /><br />As our outgrown, external structures collapses, out inner ten stage structure emerges.  This inner structure is tested by our new circumstances and found to be true. Our emerging authentic voice holds our developing and authentic, sense of self? we shun the noise of the world and its claims of authority in our lives to listen to the subtle voice of truth at our core? We find we can stake our claim in a new free internal identity, apart from the seductive allure of the external consumerist world with a majority that conforms to it?  we find we can live successfully from within as the outer world whimpers its co-dependant outrage at our defiance of its supremacy?<br /><br />It takes courage to live from within and out of our core of truth and compassion.  The transition from outer definition to inner truth is a lonely path that few have travelled. That’s why it’s good to listen to our own intuitive voice in quiet reflection to the voice of truth that whispers encouraging words and reassuring support that we are actually not alone at all—but surrounded by universal forces that delight in our daring venture to live out of what’s best in us and best in all reality.  With that realisation, even during what feels like our loneliness moment, we see we are not alone, but with the best company of all—our true self and the forces of nature and the universe that delight in our being true.</span><br />
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ten Stage transitioning from our outer definition to inner truth is a lonely path.

Ten Stage transitioning from our outer definition to inner truth is a lonely path. We leave much behind—including conventional friends and...

The ideas manifested within the ten stages is not to blame, and not to praise, because both are insulting.

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Title: The ideas manifested within the ten stages is not to blame, and not to praise, because both are insulting.
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We don't need to empower our child Within to trust their nature.Our child's not wounded we are, The tendency to trust is there. We...

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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We don't need to empower our child Within to trust their nature.Our child's not wounded we are, The tendency to trust is there. We simply need to re-allow them to do so.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We never do anything to our child within that will make us feel badly about ourself. This we have learnt from childhood we do this all the time. We do it with words both internal and external. We take on a parental voice and we do it with looks.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">There are two ways we treat our child within. One is the punishing/blaming: "You are very bad, go stand in the corner or I'll spank you." The other is permissive: "That's perfectly all right darling, if you want to walk on mothers face she doesn't mind." We don't know any other way. The more correct way is what we call information. If we thoroughly understand that our child within are innately social, then we understand that what they want is truthful information. We don't have to be angry to tell them what's needed. We just let them know. The idea is not to blame, and not to praise, because both are insulting. Expect our child within to do the right thing. We then are being a clear model and there's no conflict. It's the way nature designed us to behave and slowly we re-connect.</span><br />
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The ideas manifested within the ten stages is not to blame, and not to praise, because both are insulting.

We don't need to empower our child Within to trust their nature.Our child's not wounded we are, The tendency to trust is there. We...

Positive Affirmation after serious Illness: Today is my first day — and a new time in my life.

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Title: Positive Affirmation after serious Illness: Today is my first day — and a new time in my life.
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Today is my first day — and a new time in my life. There is excitement in the air, for the gift I receive today is time,..a new day, a ne...

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><span style="font-size: large;">Today is my first day — and a new time in my life.  There is excitement in the air, for the gift I receive today is time,..a new day, a new beginning, another chance to heal and grow.  Time is the medium of evolution allowing the unfolding of my life’s purpose.  The days of this day, used consciously, will awaken my purpose and lead to my enlightenment by the grace of the ten stages.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Time used constructively heals the wounds that would crush my life’s expression.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Time used mindfully carries me like a mighty river to my depth.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Time used consciously transforms life experience into wisdom and illumination.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">No wonder I am excited at the prospects of this day and its gift of time.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">It takes time for me to heal. I must proceed slowly, day by day, unraveling the damage that confounds the full expression of my identity. My wounds run deep for they were inflicted practically from my first breath.  The painstaking work of loving all the lost parts of myself back to life, vitality, and full expression must be done slowly, day by day, throughout this bright day.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Today I begin the journey back to my self and to my deep truth. I have taken the hand of my frightened child who was shamed into believing it was of little value and hold this child in my care and protection. I have comforted this terrified child, buried within me, who hid for safe-keeping until this very moment. I open the hospital gates with my love and breathe life into this forgotten existence.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Today we begin a sacred journey through a day.  Slowly, through the days of this new time, we develop our dishonoured child within into the fulfilled adult that life intended.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">I face this bright recovery day  with gratitude, humility and Loving-Kindfulness, I begin a new time in my life.</span><br /><br /><i>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</i></span>

Positive Affirmation after serious Illness: Today is my first day — and a new time in my life.

Today is my first day — and a new time in my life. There is excitement in the air, for the gift I receive today is time,..a new day, a ne...

Kindfulness is a powerful force which compels us to grow beyond the limits of our upbringing

Fraser Trevor

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Title: Kindfulness is a powerful force which compels us to grow beyond the limits of our upbringing
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Kindfulness enters us through our child within. Kindfulness is a powerful force which compels us to grow beyond the limits of our upbringi...

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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Kindfulness enters us through our child within. Kindfulness is a powerful force which compels us to grow beyond the limits of our upbringing.  Once away from our unconscious parental voices, we are safe to heal our traumatic history and integrate our fragmented self into a whole person we truly are.  This integration is a re-birth within, in which our human nature weds our higher nature of our child within; our instincts wed our ideals.  We become a whole person at last, at one with all.<br /><br />Most profoundly, this integration of Kindfulness changes the rules.  It generates a paradigm shift, a redefinition of what it means to be human.  No longer ruled by trauma , we become a new species, of our child within, ruled by truth under loving-kindfulness authority.  With our new status, we change our world, simply because we have changed ourselves.<br /><br />If we refuse this integration, with intractable trauma constricting the heart and preventing kindfulness entry and circulation, we will experience a crisis.  The blocked vitality of energy accumulates into a torrent of force that breaks down our defensive walls and makes us vulnerable to change.  The false self perceives this breakdown as a tragedy.  The true self sees this breakdown as a breakthrough, a liberating invitation to authentic living.  If we resist growing throughout our lifetime, crises will emerge at each stage of the life cycle.  The most noted is the midlife crisis.<br /><br />It is wise to open our hearts and let kindfulness transform us into our perfect child within that instead of destroying life—sustains life.</span><br />
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Kindfulness is a powerful force which compels us to grow beyond the limits of our upbringing

Kindfulness enters us through our child within. Kindfulness is a powerful force which compels us to grow beyond the limits of our upbringi...

Self Compassion improving our quality of life (Part Two)

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Title: Self Compassion improving our quality of life (Part Two)
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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The course in the Ten stages is the path to our own authenticity.The paths we are already following are just a decision which we can change at any time our paths are often forced change by circumstances, heath emergencies or relationship change the alternative will often turn out better. When you are working on the path of kindfulness mistakes become friends.a change of gender perspective moving to a female perspective from male to female or visa versa. kindfulness allows you the time to appreciate why people behave the way they do.. An exercise to imagine that your thoughts have become totally transparent stops us almost automatically thinking awful things about other people. You will start to find a way to understand their perspective, not as a tragedy or as an inconvenience.<br /><br />When we practice kindfulness we start to realise that predictions are illusions, categories are constructed and they are limiting our consciousness and our lives. Kindfulness helps us realise that there are no positive or negative outcomes.It free wheels us away from forced decisions.</span><div>
<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Evaluation is our old perspective not a universal one often based on our already redundant information. Everything looks different from a different perspective. Our perspective has changed to one of loving-kindfulness. Life only consists of moments nothing more than that.So if you make the moment matter it all matters. So when your doing anything be loving-kindful firstly to yourself then straight after others.Notice the new things and responses that make it kindful to you and you will be richly rewarded, written before major heart surgery 2017<br /><br /><br /><br /></span>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

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The course in the Ten stages is the path to our own authenticity.The paths we are already following are just a decision which we can chang...

Kindfulness are fruits of the ten stages, being the processes of actively noticing our new beginnings.

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Kindfulness are fruits of the ten stages, being the processes of actively noticing our new beginnings. It allows us more sensitivity back within our lives, more sensitivity for context and perspective. Kindfulness is the essence of communication and engagement its our releasing of new energy begetting not energy consuming.It is the releasing of mindless negative evaluations, thinking we all seek some form of stability and this in itself causes a lack of control in our lives.<br /><br />Practicing kindfulness to our self becomes easier you become more attentive to you as you become less evaluative of yourself as you engage in a charismatic response. Kindfulness in itself generates a more positive response.The paths you are following was just a decision, you can change it at any time you wish, and maybe your alternative will turn out better.</span><br />
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Kindfulness are fruits of the ten stages, being the processes of actively noticing our new beginnings.

Kindfulness are fruits of the ten stages, being the processes of actively noticing our new beginnings. It allows us more sensitivity back ...

Ten Stages and the use of the power of INTULEXIA

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Ten Stages and the use of the power of INTULEXIA We feel uncomfortable for YOU when you violate our boundaries. My loyalties are mal...

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">INTULEXIA We feel uncomfortable for YOU when you violate our boundaries. My loyalties are maligned due to the conditioning of my childhood. Instead of advocating for ourselves in my close present day relationships, I advocate for the other person. I minimise my needs in favour of the other person. I love too much and it feels like I need to dissociate.</span></blockquote>
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ten Stages and the use of the power of INTULEXIA

Ten Stages and the use of the power of INTULEXIA We feel uncomfortable for YOU when you violate our boundaries. My loyalties are mal...

Self Compassion improving our quality of life (Part One)

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages and self-compassion. The first component is loving-kindfulness not loving kindness but kindfulness.The second is awareness and the third is kindness.Sorry but yes you have to use mindfulness to attain self compassion.Our worth is not contingent on what we get done in life.We have to move our compassion into the foreground, extending love to our child within we overflow our compassion to others.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We acknowledge our resilience acknowledging what we have already suffered and denied working forward but counter clockwise from contemplation. What Answers do we already Have?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Kindfulness is a process of actively noticing new things and is a highly practical process, having just come out of a bout of serious illness it has cut my stay in hospital drastically and not using any pain medication but kindfulness has dramatically shortened my convalesces time.</span><br />
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School playgrounds are full of children making up rules and acting them out.

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">School playgrounds are full of children making up rules and acting them out.As we age We mirror this behaviour forward into our daily social behaviour. We all live by certain rules and play a game in which we expect positive outcomes. The most common is the career game. We work, try to be of value to other people, conform to the rules of the game in anticipation of rewards. What will my rewards be, a house, car, holidays? The same game can be applied to anything and strangely often gets applied quite rigidly to our recovery where a new set of doctrines are bought into in return for greater well-being, a new recovery career or spiritual superiority.<br /><br />The Ten Stage Course create time when you escape the game altogether and just live without preconceptions, expectations or assumptions. This is a non-judgemental attitude where curiosity, wonder, interest stir an open, questioning mind with no expectation of outcomes.Its the exciting and challenging world of the Child Within us.</span><br />
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The Ten Stages purposeful co-meditation

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages purposeful co-meditation the helping art of completing the Ten Stages gently with a loving-kindness response .<br /><br />Ten Stages Co-meditation the helping art of completing the Ten Stages gently with loving-kindness . The simple principle on which it is based is that, depending on the kind of respiration used, the mental state will be stimulated in that particular way. Co-meditation is believed to alleviate stress and suffering. Since time immemorial, breathing has been identified for its impact on our bodies, our emotions, our state of consciousness, and our lives. Co-meditation helps normalise the heart rate, blood pressure, stress, etc.<br /><br />Co-meditation puts the mind in a deep state of relaxation. The Child Within practice to calm our minds and emotions. It facilitates the child's ability to enter into meditative states and brings them control over fear, illness . </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Relationship of Breathing with Mind and Body<br /><br />Breathing should be a deep, physical and psychologically relaxing practice. <br /><br />The best thing is that anybody can practice it and many will gain tranquillity.<br /><br />Two people or more can do the co-meditation practice, i.e., the one who is ill, stressed, or who needs peace, along with a caregiver or stage guide. It helps the ill person or recipient but also helps and soothes the caregiver by slowing down his emotions and maintaining and even mental-emotional state. This helps both parties overcome the helplessness that they experiencing .<br /><br />How Is It Done?<br /><br />It is done with time-honoured, progressive relaxation exercises and an introduction to the child within. It begins with tensing then relaxing the toes and moving continuously up the body until one reaches the head. The recipient lies at with his eyes closed, and concentrates on his breathing. Once we calms down and achieves a deeper state or relaxation, the co-meditator chants or repeats a child within mantra repeatedly with every breath. The chant or mantra helps the participant reduce chances of distraction and helps him or her focus into a deeper, meditative state. <br /><br />How Does It Work?<br /><br />This process slows down the respiration and the pulse rate. It brings down the body temperature and blood pressure. It also diminishes pain and anxiety. The effects of a co-meditation session last for hours and sometimes for days. It doesn’t require much training and gives a sense of worthiness .<br /><br />Some Other Uses<br /><br />Co-meditation also helps in a meditational treatment of sleep-related disorders, insomnia, hallucinations and nightmares, this meditation stimulates a deep state of relaxation and gradually brings down our oxygen requirements.Introducing us to a deep new relationship with our child within.</span><br />
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At the start of the ten stages’s healing journey

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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">At the start</span><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"> of the ten stages’s healing journey we seek to map out our journey at first we revert to our traditional contest distraction. In this part of our recovery argument, attempted acceptance, dissociated unhappiness, and seeking approval by parents, partners and friends of our crazy making behaviour becomes the norm. The parts of us that we feel are winning our contested part of our recovery stop our journey to recovery before it has even begun escaping into the grandiosity of spirituality, various religions and new personal romantic adventures.</span><div>
<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br />Here we deny our deepest traumas so intensely that we fool even ourselves into believing they never happened – and that we feel we are already recovered. We attend fellowship groups that further traumatise us by our constant recollections and the recollections of others of our trauma.Which become mere playbacks of our ancient traumas. It is for this reason that our dissociations/escapism within the fellowship groups mimics our recovery.<br /></span><div>
<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Here we still idealise our parents, which allows us full unconscious liberty to replicate the worst of our past into our present. Here we do not look beneath our surface, but join with dissociated others in their recollections of dysfunctional living. We remain happily still distant from the misery lurking in our recovery seeking constantly changing new solutions that dont work and joining with inappropriate others to compare our stories.<br /><br /><br />Yet where parts of us lose the contest we move into the second traditional part of our recovery that is pain and suffering. In this part of our recovery depression, failure, misery, and inertia manifest into our lives bursting our recovery bubble. Here we wallow in seemingly purposeless pain. The silver lining around our cloud of parental idealisation has been stripped away, but the cloud remains intact. We still wish to be rescued by our parents and their replicated stand-ins, but we lack the requisite pain tolerance to be able to acknowledge the impossibility of this. Here we live in tortured ambivalence/recovery, and we spend out hours and days trying to get others to love us in the way our parents never could. Part of us wishes to devolve back into the seeming pleasure of grandiosity and our dissociative life, but the healthier part recalls how cruelly that route already failed us.<br /><br />Those parts of us with the capacity to face our maladaptive lives enter the third traditional stage that of grieving. This is the stage of purposeful struggling. Here we unearth the truth of our past, which allows the eruption of the puss filled boil of our buried traumas real and imagined. Here we witness the truth that lurks behind idealisation of the parents and we work to disassemble their lies. Our honest confidence leads us into the face of the hurricane, because our child within and its allies the students in the stages tell us that blue skies lie on the other side. Here we are humble, here we confront the truth of the worst of our parents, using whatever means will best help us integrate our truth, and through this our journey rages forward.<br /><br />With each problem we conquer we take a further step into the fourth traditional part that of awakening enlightenment. This is a stage of emotional integration, balance, and inner peace. Here lie the deepest goals of recovery. All want to know truth, and the recovered person achieves it in all the reconnected parts of ourself that arrive in this our final part. Here we grow able to distinguish light from shadow and water from mirage. Here we nurture our recovery of our primitive sides instead of expressing them self-destructively. Here we devote the best of ourselves to healing. Here we no longer traumatise others in the very patterns in which we were traumatised, but instead replicate the best of ourselves through contact with our child within – and generate beauty in the world around us. Here, having healed our wounds, we share freely of our gifts, because now our gifts are accessible to us and others.<br /><br /><br />At The Ten Stages we have a different philosophy for our life. We come to focus on the child within as a living entity.That why we call it the CHILD WITHIN not inner child which is a parental false selfs method of acknowledgement. We, so-called adults are not truly adults at all, and we have to examine this fact we have become a weird self constructed mess. We all get older. Anyone, with a little luck, can do that. But, speaking from a recovery viewpoint, this is not adulthood. True adulthood hinges on acknowledging, accepting, and taking responsibility for loving and re-focusing on our own child within us. For most of us, this never happens because we have long forgotten the language of our childhood. Instead, our child within has been denied, neglected, disparaged, abandoned or rejected. We are told by society to "grow up," putting childish things aside. To become adults, we've been taught that our child within represents our child-like capacity for innocence, wonder, awe, joy, sensitivity and playfulness and this message must be stifled, quarantined or even killed. Our child within is angry, very very angry, Pissed off, venge-filled and often hurt, wounded cowering in the shadows locked in a basement of our childhood experience. Our child within comprises and potentiates these qualities of our true recovery <br /></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace;"><span style="font-size: large;">We, our child within holds our accumulated childhood hurts, traumas, fears and angers. WE the "Grown-ups" are convinced we have successfully outgrown, jettisoned, and left this child within--and its emotional trauma--long behind. But this is far from our truth as we begin to find out as we work on The Ten Stages and start to uncover our real truths in our recovery. Do not expect your child within to be thankful that you have unlocked its prison after a lifetime of ignorance and abuse. Its like a mistreated dog it bites and it bites hard. That is why we have a studied course, not a self help group of dissociated children we are not a feel good society.We have to deal with the reality of long term personal abuse, yes we have learned the language of an abusive parental society that rules by its jails and institutions of dysfunction and at the stages we must replace that language of mis-information and abuse to be able to finally enter into a discourse with the child within and re-connect with our freed personality.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our live</span><br /><br /></span><blockquote class="tr_bq">
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At the start of the ten stages’s healing journey

At the start of the ten stages’s healing journey we seek to map out our journey at first we revert to our traditional contest distraction...

When we start to acknowledge the current relationships in our life

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Title: When we start to acknowledge the current relationships in our life
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When we start to acknowledge the current relationships in our life not as a victim, but only as a mirror of our own life, we can begin to ...

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">When we start to acknowledge the current relationships in our life not as a victim, but only as a mirror of our own life, we can begin to take empowered action</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "georgia"; font-size: 13.3333px;">.  </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">It’s the mark of a ten stager to no longer blame the other person, but instead to see the other person as a mirror of his or her own life. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">It’s the mark of a ten stager to share his or her feelings, rather than blaming someone else for not meeting the needs that were never expressed in the first place. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">It’s the mark of a ten stager who is strong enough to walk away from a broken and unfulfilled recovery model if his or her needs and emotions aren't being addressed.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> It’s the mark of the ten stagers to be able to also meet the needs of our perfect child within.</span><br />
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

When we start to acknowledge the current relationships in our life

When we start to acknowledge the current relationships in our life not as a victim, but only as a mirror of our own life, we can begin to ...

Loving Kindfulness and Militant Vulnerability

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Title: Loving Kindfulness and Militant Vulnerability
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The Ten Stages looks at our Dissociative symptoms which involve a loss of certain functions

Fraser Trevor

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Title: The Ten Stages looks at our Dissociative symptoms which involve a loss of certain functions
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The Ten Stages looks at our Dissociative symptoms which involve a loss of certain functions, therefore meaning we can experience too littl...

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages looks at our Dissociative symptoms which involve a loss of certain functions, therefore meaning we can experience too little, a form of social isolation. This can include amnesia, loss of skills or piece of knowledge. It’s common with dissociative disorder to be unable to feel an emotion or sensation in the body. This means we become emotionally or physically numb and a separate part of our identity the child within holds the experience or sensation that can’t be felt.<br /><br />We with a dissociative disorder often experience amnesia that goes beyond the normal range of forgetfulness. We’re also susceptible to time distortions and feel time go by too quickly or slowly. Often we experience depersonalisation and feel as if we only exist in our heads. We become alienated from our body and are insensitive to physical pain or lack sensation in some parts of our body. Depersonalisation is usually an attempt to avoid or regulate overwhelming feelings or experiences.<br /><br />De-realisation, where events or surroundings seem unreal may also be experienced. The world may feel unreal as if you are in a dream or a play. We with a dissociative disorder, events can be related to parts of the personality that are living in trauma time. These parts may confuse the present with the past and therefore do not experience the present as real.We are experiencing too much:We with a dissociative disorder experience too much and intrusions may occur. Intrusions happen when one dissociative part intrudes into the experience of another and this may take place in any area of experience, such as memories, thoughts, feelings. Dissociative intrusions include flashbacks, sudden feelings thoughts and behaviours, sensations or pain that have no medical cause.  These intrusions happen when a dissociative part of the self enters conscious awareness the hidden child within materialises inappropriately. </span><br />
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Ten Stages looks at our Dissociative symptoms which involve a loss of certain functions

The Ten Stages looks at our Dissociative symptoms which involve a loss of certain functions, therefore meaning we can experience too littl...

We do not squander our RECOVERY in trifling battles with disconnected people | 10 Stages Practical Support Courses

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