Dissociation can be seen in you when you want to hide or disappear as if you are a thoroughly bad person.

<div class="page" style="font-family: "EB Garamond", serif; font-size: 20px;"> <div class="page_body" style="-webkit-box-direction: normal; -webkit-box-orient: vertical; display: flex; flex-direction: column; min-height: 100vh; position: relative; z-index: 20;"> <div class="main-page-body-content" style="-webkit-box-flex: 0; flex: 0 0 auto;"> <main class="centered-bottom" id="main" role="main" style="margin: 0px auto; max-width: 100%; outline: none; width: 922px;" tabindex="-1"></main><br /> <div class="main section" id="page_body" name="Page body"> <div class="widget Blog" data-version="2" id="Blog1" style="margin: 50px 0px;"> <div class="blog-posts hfeed container"> <div class="post-outer-container" style="width: 922px;"> <div class="post-outer" style="display: flex; margin-bottom: 50px;"> <div class="post" style="width: 682px;"> <div class="post-body-container"> <div class="post-body entry-content float-container" id="post-body-8962147396942474714" style="font-family: Lora, serif; font-size: 16px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: 1.7;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiRBapbMXnIsM-2-8HJMlw-a3vTz1-YqLcNRNV_8Nan8-pJHHH8940phQHah_qQlHeWqg3-VskZdtquwx_F2EysVvXsrK6No86BWaWS3rcZzul11ruY9y7C7DJ5Iwvbm31cG8_vxJZtIt37/s1600/amdiss789.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="789" data-original-width="940" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiRBapbMXnIsM-2-8HJMlw-a3vTz1-YqLcNRNV_8Nan8-pJHHH8940phQHah_qQlHeWqg3-VskZdtquwx_F2EysVvXsrK6No86BWaWS3rcZzul11ruY9y7C7DJ5Iwvbm31cG8_vxJZtIt37/s320/amdiss789.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">Dissociation is an action which you have had chosen for you, more than an emotion like fear or grief.Its acquired numbness.Similar to these emotions is registers in the emotional brain as a deeply painful feeling. Dissociation can be seen in you when you want to hide or disappear as if you are a thoroughly bad person. You hang your head or hunch down, sagging your shoulders. You can’t look anyone in the eye.There is a reason for the pain in dissociation, you are running away, hiding out.<br /><br />During dissy moments you may even say you want to die. We strongly believe that the origin of our feelings of dissociation are rooted in early experiences of the family, group, tribe or social group sending signals of rejection to us. We are ostracised, shunned by our tribe or excommunicated from our family of origin.<br /><br />There is need for discernment because many report that a large majority of dissociation patients have a strong (but hidden) death wish. They may have given up hope on life. This set of the inner person against life will not be healed by affirmations. Even if the dissociation is explained, until the work of the ten stages is entered into the dissociation patient may constantly relapse. The real problem may not be the cancer of dissociation (symptom) it may by the patient (unconscious choice to give up.)<br /><br />This is why it is important to seek ten stage wisdom in meditation - Stage One: listen to meditation of letting go. Watch closely and ask some questions to discern the heartiness of the person's commitment to live, reasons to live. Were they closely bonded to one person who became their life?<br /><br />One of the profiles of the dissociated patient is a life where only one parent was the source of love and where only one other person was allowed into their heart. When that one person dies then they quietly let go of life. (Even if you are married to such a person you may not be the one person that they bonded to. It might be another love, or a child.)<br /><br />If you have dissociation in your life meditate on the ten stages understanding any possible wish to die and choose life positively daily. Meditation firstly clears the path to strong mental health.</span><br /> <div> <br /></div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Dissociation can be seen in you when you want to hide or disappear as if you are a thoroughly bad person.

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Tuesday Meeting Usual Format plus:Bringing truth and compassion into our life

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhG9NgmBaiU5-cibHaDKlwtWZ3ue8pgdbIq_pEiyxiG5qZNMoBT64NR6L64uQ_B4uw1tq8k3v29F1ZVezCoS1Km8Ku52nQgBfLrL9va6J_E5a1nHp3dEqhrGN2_cJVaH6Lka3mSfQVEb7Zc/s1600/%255BUNSET%255D" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="494" data-original-width="640" height="247" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhG9NgmBaiU5-cibHaDKlwtWZ3ue8pgdbIq_pEiyxiG5qZNMoBT64NR6L64uQ_B4uw1tq8k3v29F1ZVezCoS1Km8Ku52nQgBfLrL9va6J_E5a1nHp3dEqhrGN2_cJVaH6Lka3mSfQVEb7Zc/s320/%255BUNSET%255D" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">Bringing truth and compassion into our life<br /><br />We benefit from practicing truth, not just in private but in our daily lives.<br /><br />And one powerful way of expressing compassion towards ourselves and others is to practice truthful speech.<br /><br />It’s interesting to become more aware of why we’re untruthful. Sometimes it’s for gain (for instance exaggerating our role so that we gain praise); sometimes it’s because of fear (we thing that if people know the truth we’ll lose their esteem); and sometimes it’s out of ill will (we want to hurt someone). When we start to consider that when we lie we’re like puppets having our strings pulled by these negative emotions of craving, fear, and ill will, honesty becomes a kind of freedom.<br /><br />Sure, there are times when it’s best to leave thoughts unspoken – we need not only to practice honesty but also to practice kindness. And we need to speak at the right time. Trying to make “helpful” suggestions, no matter how well intended, can backfire when the other person is stressed or otherwise upset.<br /><br />But one of the main kinds of truthful speech that we need to practice in order to bring more empathy into our lives is something very simple. When we’ve done something hurtful to another person then we should be prepared to truthful or to confess what we’ve done.<br /><br /><br />Truth can be a form of meditation in action. Truth is being honest with another person about something we’ve done to hurt or disappoint them. And actually, when we’re practicing truthfulness we’re also being honest with ourselves.<br /><br />Have you noticed how often we rehearse lies and half-truths to ourselves? Ever done something like this? We’re on our way to meet someone and we left the house a little too late to get there on time. Plus, the traffic’s heavy, and so we find ourselves saying internally that we’re sorry we’re late but, boy, was that traffic bad. Recognize this?<br /><br />Being untruthful, whether it’s an exaggeration, an omission, or a downright lie, happens because of fear, craving (we want to get something or we crave approval), or ill will. Being untruthful is bad for us in part because it reinforces the hold that these negative emotions have on us.<br /><br />Back to that example from above, we often construct little alternative realities for ourselves to hide our failings. So when we apologize (honestly) to our friend for being late we’re not just telling them the truth, we’re also acknowledging to ourselves what the truth is. Some people construct such elaborate systems of alternative realities that they start to loose touch with reality all together.<br /><br />Sometimes these attempts at self-justification take over our lives so that over and over again we find ourselves drawn back to fantasy rather than sticking with our present-moment experience. One way to help let go of these repetitive cycles of painful fantasy is by being truthful, and another is through sharing pain filled thoughts.<br /><br /><br />Truthfulness involves letting go of our defences and allowing ourselves to be seen as imperfect. In doing this we give people the gift of being related to authentically.<br /><br />And we’re recognizing ourselves as imperfect as well. We’re giving to ourselves the gift of self-awareness and integrity.<br /><br />We’re not pretending to be someone else. The act of sharing is also profoundly reconciling. Because we’ve let go of our defences it allows the other person to forgive us. Together, truthfulness and forgiveness are means of communication that bring ourselves and others together in a deep way – a way based on a recognition that we are who we are and not actors pretending.<br /><br />Often we’ll avoid being truthful because we think, deep down, that truthful admission makes us look small, but actually truthfulness shows that we are big enough to admit to being wrong. And it’s OK to be truthful even when we haven’t meant to do anything wrong and sometimes even when someone has taken offense quite unreasonably.<br /><br />When we say we are sorry it doesn’t necessarily mean that we’re admitting that we’re at fault (although it can of course mean just that). The word “sorry” is closely related to the word “sorrow” although we rarely remember the connection. So “sorry” can instead mean that we are sorrowful that the other person is upset, even if they’ve completely misinterpreted what we said or did.<br /><br />Becoming Truthful in these circumstances can open a door to reconciliation in a way that a defensive “that’s not what I meant” never can. Once the other person has accepted our truth there will be time to explain what we really said or meant or did.<br /><br /><br />Sharing is similar to telling the truth, but is not necessarily directed to the person we’ve offended. When we’re sharing, we’re being honest with a third party (and with ourselves, of course) about who we are and what we have done. But in essence we’re standing in front of our ideals in a state of  honesty, admitting that we have fallen short of how we would ideally like to behave.<br /><br />So it’s only possible to confess to someone who shares the same ideals we do. If, for example, you shared that you were contemplating having an affair to someone who actively encouraged you to go ahead and be unfaithful, then that wouldn’t be very helpful for our truthful development.<br /><br />We should consider ourselves very lucky indeed if there is someone to whom we can share to in this way. We can consider ourselves lucky to have someone whom we can confide in, who can keep confidences, and who shares our truth perspective and won’t let us off the hook. That’s a real friend, and such friends are all too rare.<br /><br /><br />We should also, in the spirit of truthfulness, be prepared to understand others. To withhold truth in order to hurt another person or out of self-righteous anger is an abuse of the other person’s honesty and sensitivity. We’re hardly likely to encourage people to be honest with us if we punish them for it. Of course there may be times when we feel unable to share to</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"> someone instantly, and that’s okay. Genuine truthfulness will take time. But we should not withhold sharing out of anger or mean-spiritedness. We should give truth as freely as we are able.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Tuesday Meeting Usual Format plus:Bringing truth and compassion into our life

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Bringing truth and compassion into our life in an often difficult environment

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Sometimes it’s for gain (for instance exaggerating our role so that we gain praise); sometimes it’s because of fear (we thing that if people know the truth we’ll lose their esteem); and sometimes it’s out of ill will (we want to hurt someone). When we start to consider that when we lie we’re like puppets having our strings pulled by these negative emotions of craving, fear, and ill will, honesty becomes a kind of freedom.<br /><br />Sure, there are times when it’s best to leave thoughts unspoken – we need not only to practice honesty but also to practice kindness. And we need to speak at the right time. Trying to make “helpful” suggestions, no matter how well intended, can backfire when the other person is stressed or otherwise upset.<br /><br />But one of the main kinds of truthful speech that we need to practice in order to bring more empathy into our lives is something very simple. When we’ve done something hurtful to another person then we should be prepared to truthful or to confess what we’ve done.<br /><br />Truth can be a form of meditation in action. Truth is being honest with another person about something we’ve done to hurt or disappoint them. And actually, when we’re practicing truthfulness we’re also being honest with ourselves.<br /><br />Have you noticed how often we rehearse lies and half-truths to ourselves? Ever done something like this? We’re on our way to meet someone and we left the house a little too late to get there on time. Plus, the traffic’s heavy, and so we find ourselves saying internally that we’re sorry we’re late but, boy, was that traffic bad. Recognize this?<br /><br />Being untruthful, whether it’s an exaggeration, an omission, or a downright lie, happens because of fear, craving (we want to get something or we crave approval), or ill will. Being untruthful is bad for us in part because it reinforces the hold that these negative emotions have on us.<br /><br />Back to that example from above, we often construct little alternative realities for ourselves to hide our failings. So when we apologize (honestly) to our friend for being late we’re not just telling them the truth, we’re also acknowledging to ourselves what the truth is. Some people construct such elaborate systems of alternative realities that they start to loose touch with reality all together.<br /><br />Sometimes these attempts at self-justification take over our lives so that over and over again we find ourselves drawn back to fantasy rather than sticking with our present-moment experience. One way to help let go of these repetitive cycles of painful fantasy is by being truthful, and another is through sharing pain filled thoughts.<br /><br />Truthfulness involves letting go of our defences and allowing ourselves to be seen as imperfect. In doing this we give people the gift of being related to authentically.<br /><br />And we’re recognizing ourselves as imperfect as well. We’re giving to ourselves the gift of self-awareness and integrity.<br /><br />We’re not pretending to be someone else. The act of sharing is also profoundly reconciling. Because we’ve let go of our defences it allows the other person to forgive us. Together, truthfulness and forgiveness are means of communication that bring ourselves and others together in a deep way – a way based on a recognition that we are who we are and not actors pretending.<br /><br />Often we’ll avoid being truthful because we think, deep down, that truthful admission makes us look small, but actually truthfulness shows that we are big enough to admit to being wrong. And it’s OK to be truthful even when we haven’t meant to do anything wrong and sometimes even when someone has taken offense quite unreasonably.<br /><br />When we say we are sorry it doesn’t necessarily mean that we’re admitting that we’re at fault (although it can of course mean just that). The word “sorry” is closely related to the word “sorrow” although we rarely remember the connection. So “sorry” can instead mean that we are sorrowful that the other person is upset, even if they’ve completely misinterpreted what we said or did.<br /><br />Becoming Truthful in these circumstances can open a door to reconciliation in a way that a defensive “that’s not what I meant” never can. Once the other person has accepted our truth there will be time to explain what we really said or meant or did.<br /><br /><br />Sharing is similar to telling the truth, but is not necessarily directed to the person we’ve offended. When we’re sharing, we’re being honest with a third party (and with ourselves, of course) about who we are and what we have done. But in essence we’re standing in front of our ideals in a state of  honesty, admitting that we have fallen short of how we would ideally like to behave.<br /><br />So it’s only possible to confess to someone who shares the same ideals we do. If, for example, you shared that you were contemplating having an affair to someone who actively encouraged you to go ahead and be unfaithful, then that wouldn’t be very helpful for our truthful development.<br /><br />We should consider ourselves very lucky indeed if there is someone to whom we can share to in this way. We can consider ourselves lucky to have someone whom we can confide in, who can keep confidences, and who shares our truth perspective and won’t let us off the hook. That’s a real friend, and such friends are all too rare.<br /><br /><br />We should also, in the spirit of truthfulness, be prepared to understand others. To withhold truth in order to hurt another person or out of self-righteous anger is an abuse of the other person’s honesty and sensitivity. We’re hardly likely to encourage people to be honest with us if we punish them for it. Of course there may be times when we feel unable to share to</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"> someone instantly, and that’s okay. Genuine truthfulness will take time. But we should not withhold sharing out of anger or mean-spiritedness. 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It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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In our last meeting at The Stages Academy we explored a subject that most of us are not aware of the strong ancestral voices of our ancestors.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgm58r9ELCfILw0M9Ml0lW-F65OIwEtxeTsK-dMSI7p480uthb6cuVVGj7Cxtp4LkYNetAW24J1vCHYsAz0MFiXFymTrCkbuJlIyIAZ7r9Y-DOetx4QwfODAffIPtyBm77AbFjLa7i2zgEb/s1600/Cattle+Skull.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="495" data-original-width="660" height="150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgm58r9ELCfILw0M9Ml0lW-F65OIwEtxeTsK-dMSI7p480uthb6cuVVGj7Cxtp4LkYNetAW24J1vCHYsAz0MFiXFymTrCkbuJlIyIAZ7r9Y-DOetx4QwfODAffIPtyBm77AbFjLa7i2zgEb/s200/Cattle+Skull.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">In our last Tuesday meeting at The Stages Academy we explored a subject that most of us are not aware of the strong ancestral voices of our ancestors. These shame based betrayals often remain unknown, as they are passed unconsciously through the generations.</span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /> Some of us are more sensitive to these by nature, and feel these wrongs as violations. They question the source of this poison infecting them, since its source feels external to them. As unnamed traumas begin to contaminate us, we start to perceive grave errors, dissonant from our sense-of-self. This discernment begins in early childhood.<br /><br />If the sensitive child within is not crushed by the emotional limits of his parents, he distances himself from the traumas leaking through mother and father and begins a survival strategy.  Stepping aside from the emotional constriction of our caretakers and creates a secret world. In this private world, we preserves what is best in us. From this protected place, we observe those in our family and world who would destroy our original impulses and our authenticity holding on to these truths at all costs. Our devotion is not to mother and father or social propriety, but to these rare gifts of truth that remain at our core.<br /><br />If the child within persists in this self-preservation into adulthood, we will succeed in establishing a true identity, separate from the disguised cruelty of normalcy. In so doing, we breaks the cycle of trans-generational ancestral voices. A new understanding of our child within emerges, consonant with our original birthed truth, begins.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

In our last meeting at The Stages Academy we explored a subject that most of us are not aware of the strong ancestral voices of our ancestors.

In our last Tuesday meeting at The Stages Academy we explored a subject that most of us are not aware of the strong ancestral voices of ou...

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Ten Stage transitioning from our outer definition to inner truth is a lonely path.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjcatKUzHMCeZSTmXJEPBUhJkTPCPY3R8XBoqq8YC7P8bWkdFW3O564UTQk8rsa2mipPP7HB4fviJ0EBofaz7Uj_toks265uw8VOJyJOso61JW6pNiOUxWemlNCx8tLjgW_p3VEv24nbgN6/s1600/304576_167883410002376_707153215_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="474" data-original-width="350" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjcatKUzHMCeZSTmXJEPBUhJkTPCPY3R8XBoqq8YC7P8bWkdFW3O564UTQk8rsa2mipPP7HB4fviJ0EBofaz7Uj_toks265uw8VOJyJOso61JW6pNiOUxWemlNCx8tLjgW_p3VEv24nbgN6/s200/304576_167883410002376_707153215_n.jpg" width="147" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Ten Stage transitioning from our outer definition to inner truth is a lonely path.<br /><br />We leave much behind—including conventional friends and limited family members. We must also leave behind old definitions of ourself, constructed and endorsed by our constructed culture. This too is a transition, a movement.<br /><br />As our outgrown, external structures collapses, out inner ten stage structure emerges.  This inner structure is tested by our new circumstances and found to be true. Our emerging authentic voice holds our developing and authentic, sense of self? we shun the noise of the world and its claims of authority in our lives to listen to the subtle voice of truth at our core? We find we can stake our claim in a new free internal identity, apart from the seductive allure of the external consumerist world with a majority that conforms to it?  we find we can live successfully from within as the outer world whimpers its co-dependant outrage at our defiance of its supremacy?<br /><br />It takes courage to live from within and out of our core of truth and compassion.  The transition from outer definition to inner truth is a lonely path that few have travelled. That’s why it’s good to listen to our own intuitive voice in quiet reflection to the voice of truth that whispers encouraging words and reassuring support that we are actually not alone at all—but surrounded by universal forces that delight in our daring venture to live out of what’s best in us and best in all reality. With that realisation, even during what feels like our loneliness moment, we see we are not alone, but with the best company of all—our true self and the forces of nature and the universe that delight in our being true.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ten Stage transitioning from our outer definition to inner truth is a lonely path.

Ten Stage transitioning from our outer definition to inner truth is a lonely path. We leave much behind—including conventional friends and...

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The ideas manifested within the ten stages is not to blame, and not to praise, because both are insulting.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg8Rvg_rS3NJlfyEq-468FB45xeami3k1Ezsl09KkqHAftv3VXBBOXlUtVm-ceovPZ-S9RZZcgQEFW-ZHYraShWloNSwq_nCnxVm3Z4NJkTZ9_gxOArgXrTbbRNTLjWTx4BgpFK6cdb7mPG/s1600/Connected89.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="789" data-original-width="940" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg8Rvg_rS3NJlfyEq-468FB45xeami3k1Ezsl09KkqHAftv3VXBBOXlUtVm-ceovPZ-S9RZZcgQEFW-ZHYraShWloNSwq_nCnxVm3Z4NJkTZ9_gxOArgXrTbbRNTLjWTx4BgpFK6cdb7mPG/s320/Connected89.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We don't need to empower our child Within to trust their nature.Our child's not wounded we are, The tendency to trust is there. We simply need to re-allow them to do so.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace;"><br style="font-size: x-large;" /></span> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We never do anything to our child within that will make us feel badly about ourself. This we have learnt from childhood we do this all the time. We do it with words both internal and external. We take on a parental voice and we do it with looks.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace;"><br style="font-size: x-large;" /></span> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">There are two ways we treat our child within. One is the punishing/blaming: "You are very bad, go stand in the corner or I'll spank you." The other is permissive: "That's perfectly all right darling, if you want to walk on mothers face she doesn't mind." We don't know any other way. The more correct way is what we call information. If we thoroughly understand that our child within are innately social, then we understand that what they want is truthful information. We don't have to be angry to tell them what's needed. We just let them know. The idea is not to blame, and not to praise, because both are insulting. Expect our child within to do the right thing. We then are being a clear model and there's no conflict. It's the way nature designed us to behave and slowly we re-connect.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The ideas manifested within the ten stages is not to blame, and not to praise, because both are insulting.

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Positive Affirmation after serious Illness: Today is my first day — and a new time in my life.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixjBW550j_mVfrobtjYAOLOmzRYx7R38BqQeSd2Cxh0GVPIQ-TFrlZyMQ9q5YYOghvXSGMr46i6vqj5nUI-w0PnsHV_ObJW0c7ZmuhOzFsmymYqBNKpUwBboHE8ogs1d_8eSO-J38h3HgZ/s1600/Photo+on+23-12-2016+at+14.45.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="853" data-original-width="1280" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixjBW550j_mVfrobtjYAOLOmzRYx7R38BqQeSd2Cxh0GVPIQ-TFrlZyMQ9q5YYOghvXSGMr46i6vqj5nUI-w0PnsHV_ObJW0c7ZmuhOzFsmymYqBNKpUwBboHE8ogs1d_8eSO-J38h3HgZ/s320/Photo+on+23-12-2016+at+14.45.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><span style="font-size: large;">Today is my first day — and a new time in my life. There is excitement in the air, for the gift I receive today is time,..a new day, a new beginning, another chance to heal and grow. Time is the medium of evolution allowing the unfolding of my life’s purpose. The days of this day, used consciously, will awaken my purpose and lead to my enlightenment by the grace of the ten stages.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Time used constructively heals the wounds that would crush my life’s expression.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Time used mindfully carries me like a mighty river to my depth.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Time used consciously transforms life experience into wisdom and illumination.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">No wonder I am excited at the prospects of this day and its gift of time.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">It takes time for me to heal. I must proceed slowly, day by day, unraveling the damage that confounds the full expression of my identity. My wounds run deep for they were inflicted practically from my first breath. The painstaking work of loving all the lost parts of myself back to life, vitality, and full expression must be done slowly, day by day, throughout this bright day.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Today I begin the journey back to my self and to my deep truth. I have taken the hand of my frightened child who was shamed into believing it was of little value and hold this child in my care and protection. I have comforted this terrified child, buried within me, who hid for safe-keeping until this very moment. I open the hospital gates with my love and breathe life into this forgotten existence.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Today we begin a sacred journey through a day. Slowly, through the days of this new time, we develop our dishonoured child within into the fulfilled adult that life intended.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">I face this bright recovery day  with gratitude, humility and Loving-Kindfulness, I begin a new time in my life.</span><br /><br /><i>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</i></span>

Positive Affirmation after serious Illness: Today is my first day — and a new time in my life.

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Kindfulness is a powerful force which compels us to grow beyond the limits of our upbringing

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghN7rLfgxuvcQ4eQXkq0BZ2qT7lFr274SSoMlHkbq4g-rdQvcG-FQ5Rm18z4WJ7ByBptKGLRWrUUGc-Mqp_tPI-BB6_8E1CO7capiOeEw0_4Mec05MqrpR9JGh5zkSUcSPqNqVUAJvglvt/s1600/12472391_10153323982282083_5627963073133082330_n.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="240" data-original-width="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghN7rLfgxuvcQ4eQXkq0BZ2qT7lFr274SSoMlHkbq4g-rdQvcG-FQ5Rm18z4WJ7ByBptKGLRWrUUGc-Mqp_tPI-BB6_8E1CO7capiOeEw0_4Mec05MqrpR9JGh5zkSUcSPqNqVUAJvglvt/s1600/12472391_10153323982282083_5627963073133082330_n.png" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Kindfulness enters us through our child within. Kindfulness is a powerful force which compels us to grow beyond the limits of our upbringing. Once away from our unconscious parental voices, we are safe to heal our traumatic history and integrate our fragmented self into a whole person we truly are. This integration is a re-birth within, in which our human nature weds our higher nature of our child within; our instincts wed our ideals. We become a whole person at last, at one with all.<br /><br />Most profoundly, this integration of Kindfulness changes the rules. It generates a paradigm shift, a redefinition of what it means to be human. No longer ruled by trauma , we become a new species, of our child within, ruled by truth under loving-kindfulness authority. With our new status, we change our world, simply because we have changed ourselves.<br /><br />If we refuse this integration, with intractable trauma constricting the heart and preventing kindfulness entry and circulation, we will experience a crisis. The blocked vitality of energy accumulates into a torrent of force that breaks down our defensive walls and makes us vulnerable to change. The false self perceives this breakdown as a tragedy. The true self sees this breakdown as a breakthrough, a liberating invitation to authentic living. If we resist growing throughout our lifetime, crises will emerge at each stage of the life cycle. The most noted is the midlife crisis.<br /><br />It is wise to open our hearts and let kindfulness transform us into our perfect child within that instead of destroying life—sustains life.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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Self Compassion improving our quality of life (Part Two)

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiCbebM2Upu9KxAmYUxbTnzoT7zFc_nnJYMzFehbuOrV0Ksnpf1UCZYenO0-szYbJTEufnHr8thyphenhyphenPwF0pxBJXNCIMfRakXKarApbhPSCi2rRDvKvrgIoSc7ZBeQMmcywlhqCWRc5ej0hmdE/s1600/pos4.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="248" data-original-width="203" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiCbebM2Upu9KxAmYUxbTnzoT7zFc_nnJYMzFehbuOrV0Ksnpf1UCZYenO0-szYbJTEufnHr8thyphenhyphenPwF0pxBJXNCIMfRakXKarApbhPSCi2rRDvKvrgIoSc7ZBeQMmcywlhqCWRc5ej0hmdE/s1600/pos4.png" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The course in the Ten stages is the path to our own authenticity.The paths we are already following are just a decision which we can change at any time our paths are often forced change by circumstances, heath emergencies or relationship change the alternative will often turn out better. When you are working on the path of kindfulness mistakes become friends.a change of gender perspective moving to a female perspective from male to female or visa versa. kindfulness allows you the time to appreciate why people behave the way they do.. An exercise to imagine that your thoughts have become totally transparent stops us almost automatically thinking awful things about other people. You will start to find a way to understand their perspective, not as a tragedy or as an inconvenience.<br /><br />When we practice kindfulness we start to realise that predictions are illusions, categories are constructed and they are limiting our consciousness and our lives. Kindfulness helps us realise that there are no positive or negative outcomes.It free wheels us away from forced decisions.</span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Evaluation is our old perspective not a universal one often based on our already redundant information. Everything looks different from a different perspective. Our perspective has changed to one of loving-kindfulness. Life only consists of moments nothing more than that.So if you make the moment matter it all matters. So when your doing anything be loving-kindful firstly to yourself then straight after others.Notice the new things and responses that make it kindful to you and you will be richly rewarded, written before major heart surgery 2017<br /><br /><br /><br /></span>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

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Kindfulness are fruits of the ten stages, being the processes of actively noticing our new beginnings.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhTfy5bdXoiN4RL0yuK1SG1GBlcyeGtMmAMRzMZv83f2ZzB_-b1H-zGOJiSJgjRehfuDGaKyiCKzlEGKY0VYH53gOURDLOHEEVxns7lg0-G9AevMdO_HF9wmFaSLZr8sYd-ufqZETjQ9jp/s1600/553237168-Zen-Child-Quote.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1078" data-original-width="745" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhTfy5bdXoiN4RL0yuK1SG1GBlcyeGtMmAMRzMZv83f2ZzB_-b1H-zGOJiSJgjRehfuDGaKyiCKzlEGKY0VYH53gOURDLOHEEVxns7lg0-G9AevMdO_HF9wmFaSLZr8sYd-ufqZETjQ9jp/s320/553237168-Zen-Child-Quote.jpg" width="221" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Kindfulness are fruits of the ten stages, being the processes of actively noticing our new beginnings. It allows us more sensitivity back within our lives, more sensitivity for context and perspective. Kindfulness is the essence of communication and engagement its our releasing of new energy begetting not energy consuming.It is the releasing of mindless negative evaluations, thinking we all seek some form of stability and this in itself causes a lack of control in our lives.<br /><br />Practicing kindfulness to our self becomes easier you become more attentive to you as you become less evaluative of yourself as you engage in a charismatic response. Kindfulness in itself generates a more positive response.The paths you are following was just a decision, you can change it at any time you wish, and maybe your alternative will turn out better.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Kindfulness are fruits of the ten stages, being the processes of actively noticing our new beginnings.

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Ten Stages and the use of the power of INTULEXIA

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <blockquote class="tr_bq"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Ten Stages and the use of the power of </span><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEibCMSaYHTF64QPEhGdAnJEqx5xfzegNkGVpjYKTL_oPJwQ1wtQD5ANCrespoDTe_6P6a_ctOCwzg9TfjrZMXAzB2uE3aT4k4qcN2v0NrUKwwx9MK659eH_dmeWABtQxx97DbQrLEFvNvD6/s1600/intulexia+conceprpt.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="1600" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEibCMSaYHTF64QPEhGdAnJEqx5xfzegNkGVpjYKTL_oPJwQ1wtQD5ANCrespoDTe_6P6a_ctOCwzg9TfjrZMXAzB2uE3aT4k4qcN2v0NrUKwwx9MK659eH_dmeWABtQxx97DbQrLEFvNvD6/s320/intulexia+conceprpt.jpg" width="320" /></a></span></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">INTULEXIA We feel uncomfortable for YOU when you violate our boundaries. My loyalties are maligned due to the conditioning of my childhood. Instead of advocating for ourselves in my close present day relationships, I advocate for the other person. I minimise my needs in favour of the other person. I love too much and it feels like I need to dissociate.</span></blockquote> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ten Stages and the use of the power of INTULEXIA

Ten Stages and the use of the power of INTULEXIA We feel uncomfortable for YOU when you violate our boundaries. My loyalties are mal...

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Self Compassion improving our quality of life (Part One)

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiCUr0EG1VrngnuTVGvup87BA_AO200PlPmR9ltwcuruU6vPhVb1J-UGMlHI4rxdf5PmTdbnHHNXAAGWa5PmTYhdYcTB8p0YfNrXy9zyX670Hm17y33AR0ihe9qJiuObKvRRP7tlNPkKeGo/s1600/26345_585369158157447_359005087_n+%25281%2529.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="200" data-original-width="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiCUr0EG1VrngnuTVGvup87BA_AO200PlPmR9ltwcuruU6vPhVb1J-UGMlHI4rxdf5PmTdbnHHNXAAGWa5PmTYhdYcTB8p0YfNrXy9zyX670Hm17y33AR0ihe9qJiuObKvRRP7tlNPkKeGo/s1600/26345_585369158157447_359005087_n+%25281%2529.jpg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages and self-compassion. The first component is loving-kindfulness not loving kindness but kindfulness.The second is awareness and the third is kindness.Sorry but yes you have to use mindfulness to attain self compassion.Our worth is not contingent on what we get done in life.We have to move our compassion into the foreground, extending love to our child within we overflow our compassion to others.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We acknowledge our resilience acknowledging what we have already suffered and denied working forward but counter clockwise from contemplation. What Answers do we already Have?</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Kindfulness is a process of actively noticing new things and is a highly practical process, having just come out of a bout of serious illness it has cut my stay in hospital drastically and not using any pain medication but kindfulness has dramatically shortened my convalesces time.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</span>

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School playgrounds are full of children making up rules and acting them out.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEheaMxMxXqGSJQ7l3KMTeIz76XpXak-KCqKviW4MdjCiZum2j9EvjXRfB5BX1xDbdSav_KHF8KlveE6VYPMpT61R1C-mk_KFHYunhvKwN2pm4yC2tlQV-B-rdjzFY_PB3R_zTVL3dxKG9_Y/s1600/1-trauma123.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="614" data-original-width="522" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEheaMxMxXqGSJQ7l3KMTeIz76XpXak-KCqKviW4MdjCiZum2j9EvjXRfB5BX1xDbdSav_KHF8KlveE6VYPMpT61R1C-mk_KFHYunhvKwN2pm4yC2tlQV-B-rdjzFY_PB3R_zTVL3dxKG9_Y/s320/1-trauma123.jpg" width="272" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">School playgrounds are full of children making up rules and acting them out.As we age We mirror this behaviour forward into our daily social behaviour. We all live by certain rules and play a game in which we expect positive outcomes. The most common is the career game. We work, try to be of value to other people, conform to the rules of the game in anticipation of rewards. What will my rewards be, a house, car, holidays? The same game can be applied to anything and strangely often gets applied quite rigidly to our recovery where a new set of doctrines are bought into in return for greater well-being, a new recovery career or spiritual superiority.<br /><br />The Ten Stage Course create time when you escape the game altogether and just live without preconceptions, expectations or assumptions. This is a non-judgemental attitude where curiosity, wonder, interest stir an open, questioning mind with no expectation of outcomes.Its the exciting and challenging world of the Child Within us.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> </div> <br /> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin #10stages</div> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br />

School playgrounds are full of children making up rules and acting them out.

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The Ten Stages purposeful co-meditation

<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2mgSk0yopmqGohjMQGkVYNgx5wgSbeZrGXOwLRtB2vcuZJmClma1qSwZmd0UYnc5caJEpvEtgcYtl6kWacCJscOo_mQMpSXe0TK4paZy60KQUcZloeo9jtUsJZJdqdLkwgbWAPXrTlinT/s1600/Child+within264.jpeg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="149" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2mgSk0yopmqGohjMQGkVYNgx5wgSbeZrGXOwLRtB2vcuZJmClma1qSwZmd0UYnc5caJEpvEtgcYtl6kWacCJscOo_mQMpSXe0TK4paZy60KQUcZloeo9jtUsJZJdqdLkwgbWAPXrTlinT/s200/Child+within264.jpeg" width="200" /></a><br /> <br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages purposeful co-meditation the helping art of completing the Ten Stages gently with a loving-kindness response .<br /><br />Ten Stages Co-meditation the helping art of completing the Ten Stages gently with loving-kindness . The simple principle on which it is based is that, depending on the kind of respiration used, the mental state will be stimulated in that particular way. Co-meditation is believed to alleviate stress and suffering. Since time immemorial, breathing has been identified for its impact on our bodies, our emotions, our state of consciousness, and our lives. Co-meditation helps normalise the heart rate, blood pressure, stress, etc.<br /><br />Co-meditation puts the mind in a deep state of relaxation. The Child Within practice to calm our minds and emotions. It facilitates the child's ability to enter into meditative states and brings them control over fear, illness . </span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Relationship of Breathing with Mind and Body<br /><br />Breathing should be a deep, physical and psychologically relaxing practice. <br /><br />The best thing is that anybody can practice it and many will gain tranquillity.<br /><br />Two people or more can do the co-meditation practice, i.e., the one who is ill, stressed, or who needs peace, along with a caregiver or stage guide. It helps the ill person or recipient but also helps and soothes the caregiver by slowing down his emotions and maintaining and even mental-emotional state. This helps both parties overcome the helplessness that they experiencing .<br /><br />How Is It Done?<br /><br />It is done with time-honoured, progressive relaxation exercises and an introduction to the child within. It begins with tensing then relaxing the toes and moving continuously up the body until one reaches the head. The recipient lies at with his eyes closed, and concentrates on his breathing. Once we calms down and achieves a deeper state or relaxation, the co-meditator chants or repeats a child within mantra repeatedly with every breath. The chant or mantra helps the participant reduce chances of distraction and helps him or her focus into a deeper, meditative state. <br /><br />How Does It Work?<br /><br />This process slows down the respiration and the pulse rate. It brings down the body temperature and blood pressure. It also diminishes pain and anxiety. The effects of a co-meditation session last for hours and sometimes for days. It doesn’t require much training and gives a sense of worthiness .<br /><br />Some Other Uses<br /><br />Co-meditation also helps in a meditational treatment of sleep-related disorders, insomnia, hallucinations and nightmares, this meditation stimulates a deep state of relaxation and gradually brings down our oxygen requirements.Introducing us to a deep new relationship with our child within.</span><br /> <div class="post-body entry-content" id="post-body-2150195704789089848" itemprop="description articleBody" style="border: 0px; color: #585858; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 625.234px;"> <div> <span style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></span></div> </div> <i>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</i></div>

The Ten Stages purposeful co-meditation

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At the start of the ten stages’s healing journey

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhyNZ4VsSPWinr1Jc4Fo-N6EUv0fjdW8tKmRnWK6kk-i9EIJkq8ieKowlSNheaOJNrs94VfQMzL3a8-QJHoTpNPFLLVGmx1DqIWUq-bEUjtvkRBtzGGgeIk6nfN4sLQWdTLCS8tXr8zTI7j/s1600/dos%2526donts.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="1280" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhyNZ4VsSPWinr1Jc4Fo-N6EUv0fjdW8tKmRnWK6kk-i9EIJkq8ieKowlSNheaOJNrs94VfQMzL3a8-QJHoTpNPFLLVGmx1DqIWUq-bEUjtvkRBtzGGgeIk6nfN4sLQWdTLCS8tXr8zTI7j/s320/dos%2526donts.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">At the start</span><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"> of the ten stages’s healing journey we seek to map out our journey at first we revert to our traditional contest distraction. In this part of our recovery argument, attempted acceptance, dissociated unhappiness, and seeking approval by parents, partners and friends of our crazy making behaviour becomes the norm. The parts of us that we feel are winning our contested part of our recovery stop our journey to recovery before it has even begun escaping into the grandiosity of spirituality, various religions and new personal romantic adventures.</span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br />Here we deny our deepest traumas so intensely that we fool even ourselves into believing they never happened – and that we feel we are already recovered. We attend fellowship groups that further traumatise us by our constant recollections and the recollections of others of our trauma.Which become mere playbacks of our ancient traumas. It is for this reason that our dissociations/escapism within the fellowship groups mimics our recovery.<br /></span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Here we still idealise our parents, which allows us full unconscious liberty to replicate the worst of our past into our present. Here we do not look beneath our surface, but join with dissociated others in their recollections of dysfunctional living. We remain happily still distant from the misery lurking in our recovery seeking constantly changing new solutions that dont work and joining with inappropriate others to compare our stories.<br /><br /><br />Yet where parts of us lose the contest we move into the second traditional part of our recovery that is pain and suffering. In this part of our recovery depression, failure, misery, and inertia manifest into our lives bursting our recovery bubble. Here we wallow in seemingly purposeless pain. The silver lining around our cloud of parental idealisation has been stripped away, but the cloud remains intact. We still wish to be rescued by our parents and their replicated stand-ins, but we lack the requisite pain tolerance to be able to acknowledge the impossibility of this. Here we live in tortured ambivalence/recovery, and we spend out hours and days trying to get others to love us in the way our parents never could. Part of us wishes to devolve back into the seeming pleasure of grandiosity and our dissociative life, but the healthier part recalls how cruelly that route already failed us.<br /><br />Those parts of us with the capacity to face our maladaptive lives enter the third traditional stage that of grieving. This is the stage of purposeful struggling. Here we unearth the truth of our past, which allows the eruption of the puss filled boil of our buried traumas real and imagined. Here we witness the truth that lurks behind idealisation of the parents and we work to disassemble their lies. Our honest confidence leads us into the face of the hurricane, because our child within and its allies the students in the stages tell us that blue skies lie on the other side. Here we are humble, here we confront the truth of the worst of our parents, using whatever means will best help us integrate our truth, and through this our journey rages forward.<br /><br />With each problem we conquer we take a further step into the fourth traditional part that of awakening enlightenment. This is a stage of emotional integration, balance, and inner peace. Here lie the deepest goals of recovery. All want to know truth, and the recovered person achieves it in all the reconnected parts of ourself that arrive in this our final part. Here we grow able to distinguish light from shadow and water from mirage. Here we nurture our recovery of our primitive sides instead of expressing them self-destructively. Here we devote the best of ourselves to healing. Here we no longer traumatise others in the very patterns in which we were traumatised, but instead replicate the best of ourselves through contact with our child within – and generate beauty in the world around us. Here, having healed our wounds, we share freely of our gifts, because now our gifts are accessible to us and others.<br /><br /><br />At The Ten Stages we have a different philosophy for our life. We come to focus on the child within as a living entity.That why we call it the CHILD WITHIN not inner child which is a parental false selfs method of acknowledgement. We, so-called adults are not truly adults at all, and we have to examine this fact we have become a weird self constructed mess. We all get older. Anyone, with a little luck, can do that. But, speaking from a recovery viewpoint, this is not adulthood. True adulthood hinges on acknowledging, accepting, and taking responsibility for loving and re-focusing on our own child within us. For most of us, this never happens because we have long forgotten the language of our childhood. Instead, our child within has been denied, neglected, disparaged, abandoned or rejected. We are told by society to "grow up," putting childish things aside. To become adults, we've been taught that our child within represents our child-like capacity for innocence, wonder, awe, joy, sensitivity and playfulness and this message must be stifled, quarantined or even killed. Our child within is angry, very very angry, Pissed off, venge-filled and often hurt, wounded cowering in the shadows locked in a basement of our childhood experience. Our child within comprises and potentiates these qualities of our true recovery <br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace;"><span style="font-size: large;">We, our child within holds our accumulated childhood hurts, traumas, fears and angers. WE the "Grown-ups" are convinced we have successfully outgrown, jettisoned, and left this child within--and its emotional trauma--long behind. But this is far from our truth as we begin to find out as we work on The Ten Stages and start to uncover our real truths in our recovery. Do not expect your child within to be thankful that you have unlocked its prison after a lifetime of ignorance and abuse. Its like a mistreated dog it bites and it bites hard. That is why we have a studied course, not a self help group of dissociated children we are not a feel good society.We have to deal with the reality of long term personal abuse, yes we have learned the language of an abusive parental society that rules by its jails and institutions of dysfunction and at the stages we must replace that language of mis-information and abuse to be able to finally enter into a discourse with the child within and re-connect with our freed personality.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our live</span><br /><br /></span><blockquote class="tr_bq"> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace;"><i><b>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</b></i></span></blockquote> </div> </div>

At the start of the ten stages’s healing journey

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When we start to acknowledge the current relationships in our life

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEic0JB7EI-xfXmWW33oXqDSH4Gah9mlsxNRPNhuS1HLfzn8iCRIAd-i8J2dN0cVMRm4V4FiPwa9k4s8UXSYWBApaPp6fK2Afids24wALZLqA0Tg1lA7wtxz_WXIM0DWGClrmEO77KLnNUk8/s1600/1-cwithin234.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="196" data-original-width="258" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEic0JB7EI-xfXmWW33oXqDSH4Gah9mlsxNRPNhuS1HLfzn8iCRIAd-i8J2dN0cVMRm4V4FiPwa9k4s8UXSYWBApaPp6fK2Afids24wALZLqA0Tg1lA7wtxz_WXIM0DWGClrmEO77KLnNUk8/s1600/1-cwithin234.jpg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">When we start to acknowledge the current relationships in our life not as a victim, but only as a mirror of our own life, we can begin to take empowered action</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "georgia"; font-size: 13.3333px;">.  </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">It’s the mark of a ten stager to no longer blame the other person, but instead to see the other person as a mirror of his or her own life. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">It’s the mark of a ten stager to share his or her feelings, rather than blaming someone else for not meeting the needs that were never expressed in the first place. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">It’s the mark of a ten stager who is strong enough to walk away from a broken and unfulfilled recovery model if his or her needs and emotions aren't being addressed.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> It’s the mark of the ten stagers to be able to also meet the needs of our perfect child within.</span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

When we start to acknowledge the current relationships in our life

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Loving Kindfulness and Militant Vulnerability

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgB6KEKBuUJTk4_3v-Dn4-mtgp6RB3Fc8rlFt_0Dogrz3NfS-_wUoM_yEhI_YDOxBiNktq_6jsjPg0SUcWST9KPsX7u8gFuLDt2hviAH9NlhF-AC0FkCvTPlQU8q4OPDRKQW-mClFs80WKF/s1600/bamboo+group.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="315" data-original-width="851" height="118" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgB6KEKBuUJTk4_3v-Dn4-mtgp6RB3Fc8rlFt_0Dogrz3NfS-_wUoM_yEhI_YDOxBiNktq_6jsjPg0SUcWST9KPsX7u8gFuLDt2hviAH9NlhF-AC0FkCvTPlQU8q4OPDRKQW-mClFs80WKF/s320/bamboo+group.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <a href="http://kindfulnessrestoration.blogspot.co.uk/2017/06/loving-kindfulness-and-militant.html">Loving Kindfulness and Militant Vulnerability</a>: <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <a href="https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/pengoopmcjnbflcjbmoeodbmoflcgjlk" style="font-size: 13px;">'via Blog this'</a>

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The Ten Stages looks at our Dissociative symptoms which involve a loss of certain functions

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjT5PZ75rspa2_u67RU5Lh2myTvcXvrwTLSL3MNkGEHapTAbk_rYcbnnWygHsNpxSQ1FYl9XE6Ggy5LHYcYrkLCBEzimOK44ywwWEC8845z5sBBwCNCnSo8AC-Z2l_n2vGhcn6BfklmFFmr/s1600/child+within+altered.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="1280" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjT5PZ75rspa2_u67RU5Lh2myTvcXvrwTLSL3MNkGEHapTAbk_rYcbnnWygHsNpxSQ1FYl9XE6Ggy5LHYcYrkLCBEzimOK44ywwWEC8845z5sBBwCNCnSo8AC-Z2l_n2vGhcn6BfklmFFmr/s320/child+within+altered.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages looks at our Dissociative symptoms which involve a loss of certain functions, therefore meaning we can experience too little, a form of social isolation. This can include amnesia, loss of skills or piece of knowledge. It’s common with dissociative disorder to be unable to feel an emotion or sensation in the body. This means we become emotionally or physically numb and a separate part of our identity the child within holds the experience or sensation that can’t be felt.<br /><br />We with a dissociative disorder often experience amnesia that goes beyond the normal range of forgetfulness. We’re also susceptible to time distortions and feel time go by too quickly or slowly. Often we experience depersonalisation and feel as if we only exist in our heads. We become alienated from our body and are insensitive to physical pain or lack sensation in some parts of our body. Depersonalisation is usually an attempt to avoid or regulate overwhelming feelings or experiences.<br /><br />De-realisation, where events or surroundings seem unreal may also be experienced. The world may feel unreal as if you are in a dream or a play. We with a dissociative disorder, events can be related to parts of the personality that are living in trauma time. These parts may confuse the present with the past and therefore do not experience the present as real.We are experiencing too much:We with a dissociative disorder experience too much and intrusions may occur. Intrusions happen when one dissociative part intrudes into the experience of another and this may take place in any area of experience, such as memories, thoughts, feelings. Dissociative intrusions include flashbacks, sudden feelings thoughts and behaviours, sensations or pain that have no medical cause. These intrusions happen when a dissociative part of the self enters conscious awareness the hidden child within materialises inappropriately. </span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Ten Stages looks at our Dissociative symptoms which involve a loss of certain functions

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We do not squander our RECOVERY in trifling battles with disconnected people | 10 Stages Practical Support Courses

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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjuwM5S-Z9k6sOkWo1V_BwJdI8V3RCvnBVoqg3kaqBFni3_gOWi9-G_7QJeI2x3lrmbzAZbTb8glLxI7XDi1MYrfc8AjONG5h6lodXSrE3cIrNBBg5VrH4u6g5kUtnpN-NcXKM_aGDApw6-/s1600/10320586_370876006430738_4565125073146445507_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="628" data-original-width="960" height="130" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjuwM5S-Z9k6sOkWo1V_BwJdI8V3RCvnBVoqg3kaqBFni3_gOWi9-G_7QJeI2x3lrmbzAZbTb8glLxI7XDi1MYrfc8AjONG5h6lodXSrE3cIrNBBg5VrH4u6g5kUtnpN-NcXKM_aGDApw6-/s200/10320586_370876006430738_4565125073146445507_n.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <a href="https://10stages.blogspot.co.uk/2016/09/the-ten-stages-are-studied-recovery-and.html">The Ten Stages Courses are studied recovery | 10Stages.blogspot.</a>: <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <a href="https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/pengoopmcjnbflcjbmoeodbmoflcgjlk" style="font-size: 13px;">'via Blog this'</a><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div>

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We tend to carry so much shame with us when it comes to feeling our feelings because we believe that feeling our fear or negativity are “unspiritual.”

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1RtHnVvfgIxhfLREkNmstxXx0ICg6_4sghWlvMs0sV77OHSOYIMCeMep85LCj_94-kGjwVAeAa0X96sZsx241g0mD9HzuK1fnP6nVdpnkTVk0TgaE8gohbZM-s3ujZyYvuHddAyx4p8i4/s1600/child-inside-tree-growth-rings-559332799-570fdb843df78c3fa22a7e5f.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="512" data-original-width="768" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1RtHnVvfgIxhfLREkNmstxXx0ICg6_4sghWlvMs0sV77OHSOYIMCeMep85LCj_94-kGjwVAeAa0X96sZsx241g0mD9HzuK1fnP6nVdpnkTVk0TgaE8gohbZM-s3ujZyYvuHddAyx4p8i4/s320/child-inside-tree-growth-rings-559332799-570fdb843df78c3fa22a7e5f.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We need to have Recovery bypass surgery when our fear blocks us from feeling our feelings and recognising our child trapped within.</span><i style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;">You see – our child within doesn't need any personal growth work.</i><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">our child within doesn't need therapy. our child within doesn't need yoga, green juice or an alkaline, gluten free diet – our body does.<br /><br /><i>Fear is not the opposite of Love.</i><br />Fear is a biological response to uncertainty that comes from the amygdala that causes our body to be filled with cortisol (stress hormone) and adrenaline.<br /><br />We can spend so much time trying to hang out in the “spiritual realm” that we don’t allow ourselves to feel the fullness of our human emotion.<br /><br />We tend to carry so much shame with us when it comes to feeling our feelings because we believe that feeling our fear or negativity are “unspiritual.”<br /><br />The only thing unspiritual is the judgment of our feelings, which is actually keeping us blocked from happiness.<br /><br />de-pression comes from re-pression.<br />If we don’t allow ourselves to feel and be honest about what’s inside the child within without judgment – we can never really change.<br /><br />We can change our clothes, we can change our diet and we can start to move our body, but none of that will do any good without going into the depths of the feelings we have suppressed for so long in our child within.<br /><br />What feelings are you afraid to feel?<br /><br />What feelings do you try to escape?<br /><br />What feelings are you holding back because you think you are a bad person if you feel them?<br /><br />You see – these places are the places we need to go if we are to liberate ourselves.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <blockquote class="tr_bq"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">This is what Carl Jung meant when he said, “Enlightenment is not imaging figures of light, but making the dark conscious.”</span></blockquote> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />We can’t make our child within conscious if we are too self-judgmental to allow it to come forward – this is a recovery bypass and it’s as deadly as a blocked artery.<br /><br />What feelings can you rally feel today?</span></div> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We tend to carry so much shame with us when it comes to feeling our feelings because we believe that feeling our fear or negativity are “unspiritual.”

We need to have Recovery bypass surgery when our fear blocks us from feeling our feelings and recognising our child trapped within. You se...

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The Ten Stages Intuitive voice is the magical voice of the freed child within | Intuitive Voice Exploration

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgUS0zEEWOa0kw4X2x05vRJoX82ZioUNpZXsuYF3zgVL2NNEyZe-SlsPT372rFkYDGncdfpf0oPY31qKyliWj5HQ63t_gDG0KhMfNn8M0qOpsF5olSYRj3g97AGywWQYotlTBJzUQEPDxsk/s1600/13615260_761050534036649_4023140416478485672_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="800" data-original-width="800" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgUS0zEEWOa0kw4X2x05vRJoX82ZioUNpZXsuYF3zgVL2NNEyZe-SlsPT372rFkYDGncdfpf0oPY31qKyliWj5HQ63t_gDG0KhMfNn8M0qOpsF5olSYRj3g97AGywWQYotlTBJzUQEPDxsk/s320/13615260_761050534036649_4023140416478485672_n.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.co.uk/2015/06/the-stages-intuitive-voice-is-magical.html">The Ten Stages Intuitive voice is the magical voice of the freed child within | Intuitive Voice Exploration</a>: <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <a href="https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/pengoopmcjnbflcjbmoeodbmoflcgjlk" style="font-size: 13px;">'via Blog this'</a><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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Guided Meditations across the North Yorks Moors in a Jeep a modern pilgrims progress | Intuitive Voice Exploration

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgr1iXabhUc17bQ7FqWYIyABCtq28K1ueFP81MtNODNd3PyzMv-XimkD9S8gqZblb-bighK9lPBuGz_sie96YX8FzdYvFofJTT0XO-jtEH5W3tLfh_eLy1opN1mSFwo-ml_pLhcW4ma8s9h/s1600/IMG_0241.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1600" data-original-width="1200" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgr1iXabhUc17bQ7FqWYIyABCtq28K1ueFP81MtNODNd3PyzMv-XimkD9S8gqZblb-bighK9lPBuGz_sie96YX8FzdYvFofJTT0XO-jtEH5W3tLfh_eLy1opN1mSFwo-ml_pLhcW4ma8s9h/s200/IMG_0241.JPG" width="150" /></a></div> <a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.co.uk/2017/05/guided-meditations-across-north-yorks.html">Guided Meditations across the North Yorks Moors in a Jeep a modern pilgrims progress | Intuitive Voice Exploration</a>: <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <a href="https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/pengoopmcjnbflcjbmoeodbmoflcgjlk" style="font-size: 13px;">'via Blog this'</a><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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Our child within has been taught from a young age to seek approval from our parents for the things we said or did.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSo9Upv1Elhaw-zMWK9TEFQBljowAzYFpEJS2Yxrq_xqmklJLJIWwLD7M7ER9WYWJieHyW3_DajsBHUj01SMuibI4tGCY7jLmK6TZE7NU-kBrwNS1hEk6UWrxEmku7iz7E0Oe_Klrri8RC/s1600/14440824_10154640969327755_8139731793716015306_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="639" data-original-width="960" height="133" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSo9Upv1Elhaw-zMWK9TEFQBljowAzYFpEJS2Yxrq_xqmklJLJIWwLD7M7ER9WYWJieHyW3_DajsBHUj01SMuibI4tGCY7jLmK6TZE7NU-kBrwNS1hEk6UWrxEmku7iz7E0Oe_Klrri8RC/s200/14440824_10154640969327755_8139731793716015306_n.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <a href="http://recoverystages.blogspot.co.uk/2015/05/our-child-within-has-been-taught-from.html">Our child within has been taught from a young age to seek approval from our parents for the things we said or did.</a>: <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <a href="https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/pengoopmcjnbflcjbmoeodbmoflcgjlk" style="font-size: 13px;">'via Blog this'</a><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our child within has been taught from a young age to seek approval from our parents for the things we said or did.

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The Ten Stages Study Course means us having the courage to peel back layers of pain and sadness.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgI9ViugDxq0W8imj9mzYtnmpESrXZBouTFPSElYFvJr-cWl3HvXsemVivuYYBNhoJiMFEXR7SoKXgE5rhqyRMgTR0dzpVFmK54hEe2AFl8jsUX5DEwwYEP7Kpu5oXHwNQVj8d8yyHaQU3x/s1600/13600182_10154382262957755_1943985479598140572_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="739" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgI9ViugDxq0W8imj9mzYtnmpESrXZBouTFPSElYFvJr-cWl3HvXsemVivuYYBNhoJiMFEXR7SoKXgE5rhqyRMgTR0dzpVFmK54hEe2AFl8jsUX5DEwwYEP7Kpu5oXHwNQVj8d8yyHaQU3x/s200/13600182_10154382262957755_1943985479598140572_n.jpg" width="153" /></a></div> <a href="http://recoverystages.blogspot.co.uk/2015/06/the-stages-study-course-means-us-having.html">The Ten Stages Study Course means us having the courage to peel back layers of pain and sadness.</a>: <br /> <br /> and re-engage with ourselves.<br /> <br /> <a href="https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/pengoopmcjnbflcjbmoeodbmoflcgjlk" style="font-size: 13px;">'via Blog this'</a><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Ten Stages Study Course means us having the courage to peel back layers of pain and sadness.

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On completion of our first convention in North Yorkshire one of our Stager members referred to it as a "Sangha". | LAYMANS Guide to Ten Stage Meditations

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On completion of our first convention in North Yorkshire one of our Stager members referred to it as a "Sangha". | LAYMANS Guide to Ten Stage Meditations

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In The Ten Stages it is easy to revert to old attitudes and behaviour.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgi-yI-RsTx5CBSHO0snfGHE8bKc6PCNi0JMaSGg7wUHzlwsTEC6Q2dqi5_RErgUA7jQeqOFK2-Ce78vi05uB_w90TnPoLkWWXJEnQo-pKEg4Amucd62pPVtofOu6CS3zkQ0QyE4Ma1Hkpl/s1600/16427498_10155083291472755_9055493594856541152_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="685" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgi-yI-RsTx5CBSHO0snfGHE8bKc6PCNi0JMaSGg7wUHzlwsTEC6Q2dqi5_RErgUA7jQeqOFK2-Ce78vi05uB_w90TnPoLkWWXJEnQo-pKEg4Amucd62pPVtofOu6CS3zkQ0QyE4Ma1Hkpl/s320/16427498_10155083291472755_9055493594856541152_n.jpg" width="228" /></a></div> <br /> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">In The Ten Stages it is easy to revert to old attitudes and behaviour. Often we do this in subtle and insidious ways. For this reason we continue to monitor the events of our days, <br />moment by moment if necessary, to assess where we have become successfully in contact with our child within and where we still behave as hurt, reactive children. When we discover that we make a misstep in our life and fail to live connected with our child, we treat ourselves gently and remember that this is but an eruption from our troubled past. It is not easy to change our entire way of life. though it can be done. Having learned a new way to live the ten stages we trace the source of our negative feeling to its traumatic origin. Our process has taught us that understanding our past is the key to forward progress. We discipline ourselves to avoid the people, places, and things that trigger old, unhealthy responses. We do what is necessary to continue on our new, constructive path of living. Recovery has become our new lifestyle through it we daily renew our commitment to the best of ourselves the perfect child wihin. </span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

In The Ten Stages it is easy to revert to old attitudes and behaviour.

In The Ten Stages it is easy to revert to old attitudes and behaviour. Often we do this in subtle and insidious ways. For this reason we ...

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Our sole desire for aligning with truth and its power is to guide us to our life’s calling freedom for the child within.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjtneM1BD4BK-T8BbFQh_hp1aFhhBT8NTj40SpyHXwr0Xbo2Q8NG0NSDr6O8FLhuENQk_mCRqX3osErOHa8pWzUQ8C54kaWgF0Lmh1oyxajB3G4Euyo715xIkAi3QAeGa7I-lnS_zl_AOOn/s1600/14657497_10154710709737755_3250218319735937028_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="915" data-original-width="960" height="304" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjtneM1BD4BK-T8BbFQh_hp1aFhhBT8NTj40SpyHXwr0Xbo2Q8NG0NSDr6O8FLhuENQk_mCRqX3osErOHa8pWzUQ8C54kaWgF0Lmh1oyxajB3G4Euyo715xIkAi3QAeGa7I-lnS_zl_AOOn/s320/14657497_10154710709737755_3250218319735937028_n.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <br /> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Self-reflect</span><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">ion is any conscious, non-dissociative form of meditation, or seeking. In a mindful manner we speak </span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">and listen to our depths for guidance from our intuitive voice. This practice keeps us firmly rooted on our path and opens the way to the truth that the genius in our child within has been waiting a life- time to manifest. Having grieved our traumatic histories that our life force is no longer held captive by ancient shackles of pat generations. We are no longer blocked by an impenetrable wall of traumas, defenses, and self-hating voices. Our freed energy allows us the deepest connection to the best of ourselves which enhanced personal power. However, we do not abuse our power to dominate others or to exploit the material world. If we do, we are only deluding ourselves. Our sole desire for aligning with truth and its power is to guide us to our life’s calling freedom for the child within. </span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

Our sole desire for aligning with truth and its power is to guide us to our life’s calling freedom for the child within.

Self-reflect ion is any conscious, non-dissociative form of meditation, or seeking. In a mindful manner we speak  and listen to our dept...

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We are actually not alone at all—but surrounded by universal forces that delight in our daring venture to live out of what’s best in us and best in all reality.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgpRKK7iTYubMlNrv5zt4ArEmB4pE9Th-3MSTwsmyK2921dsHkxeI6tdRU5TES7ReTVrSGZvFuzs7fWPbVmRcV-as7Dg81DHz9gl430Io6QdjNFMyFdLwl7J4bOwuO7OebByBhk-47KRTAL/s1600/dos%2526donts.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="1280" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgpRKK7iTYubMlNrv5zt4ArEmB4pE9Th-3MSTwsmyK2921dsHkxeI6tdRU5TES7ReTVrSGZvFuzs7fWPbVmRcV-as7Dg81DHz9gl430Io6QdjNFMyFdLwl7J4bOwuO7OebByBhk-47KRTAL/s320/dos%2526donts.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="background-color: white; color: #595959; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium; line-height: 19.2px;"><i>As we start our transition from our outer definition back to our child within its a lonely path.</i></span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; color: #595959; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large; line-height: 19.2px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #595959; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium; line-height: 19.2px;">We must leave much behind—including conventional friends and limited family members. We must also leave behind old definitions of self, constructed and endorsed by the culture. This too is a great loss.</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; color: #595959; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large; line-height: 19.2px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #595959; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium; line-height: 19.2px;">As outgrown, external structure collapses, our child within has a chance to emerge. But this child within is tested to be true. Can it hold our developing and authentic, sense of self? Can we shun the noise of the world and its claims of authority in our lives to listen to the subtle voice of truth at our core? Can we stake our claim in an internal identity, apart from the seductive allure of the external world and the majority that conforms to it? Can we live from within as the outer world shouts its outrage at our defiance of its supremacy?</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; color: #595959; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large; line-height: 19.2px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #595959; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium; line-height: 19.2px;">It takes great courage to live from within and out of our core of truth our child within. And the transition from outer definition to inner truth is a lonely path that few travel. That’s why it’s good to listen in quiet reflection to the voice of truth that whispers encouraging words and reassuring support that we are actually not alone at all—but surrounded by universal forces that delight in our daring venture to live out of what’s best in us and best in all reality. With that realisation, even during what feels like our loneliness moment, we see we are not alone, but with the best company of all—our true self and the forces of nature and the universe that delight in our being true.</span><br /> <div> <span style="background-color: white; color: #595959; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium; line-height: 19.2px;"><br /></span></div> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We are actually not alone at all—but surrounded by universal forces that delight in our daring venture to live out of what’s best in us and best in all reality.

As we start our transition from our outer definition back to our child within its a lonely path. We must leave much behind—including con...

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Ten Stagers forgive spontaneously and without effort because we have fully embraced our damaged childhood

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-9MHVE5W9x3KTISXXJ7zUGWqDbY1in1-A45AwdCQQ9JOQGYW_AzOsv_EIn22nglzXiDbgsS7UgXQ-GjWox_dPt3dWnhM-P7WyZnssLGOQfGBj-Uvao2hXzxtlyy7iS1GCiBz8eVeBmNFb/s1600/dos%2526donts.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="1280" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-9MHVE5W9x3KTISXXJ7zUGWqDbY1in1-A45AwdCQQ9JOQGYW_AzOsv_EIn22nglzXiDbgsS7UgXQ-GjWox_dPt3dWnhM-P7WyZnssLGOQfGBj-Uvao2hXzxtlyy7iS1GCiBz8eVeBmNFb/s320/dos%2526donts.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We who have dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness. But this is only because we completely deny the harm done to us – and the damage remaining. Ten Stagers forgive spontaneously and without effort because we have fully embraced our damaged childhood and have grieved every honest ounce of our misery. Forgiveness does not need to be embraced as a solution as we recognise that we come from a point of perfection our perfect child within. </span><br /> <div> <span style="background-color: white; color: #585858; font-family: "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 28px;"><br /></span></div> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ten Stagers forgive spontaneously and without effort because we have fully embraced our damaged childhood

We who have dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness. But this is only because we completely deny the harm done to us – and the damag...

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We have dyslexia in our ten stage family and a fellow member spoke to me and apologised.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-ZRORO_FncetXeun4SAVcjg6vz2qSJHtnDApyiF2APFUiudjGgVF0DpTzPZ7jh998_rAcntjpIiUhS76UjV0zJqPOj_sHRQQvBJjDvq8EiJ8c8PWTYXF3yCsvecGkYujAIFiEIKztoxgk/s1600/13006737_10154190298082755_5854892835437882585_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="956" data-original-width="902" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-ZRORO_FncetXeun4SAVcjg6vz2qSJHtnDApyiF2APFUiudjGgVF0DpTzPZ7jh998_rAcntjpIiUhS76UjV0zJqPOj_sHRQQvBJjDvq8EiJ8c8PWTYXF3yCsvecGkYujAIFiEIKztoxgk/s320/13006737_10154190298082755_5854892835437882585_n.jpg" width="301" /></a></div> <br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We have dyslexia in our ten stage family and a fellow member spoke to me and apologised.</span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">NOTICE A TYPO?<br /><br />It's possible that you noticed a typo or many in these posts.<br /><br />If so, first... thanks for reading.<br /><br />And, thanks for caring enough to notice. If you have the impulse to reach out to us and let us know about the typo, please know that it's not necessary.<br /><br />We are very grateful that you care, though.<br /><br />You might be thinking... why doesn't the ten stages care about typos? Don't they want feedback?<br /><br />Let us say that we do care about typos. we do want feedback.<br /><br />But, there's something else we value before correcting typos... and it's this...<br /><br />Publishing our ten stages.<br /><br />You see, over the years we've received feedback that typos or grammar errors irk certain people who read them.<br /><br />Some very generous people have written in and offered their editing services.<br /><br />Here's the thing.... we operate in a different way.<br /><br />You may or may not know this, but we wake up each day.... around 4 or 5 am.<br /><br />And we write. Fresh. Each day.<br /><br />We've tried all kinds of methods to get content written ahead of time.<br /><br />To try to get them edited. We know good editors.<br /><br />But, it just doesn't work for us.<br /><br />We are meditated to wake up, write and publish.Its part of our meditation cycle often we are writing to ourselves as a solo audience.<br /><br />And, our intention is to publish each and every day in one of our sixty+ blogs.<br /><br />This intention is to serve our child within and the ten stages with our truth as we find it.<br /><br />We believe that consistent, yet imperfect posts to you is better that inconsistent posting.<br /><br />We would rather be in connecting to you each day with a fresh message hot off our finger tips that might have a typo here or there, than being inconsistent with perfect grammar and spelling.<br /><br />We use two tools to help us write, but they are not perfect, either.<br /><br />So, if you are looking for 100% perfection - you won't find it here.<br /><br />But, you will find studied consistency.<br /><br />And... if a typo is really bothering you... and it bothers you so much that you miss the message of the ten stages... then we have a message for you.<br /><br />Consider that perfectionism is knocking at your door, and you could be allowing it to stop your growth.Here you evolve your own truth from your child within.<br /><br />The spelling and the grammar in these messages do not need to be perfect to translate the lesson and the intention.<br /><br />This is not laziness, it's self-acceptance of our child within.<br /><br />We've been doing this for a long time and this is the best way for us to operate and produce these posts.<br /><br /><br />These posts have become different.<br /><br />So, we would encourage you to look beyond the typo and notice how you are feeling about it.<br /><br />How many times have you felt this way? About yourself and others?<br /><br />And, consider that this feeling could be a catalyst for your growth.<br /><br />You can grow beyond your concept of worldly perfection.<br /><br />And if a typo you read today is a wake-up call for you, or irks you... then perhaps this is your lesson for the day.<br /><br />Can you sit with what you view as imperfection? Can you appreciate it?<br /><br />When you can find appreciation for typos, you open the door to appreciating your imperfections as well.<br /><br />And, you'll be able to take your focus off  typos and instead focus on the message and lesson for the day.<br /><br />Don't let a typo hold you back from living your child withins purpose.<br /><br />Use this typo as a growing opportunity for you.<br />And, if this message doesn't resonate with you... that's fine.<br /><br />You are in control of what messages you receive from us. Please make an empowered choice only to see messages that vibes with you.<br /><br />I wno't be offneded, but I wlil msis you.</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div> </div>

We have dyslexia in our ten stage family and a fellow member spoke to me and apologised.

We have dyslexia in our ten stage family and a fellow member spoke to me and apologised. NOTICE A TYPO? It's possible that you n...

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WE spent so much time reacting and responding to everyone else

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjT5PZ75rspa2_u67RU5Lh2myTvcXvrwTLSL3MNkGEHapTAbk_rYcbnnWygHsNpxSQ1FYl9XE6Ggy5LHYcYrkLCBEzimOK44ywwWEC8845z5sBBwCNCnSo8AC-Z2l_n2vGhcn6BfklmFFmr/s1600/child+within+altered.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="1280" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjT5PZ75rspa2_u67RU5Lh2myTvcXvrwTLSL3MNkGEHapTAbk_rYcbnnWygHsNpxSQ1FYl9XE6Ggy5LHYcYrkLCBEzimOK44ywwWEC8845z5sBBwCNCnSo8AC-Z2l_n2vGhcn6BfklmFFmr/s320/child+within+altered.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">WE spent so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that our lives had no direction. Other's lives, problems, and wants set the course for our lives. Once we realised it was okay for us to think about and identify with our child within what we wanted in our life, remarkable things began to take place in our lives and we had time to recover. The visitor in the chemists</span><br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

WE spent so much time reacting and responding to everyone else

WE spent so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that our lives had no direction. Other's lives, problems, and wants set...

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