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The Ten Stages purposeful co-meditation

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The Ten Stages purposeful co-meditation the helping art of completing the Ten Stages gently with a loving-kindness response . Ten Stages Co-meditation the helping art of completing the Ten Stages gently with loving-kindness . The simple principle on which it is based is that, depending on the kind of respiration used, the mental state will be stimulated in that particular way. Co-meditation is believed to alleviate stress and suffering. Since time immemorial, breathing has been identified for its impact on our bodies, our emotions, our state of consciousness, and our lives. Co-meditation helps normalise the heart rate, blood pressure, stress, etc. Co-meditation puts the mind in a deep state of relaxation. The Child Within practice to calm our minds and emotions. It facilitates the child's ability to enter into meditative states and brings them control over fear, illness .  
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Relationship of Breathing with Mind and Body Breathing should be a deep, physical and psychologically relaxing practice. The best thing is that anybody can practice it and many will gain tranquillity. Two people or more can do the co-meditation practice, i.e., the one who is ill, stressed, or who needs peace, along with a caregiver or stage guide. It helps the ill person or recipient but also helps and soothes the caregiver by slowing down his emotions and maintaining and even mental-emotional state. This helps both parties overcome the helplessness that they experiencing . How Is It Done? It is done with time-honoured, progressive relaxation exercises and an introduction to the child within. It begins with tensing then relaxing the toes and moving continuously up the body until one reaches the head. The recipient lies at with his eyes closed, and concentrates on his breathing. Once we calms down and achieves a deeper state or relaxation, the co-meditator chants or repeats a child within mantra repeatedly with every breath. The chant or mantra helps the participant reduce chances of distraction and helps him or her focus into a deeper, meditative state. How Does It Work? This process slows down the respiration and the pulse rate. It brings down the body temperature and blood pressure. It also diminishes pain and anxiety. The effects of a co-meditation session last for hours and sometimes for days. It doesn’t require much training and gives a sense of worthiness . Some Other Uses Co-meditation also helps in a meditational treatment of sleep-related disorders, insomnia, hallucinations and nightmares, this meditation stimulates a deep state of relaxation and gradually brings down our oxygen requirements.Introducing us to a deep new relationship with our child within. 
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At the start of the ten stages’s healing journey

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At the start of the ten stages’s healing journey we seek to map out our journey at first we revert to our traditional contest distraction. In this part of our recovery argument, attempted acceptance, dissociated unhappiness, and seeking approval by parents, partners and friends of our crazy making behaviour becomes the norm. The parts of us that we feel are winning our contested part of our recovery stop our journey to recovery before it has even begun escaping into the grandiosity of spirituality, various religions and new personal romantic adventures.<div>
 Here we deny our deepest traumas so intensely that we fool even ourselves into believing they never happened – and that we feel we are already recovered. We attend fellowship groups that further traumatise us by our constant recollections and the recollections of others of our trauma.Which become mere playbacks of our ancient traumas. It is for this reason that our dissociations/escapism within the fellowship groups mimics our recovery. <div>
Here we still idealise our parents, which allows us full unconscious liberty to replicate the worst of our past into our present. Here we do not look beneath our surface, but join with dissociated others in their recollections of dysfunctional living. We remain happily still distant from the misery lurking in our recovery seeking constantly changing new solutions that dont work and joining with inappropriate others to compare our stories. Yet where parts of us lose the contest we move into the second traditional part of our recovery that is pain and suffering. In this part of our recovery depression, failure, misery, and inertia manifest into our lives bursting our recovery bubble. Here we wallow in seemingly purposeless pain. The silver lining around our cloud of parental idealisation has been stripped away, but the cloud remains intact. We still wish to be rescued by our parents and their replicated stand-ins, but we lack the requisite pain tolerance to be able to acknowledge the impossibility of this. Here we live in tortured ambivalence/recovery, and we spend out hours and days trying to get others to love us in the way our parents never could. Part of us wishes to devolve back into the seeming pleasure of grandiosity and our dissociative life, but the healthier part recalls how cruelly that route already failed us. Those parts of us with the capacity to face our maladaptive lives enter the third traditional stage that of grieving. This is the stage of purposeful struggling. Here we unearth the truth of our past, which allows the eruption of the puss filled boil of our buried traumas real and imagined. Here we witness the truth that lurks behind idealisation of the parents and we work to disassemble their lies. Our honest confidence leads us into the face of the hurricane, because our child within and its allies the students in the stages tell us that blue skies lie on the other side. Here we are humble, here we confront the truth of the worst of our parents, using whatever means will best help us integrate our truth, and through this our journey rages forward. With each problem we conquer we take a further step into the fourth traditional part that of awakening enlightenment. This is a stage of emotional integration, balance, and inner peace. Here lie the deepest goals of recovery. All want to know truth, and the recovered person achieves it in all the reconnected parts of ourself that arrive in this our final part. Here we grow able to distinguish light from shadow and water from mirage. Here we nurture our recovery of our primitive sides instead of expressing them self-destructively. Here we devote the best of ourselves to healing. Here we no longer traumatise others in the very patterns in which we were traumatised, but instead replicate the best of ourselves through contact with our child within – and generate beauty in the world around us. Here, having healed our wounds, we share freely of our gifts, because now our gifts are accessible to us and others. At The Ten Stages we have a different philosophy for our life. We come to focus on the child within as a living entity.That why we call it the CHILD WITHIN not inner child which is a parental false selfs method of acknowledgement. We, so-called adults are not truly adults at all, and we have to examine this fact we have become a weird self constructed mess. We all get older. Anyone, with a little luck, can do that. But, speaking from a recovery viewpoint, this is not adulthood. True adulthood hinges on acknowledging, accepting, and taking responsibility for loving and re-focusing on our own child within us. For most of us, this never happens because we have long forgotten the language of our childhood. Instead, our child within has been denied, neglected, disparaged, abandoned or rejected. We are told by society to "grow up," putting childish things aside. To become adults, we've been taught that our child within represents our child-like capacity for innocence, wonder, awe, joy, sensitivity and playfulness and this message must be stifled, quarantined or even killed. Our child within is angry, very very angry, Pissed off, venge-filled and often hurt, wounded cowering in the shadows locked in a basement of our childhood experience. Our child within comprises and potentiates these qualities of our true recovery </div>
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We, our child within holds our accumulated childhood hurts, traumas, fears and angers. WE the "Grown-ups" are convinced we have successfully outgrown, jettisoned, and left this child within--and its emotional trauma--long behind. But this is far from our truth as we begin to find out as we work on The Ten Stages and start to uncover our real truths in our recovery. Do not expect your child within to be thankful that you have unlocked its prison after a lifetime of ignorance and abuse. Its like a mistreated dog it bites and it bites hard. That is why we have a studied course, not a self help group of dissociated children we are not a feel good society.We have to deal with the reality of long term personal abuse, yes we have learned the language of an abusive parental society that rules by its jails and institutions of dysfunction and at the stages we must replace that language of mis-information and abuse to be able to finally enter into a discourse with the child within and re-connect with our freed personality. Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our live <blockquote class="tr_bq">
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When we start to acknowledge the current relationships in our life

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When we start to acknowledge the current relationships in our life not as a victim, but only as a mirror of our own life, we can begin to take empowered action.   
 
It’s the mark of a ten stager to no longer blame the other person, but instead to see the other person as a mirror of his or her own life.  
 
It’s the mark of a ten stager to share his or her feelings, rather than blaming someone else for not meeting the needs that were never expressed in the first place.  
 
It’s the mark of a ten stager who is strong enough to walk away from a broken and unfulfilled recovery model if his or her needs and emotions aren't being addressed. 
 
 It’s the mark of the ten stagers to be able to also meet the needs of our perfect child within. 
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Loving Kindfulness and Militant Vulnerability

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The Ten Stages looks at our Dissociative symptoms which involve a loss of certain functions

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The Ten Stages looks at our Dissociative symptoms which involve a loss of certain functions, therefore meaning we can experience too little, a form of social isolation. This can include amnesia, loss of skills or piece of knowledge. It’s common with dissociative disorder to be unable to feel an emotion or sensation in the body. This means we become emotionally or physically numb and a separate part of our identity the child within holds the experience or sensation that can’t be felt. We with a dissociative disorder often experience amnesia that goes beyond the normal range of forgetfulness. We’re also susceptible to time distortions and feel time go by too quickly or slowly. Often we experience depersonalisation and feel as if we only exist in our heads. We become alienated from our body and are insensitive to physical pain or lack sensation in some parts of our body. Depersonalisation is usually an attempt to avoid or regulate overwhelming feelings or experiences. De-realisation, where events or surroundings seem unreal may also be experienced. The world may feel unreal as if you are in a dream or a play. We with a dissociative disorder, events can be related to parts of the personality that are living in trauma time. These parts may confuse the present with the past and therefore do not experience the present as real.We are experiencing too much:We with a dissociative disorder experience too much and intrusions may occur. Intrusions happen when one dissociative part intrudes into the experience of another and this may take place in any area of experience, such as memories, thoughts, feelings. Dissociative intrusions include flashbacks, sudden feelings thoughts and behaviours, sensations or pain that have no medical cause. These intrusions happen when a dissociative part of the self enters conscious awareness the hidden child within materialises inappropriately.  
 
 
 
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The Ten Stages looks at our Dissociative symptoms which involve a loss of certain functions

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We do not squander our RECOVERY in trifling battles with disconnected people | 10 Stages Practical Support Courses

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We tend to carry so much shame with us when it comes to feeling our feelings because we believe that feeling our fear or negativity are “unspiritual.”

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We need to have Recovery bypass surgery when our fear blocks us from feeling our feelings and recognising our child trapped within.You see – our child within doesn't need any personal growth work. 
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our child within doesn't need therapy. our child within doesn't need yoga, green juice or an alkaline, gluten free diet – our body does. Fear is not the opposite of Love. Fear is a biological response to uncertainty that comes from the amygdala that causes our body to be filled with cortisol (stress hormone) and adrenaline. We can spend so much time trying to hang out in the “spiritual realm” that we don’t allow ourselves to feel the fullness of our human emotion. We tend to carry so much shame with us when it comes to feeling our feelings because we believe that feeling our fear or negativity are “unspiritual.” The only thing unspiritual is the judgment of our feelings, which is actually keeping us blocked from happiness. de-pression comes from re-pression. If we don’t allow ourselves to feel and be honest about what’s inside the child within without judgment – we can never really change. We can change our clothes, we can change our diet and we can start to move our body, but none of that will do any good without going into the depths of the feelings we have suppressed for so long in our child within. What feelings are you afraid to feel? What feelings do you try to escape? What feelings are you holding back because you think you are a bad person if you feel them? You see – these places are the places we need to go if we are to liberate ourselves. 
 
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This is what Carl Jung meant when he said, “Enlightenment is not imaging figures of light, but making the dark conscious.”</blockquote>
 We can’t make our child within conscious if we are too self-judgmental to allow it to come forward – this is a recovery bypass and it’s as deadly as a blocked artery. What feelings can you rally feel today?</div>
 
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The Ten Stages Intuitive voice is the magical voice of the freed child within | Intuitive Voice Exploration

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Guided Meditations across the North Yorks Moors in a Jeep a modern pilgrims progress | Intuitive Voice Exploration

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Our child within has been taught from a young age to seek approval from our parents for the things we said or did.

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The Ten Stages Study Course means us having the courage to peel back layers of pain and sadness.

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On completion of our first convention in North Yorkshire one of our Stager members referred to it as a "Sangha". | LAYMANS Guide to Ten Stage Meditations

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In The Ten Stages it is easy to revert to old attitudes and behaviour.

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In The Ten Stages it is easy to revert to old attitudes and behaviour. Often we do this in subtle and insidious ways. For this reason we ...

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In The Ten Stages it is easy to revert to old attitudes and behaviour. Often we do this in subtle and insidious ways. For this reason we continue to monitor the events of our days, moment by moment if necessary, to assess where we have become successfully in contact with our child within and where we still behave as hurt, reactive children. When we discover that we make a misstep in our life and fail to live connected with our child, we treat ourselves gently and remember that this is but an eruption from our troubled past. It is not easy to change our entire way of life. though it can be done. Having learned a new way to live the ten stages we trace the source of our negative feeling to its traumatic origin. Our process has taught us that understanding our past is the key to forward progress. We discipline ourselves to avoid the people, places, and things that trigger old, unhealthy responses. We do what is necessary to continue on our new, constructive path of living. Recovery has become our new lifestyle through it we daily renew our commitment to the best of ourselves the perfect child wihin. 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

In The Ten Stages it is easy to revert to old attitudes and behaviour.

In The Ten Stages it is easy to revert to old attitudes and behaviour. Often we do this in subtle and insidious ways. For this reason we ...

Our sole desire for aligning with truth and its power is to guide us to our life’s calling freedom for the child within.

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Self-reflect ion is any conscious, non-dissociative form of meditation, or seeking. In a mindful manner we speak and listen to our dept...

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Self-reflection is any conscious, non-dissociative form of meditation, or seeking. In a mindful manner we speak <div>
and listen to our depths for guidance from our intuitive voice. This practice keeps us firmly rooted on our path and opens the way to the truth that the genius in our child within has been waiting a life- time to manifest. Having grieved our traumatic histories that our life force is no longer held captive by ancient shackles of pat generations. We are no longer blocked by an impenetrable wall of traumas, defenses, and self-hating voices. Our freed energy allows us the deepest connection to the best of ourselves which enhanced personal power. However, we do not abuse our power to dominate others or to exploit the material world. If we do, we are only deluding ourselves. Our sole desire for aligning with truth and its power is to guide us to our life’s calling freedom for the child within. 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

Our sole desire for aligning with truth and its power is to guide us to our life’s calling freedom for the child within.

Self-reflect ion is any conscious, non-dissociative form of meditation, or seeking. In a mindful manner we speak and listen to our dept...

We are actually not alone at all—but surrounded by universal forces that delight in our daring venture to live out of what’s best in us and best in all reality.

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As we start our transition from our outer definition back to our child within its a lonely path. We must leave much behind—including con...

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As we start our transition from our outer definition back to our child within its a lonely path. 
 
We must leave much behind—including conventional friends and limited family members. We must also leave behind old definitions of self, constructed and endorsed by the culture. This too is a great loss. 
 
As outgrown, external structure collapses, our child within has a chance to emerge. But this child within is tested to be true. Can it hold our developing and authentic, sense of self? Can we shun the noise of the world and its claims of authority in our lives to listen to the subtle voice of truth at our core? Can we stake our claim in an internal identity, apart from the seductive allure of the external world and the majority that conforms to it? Can we live from within as the outer world shouts its outrage at our defiance of its supremacy? 
 
It takes great courage to live from within and out of our core of truth our child within. And the transition from outer definition to inner truth is a lonely path that few travel. That’s why it’s good to listen in quiet reflection to the voice of truth that whispers encouraging words and reassuring support that we are actually not alone at all—but surrounded by universal forces that delight in our daring venture to live out of what’s best in us and best in all reality. With that realisation, even during what feels like our loneliness moment, we see we are not alone, but with the best company of all—our true self and the forces of nature and the universe that delight in our being true. 
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We are actually not alone at all—but surrounded by universal forces that delight in our daring venture to live out of what’s best in us and best in all reality.

As we start our transition from our outer definition back to our child within its a lonely path. We must leave much behind—including con...

Ten Stagers forgive spontaneously and without effort because we have fully embraced our damaged childhood

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We who have dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness. But this is only because we completely deny the harm done to us – and the damag...

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We who have dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness. But this is only because we completely deny the harm done to us – and the damage remaining. Ten Stagers forgive spontaneously and without effort because we have fully embraced our damaged childhood and have grieved every honest ounce of our misery. Forgiveness does not need to be embraced as a solution as we recognise that we come from a point of perfection our perfect child within. 
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Ten Stagers forgive spontaneously and without effort because we have fully embraced our damaged childhood

We who have dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness. But this is only because we completely deny the harm done to us – and the damag...

We have dyslexia in our ten stage family and a fellow member spoke to me and apologised.

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We have dyslexia in our ten stage family and a fellow member spoke to me and apologised. NOTICE A TYPO? It's possible that you n...

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NOTICE A TYPO? It's possible that you noticed a typo or many in these posts. If so, first... thanks for reading. And, thanks for caring enough to notice. If you have the impulse to reach out to us and let us know about the typo, please know that it's not necessary. We are very grateful that you care, though. You might be thinking... why doesn't the ten stages care about typos? Don't they want feedback? Let us say that we do care about typos. we do want feedback. But, there's something else we value before correcting typos... and it's this... Publishing our ten stages. You see, over the years we've received feedback that typos or grammar errors irk certain people who read them. Some very generous people have written in and offered their editing services. Here's the thing.... we operate in a different way. You may or may not know this, but we wake up each day.... around 4 or 5 am. And we write. Fresh. Each day. We've tried all kinds of methods to get content written ahead of time. To try to get them edited. We know good editors. But, it just doesn't work for us. We are meditated to wake up, write and publish.Its part of our meditation cycle often we are writing to ourselves as a solo audience. And, our intention is to publish each and every day in one of our sixty+ blogs. This intention is to serve our child within and the ten stages with our truth as we find it. We believe that consistent, yet imperfect posts to you is better that inconsistent posting. We would rather be in connecting to you each day with a fresh message hot off our finger tips that might have a typo here or there, than being inconsistent with perfect grammar and spelling. We use two tools to help us write, but they are not perfect, either. So, if you are looking for 100% perfection - you won't find it here. But, you will find studied consistency. And... if a typo is really bothering you... and it bothers you so much that you miss the message of the ten stages... then we have a message for you. Consider that perfectionism is knocking at your door, and you could be allowing it to stop your growth.Here you evolve your own truth from your child within. The spelling and the grammar in these messages do not need to be perfect to translate the lesson and the intention. This is not laziness, it's self-acceptance of our child within. We've been doing this for a long time and this is the best way for us to operate and produce these posts. These posts have become different. So, we would encourage you to look beyond the typo and notice how you are feeling about it. How many times have you felt this way? About yourself and others? And, consider that this feeling could be a catalyst for your growth. You can grow beyond your concept of worldly perfection. And if a typo you read today is a wake-up call for you, or irks you... then perhaps this is your lesson for the day. Can you sit with what you view as imperfection? Can you appreciate it? When you can find appreciation for typos, you open the door to appreciating your imperfections as well. And, you'll be able to take your focus off  typos and instead focus on the message and lesson for the day. Don't let a typo hold you back from living your child withins purpose. Use this typo as a growing opportunity for you. And, if this message doesn't resonate with you... that's fine. You are in control of what messages you receive from us. Please make an empowered choice only to see messages that vibes with you. I wno't be offneded, but I wlil msis you. 
 
 
 
 
 
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As we journey forward on the studied path that is the ten stages toward full awakening, different parts of ourselves live at different stages

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As we journey forward on the studied path that is the ten stages toward full awakening, different parts of ourselves live at different stages.  
 
Some realisations can be amazingly healing and insightful, while others often remain buried and out of touch. Our different realisations traverse the various stages at their own speeds and depth, seemingly independently – but ultimately connected to our core of perfection the child within by our universal thread of truth. We have become awakened to our most primitive stage on life’s healing journey is our contest with ourselves. At this is the prime stage of grandiosity, acceptance by everyone in our social circle or re-acceptance, some if not all of us have a very dubious past and consequential dissociated happiness, and approval by our parents and ancestors. These parts of us that are winning the contest stop our journey before it has even begun. Here we deny our deepest traumas so intensely that we fool even ourselves into believing they never happened and that we are already healed. It is for this reason that our dissociation mimics our enlightenment. Here we idealise the parents, which allows us full unconscious liberty to replicate the worst of our past in our present. Here we do not look beneath our surface, and if fate goes our way, we will never have to. We remain happily distant from the misery lurking in our guts. Yet where parts of us lose the contest we evolve into the secondary stage: pain, grief suffering. Within this is the stage of depression, failure, misery, and inertia. Here we wallow in seemingly purposeless pain. The silver lining around our cloud of potential recovery has been stripped away, but the old thought clouds remains intact. We still have a motivation a wish to be rescued by our parents and their replicated stand-ins, friends, lovers but we lack the requisite pain tolerance to be able to acknowledge the impossibility of this. Here we live in tortured ambivalence, and we spend out hours and days trying to get others to love us in the way our parents never could. Part of us wishes to devolve back into the seeming pleasure of grandiosity, but the healthier part recalls how cruelly that route already failed us. These parts of us with the capacity to face our past fear-filled history enter a third stage: grieving. This is the ten stage path of purposeful struggling. Here we unearth the truth of our past, which allows the eruption of the stinking cesspool of our buried traumas. Here we witness the horror lurking behind idealisation of the parents, teachers, priests here we attempt to work in disassembling society and their lies. Our honest confidence leads us into the face of the hurricane, because our child within and its allies tell us that blue skies lie on the other side. Here we are humble, here we confront the truth of the worst of our memories, either in interaction with them or through whatever means will best help us integrate the truth, and through this our journey gently moves sometimes forward and sometimes a little backward. With each unconscious demon we conquer by our understanding we take a further step into a clearly define fourth stage: enlightenment. This is a stage of full emotional integration, psychic balance, and inner peace. Here lie the deepest goals of our child within. All of us would like to know our own personal truth, and as we become enlightened little by little with the use of truth we achieve it in all parts of ourselves as we arrive in the final stages of our recovery. Here for the first time we grow becoming at last to be able to distinguish light from shadow and water from mirage. Here we nurture the evolution of our primitive sides instead of expressing them destructively. Here we devote the best of ourselves to healing. Here we no longer traumatise others in the very patterns in which we were first traumatised, but instead replicate the best of ourselves generating beauty, peace and loving-kindfulness in the world close to ourselves. Here, having had a restoration into our child within, we share freely of our newly found gifts, because now our gifts are accessible to us and all others. 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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As we journey forward on the studied path that is the ten stages toward full awakening, different parts of ourselves live at different sta...

The Ten Stages with its child within revelations offer a unique journey inward which is both simple, gentle and effective

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The Ten Stages with its unique child within revelations offer a journey inward which is both simple, gentle and effective in dealing with the chaotic outside world of trauma, addiction and conspiracy theories.  
 
The Ten Stages believes that the root of our traumas and resulting addictions lie dissociation, societies method of dealing with freedom of the child within. 
The best way for us to heal our unresolved childhood traumas is to study the ten stages and to do this as fast as is possible. The best way to optimise the ten stages are to focus our energies inward by avoiding engaging in projection, thus, to not have dissociations (the easiest projection objects), to meditate with light guidance, to be not confuse ourselves with outside explanations, conspiracy theories, new addiction theories built on the myth of addiction, to limit or curtail contact with our old addiction buddies, and to live healthy lifestyles.  
 
The seeming conundrum here is that those of us who are most likely to heal are the least likely to have strong connections to the outside world, political or social and religious. The short-term answer to this is that we who become healthy identify in our grief, suffering and pain by proxy to the whole species. Our long-term answer is that once the species as a whole plays catch-up and awakens into maturity, then many of the healthiest among us would be satisfied with the simple knowledge that this brings. 
 
We who are in denial are in a major rush to change things has his or her head buried in the sand, and lacks an ability to fathom the destruction we will have wreaked on our planet and on our children’s children in a few short generations’ time. Conclusion here: the time to change is now.  
 
If you deny this you are part of the problem. 
Despite the rush we are in, healing ourselves is a process that takes time. It does not happen overnight. But it need not take many decades or generations, especially if we have allies on the healing path. 
Attempting this plan requires major sacrifice — personal, emotional, social, familial, economic, and relational. So be prepared for a rough road. The irony is that we presently have the option of sacrificing; in the future, if we don’t do our homework, these sacrifices will be thrust upon us in far less pleasant ways. 
 
We support and acknowledge experimentation and the practice of solution based loving-kindfulness. If any of our ideas sound too extreme or farfetched, we suggest consciously testing them for yourself. We have arrived at our point of view through testing — often doing exactly the opposite of what we suggest above. That is how we gained perspective. And we continue to test. 
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Ten Stages with its child within revelations offer a unique journey inward which is both simple, gentle and effective

The Ten Stages with its unique child within revelations offer a journey inward which is both simple, gentle and effective in dealing wit...

When we look back we recognise that our old patterns of dissociation often lead us into addiction

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When we look back we recognise that our old patterns of dissociation often lead us into addiction were really self-medication and the inevitable flight from reality. We do not do a “moral” inventory, that will only replay our childhood trauma just by studying our morals, our own “badness” and hurtful behaviour.  
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The reasons are that the mere act of revisiting childhood trauma and the frozen self is a re-traumatising belief. That we have already been pre-programmed to come to believe firmly that we had no true self. We have learned at the ten stages that we were programmed to believe that we were condemned at birth.</div>
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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Long ago, decades ago, We have made the decision that life was not worth living

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Long ago, decades ago, We have made the decision that life was not worth living – it was something to ‘get through’ as smoothly and mindlessly as possible until we could die. The rule had been to imperceptibly stay as non-present as possible, while going about the business of doing what we had to do to ‘survive’, to pass as human. That was a rule we learned deep, deep down. Einstein said: “I must be willing to give up what I am in order to become what I will be.” That can be exceedingly difficult. When we embark on this journey of recovery we have not realised that healing required CHANGE on our part. We wanted the constant pain and anguish to stop, but we didn’t want my actual self to be different. We did not want to have to uproot the very foundations of our beliefs and actions and metaphorically relearn how to walk again. We wanted to be free of the continual anguish we experienced, the continual need to cover up our lapses due to dissociation; the continual sporadic loss of time, the hop scotching nature of our abilities – sometimes being able to do certain things; other times have no concept of, or even any desire to have certain abilities. We wanted relief of all our symptoms, but I did not really want to “heal”. When we are finally ready to start dealing with our addiction, we gradually realise that we then have to deal with what caused our addiction in the first place; what we had been unwilling/unable to face originally, what drove us to drink. Only now our problems were compounded by all the problems that alcoholism brings. “The worst would pass in a few days. I’d feel good and I’d think, “I’ve got it down pat.” But then I’d look at my life and feel bad. That’s the real pain when you’re an addict. USING HURTS, BUT REALITY HURTS WORSE.” when we are not dissociating, we look at our life and realise this is so very different than what we have envisioned. We do not have a birth family, We do not have in-laws, We do not have blood relatives, We do not have a life partner. We give up an immense amount of ourself to insure that we would have all these things, and when we stopped dissociating, We realise that not only did we have none of those people in our life, We are also missing major portions of ourself. It has taken us along time to realise two things: 1. How can you lose what you never had? I never did have those things, only a pretence. And 2. We now have things that are far more important and valuable than those ever were in reality. But. We are still addicted. We know we would not have survived if we had not had the skill of dissociation. It served us quite well. It saved our lives. Now we don’t want to rely on it; we don’t want to do it automatically we have identified three types of dissociation we struggle with: 1. The first way is the simple practice of spacing out or shutting off. we use this for two different purposes: 1. Avoidance when we are unwilling or unable to face things 2. A learned way to be able to switch. There are many times when we cannot access the parts that have the information and skills we need in a situation. Throughout the decades we have learned that a way to handle this was just to shut off completely inside, and sooner or later the information we needed would gradually seep to the surface or some other place in my mind where it would become accessible to me. 3. A third way we dissociate is to switch to other parts inside.It has taken us time to be able to tell when we am not ourself. we blend through most alter personalities, and it used to be easy to believe we are just being ‘us’. We’ve learned to be alert to various factors. One is what age we feel. Other ways we have found to know when I am not Child Within present are to feel what size the body seems, relative to other people or objects; Sometimes we look at a dog, and it feels as if the dog is shoulder height to me. Ooops. Not Child within present! Other ways are to recognise what the emotional tone is and what the values are, what sort of things are important to us. How do I want to spend my time? A numbing activity such as computer games? Oops. That is not a Child within choice for us. So who is out and why? 4. The fourth way we dissociate is one that may be difficult to grasp if we don’t use it. If we do, We will definitely know what we are talking about. We will tell us that some people whom we have discussed this with have found this concept highly triggering. We found ourself talking to our guides about a ‘construct’. They asked us what we mean by that term; at the time we had.......not a clue. We have since learned that we create a construct when we are functioning through something that is not an alter. We are always looking for a perfect ‘formula’ that we could leave in place, and personally go away. Life was something to be endured, and gotten through as gracefully and safely as possible, while the real ‘us’ was tucked away somewhere inaccessible. When we are preparing to be in a situation which we may perceive as threatening, we automatically figure out what qualities would be appropriate and useful for that event; find parts inside that have those qualities; put them together and create an ‘artificial’..persona to deal with the situation. An example: One time a friend and I planned to go away for a weekend, share a motel room, and do numerous activities together. I was terrified. I was unused to being social; I was unused to spending long stretches of time with another person without being able to escape and dissociate. I was afraid she would find me (fill in the blank here) unacceptable, stupid, weird, any number of things. My anxiety levels rose and rose. I found myself figuring out how ‘normal’ people would act in a situation like this, what kind of things would interest them, what kind of things they would talk about, what kind of values they would have. I figured out what the situation demanded so that I could pass as human. I found myself focusing entirely on my friend and what she might want to do. It was far too terrifying to have any ‘me’ present at all. I was still around, somewhere, but definitely not in my body. That would have been far too terrifying. From some remote area, I worked the body, instructing it what to say and do. A construct is not ‘me’ or an alter; it is lacking much depth of character, although there were always certain parameters set for what actions the character could do. Fortunately, by then I was far enough along in healing that I realised what I was doing and started laughing at myself. This was a friend who knew about my background, who was safe, who was very accepting of who I was. I ended up just ‘winging’ it; yes, there were some anxious moments, but I spent a lot of time just being ‘me’ and reacting spontaneously to whatever arose, and had a great time. We do want to say that we do not believe all dissociation is from addiction. If a person is still around perpetrators, dissociation may still be necessary. But once dissociation is learned as the major means to handle difficult emotions, a person will continue to use it automatically from then on, and it greatly lessens the quality of life. Having decided we wanted to do away with this addiction and the pain it causes us, We find specific strategies helpful, when we are not dissociating our decision to stop dissociating: We would like to share these with you. We would like to start with a quote we found: “No one healing intervention will enable a person to manifest the full scope of his or her wholeness. To maximally heal it is important not to limit ourselves to a single modality but to incorporate several healing practices that encompass body, mind, and spirit. We at the Stages strongly believe it takes more than talk therapy to break through when there is severe trauma in the background. It takes physical actions, whatever form they may take. When we are faced with severe trauma, the fight or flight response gets activated. This shuts down the cortex; the part of our brain that can reason, plan and make sense of things. Pieces of the event, snapshot pictures, get recorded, but the meaning does not. They are memories that do not make sense. After the trauma, these unresolved emotions are frozen in the body. Think of what the physiological responses are to any emotion and what it means for these responses to be stopped before completion and remain in the body. There is an ‘act hunger’...remaining – the body wants to move through and resolve these physiological processes. The body remembers even when the mind forgets. The body acts as our unconscious mind. At the Ten Stages we implement a full range of both play and safe drama therapies to unleash mind coupled with our body. 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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We who are dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness.

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We who are dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness. But this is only because we completely deny the harm done to us – and the damage remaining. Ten Stagers forgive spontaneously and without effort because we have fully embraced our damaged childhood and have grieved every honest ounce of our misery. Forgiveness does not need to be embraced as a solution as we recognise that we come from a point of perfection our perfect child within. 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We who are dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness.

We who are dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness. But this is only because we completely deny the harm done to us – and the da...

The Ten Stages Study Course is new experiential perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure about rebuilding autonomous self worth.

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The Ten Stages Study Course is new and perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure about rebuilding autonomous self worth. 
 When we trump a person’s right to make autonomous decisions we send them the message that they are incompetent. By giving them a label We teach them not to trust themselves. We teach them that their experience is a pathology rather than an opportunity for self-study and growth. We teach them that their “symptoms” or “defences” are a problem rather than a window into a world of deeper meaning and history. We teach them that life’s answers are outside of them, that the truth is not within, and that our best bet is not to look within for guidance.  
 The Ten Stages is an autonomous self teaching Study Course owned by ourselves and completed by ourselves. It is perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure based recovery study program on this planet and it is available to you now.Join us in October for our second international week long convention. 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Ten Stages Study Course is new experiential perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure about rebuilding autonomous self worth.

The Ten Stages Study Course is new and perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure about rebuilding autonomous self worth. When ...

Oh, the comfort – the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person

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Truth ,Trust and Consent We have to gain and use only Truth, Trust and Consent – this is just the Healing Hand Of Kindfulness Plus Insigh...

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Truth ,Trust and Consent We have to gain and use only Truth, Trust and Consent – this is just the Healing Hand Of Kindfulness Plus Insight into our own intuitive voice. Consent is the key – We cannot change others, they change themselves, only with our benign compassionate assistance coupled to our earned consent can we hope to institute any form of change. Oh, the comfort – the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person – having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.” ~Dinah Craik, A Life for a Life, 1859 
 
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Oh, the comfort – the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person

Truth ,Trust and Consent We have to gain and use only Truth, Trust and Consent – this is just the Healing Hand Of Kindfulness Plus Insigh...

We have a potential member in front of us who has a software problem. It’s not a hardware problem.

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We have a potential member in front of us who has a software problem. It’s not a hardware problem. Before any course or work is under take...

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We have a potential member in front of us who has a software problem. It’s not a hardware problem. Before any course or work is under taken he The initial very serious work of keeping a student safe from harm in an environment of truth, trust and consent helping them to accept anger and other emotions as valid and primary goals in the Ten Stages is under taken. <div>
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 As traumatised students learn that they need not be ashamed about past trauma and abuse, their identities consolidate, memory improves and they become less reliant on dissociation and other coping mechanisms. 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

We have a potential member in front of us who has a software problem. It’s not a hardware problem.

We have a potential member in front of us who has a software problem. It’s not a hardware problem. Before any course or work is under take...

Our so-called conscious mind — believe it or not — is not in charge of our day-to-day behaviour.

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Our so-called conscious mind — believe it or not — is not in charge of our day-to-day behaviour. That claim may seem counter intuitive and contrary to our experience, but it has been demonstrated in controlled experiments time and again. By the time our conscious mind is aware of any particular decision or action, it has already been made or enacted by some other part of our brain. 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our so-called conscious mind — believe it or not — is not in charge of our day-to-day behaviour.

Our so-called conscious mind — believe it or not — is not in charge of our day-to-day behaviour. That claim may seem counter intuitive...

Most of us are secretly needy children.

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Most of us are secretly needy children. We want love and nurturance from our children, and often fail to provide it in return. Our child...

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Most of us are secretly needy children. We want love and nurturance from our children, and often fail to provide it in return. <div>
Our children are forced to give love, and end up neglected. We grow up still desiring to get mature love from others attempting to recreate surrogate parents. If we are to recover, and to engage in the ten stage course, we have to learn how to nurture ourselves from within. The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

Most of us are secretly needy children.

Most of us are secretly needy children. We want love and nurturance from our children, and often fail to provide it in return. Our child...

The Ten Stages is a taught course that usually runs for twelve week period.

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The Ten Stages is a taught course that usually runs for twelve week period. It relies on an experiential learning process of learning through our own experiences, and is more specifically defined as "learning through reflection on doing" or often in our case that we have done in our past. Hands-on learning is a form of experiential learning but does not necessarily concentrate students reflecting only on themselves, but reflecting on the experience of others both similar and different. Experiential learning is distinct from rote or didactic learning, in which the learner plays a comparatively passive role. It is related to but not synonymous with other forms of active learning such as action learning, adventure learning, free choice learning, cooperative learning, and service-learning.The Ten Stages can use all these methods or none it is truly experiential using kindfulness as an introduction to Truth,Trust and Consent. Experiential learning is often used synonymously with the term "experiential education", but while experiential education is a broader philosophy of education, experiential learning considers the individual learning process. As such, compared to experiential education, experiential learning is concerned with more concrete issues related to the learner and the learning context.In our case a gentle compassionate Ten Stages experience. The general concept of learning through experience is ancient. Around 350 BCE, Aristotle wrote in the Nichomachean Ethics "for the things we have to learn before we can do them, we learn by doing them".Within the Ten Stages you become both the teacher and the student.....and finally the child within.  
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Ten Stages is a taught course that usually runs for twelve week period.

The Ten Stages is a taught course that usually runs for twelve week period. It relies on an experiential learning process of learning th...

Reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.

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Reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.

The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child withi...

Ten Stagers who have accepted their child within into maturity can approach conflict with an enemy in a nonreactive way.

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Ten Stagers who have accepted their child within into maturity can approach conflict with an enemy in a nonreactive way. When a Ten Stager is awakened, they acquire power, authority, and consciousness to confront the raging child in another with detachment. A conscious Ten Stager can approach a conflict, hear its issues, and resolve the matter in a safe, measured manner. If others become attacking, violent children, then our self-defence needs to remain detached, and not become an excuse to act out unconscious rage in return.  Ten Stagers need to approach conflict and self-defence in an enlightened manner. 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ten Stagers who have accepted their child within into maturity can approach conflict with an enemy in a nonreactive way.

Ten Stagers who have accepted their child within into maturity can approach conflict with an enemy in a nonreactive way. When a Ten Stager...

Ten Stages meditation is a form of meditation that is accessible to people of all backgrounds.

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Ten Stages meditation is a form of meditation that is accessible to people of all backgrounds. It is a meditation without rituals or mantras and can be practised anywhere at any time.  Meditation is practised with ‘open eyes', which makes this method of meditation versatile, simple and easy to practice. Meditation is a state of child within just beyond every day consciousness, which is where empowerment has always begun. Child Within awareness gives us the power to choose positive thoughts over those which are negative and wasteful. We start to respond to situations, rather than just reacting to them. We begin to live with harmony, we create better and happier, healthier relationships and change our lives in the most positive way. 
 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ten Stages meditation is a form of meditation that is accessible to people of all backgrounds.

Ten Stages meditation is a form of meditation that is accessible to people of all backgrounds. It is a meditation without rituals or mantr...

Ten Stage weekly meet-ups has been created to provide a safe, confidential a sane place to be able, discuss and study the 10 Stages.

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Ten Stage weekly meet-ups has been created to provide a safe, confidential a sane place to be able, discuss and study the 10 Stages.We seek to create an area of truth, trust and consent to be able to allow the child within to express itself in the privacy it requires. We gather together to support each other in healing from our dysfunctional coping strategies, addictions, compulsions, and  self defeating, destructive behaviours.  
 
We encourage each person to find and revel in their own power, intelligence, self-esteem and yes strengths. We are here to support each other, but we do not presume to know what is best for another. 
 
 We realise that all people unfold in their own way and their own time. We learn from each other and draw strength from seeing the courage of others, yet we keep the focus on ourselves.  
 
We listen to each other's pain, but we also bond in power and joy and encourage everyone to take the necessary steps to live with respect and meaning in their lives. 
 
 We are open to all possibilities for healing and finding our internal wisdom and power. 
 
Within the meet-ups we create teaching forums that are not listed on any search engine or accessible to the public it is by invitation only.The Ten Stages by their nature are experiential and are constantly evolving and require a minimum of twelve weeks 
to institute changes that are required to gain all the benefits of kindfulness. 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ten Stage weekly meet-ups has been created to provide a safe, confidential a sane place to be able, discuss and study the 10 Stages.

Ten Stage weekly meet-ups has been created to provide a safe, confidential a sane place to be able, discuss and study the 10 Stages.We see...

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