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We’ve all come to realise that our children within are wise beyond their years, and that applies to perfect child within as well. And when we establish a solid relationship with our child within, we are both adult and child, fully present, and their wisdom and joy is ours too. 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

when we establish a solid relationship with our child within, we are both adult and child, fully present

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Our Child Within doesn’t live in our ego

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Our perfect Child Within has an amazing capacity to accept things and heal faster than our adult because our mind is not made up about anything. Our Child Within doesn’t live in our ego, and our identity is not yet formed within so change can happen rapidly. This type of acknowledgment moves our hidden child within who feels forgotten and abandoned out of its shadow-self and into our light. It is in the light that can experience play and joy, bridging those same emotions into the present self. Healing and reclaiming abandoned parts of our current self will shift what manifests in life into positive outcomes. It changes the stories we tell ourselves. 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our Child Within doesn’t live in our ego

Our perfect Child Within has an amazing capacity to accept things and heal faster than our adult because our mind is not made ...

When we are finally ready to start dealing with our addiction, we gradually realise that we then have to deal with what caused our addiction in the first place

Fraser Trevor

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Title: When we are finally ready to start dealing with our addiction, we gradually realise that we then have to deal with what caused our addiction in the first place
Author: Fraser Trevor
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Long ago, decades ago, We have made the decision that life was not worth living – it was something to ‘get through’ as smoothly and mindle...

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Long ago, decades ago, We have made the decision that life was not worth living – it was something to ‘get through’ as smoothly and mindlessly as possible until we could die. The rule had been to imperceptibly stay as non-present as possible, while going about the business of doing what we had to do to ‘survive’, to pass as human. That was a rule we learned deep, deep down. Einstein said: “I must be willing to give up what I am in order to become what I will be.” That can be exceedingly difficult. When we embark on this journey of recovery we have not realised that healing required CHANGE on our part. We wanted the constant pain and anguish to stop, but we didn’t want my actual self to be different. We did not want to have to uproot the very foundations of our beliefs and actions and metaphorically relearn how to walk again. We wanted to be free of the continual anguish we experienced, the continual need to cover up our lapses due to dissociation; the continual sporadic loss of time, the hop scotching nature of our abilities – sometimes being able to do certain things; other times have no concept of, or even any desire to have certain abilities. We wanted relief of all our symptoms, but I did not really want to “heal”. When we are finally ready to start dealing with our addiction, we gradually realise that we then have to deal with what caused our addiction in the first place; what we had been unwilling/unable to face originally, what drove us to drink. Only now our problems were compounded by all the problems that alcoholism brings. “The worst would pass in a few days. I’d feel good and I’d think, “I’ve got it down pat.” But then I’d look at my life and feel bad. That’s the real pain when you’re an addict. USING HURTS, BUT REALITY HURTS WORSE.” when we are not dissociating, we look at our life and realise this is so very different than what we have envisioned. We do not have a birth family, We do not have in-laws, We do not have blood relatives, We do not have a life partner. We give up an immense amount of ourself to insure that we would have all these things, and when we stopped dissociating, We realise that not only did we have none of those people in our life, We are also missing major portions of ourself. It has taken us along time to realise two things: 1. How can you lose what you never had? I never did have those things, only a pretence. And 2. We now have things that are far more important and valuable than those ever were in reality. But. We are still addicted. We know we would not have survived if we had not had the skill of dissociation. It served us quite well. It saved our lives. Now we don’t want to rely on it; we don’t want to do it automatically we have identified three types of dissociation we struggle with: 1. The first way is the simple practice of spacing out or shutting off. we use this for two different purposes: 1. Avoidance when we are unwilling or unable to face things 2. A learned way to be able to switch. There are many times when we cannot access the parts that have the information and skills we need in a situation. Throughout the decades we have learned that a way to handle this was just to shut off completely inside, and sooner or later the information we needed would gradually seep to the surface or some other place in my mind where it would become accessible to me. 3. A third way we dissociate is to switch to other parts inside.It has taken us time to be able to tell when we am not ourself. we blend through most alter personalities, and it used to be easy to believe we are just being ‘us’. We’ve learned to be alert to various factors. One is what age we feel. Other ways we have found to know when I am not Child Within present are to feel what size the body seems, relative to other people or objects; Sometimes we look at a dog, and it feels as if the dog is shoulder height to me. Ooops. Not Child within present! Other ways are to recognise what the emotional tone is and what the values are, what sort of things are important to us. How do I want to spend my time? A numbing activity such as computer games? Oops. That is not a Child within choice for us. So who is out and why? 4. The fourth way we dissociate is one that may be difficult to grasp if we don’t use it. If we do, We will definitely know what we are talking about. We will tell us that some people whom we have discussed this with have found this concept highly triggering. We found ourself talking to our guides about a ‘construct’. They asked us what we mean by that term; at the time we had.......not a clue. We have since learned that we create a construct when we are functioning through something that is not an alter. We are always looking for a perfect ‘formula’ that we could leave in place, and personally go away. Life was something to be endured, and gotten through as gracefully and safely as possible, while the real ‘us’ was tucked away somewhere inaccessible. When we are preparing to be in a situation which we may perceive as threatening, we automatically figure out what qualities would be appropriate and useful for that event; find parts inside that have those qualities; put them together and create an ‘artificial’..persona to deal with the situation. An example: One time a friend and I planned to go away for a weekend, share a motel room, and do numerous activities together. I was terrified. I was unused to being social; I was unused to spending long stretches of time with another person without being able to escape and dissociate. I was afraid she would find me (fill in the blank here) unacceptable, stupid, weird, any number of things. My anxiety levels rose and rose. I found myself figuring out how ‘normal’ people would act in a situation like this, what kind of things would interest them, what kind of things they would talk about, what kind of values they would have. I figured out what the situation demanded so that I could pass as human. I found myself focusing entirely on my friend and what she might want to do. It was far too terrifying to have any ‘me’ present at all. I was still around, somewhere, but definitely not in my body. That would have been far too terrifying. From some remote area, I worked the body, instructing it what to say and do. A construct is not ‘me’ or an alter; it is lacking much depth of character, although there were always certain parameters set for what actions the character could do. Fortunately, by then I was far enough along in healing that I realised what I was doing and started laughing at myself. This was a friend who knew about my background, who was safe, who was very accepting of who I was. I ended up just ‘winging’ it; yes, there were some anxious moments, but I spent a lot of time just being ‘me’ and reacting spontaneously to whatever arose, and had a great time. We do want to say that we do not believe all dissociation is from addiction. If a person is still around perpetrators, dissociation may still be necessary. But once dissociation is learned as the major means to handle difficult emotions, a person will continue to use it automatically from then on, and it greatly lessens the quality of life. Having decided we wanted to do away with this addiction and the pain it causes us, We find specific strategies helpful, when we are not dissociating our decision to stop dissociating: We would like to share these with you. We would like to start with a quote we found: “No one healing intervention will enable a person to manifest the full scope of his or her wholeness. To maximally heal it is important not to limit ourselves to a single modality but to incorporate several healing practices that encompass body, mind, and spirit. We at the Stages strongly believe it takes more than talk therapy to break through when there is severe trauma in the background. It takes physical actions, whatever form they may take. When we are faced with severe trauma, the fight or flight response gets activated. This shuts down the cortex; the part of our brain that can reason, plan and make sense of things. Pieces of the event, snapshot pictures, get recorded, but the meaning does not. They are memories that do not make sense. After the trauma, these unresolved emotions are frozen in the body. Think of what the physiological responses are to any emotion and what it means for these responses to be stopped before completion and remain in the body. There is an ‘act hunger’...remaining – the body wants to move through and resolve these physiological processes. The body remembers even when the mind forgets. The body acts as our unconscious mind. At the Stages we implement a full range of both play and safe drama therapies to unleash mind coupled with our body. 
 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

When we are finally ready to start dealing with our addiction, we gradually realise that we then have to deal with what caused our addiction in the first place

Long ago, decades ago, We have made the decision that life was not worth living – it was something to ‘get through’ as smoothly and mindle...

The Ten Stages are a recovery practice working from a healthy core base of short empathetic intuitive meditations

Fraser Trevor

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Title: The Ten Stages are a recovery practice working from a healthy core base of short empathetic intuitive meditations
Author: Fraser Trevor
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The Ten Stages are a recovery practice working from a healthy core base of short empathetic intuitive meditations. This ground breaking wo...

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The Ten Stages are a recovery practice working from a healthy core base of short empathetic intuitive meditations. This ground breaking work allows us to move to closer work with our early life experiences , reaching to our ‘childhood experiences of fear and anger’ and enabling us to find a voice to talk about our often unthinkable past. To enable us to facilitate this we must create a safe place with trust and consent becoming paramount... which given time leads to our often changing view of our childhood truth. The Ten Stages create a child within safe emotion based support centres, known as Dayhabs where healthy recoverers help others recover. The Ten Stages hold the view that recovery is software based, not hardware based, and all are restorative, provided the sufferer completes the practice. 
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Loving-KindFULness as created and practiced in the ten stages recognises, welcomes and treasures the individuality, personhood, identity, spirit or soul of the others in all their shared and unique aspects. Ten Stage Dayhab offers a caring, understanding and empowering attitude toward our emotional struggles, aspirations and personal growth. We promote our inherent human rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. We respect the autonomy, personal responsibility and freedom of the person. We are encouraged to grow in self-appreciation as well as in the ability to respect, love and empathise with others. 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

The Ten Stages are a recovery practice working from a healthy core base of short empathetic intuitive meditations

The Ten Stages are a recovery practice working from a healthy core base of short empathetic intuitive meditations. This ground breaking wo...

As children we needed to acquire a basic birthright of truth.

Fraser Trevor

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Title: As children we needed to acquire a basic birthright of truth.
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As children we needed to acquire a basic birthright of truth. Our grown caregivers claimed to love us but often behaved differently....

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As children we needed to acquire a basic birthright of truth. Our grown caregivers  
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 claimed to love us but often behaved differently. Our confusion as children is understandable: in needing to believe in the goodness of our parents we, in our dependency, had no choice but to doubt ourselves. They lied to us—and where they did we became dissociated. We became like they were. But now we are adults. We no longer live under their dissociated tyranny, however mild or extreme it was, or under the strangling social systems that daily support them. We have options. This is the privilege of finding our child still hidden within, and the privilege of the insight that comes with it. We again need truth and discover that when we are honest we do not die, but instead feel affirmed. This leads us to believe that the truth at our core our child within is more powerful than the menditions imposed upon us by our upbringing. We understand that with truth patience and perseverance we can bring our light of truth into all the dark unconscious recesses of our adult self and into all the paralysed sides of our banished personality. We know that we can become fully conscious responsible adults. 
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>
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As children we needed to acquire a basic birthright of truth.

As children we needed to acquire a basic birthright of truth. Our grown caregivers claimed to love us but often behaved differently....

We begin to see in the ten stages the false in our recovery relationships

Fraser Trevor

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Title: We begin to see in the ten stages the false in our recovery relationships
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We begin to see in the ten stages the false in our recovery relationships with ideas, with people, with things. When our mind sees that wh...

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We begin to see in the ten stages the false in our recovery relationships with ideas, with people, with things. When our mind sees that which is false, then that which is true comes into being and then there is recovery, there is happiness. The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We begin to see in the ten stages the false in our recovery relationships

We begin to see in the ten stages the false in our recovery relationships with ideas, with people, with things. When our mind sees that wh...

Without removing the root causes of addiction/dissociation

Fraser Trevor

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Title: Without removing the root causes of addiction/dissociation
Author: Fraser Trevor
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Without removing the root causes of addiction/dissociation, there cannot be any recovery; and to seek recovery when the mind is unawakened...

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Without removing the root causes of addiction/dissociation, there cannot be any recovery; and to seek recovery when the mind is unawakened to dissociation is utterly empty, meaningless. 
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Without removing the root causes of addiction/dissociation

Without removing the root causes of addiction/dissociation, there cannot be any recovery; and to seek recovery when the mind is unawakened...

Our unchosen relationships are relationships with family members who suffer from dissociation.

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Our unchosen relationships are relationships with family members who suffer from dissociation. They are called "Unchosen" since they are relationships which a person made no choice to participate in. Mothers who hurt, abuse or neglect their own children. Fathers who hurt, abuse or neglect their own children. Children who hurt themselves and others. 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our unchosen relationships are relationships with family members who suffer from dissociation.

Our unchosen relationships are relationships with family members who suffer from dissociation. They are called "Unchosen" since ...

The vast majority of us cannot admit our parents disrespected and hurt us.

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The vast majority of us cannot admit our parents disrespected and hurt us.  As a result, we avoid the painful work of pain, grief  and suffering that heals our past.  Instead, we say our parents “did the best they could.” 
 
 
 
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The vast majority of us cannot admit our parents disrespected and hurt us.

The vast majority of us cannot admit our parents disrespected and hurt us. As a result, we avoid the painful work of pain, grief and suf...

Sadly, no one had perfect parents or the perfect childhood.

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Sadly, no one had perfect parents or the perfect childhood. We are all disrespected, abused children which explains much of our present behaviour patterns, if not all, of the world’s insanity. Collectively, humans are a traumatised species, often this is hard to perceive as since this is our norm. The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Sadly, no one had perfect parents or the perfect childhood.

Sadly , no one had perfect parents or the perfect childhood. We are all disrespected, abused children which explains much of our present ...

Everyone has been a child and we all carry that child into our daily life.

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Everyone has been a child and we all carry that child into our daily life. This our own personal child the child hidden within craves and ...

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Everyone has been a child and we all carry that child into our daily life. This our own personal child the child hidden within craves and needs functioning parenting. If our parent model are not functional in a modern society and its newly created norms, meaning that often our parents unknowingly and sometimes knowingly carry unresolved trauma from their own childhood, this will in turn damage their child. Any trauma or disrespect that is unresolved will permeate through. This is the child withins hidden disrespect and a form of abuse. 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Everyone has been a child and we all carry that child into our daily life.

Everyone has been a child and we all carry that child into our daily life. This our own personal child the child hidden within craves and ...

Intulexia is a state of mind produced by a fully functioning relationship with our child within cauterises the process of traumatised memory

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Intulexia is a state of mind produced by a fully functioning relationship with our child within cauterises the process of traumatised memory which must come to an end. Memory becomes into being only when experience is not fully, completely understood. Memory is only the residue of an experience; it is the result of a challenge which is not fully comprehended.  
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Life is a process of challenge and response. Challenge is always new but the response is forever old. This response, which is conditioning, which is the result of the past, must be understood and not disciplined or condemned away. It means living each day a new, fully and completely. This complete living is possible only when there is pure recovery, when our heart is full, not with the words nor with the things made by the mind. Only where there is kindfulness, memory ceases; then every movement is a rebirth. 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

Intulexia is a state of mind produced by a fully functioning relationship with our child within cauterises the process of traumatised memory

Intulexia is a state of mind produced by a fully functioning relationship with our child within cauterises the process of traumatised ...

Our old patterns of dysfunction and addiction were really self-medication

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Our old patterns of dysfunction and  addiction were really self-medication and the inevitable flight from reality into our self constructed escapist world of chaos and drama. We did not attempt do a “moral” inventory, that we believed will only replay our childhood traumas just by studying our morals, our own “badness” and hurtful behaviour. The reasons are that the mere act of revisiting childhood trauma and the frozen self is a re-traumatising belief. That we have already been pre-programmed to come to believe firmly that we had no true self. We have learned at the ten stages that we were programmed to believe that in some cases we were condemned at birth to constantly replay and escape during our life. 
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our old patterns of dysfunction and addiction were really self-medication

Our old patterns of dysfunction and addiction were really self-medication and the inevitable flight from reality into our self constructe...

In the ten stages its important to understand how are operating ,our functioning, the activity of our home grown constructed shadow self.

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In the ten stages its important to understand how we are operating ,our functioning, the activity of our home grown constructed shadow self. When our child within operates, our shadow self cannot possibly understand the child within. It is only when the shadow self, which is our conditioned self, our ancestral voice, which has been cultivated through centuries of time, which is everlastingly seeking its own security, its own comfort—it is only when that shadow self is quiet that we will see that there is a different kind of movement in our life, and it is this movement which is going to bring clarity. It is this movement which is clarity itself.  
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To understand, we must fully understand the shadow self, be aware of it, know all its movements, its activities, its demands, its pursuits, and that is why meditation is very important. We do not mean the absurd, systematised cultivation of a certain habit of thought,  that’s all too immature and structured. By meditation we mean to understand the operations of shadow self, to watch it, to know how it reacts, what its responses are, its tendencies, its demands, its aggressive pursuits—to know the whole of that, the unconscious as well as the conscious part of it. When we know it, when there is an awareness of it, without controlling it, without directing it, without saying, “This is good; this is bad; we’ll keep this; we won’t keep that,”—when we see the total movement of our shadow self, when we see it totally, then it becomes quiet...then we learn to let go and finally gain our freedom.</div>
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In the ten stages its important to understand how are operating ,our functioning, the activity of our home grown constructed shadow self.

In the ten stages its important to understand how we are operating ,our functioning, the activity of our home grown constructed sh...

Only our dulled, soporific minds creates and clings to addiction.

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Only our dulled, soporific minds creates and clings to addiction. A mind that is attentive from moment to moment—attentive to what it is...

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Only our dulled, soporific minds creates and clings to addiction. A mind that is attentive from moment to moment—attentive to what it is saying, attentive to the movement of its hands, of its thoughts, of its feelings—will discover that the formation of further addictions has come to an end. This is very important to understand, because as long as our mind is breaking down one addiction, in that very process its creating another, it can obviously never be free; and it is only the free mind that can perceive something beyond itself. 
 
 
 
 
 
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Only our dulled, soporific minds creates and clings to addiction.

Only our dulled, soporific minds creates and clings to addiction. A mind that is attentive from moment to moment—attentive to what it is...

We have to become observers at the ten stages in how dissociations are formed

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We have to become observers at the ten stages in how dissociations are formed and how, by denying or resisting one dissociation, another is almost instantly created. What matters is to be totally conscious of our dissociations; for then, as we will see for ourselves there is no longer the formation of dissociation. To resist, to fight it, to deny it, only gives continuity to another form. When we fight a particular dissociation we give life to that form of addiction, and then the very fighting of it becomes a further addiction. But if we become simply aware of the whole structure of dissociations without resistance, then we will find there is freedom from our addictions, and in that freedom a new life takes place. 
 
 
 
 
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Dissociation has nothing to do with age

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Dissociation has nothing to do with age or gender, it has nothing to do with experience; and it seems to me that the very essence of dissociation lies in understanding the whole mechanism of addiction, both conscious and unconscious. It is not a question of ending addiction, but of seeing totally the structure of dissociation. 
 
 
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Dissociation has nothing to do with age

Dissociation has nothing to do with age or gender, it has nothing to do with experience; and it seems to me that the very essence of disso...

Without freedom from our past

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Title: Without freedom from our past
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Without freedom from our past there is no freedom for us at all The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of recon...

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Without freedom from our past

Without freedom from our past there is no freedom for us at all The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of recon...

It is only mind freed from addiction in the ten stages

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Title: It is only mind freed from addiction in the ten stages
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It is only mind freed from all addictions in the ten stages that can perceive something beyond itself. The Ten Stages is a studied recover...

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 It is only mind freed from all addictions in the ten stages that can perceive something beyond itself.The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

It is only mind freed from addiction in the ten stages

It is only mind freed from all addictions in the ten stages that can perceive something beyond itself. The Ten Stages is a studied recover...

Ten Stages Peace & Meditation

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Title: Ten Stages Peace & Meditation
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"Ten Stages Peace & Meditation": " Grant us access to our intuitive voice to accept all guidance revealed through our m...

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"Ten Stages Peace & Meditation": " Grant us access to our intuitive voice to accept all guidance revealed through our meditations on our child within us, the courage to let go of the things we are asked to, and the wisdom to interpret our intuition according to our child withins will for us" 
 
 Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ten Stages Peace & Meditation

"Ten Stages Peace & Meditation": " Grant us access to our intuitive voice to accept all guidance revealed through our m...

Our abilities as ten stages recovery students and meditators gradually build on each other.

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Title: Our abilities as ten stages recovery students and meditators gradually build on each other.
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Our abilities as ten stages recovery students and meditators gradually build on each other. Just as we have to learn to walk before we can...

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Our abilities as ten stages recovery students and meditators gradually build on each other. Just as we have to learn to walk before we can run in our recovery, we must move through the ten Stages in order. 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our abilities as ten stages recovery students and meditators gradually build on each other.

Our abilities as ten stages recovery students and meditators gradually build on each other. Just as we have to learn to walk before we can...

No pain is greater than that of the Child that is within us

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Title: No pain is greater than that of the Child that is within us
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No pain is greater than that of the Child that is within us – and when we tap into our intuitive voice, we will forever be connected to th...

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No pain is greater than that of the Child that is within us – and when we tap into our intuitive voice, we will forever be connected to those who mean the most to us, whether they are with us or not. 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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No pain is greater than that of the Child that is within us – and when we tap into our intuitive voice, we will forever be connected to th...

Whilst The Ten Stages is new. The answer is timeless.To become recovered from addiction is to heal the ancient wounds that caused the despair in the first place.

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Title: Whilst The Ten Stages is new. The answer is timeless.To become recovered from addiction is to heal the ancient wounds that caused the despair in the first place.
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The major reason that new discoveries in recovery take years to be accepted and why confused and irrational traditions are maintained for g...

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The major reason that new discoveries in recovery take years to be accepted and why confused and irrational traditions are maintained for generations. In fact is that human evolution so far occurred without science, and so what you heard most often or what made the most sense to you was safest to accept as true.In the case of dissociation as a trap that looks like recovery, but is far worse, robbing us of our lives has become increasingly true. A group of people say they have found recovery together if questioned singularly they become less certain. some doubt it, but to be accepted within the tribe go along with it.</blockquote>
 
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Whilst The Ten Stages is new. The answer is timeless.To become recovered from addiction is to heal the ancient wounds that caused the despair in the first place.</blockquote>
 
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This will not be easy for us, because our parents crushed the searching side of us, and subtly threatened us with full rejection if we tried to reconstitute our healthy and seeking side. But healing is possible. We who suffer from addiction needs to find others who can hear us and believe us and trust us – trust every little bit of horror we have gone through and still holds inside our psyche like a poisonous abscess – until we can learn to do this for ourselves. We must begin our growth process in a more enlightened setting that does not crush us anew.</blockquote>
 
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We must find ways to look honestly at the history of our demise and feel all our grief, horror, and rage. We may lose our old numb shadow self in the process, but we will find our life. No one who finds the path to our legitimate anger and honest grief can ever stay in addiction for long.</blockquote>
 
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Whilst The Ten Stages is new. The answer is timeless.To become recovered from addiction is to heal the ancient wounds that caused the despair in the first place.

The major reason that new discoveries in recovery take years to be accepted and why confused and irrational traditions are maintained for g...

The Ten Stages advanced meditation process

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The Ten Stages advanced meditation process try for a short time of your own choosing possibly every two days in quiet seclusion explain to...

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The Ten Stages advanced meditation process try for a short time of your own choosing possibly every two days in quiet seclusion explain to no one your process. Consciousness can flow into us, if there is the will and capacity to receive it, the ability to maintain it, and the understanding to nurture it. The idea is to find the child within, whether this be assisted by religious beliefs, mentors, guides, intuition, or by inner reflection. The aim is for us to become more loving, compassionate, tolerant, patient, forgiving, understanding and content, by following a new way of conscious thinking; the means by which one achieves this is not important.It is always a reverse journey a journey backwards towards our source. Child Within growth is obtained by aligning with our inner thoughts and feelings. One should set the intention to become aware, whilst understanding that we are a unique creation within the completeness of the whole. 
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This is the first method we tried the child the dot and the mirror. Gazing into a mirror, what is it that you see? You see a reflection of the person others see when they look at you. If the mirror should shatter you would then see not just one, but many reflections of yourself in the fragments. This is the first method we tried the child the dot and the mirror.We need to go back before the knowledge of self to before the original building block before the dot. 
 The child’s knowledge about the self continues to develop as the child grows. By age 2, the infant becomes aware of his or her gender as a boy or a girl. At age 4, self-descriptions are likely to be based on physical features, such as one’s hair colour, and by about age 6, the child is able to understand basic emotions and the concepts of traits, being able to make statements such as “I am a nice person”  
 So the original contemplation was to make the dot in the middle of the forehead disappear.So we return to a stage before consciousness. Before the main effects of the world before first contact do not worry we are not going to stay long its just a first point an alpha point.It has no secret meaning.We do this in our mind we accept the dot disappearing the release of our consciousness.We do not have to deal with first contact....we think as a newcomer. 
 We become one with our Source the child within and one with all of our surroundings. This becomes our starting point for our meditations and contemplations we become our own ground zero.We have to relax into this idea play with it like a helium ballon let it bounce and move without effort. We are not our physical body, but rather the child hidden within. By denying the dot, you can access the real Child, the Child Consciousness. It is possible its about our relationships its our starting out point.</div>
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The Ten Stages advanced meditation process

The Ten Stages advanced meditation process try for a short time of your own choosing possibly every two days in quiet seclusion explain to...

If as a survivor of our own personal trauma we do not gain awareness and understanding of our traumatic issues

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If as a survivor of our own personal trauma we do not gain awareness and understanding of our traumatic issues after we get to taste sobri...

If as a survivor of our own personal trauma we do not gain awareness and understanding of our traumatic issues

If as a survivor of our own personal trauma we do not gain awareness and understanding of our traumatic issues after we get to taste sobri...

Now right now we gain the knowledge of our own personal experience as we make contact once more with our re-awakened child within

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Now right now we gain the knowledge of our own personal experience as we make contact once more with our re-awakened child within in the t...

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Now right now we gain the knowledge of our own personal experience as we make contact once more with our re-awakened child within in the ten stages concerning the deep effects of our childhood trauma the knowledge is  mind-changing and powerful it feels that our brain cells and DNA are firing strongly once again within us and that it our minds are re -programming actually rearranging themselves. The information that is released is staggering and innovative to our old outworn perceptions because we had never heard it before and it has the power to change our lives completely. 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Now right now we gain the knowledge of our own personal experience as we make contact once more with our re-awakened child within

Now right now we gain the knowledge of our own personal experience as we make contact once more with our re-awakened child within in the t...

Power and Authority Meditation using positive phrases

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May our Child hidden Within find our freedom today... Freedom to recover who our child within wants us to be... Freedom to recover our chi...

Power and Authority Meditation using positive phrases

May our Child hidden Within find our freedom today... Freedom to recover who our child within wants us to be... Freedom to recover our chi...

In the Ten Stages we are awakened to our nervous system which has been evolving for millions of years

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In the Ten Stages we are awakened to our nervous system which has been evolving for millions of years...so our nervous systems is a very p...

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In the Ten Stages we are awakened to our nervous system which has been evolving for millions of years...so our nervous systems is a very powerful and intelligent system that is designed to keep us alive. Which... is a good thing. The problem is... the nervous system tends to generalise and associate danger death and doom with anything that represents a threat. And... when we are trying to change or improve our recovery life... part of the deal is that we need to practice a recovery purpose. Try new projects. Let go of old not functioning  relationships. Speak up for what we really need. Set boundaries. Open our mind. All of these things are new... and they are uncertain. And... because they are uncertain... that means that our nervous system interprets anything that is uncertain or that could be a "risk" as the same thing as death. So... without conscious awareness... without our attention... without bringing in our child within relationship.... our scared and terrified nervous system can still run the show using blame and shame to stop our recovery in its tracks. Without even consciously knowing it... our unrecovered nervous system can think that stopping an ingrained dissociation behaviour is just as dangerous as being cast out and banished from a tribe to live by and fend for ourself in the desert. Or... the nervous system can think that recovery and starting the ten stages that will kill us... Or that losing our addiction and being "seen in recovery" is lethal... Or that opening our heart up and practicing loving-kindfulness will result in the same pain or worst from the past... and that we will die if we experience that kind of emotional pain again. It's not a bad thing that our old nervous system is trying to keep us safe. The hard part is that while the nervous system thinks that anything that is uncertain or risky will lead to certain death and it will do anything it can to protect us... This also means that any risk or uncertainty that is required to love, start recovery, build new healthy relationships, forgive someone or change our life is also seen as a threat by our ingrained nervous systems survival strategies. As a result... our nervous systems coping strategies doesn't want us taking any risks... risks that could hurt us again.... and risks that could help us change our life. So, the practice must be... to bring our conscious awareness to our life... and to work to send messages to our old nervous systems coping strategies that we are safe... and that it's okay for us to take risks that our heart... our child within.... and our recovery selves as nudging us to take. Starting our ten stage program of healthy recovery won't kill us. Opening our heart again to loving Kindness won't kill us. Letting go of trying to control others won't kill us. Living our Ten Stage Recovery won't kill us. But, when we deny the yearnings of our heart.... when we deny the yearnings of our child within... when we deny the calling of that greater destiny to our correct maturity that we know we are meant to live... We commit to a slow passive suicide of dissociation every day. Because while our ancestors were focused on primarily just surviving.... we get the privilege to have our basic needs met and shift our focus to thriving... and living in our Recovery Purpose. We need to dedicate our life to living our unique Recovery and make to decision regardless of the death threats to join recovery. 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

In the Ten Stages we are awakened to our nervous system which has been evolving for millions of years

In the Ten Stages we are awakened to our nervous system which has been evolving for millions of years...so our nervous systems is a very p...

We are wise. We already know. We have all the answers within us. Right... now.

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We are wise. We already know. We have all the answers within us. Right... now. Today, We want to re-iterate our passion for intuition and share with us how powerful the Ten Stages really are.  We have some words we want to share with you today about the power of our child within intuition.  We are born with child within wings, why prefer to crawl through life? NOW The wings we are referring to is our intuition. We have direct access to our child within  because it speaks to us through our intuition. The voice of our intuition whisper and is not logical. It makes no sense. It will ask us to do things that are outside of our comfort zone, that go against the status quo and things that might freak out our family. Our intuition will cause us to go against the grain. To feel left out and to go on an epic spiritual recovery quest to find our child withins purpose. And when we arrive at the destiny of our recovery purpose. our intuition will get the credit for showing us the way, one foggy,  stage at a time. You see, your intuition is literally the child within talking to you. It's our own child within trying to get our attention, to guide us. And, this perfect Child Within is wiser that we are and is connected to all time and space. It knows past, present and future. So, when we are guided, we are being guided by a force that knows where we're headed. It can see 100 stages ahead. It sees how all the seeming "random" moments of our life are actually conspiring for our greatest good, even the moments where we feel like we're getting kicked in the teeth by life. It's all a conspiracy for our benefit. But, if you let irrational fear, which we call Survival Patterns, stop us from following our child within intuition - we get stuck, and our life shrivels up. And then we get resigned that this is how it will always be. But that intuitive voice never stops speaking. No amount of food, drugs or sex can numb it. It remains, calling you into the foggy uncertainty of faith. And the day will come where taking the leap out into the unknown will be our only next stage. We do not need to be stubborn. We can relax and tap into our child within intuition. We can find it. We can follow it. 
 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We are wise. We already know. We have all the answers within us. Right... now.

We are wise. We already know. We have all the answers within us. Right... now. Today, We want to re-iterate our passion for intuition and ...

Who you spend time with is who you become.

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Title: Who you spend time with is who you become.
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"Who you spend time with is who you become." So, you want to be mindful of who you surround yourself with. Make sure you are aro...

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"Who you spend time with is who you become." So, you want to be mindful of who you surround yourself with. Make sure you are around people who support your recovery growth, your purpose and who you're becoming. You don't want to attach to people who must remain attached to who you've been. At this moment, you're a brand new person; it's time to surround yourself with people who see you as brand new. Your Recovery is out there... >Click here to learn how to find it!<a href="https://www.facebook.com/StagesSchool/">https://www.facebook.com/StagesSchool/</a> Our great wish is that you find your recovery group. Where you fit in. Where you belong. Where you are seen. Loved and recognized. You are worthy of these things. Know this, and welcome the Ten Stage Solution. Remember to get out there, take action & make it real! 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Who you spend time with is who you become.

"Who you spend time with is who you become." So, you want to be mindful of who you surround yourself with. Make sure you are aro...

We should - be no longer at the whims of other peoples agendas

Fraser Trevor

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Title: We should - be no longer at the whims of other peoples agendas
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When we connect with our recovery purpose - we find the recovery we were born to have. Our relationships improve, and we are surrounded by...

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When we connect with our recovery purpose - we find the recovery we were born to have. Our relationships improve, and we are surrounded by people who support this new direction in our life. We develop more energy in our body and instead of pushing snooze every morning we wake up with zest, excitement, and enthusiasm for the day. When we find our purpose, we wake up and create our day how we feel we should - be no longer at the whims of other peoples agendas. When we find our recovery purpose - we're free.<div style="background-color: white; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;">
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We should - be no longer at the whims of other peoples agendas

When we connect with our recovery purpose - we find the recovery we were born to have. Our relationships improve, and we are surrounded by...

MBro DayHab:We ignore the doubts of others. (UPDATED)

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MBro DayHab:We ignore the doubts of others. And we constantly bounce back up. We are no longer victims but strong, powerful survivors. Rem...

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 MBro DayHab:We ignore the doubts of others. And we constantly bounce back up. We are no longer victims but strong, powerful survivors. Remember to connect to our Child Within today in whatever way resonates with us, gaining our power and authority. Remember that we are supported by perfection, even now. Be aware of the problem, but be steadfast in participating in our solution. Focus on what we can control, make it bigger and bring it in close. Take what we can't control, make is small and push it far away. Dedicate our day to something bigger than our problem. Today, We commit to following through. Surround ourself with positive energy. Be a source of kindfulness for someone else. Loosen our grasp on all that we are trying to control. Leave room for our child within to function. Greet each person we meet today with  kindfulness and a smile, not because we're in a good mood (and if we are... thats awesome), but because it might just save their lives. We have no idea what others are going through today, so send the spirit of Kindfulness when we see something we would normally judge. Speak kindly to ourselves. Lighten the load and send loving-kindfulness to anyone who we are holding a grudge towards. Remember that life, our Recovery Purpose and this journey is a marathon, not a sprint. It's okay to slow down a little today. We find something in this very moment that we can be grateful for today. We have been given the gift of another day, use it wisely. We are being moulded by the presence of our child within into something marvellous, trust the process. Do not be discouraged. Tomorrow will take care of itself. Give your all to this day. Following your Child Within may seem foolish to others, but in the end, the only foolish thing is letting our fear and self-doubt win. So, today, in this moment, decide to make a Child Within out of ourselves and keep going. 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

MBro DayHab:We ignore the doubts of others. (UPDATED)

MBro DayHab:We ignore the doubts of others. And we constantly bounce back up. We are no longer victims but strong, powerful survivors. Rem...

It’s no surprise we can fail to tune into our Child Within presence.

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Title: It’s no surprise we can fail to tune into our Child Within presence.
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It’s no surprise we can fail to tune into our Child Within presence. How can we listen to the child within, when so many of us barely li...

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It’s no surprise we can fail to tune into our Child Within presence. How can we listen to the child within, when so many of us barely listen to ourselves? How can we feel their spirit and hear the beat of their heart if we can’t do this in our own life? When we meditate, it’s crucial we realise we aren’t raising a “mini me,” but a spirit of perfection throbbing with its own signature. For this reason, it’s important to separate who we are from who each of our child Within is. Child Within isn’t ours to possess or own in any way. When we know this in the depths of our being, we tailor our raising of them to their needs, rather than moulding them to fit our needs. 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

It’s no surprise we can fail to tune into our Child Within presence.

It’s no surprise we can fail to tune into our Child Within presence. How can we listen to the child within, when so many of us barely li...

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