We, the membership who have read and heard this profound message in the ten stages are shocked

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEifAjqtc1YrHzZvmaUNcPRqz5lHLx_gV6vyiWN6SMHq8kg5Np6tcJcmvx1BQUpSK-67WvnPUGa35CAq8KfjD3cZ5OuWGHCGvUbLG9jJzYZzn-Od50bwi2P3wD1YSxOr-zI4rnZdq4gCH7lh/s1600/bigstock-spiritual-meditation-zen-garde-32174522.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="600" data-original-width="900" height="133" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEifAjqtc1YrHzZvmaUNcPRqz5lHLx_gV6vyiWN6SMHq8kg5Np6tcJcmvx1BQUpSK-67WvnPUGa35CAq8KfjD3cZ5OuWGHCGvUbLG9jJzYZzn-Od50bwi2P3wD1YSxOr-zI4rnZdq4gCH7lh/s200/bigstock-spiritual-meditation-zen-garde-32174522.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We, the membership who have read and heard this profound message in the ten stages are shocked, because we are used to being coddled and told how great and smart and wise and enlightened and healthy we already are.</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We are used to being told it was just fine for us to have children. We are used to being told that our abuse of our children was not really abuse and that our sick conditional love for our children really was love.</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We are used to being told that our own lies and insanity were actually perfectly healthy and normal. We have become used to listening to false prophets, gurus and mentors when we have problems. We are used to being told that our mindless behaviour was wise, and that we are doing the right thing by building a wall between our consciousness and the wrenching pain of our true, deep spirit the child within.</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We are used to being told that our crazy culture was healthy, our treatment of the earth’s resources was progressive, our romantic relationships were beautiful, our love for our parents was appropriate and warranted, our histories of abuse are overrated, our pop-psychologists are indeed psychologists, our wars and hatreds are largely justified, our petty prejudices are acceptable as long as they did not push them in others’ faces, and our hatreds are rational.</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We are used to being placated and numbed and medicated and enslaved and psychically castrated by those who are profiting from our herd mentality. And we have always thought this illusion was what love is all about.</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We become uncomfortable when we hear a program that would dare to contradict everything we hold dear. And yet these words resonated with us on some deep and long-forgotten level. We are not used to hearing the truth. It makes us curious. And it also makes some of us want to kill this program in a writhing sea of our own denial.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">For if we hear our deep recovery message and we do not take it to heart, if we cling to our self-deception and our false comforts and our idealised, dishonest beliefs about our parents and our childhood, then we will know just how foolish and wasted we are. We will see our remaining vulnerability and weakness, and we will know that it just remains a matter time before a strong wind sweeps us off our feet and leaves us dazed and lost and cut down to our true and appropriate recovery size.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We, the membership who have read and heard this profound message in the ten stages are shocked

We, the membership who have read and heard this profound message in the ten stages are shocked, because we are used to being coddled and t...

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We, so-called adults are not truly adults at all, and we have to examine this fact we have become a weird self constructed mess.

<br /> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; orphans: auto; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 1; word-spacing: 0px;"> </div> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjn-zsixoYVHzwdVcX5Q_agqmGtOmj_tEq7rFlr1Q7sU1TZsUDSEB3Hsaj2piuKbkzlkSVbzWAvNEuXYpTOZjHCq1yNYq9Avu_QxPgoIrBGoyfES5K8r_Cl1wC8UtakqRZaya0DXtA6zwnh/s1600/1-cwithin234.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjn-zsixoYVHzwdVcX5Q_agqmGtOmj_tEq7rFlr1Q7sU1TZsUDSEB3Hsaj2piuKbkzlkSVbzWAvNEuXYpTOZjHCq1yNYq9Avu_QxPgoIrBGoyfES5K8r_Cl1wC8UtakqRZaya0DXtA6zwnh/s1600/1-cwithin234.jpg" /></a></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: auto; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 1; word-spacing: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">At The Stages we have a different philosophy for our life. We come to focus on the child within as a perfect, healthy, living entity.entity. Thats why we call it the CHILD WITHIN not inner child which is the parental false selfs method of acknowledgement. We, so-called adults are not truly adults at all, and we have to examine this fact we have become a weird self constructed mess. We all get older. Anyone, with a little luck, can do that. But, speaking from a recovery viewpoint, this is not adulthood. True adulthood hinges on acknowledging, accepting, and taking responsibility for loving and re-focusing on our own child within us. For most of us, this never happens because we have long forgotten the language of our childhood. Instead, our child within has been denied, neglected, disparaged, abandoned or rejected. We are told by society to "grow up," putting childish things aside. To become adults, we've been taught that our child within represents our child-like capacity for innocence, wonder, awe, joy, sensitivity and playfulness and this message must be stifled, quarantined or even killed. Our child within is angry, very very angry, Pissed off, venge-filled and often hurt, wounded cowering in the shadows locked in a basement. Our child within comprises and potentiates these qualities. <br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />We, our child within holds our accumulated childhood hurts, traumas, fears and angers. WE the "Grown-ups" are convinced we have successfully outgrown, jettisoned, and left this child within--and its emotional trauma--long behind. But this is far from our truth as we begin to find out as we work on The Ten Stages Course of Recovery and start to uncover our real truths in our recovery. Do not expect your child within to be thankful that you have unlocked its prison after a lifetime of ignorance and abuse. Its like a mistreated dog it bites and it bites hard. That is why we have a studied course, not a self help group of dissociated children we are not a feel good society.We have to deal with the reality of long term personal abuse, yes we have learned the language of an abusive parental society that rules by its jails and institutions of dysfunction and at the stages we must replace that language of mis-information and abuse to be able to finally enter into a discourse with the child within and re-connect with our freed personality. </span></div> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

We, so-called adults are not truly adults at all, and we have to examine this fact we have become a weird self constructed mess.

At The Stages we have a different philosophy for our life. We come to focus on the child within as a perfect, healthy, living entity....

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We, our child within holds our accumulated childhood hurts, traumas, fears and angers.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi2LRV1XT7PF5kyB6oRelvn_fNJN8BCkn8sAW46_sj81Tb6MXam-pj2FupBqhHTEAt0KoVf9UrocBNGBYh76JKgTAoFWi-5bD6dVNR9HOr1yvLtI6MagSqQ7bcKegzgTwJmI67-eXySCjfg/s1600/within+child.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi2LRV1XT7PF5kyB6oRelvn_fNJN8BCkn8sAW46_sj81Tb6MXam-pj2FupBqhHTEAt0KoVf9UrocBNGBYh76JKgTAoFWi-5bD6dVNR9HOr1yvLtI6MagSqQ7bcKegzgTwJmI67-eXySCjfg/s1600/within+child.jpeg" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;">At The Stages we have a different philosophy for our life. We come to focus on the child within as a living entity.That why we call it the CHILD WITHIN not inner child which is a parental false selfs method of acknowledgement. We, so-called adults are not truly adults at all, and we have to examine this fact we have become a weird self constructed mess. We all get older. Anyone, with a little luck, can do that. But, speaking from a recovery viewpoint, this is not adulthood. True adulthood hinges on acknowledging, accepting, and taking responsibility for loving and re-focusing on our own child within us. For most of us, this never happens because we have long forgotten the language of our childhood. Instead, our child within has been denied, neglected, disparaged, abandoned or rejected. We are told by society to "grow up," putting childish things aside. To become adults, we've been taught that our child within represents our child-like capacity for innocence, wonder, awe, joy, sensitivity and playfulness and this message must be stifled, quarantined or even killed. Our child within is angry, very very angry, pissed off, vengefilled and often hurt, wounded cowering in the shadows locked in a basement. Our child within comprises and potentiates these qualities. <br /><br />We, our child within holds our accumulated childhood hurts, traumas, fears and angers. WE the "Grown-ups" are convinced we have successfully outgrown, jettisoned, and left this child within--and its emotional trauma--long behind. But this is far from our truth as we begin to find out as we work on The Ten Stages and start to uncover our real truths in our recovery. Do not expect your child within to be thankful that you have unlocked its prison after a lifetime of ignorance and abuse. Its like a mistreated dog it bites and it bites hard. That is why we have a studied course, not a self help group of dissociated children we are not a feel good society.We have to deal with the reality of long term personal abuse, yes we have learned the language of an abusive parental society that rules by its jails and institutions of dysfunction and at the stages we must replace that language of mis-information and abuse to be able to finally enter into a discourse with the child within and re-connect with our freed personality.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

We, our child within holds our accumulated childhood hurts, traumas, fears and angers.

At The Stages we have a different philosophy for our life. We come to focus on the child within as a living entity.That why we call it the...

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We, so-called adults are not truly adults at all.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiWHimOGK4pUK5Iq6N0S_W_ditFLu_7daIh0h5PK0zLxm-OWGvGki-oaNH8Swn5zuqgfRpoTb0D8DudfK1UXpPImp1-xtI70HhJH9VBQhqHDBLWtASsHHItZbmLYMii1iSQtfFeeQnW7xhX/s1600/1-potty23.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiWHimOGK4pUK5Iq6N0S_W_ditFLu_7daIh0h5PK0zLxm-OWGvGki-oaNH8Swn5zuqgfRpoTb0D8DudfK1UXpPImp1-xtI70HhJH9VBQhqHDBLWtASsHHItZbmLYMii1iSQtfFeeQnW7xhX/s1600/1-potty23.jpg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We, so-called adults are not truly adults at all. We all get older. Anyone, with a little luck, can do that. But, speaking from a recovery viewpoint, this is not adulthood. True adulthood hinges on acknowledging, accepting, and taking responsibility for loving and re-parenting our own child within us. For most us, this never happens. Instead, our child within has been denied, neglected, disparaged, abandoned or rejected. We are told by society to "grow up," putting childish things aside. To become adults, we've been taught that our child within represents our child-like capacity for innocence, wonder, awe, joy, sensitivity and playfulness--must be stifled, quarantined or even killed. Our child within comprises and potentiates these positive qualities. But it also holds our accumulated childhood hurts, traumas, fears and angers. WE the "Grown-ups" are convinced we have successfully outgrown, jettisoned, and left this child within--and its emotional baggage--long behind. But this is far from our the truth as we begin to find out as we work on The Ten Stages and start to uncover our real truths in our recovery.</span>

We, so-called adults are not truly adults at all.

We, so-called adults are not truly adults at all. We all get older. Anyone, with a little luck, can do that. But, speaking from a recove...

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We, who have abandoned our child within, have a built in destructive system

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhpTQXvELBZTYzH-I_BS2aDu0JoSSANFoODAEg7KNDwrFKMwC83BXYVDXrZIInYWDjCg_BfDyfBvOo5hpJHNz9zc95VMN1A_uXPLRJRMSJzApmlqVQUt8b4YiwoVGW95i50ZIJAZ5v5wzI/s1600/1-hope.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhpTQXvELBZTYzH-I_BS2aDu0JoSSANFoODAEg7KNDwrFKMwC83BXYVDXrZIInYWDjCg_BfDyfBvOo5hpJHNz9zc95VMN1A_uXPLRJRMSJzApmlqVQUt8b4YiwoVGW95i50ZIJAZ5v5wzI/s200/1-hope.jpg" width="190" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We, who have abandoned our child within, have a built in destructive system which cause us to be attracted to, and attract to us, the people, who for us personally, are exactly the most untrustworthy (or unavailable or smothering or abusive or whatever we need to repeat our patterns) individuals - exactly the ones who will "push our buttons</span>

We, who have abandoned our child within, have a built in destructive system

We, who have abandoned our child within, have a built in destructive system which cause us to be attracted to, and attract to us, the peop...

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We, The passionately recovered do not forget. We remember. We keep alive our connections with our true selves, and we remember what lies buried within all of us.

<div dir="ltr" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj8P5KU_7b9H9fnU0-BY6eEL6Qq1LrkpEh6l0kPpGgnWUDRLJH-taMElsIeaULFwkDjUr4zoKd9nUYOLVv1Xd8oa5ncGwAqf2WIZKfqzAYY335KKgjibs-nLW_8K929hwH2IDyqt4Xy9DFW/s1600/dissociation+makes+you.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="679" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj8P5KU_7b9H9fnU0-BY6eEL6Qq1LrkpEh6l0kPpGgnWUDRLJH-taMElsIeaULFwkDjUr4zoKd9nUYOLVv1Xd8oa5ncGwAqf2WIZKfqzAYY335KKgjibs-nLW_8K929hwH2IDyqt4Xy9DFW/s200/dissociation+makes+you.jpg" width="141" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We, The passionately recovered do not forget. We remember. We keep alive our connections with our true selves, and we remember what lies buried within all of us. We are the well-diggers digging into the deep soil of our true recovery, and we have an uncanny intuitive ability to know where the pooled water hides. And the more we drink, the stronger we become. Our intuitive clear water melts the façade, and the façade is death and addiction.</span></div>

We, The passionately recovered do not forget. We remember. We keep alive our connections with our true selves, and we remember what lies buried within all of us.

We, The passionately recovered do not forget. We remember. We keep alive our connections with our true selves, and we remember what lie...

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We, the Dissociated flee intense emotions that spark the trigger of old traumatic wounds

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiPwMgAm53_R9d7mcnGu_ylEOP9-e1kBdwZKvl6jeEwjPJ2Jte8xb8aktbZcgr-97W4Ga2enAPmUoa5hKWoUI-xq5kNdwsEUuebePgdCwaxUrJUO5u3KU5zSr_cwDF0Jo06p030VbPbVloc/s1600/FotorTENSTAGESPROFILE.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiPwMgAm53_R9d7mcnGu_ylEOP9-e1kBdwZKvl6jeEwjPJ2Jte8xb8aktbZcgr-97W4Ga2enAPmUoa5hKWoUI-xq5kNdwsEUuebePgdCwaxUrJUO5u3KU5zSr_cwDF0Jo06p030VbPbVloc/s320/FotorTENSTAGESPROFILE.jpg" width="226" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We, the Dissociated flee intense emotions that spark the trigger of old traumatic wounds this involves long periods of dissociation in our lives. Many trauma sufferers emotionally “fly away” in their minds to escape the horror they are constantly re-experiencing. We remain connected with our parents. Our parents in childhood are our primary traumatisers, because when we were children they had more power over us than will anyone later in our life. It’s no surprise that parents, either overtly or covertly, symbolise so much in our subconscious, especially when our primary traumas start to bubble up.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br />Both are connected with paralysis of thought. Extreme traumatic experiences can cause psychosis. And the most traumatised people do relive their trauma while awake – by actively recreating the surroundings of their primary trauma and delusions of blame and rescue.Recreating primary abusers and traumatisers as friends constantly replaying the scenario within their own mind to gain a better outcome that never materialises.<br /><br /><br />Denial is involved to facilitate more abuse. Society denies all but the most intense traumas and minimises the rest; most people do the same with their recovery. In this vein, most people believe they had a happy, non-traumatic childhood and are having a wonderful recovery that is constantly reinforced by others behaviour.<br /><br /><br />We then always have to involve our primary repetition compulsion. We compulsively replicate our unresolved traumas in an attempt to heal them.<br /><br /><br />These further rupture the borders of our personality. Traumatic experiences force their way through the self like a nail through a board, whereas in meditation a breathing time of peace allows the selfs attempt to pull the nail out of the board or at least not further traumatise the wound.<br /><br /><br />As such, both involve the essence of our life’s process. Traumatic experiences destroy life; meditation opens the door for hope to reclaim them and the stages offers the tools to deal with them.<br /><br />The Selfs recovery is likened to the rescue of the Count of Monte Cristos reinstatement back into the world and takes time,patience,gentleness and understanding.</span></div>

We, the Dissociated flee intense emotions that spark the trigger of old traumatic wounds

We, the Dissociated flee intense emotions that spark the trigger of old traumatic wounds this involves long periods of dissociation in ...

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