Dissociation being split-off from our deepest truth mimics recovery – but it isn't recovery.

Dissociation being split-off from our deepest truth mimics recovery – but it isn't recovery. It is used as a smoke screen for false recovery. The recipients who are dissociated live in a form of peace.  This is only because they have managed to block their negative feelings. The truly recovered resolves their  negatives feelings, and thus this peace is not false.

The dissociated do not suffer. But this is only because they have abandoned their healing process and numbed their pain. Recovery grows from the fertilised soil of suffering.

The dissociated call themselves recovered. This is only because they have they have no conception of what recovery is. Recovery is the polar opposite of dissociation.

The dissociated are not easily emotionally ruffled. But this is only because there lies a thick wall buffering their hidden, vulnerable self from the sharp and often honest edges of the world. The recovered are much less protected, but have such a deep core of self-worth that they can defend themselves gently.

The dissociated feel they have mastered forgiveness.  This is only because they completely deny the harm done to them – and the damage remaining. The recovered forgive spontaneously and without effort because they have fully embraced their damaged child within and grieved every honest ounce of their misery.

The dissociated are extremely self-confident.  This is only because their self-deceptive armour is impenetrable to self-reflection. The self-confidence of true recovery is fed by the universal spring of life.

The dissociated gravitate naturally toward leadership roles. But this is only because they are experts at leading themselves away from their heart’s true course. The recovering lead right to the heart of the matter.

The dissociated have gone through hell to get to where they’re at. But they fail to realise that they’re still stuck right in hell. Recovery is the freedom of emotional integration.

The dissociated feel they have found their true self. But this is only because they equate their true self with no self at all – or at best a false self or ego based on a distorted sense of consciousness. Recovery is the true self linked with the conscious mind.

Ther dissociated consider themselves paragons of spirituality. But this is only because their spirits are so buried behind walls of denial that they have no conception of what spirit is. Recovery is the passionate spirit of the child held by the consciousness of the adult.

The dissociated are quite motivated, sophisticated, and convincing. But this is only because they perennially risk returning to suffering if they do not convince everyone of their lie. Recovery brings a motivation to spread the truth that is everyone’s birthright.

The dissociated act decisively. But this is only because they cannot see or question their unconscious motivation. True Recovery is also decisive, but only because he has no unconscious, because in his healing process it, like a now-useless appendage, it has dissolved.

Dissociation is contrary to recovery.

 Behind dissociation lies unresolved trauma, and only once trauma is resolved can the light of consciousness enter the core of our being.


The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.