In the ten stages its important to understand how are operating ,our functioning, the activity of our home grown constructed shadow self.

<br /> <div class="m_5013112949167026625field m_5013112949167026625field--name-field-quote-source m_5013112949167026625field--type-text-with-summary m_5013112949167026625field--label-hidden" style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: white; color: #606060; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: left; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> </div> <br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br /> </span><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjazHp_9DfV2IY_i_hcw6OPxzLj2uZMdQTuBTFq6Iv8xG-hhtC41V3TtktaH8R6tto1hbotHWwKjAmlaaAJ3lXbItDpqXAb7oREQscNTlvZY2oCQwx_pvxLu6QmYdSXuHPJTOR8ZbRUuVFc/s1600/ten+stages+dayhab.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjazHp_9DfV2IY_i_hcw6OPxzLj2uZMdQTuBTFq6Iv8xG-hhtC41V3TtktaH8R6tto1hbotHWwKjAmlaaAJ3lXbItDpqXAb7oREQscNTlvZY2oCQwx_pvxLu6QmYdSXuHPJTOR8ZbRUuVFc/s320/ten+stages+dayhab.jpg" width="320" /></a></span></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> In the ten stages its important to understand how we are operating ,our functioning, the activity of our home grown constructed shadow self. When our child within operates, our shadow self cannot possibly understand the child within. It is only when the shadow self, which is our conditioned self, our ancestral voice, which has been cultivated through centuries of time, which is everlastingly seeking its own security, its own comfort—it is only when that shadow self is quiet that we will see that there is a different kind of movement in our life, and it is this movement which is going to bring clarity. It is this movement which is clarity itself. </span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">To understand, we must fully understand the shadow self, be aware of it, know all its movements, its activities, its demands, its pursuits, and that is why meditation is very important. We do not mean the absurd, systematised cultivation of a certain habit of thought,  that’s all too immature and structured. By meditation we mean to understand the operations of shadow self, to watch it, to know how it reacts, what its responses are, its tendencies, its demands, its aggressive pursuits—to know the whole of that, the unconscious as well as the conscious part of it. When we know it, when there is an awareness of it, without controlling it, without directing it, without saying, “This is good; this is bad; we’ll keep this; we won’t keep that,”—when we see the total movement of our shadow self, when we see it totally, then it becomes quiet...then we learn to let go and finally gain our freedom.</span></div> <div> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

In the ten stages its important to understand how are operating ,our functioning, the activity of our home grown constructed shadow self.

  In the ten stages its important to understand how we are operating ,our functioning, the activity of our home grown constructed sh...

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Only our dulled, soporific minds creates and clings to addiction.

<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjazHp_9DfV2IY_i_hcw6OPxzLj2uZMdQTuBTFq6Iv8xG-hhtC41V3TtktaH8R6tto1hbotHWwKjAmlaaAJ3lXbItDpqXAb7oREQscNTlvZY2oCQwx_pvxLu6QmYdSXuHPJTOR8ZbRUuVFc/s1600/ten+stages+dayhab.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjazHp_9DfV2IY_i_hcw6OPxzLj2uZMdQTuBTFq6Iv8xG-hhtC41V3TtktaH8R6tto1hbotHWwKjAmlaaAJ3lXbItDpqXAb7oREQscNTlvZY2oCQwx_pvxLu6QmYdSXuHPJTOR8ZbRUuVFc/s320/ten+stages+dayhab.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> Only our dulled, soporific minds creates and clings to addiction. A mind that is attentive from moment to moment—attentive to what it is saying, attentive to the movement of its hands, of its thoughts, of its feelings—will discover that the formation of further addictions has come to an end. This is very important to understand, because as long as our mind is breaking down one addiction, in that very process its creating another, it can obviously never be free; and it is only the free mind that can perceive something beyond itself.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Only our dulled, soporific minds creates and clings to addiction.

  Only our dulled, soporific minds creates and clings to addiction. A mind that is attentive from moment to moment—attentive to what it is...

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We have to become observers at the ten stages in how dissociations are formed

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgpPNAotexFp-XjzEFgI4gvbMFi2Rz4oXIz-Wzh4JJo7F2DUcRemwqNmtvotgNyjDXYRYYyPa42cpSswc4B4SuRrKt_YkPL8hd0ehWeijuIM77kayXFDPUbEatAS6XorAQAmi_PReMiHfnQ/s1600/dissociation657seeds.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgpPNAotexFp-XjzEFgI4gvbMFi2Rz4oXIz-Wzh4JJo7F2DUcRemwqNmtvotgNyjDXYRYYyPa42cpSswc4B4SuRrKt_YkPL8hd0ehWeijuIM77kayXFDPUbEatAS6XorAQAmi_PReMiHfnQ/s320/dissociation657seeds.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We have to become observers at the ten stages in how dissociations are formed and how, by denying or resisting one dissociation, another is almost instantly created. What matters is to be totally conscious of our dissociations; for then, as we will see for ourselves there is no longer the formation of dissociation. To resist, to fight it, to deny it, only gives continuity to another form. When we fight a particular dissociation we give life to that form of addiction, and then the very fighting of it becomes a further addiction. But if we become simply aware of the whole structure of dissociations without resistance, then we will find there is freedom from our addictions, and in that freedom a new life takes place.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We have to become observers at the ten stages in how dissociations are formed

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Dissociation has nothing to do with age

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjL3fr4OCP_GG2lm674H4pYklgJ_Jb4JoBQVd8AYPOaDLYSl_3e42xsMi3l5Rdm5kvCedAeiii6WpOyRS2zYXdCvKxPEijjBGVaSBL4pqADdocY97i9_l8YdWP9pPIv0hTCSh2sCGbbvIop/s1600/FAV2469a73b5a355bd67cb0b6ffd71efc7e.ico.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="192" data-original-width="192" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjL3fr4OCP_GG2lm674H4pYklgJ_Jb4JoBQVd8AYPOaDLYSl_3e42xsMi3l5Rdm5kvCedAeiii6WpOyRS2zYXdCvKxPEijjBGVaSBL4pqADdocY97i9_l8YdWP9pPIv0hTCSh2sCGbbvIop/s1600/FAV2469a73b5a355bd67cb0b6ffd71efc7e.ico.png" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Dissociation has nothing to do with age or gender, it has nothing to do with experience; and it seems to me that the very essence of dissociation lies in understanding the whole mechanism of addiction, both conscious and unconscious. It is not a question of ending addiction, but of seeing totally the structure of dissociation.<br /></span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Dissociation has nothing to do with age

Dissociation has nothing to do with age or gender, it has nothing to do with experience; and it seems to me that the very essence of disso...

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Without freedom from our past

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEik6Uh-iiQlYtmDMFWN8GD3ahRA7J-i72jlXEyrb5iDNsCS_ZBgcftyGatLIDlLHq3kMZnC8kxmG9EV5m-RxDn9lWOhDuUQOLg4L6AcmQu9VoB15gcGpCtkyXajZtoPRUQR4pkC5GH9U62X/s1600/18057639_924286604379707_8866164788376405157_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="960" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEik6Uh-iiQlYtmDMFWN8GD3ahRA7J-i72jlXEyrb5iDNsCS_ZBgcftyGatLIDlLHq3kMZnC8kxmG9EV5m-RxDn9lWOhDuUQOLg4L6AcmQu9VoB15gcGpCtkyXajZtoPRUQR4pkC5GH9U62X/s320/18057639_924286604379707_8866164788376405157_n.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <div style="text-align: center;"> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Without freedom from our past there is no freedom for us at all</span></div> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Without freedom from our past

Without freedom from our past there is no freedom for us at all The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of recon...

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It is only mind freed from addiction in the ten stages

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhKD8WcG8f339PQMWrI9YjdvIXZD9-IWVhR-HcQtTW0wr2HmDntwGcVziqJBcVhgV5iwuOrHPFOU0Gm7AWEZgVUy1I3ualMPcPEi5Yvzdn1WuyOe7mLKDwvMzPLrtcEM4MQttExN9N5xVif/s1600/within+child.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="192" data-original-width="192" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhKD8WcG8f339PQMWrI9YjdvIXZD9-IWVhR-HcQtTW0wr2HmDntwGcVziqJBcVhgV5iwuOrHPFOU0Gm7AWEZgVUy1I3ualMPcPEi5Yvzdn1WuyOe7mLKDwvMzPLrtcEM4MQttExN9N5xVif/s1600/within+child.jpeg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br />It is only mind freed from all addictions in the ten stages that can perceive something beyond itself.</span>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

It is only mind freed from addiction in the ten stages

It is only mind freed from all addictions in the ten stages that can perceive something beyond itself. The Ten Stages is a studied recover...

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Ten Stages Peace & Meditation

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhbMjSrgw8g0i6gNCmrY63RABsSnUvTDbJ040fvehjFkwlJWaZAmp-6CCrfJYQSh2pL9_l0BxrltLqOSD2-s8J_J7Pg9hHkO51GXaXY9vvueFB9mj3tLsEySaTw2xrI4ZcFt9GDCHm37fg4/s1600/ten+stages+dayhab.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhbMjSrgw8g0i6gNCmrY63RABsSnUvTDbJ040fvehjFkwlJWaZAmp-6CCrfJYQSh2pL9_l0BxrltLqOSD2-s8J_J7Pg9hHkO51GXaXY9vvueFB9mj3tLsEySaTw2xrI4ZcFt9GDCHm37fg4/s320/ten+stages+dayhab.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">"Ten Stages Peace & Meditation": " Grant us access to our intuitive voice to accept all guidance revealed through our meditations on our child within us, the courage to let go of the things we are asked to, and the wisdom to interpret our intuition according to our child withins will for us"</span><br /> <br /> Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ten Stages Peace & Meditation

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Our abilities as ten stages recovery students and meditators gradually build on each other.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi5_rcp2RDV9GAFthQZ8Si7EjVo-evhUnp2ffGwsoc7o7_K8ruAR3cBz7kU104qe78as1c6JJJhvuCZILGtStqhlXCkq2E86iiwoye1UXTurCrVzUtmYRhs5ku06Iwqs2nHVYxIH6rrHgC8/s1600/ten+stage+recovery.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="700" data-original-width="1240" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi5_rcp2RDV9GAFthQZ8Si7EjVo-evhUnp2ffGwsoc7o7_K8ruAR3cBz7kU104qe78as1c6JJJhvuCZILGtStqhlXCkq2E86iiwoye1UXTurCrVzUtmYRhs5ku06Iwqs2nHVYxIH6rrHgC8/s320/ten+stage+recovery.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Our abilities as ten stages recovery students and meditators gradually build on each other. Just as we have to learn to walk before we can run in our recovery, we must move through the ten Stages in order.</span><br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our abilities as ten stages recovery students and meditators gradually build on each other.

Our abilities as ten stages recovery students and meditators gradually build on each other. Just as we have to learn to walk before we can...

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No pain is greater than that of the Child that is within us

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbF0ddGUmezU8av__NC3wUyluZzL35fF2tkuDPvOX43PJwHNcgglIg36_XFWt25eUZbwiFoi07rAZQbJ82fa1Y3viGvPQmRGsDaflVzzQ71ygjEaeLbx1Fhu9RVaauzPlHi6-vquek3TOy/s1600/braintime345.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbF0ddGUmezU8av__NC3wUyluZzL35fF2tkuDPvOX43PJwHNcgglIg36_XFWt25eUZbwiFoi07rAZQbJ82fa1Y3viGvPQmRGsDaflVzzQ71ygjEaeLbx1Fhu9RVaauzPlHi6-vquek3TOy/s320/braintime345.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace;">No pain is greater than that of the Child that is within us – and when we tap into our intuitive voice, we will forever be connected to those who mean the most to us, whether they are with us or not.</span></span><br /> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace;"><br /></span></span> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

No pain is greater than that of the Child that is within us

No pain is greater than that of the Child that is within us – and when we tap into our intuitive voice, we will forever be connected to th...

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Whilst The Ten Stages is new. The answer is timeless.To become recovered from addiction is to heal the ancient wounds that caused the despair in the first place.

<blockquote class="tr_bq"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The major reason that new discoveries in recovery take years to be accepted and why confused and irrational traditions are maintained for generations.<br /><br />In fact is that human evolution so far occurred without science, and so what you heard most often or what made the most sense to you was safest to accept as true.In the case of dissociation as a trap that looks like recovery, but is far worse, robbing us of our lives has become increasingly true. A group of people say they have found recovery together if questioned singularly they become less certain. some doubt it, but to be accepted within the tribe go along with it.</span></blockquote> <br /> <blockquote class="tr_bq"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjygz7UcLn7_WpKJ57Mcy7e-Sh9LP9m0v73AluNvDsGB-N09CU0K1be-4KWfJWnxfsr8Mt0SWqlRI4P-BKfwOW1LPzTpNDOnQd49EIRXIhPwcg7qnJjqqLeQnKW_kSBehTA85AoOkJQfPWV/s1600/stages+ten.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjygz7UcLn7_WpKJ57Mcy7e-Sh9LP9m0v73AluNvDsGB-N09CU0K1be-4KWfJWnxfsr8Mt0SWqlRI4P-BKfwOW1LPzTpNDOnQd49EIRXIhPwcg7qnJjqqLeQnKW_kSBehTA85AoOkJQfPWV/s320/stages+ten.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Whilst The Ten Stages is new. The answer is timeless.To become recovered from addiction is to heal the ancient wounds that caused the despair in the first place.</span></blockquote> <br /> <blockquote class="tr_bq"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">This will not be easy for us, because our parents crushed the searching side of us, and subtly threatened us with full rejection if we tried to reconstitute our healthy and seeking side. But healing is possible. We who suffer from addiction needs to find others who can hear us and believe us and trust us – trust every little bit of horror we have gone through and still holds inside our psyche like a poisonous abscess – until we can learn to do this for ourselves. We must begin our growth process in a more enlightened setting that does not crush us anew.</span></blockquote> <br /> <blockquote class="tr_bq"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We must find ways to look honestly at the history of our demise and feel all our grief, horror, and rage. We may lose our old numb shadow self in the process, but we will find our life. No one who finds the path to our legitimate anger and honest grief can ever stay in addiction for long.</span></blockquote> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Whilst The Ten Stages is new. The answer is timeless.To become recovered from addiction is to heal the ancient wounds that caused the despair in the first place.

The major reason that new discoveries in recovery take years to be accepted and why confused and irrational traditions are maintained for g...

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The Ten Stages advanced meditation process

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4DrauWd-wb7FsUYks11_l3Ew5seabnIGFh77KhNhsMALiacnbVo4wPAjIX_YUxM37BaOc-vbQNm2Gt7e7uUTuNvzexoDhfGwT78mHwM0rWa7za3z4nQSZTzJzc00-TT-DhUvKYnKaeCaT/s1600/Connected89.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="789" data-original-width="940" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4DrauWd-wb7FsUYks11_l3Ew5seabnIGFh77KhNhsMALiacnbVo4wPAjIX_YUxM37BaOc-vbQNm2Gt7e7uUTuNvzexoDhfGwT78mHwM0rWa7za3z4nQSZTzJzc00-TT-DhUvKYnKaeCaT/s320/Connected89.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">The Ten Stages advanced meditation process try for a short time of your own choosing possibly every two days in quiet seclusion explain to no one your process.<br /><br />Consciousness can flow into us, if there is the will and capacity to receive it, the ability to maintain it, and the understanding to nurture it. The idea is to find the child within, whether this be assisted by religious beliefs, mentors, guides, intuition, or by inner reflection. The aim is for us to become more loving, compassionate, tolerant, patient, forgiving, understanding and content, by following a new way of conscious thinking; the means by which one achieves this is not important.It is always a reverse journey a journey backwards towards our source.<br /><br />Child Within growth is obtained by aligning with our inner thoughts and feelings. One should set the intention to become aware, whilst understanding that we</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"> are a unique creation within the completeness of the whole.</span><br /> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.8px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.8px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">This is the first method we tried the child the dot and the mirror.</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /><br />Gazing into a mirror, what is it that you see? You see a reflection of the person others see when they look at you. If the mirror should shatter you would then see not just one, but many reflections of yourself in the fragments.<br /><br />This is the first method we tried</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"> the child the dot and the mirror.We need to go back before the knowledge of self to before the original building block before the dot.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />The child’s knowledge about the self continues to develop as the child grows. By age 2, the infant becomes aware of his or her gender as a boy or a girl. At age 4, self-descriptions are likely to be based on physical features, such as one’s hair colour, and by about age 6, the child is able to understand basic emotions and the concepts of traits, being able to make statements such as “I am a nice person” </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">So the original contemplation was to make the dot in the middle of the forehead disappear.So we return to a stage before consciousness. Before the main effects of the world before first contact do not worry we are not going to stay long its just a first point an alpha point.It has no secret meaning.We do this in our mind we accept the dot disappearing the release of our consciousness.We do not have to deal with first contact....we think as a newcomer.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">We become one with our Source the child within and one with all of our surroundings. This becomes our starting point for our meditations and contemplations we become our own ground zero.We have to relax into this idea play with it like a helium ballon let it bounce and move without effort. We</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"> are not our physical body, but rather the child hidden within. By denying the dot, you can access the real Child, the Child Consciousness. It is possible its about our relationships its our starting out point.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.8px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery process. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Ten Stages advanced meditation process

The Ten Stages advanced meditation process try for a short time of your own choosing possibly every two days in quiet seclusion explain to...

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If as a survivor of our own personal trauma we do not gain awareness and understanding of our traumatic issues

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkoU7KUwR9-Qcbwfx-9zqIqa4oV653dzOlBdCus1uSNuYx6D1pnNTCKoTA5fm8ATMfvGRvQoV3RtlP1pLjOEF0pfhUiRsZ2eKKnXfAaKvG1VK071vos4sMxFrD12rOjiZZrbRQXgKtNyi_/s1600/tenstageshealthy.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkoU7KUwR9-Qcbwfx-9zqIqa4oV653dzOlBdCus1uSNuYx6D1pnNTCKoTA5fm8ATMfvGRvQoV3RtlP1pLjOEF0pfhUiRsZ2eKKnXfAaKvG1VK071vos4sMxFrD12rOjiZZrbRQXgKtNyi_/s320/tenstageshealthy.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">If as a survivor of our own personal trauma we do not gain awareness and understanding of our traumatic issues after we get to taste sobriety, then we will forever remain in the grips of that deep trauma and its aftershocks. It is the unconscious factors of those repeating trauma triggers buried by dissociation by the child within operating in the background that leave us constantly at risk of relapse, until we gently tease apart our past history.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

If as a survivor of our own personal trauma we do not gain awareness and understanding of our traumatic issues

If as a survivor of our own personal trauma we do not gain awareness and understanding of our traumatic issues after we get to taste sobri...

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Now right now we gain the knowledge of our own personal experience as we make contact once more with our re-awakened child within

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgdkD0emzu9KJNiNp7bJTNnPX6exnZAWA2hpbCcGvjOfxf5Txrj-L2QQUcyqaIQ01h7dDFsan9c6aZ_nq7Br5MasZ8a9baqnNEAWgdI9-AkILSAwSTCBhg6r2gswftmvtPPWFaxRly_I3m_/s1600/ten+stages67.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="1280" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgdkD0emzu9KJNiNp7bJTNnPX6exnZAWA2hpbCcGvjOfxf5Txrj-L2QQUcyqaIQ01h7dDFsan9c6aZ_nq7Br5MasZ8a9baqnNEAWgdI9-AkILSAwSTCBhg6r2gswftmvtPPWFaxRly_I3m_/s320/ten+stages67.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Now right now we gain the knowledge of our own personal experience as we make contact once more with our re-awakened child within in the ten stages concerning the deep effects of our childhood trauma the knowledge is  mind-changing and powerful it feels that our brain cells and DNA are firing strongly once again within us and that it our minds are re -programming actually rearranging themselves. The information that is released is staggering and innovative to our old outworn perceptions because we had never heard it before and it has the power to change our lives completely.</span><br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Now right now we gain the knowledge of our own personal experience as we make contact once more with our re-awakened child within

Now right now we gain the knowledge of our own personal experience as we make contact once more with our re-awakened child within in the t...

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Power and Authority Meditation using positive phrases

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkoU7KUwR9-Qcbwfx-9zqIqa4oV653dzOlBdCus1uSNuYx6D1pnNTCKoTA5fm8ATMfvGRvQoV3RtlP1pLjOEF0pfhUiRsZ2eKKnXfAaKvG1VK071vos4sMxFrD12rOjiZZrbRQXgKtNyi_/s1600/tenstageshealthy.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkoU7KUwR9-Qcbwfx-9zqIqa4oV653dzOlBdCus1uSNuYx6D1pnNTCKoTA5fm8ATMfvGRvQoV3RtlP1pLjOEF0pfhUiRsZ2eKKnXfAaKvG1VK071vos4sMxFrD12rOjiZZrbRQXgKtNyi_/s320/tenstageshealthy.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">May our Child hidden Within find our freedom today...<br /><br />Freedom to recover who our child within wants us to be...<br /><br />Freedom to recover our child within just as our Child Within has gained...Freedom to pursue all of our Childs dreams and aspirations.<br /><br />Freedom to let go of any situations that may hold my child within back from stepping into my child withins Purpose.</span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />Let our mind rest in each of these phrases. You can be aware of the phrases either with the breath or just in themselves—the focus of the attention is the phrases. Let our minds rest within them. feelings will come and go.<br />May our child within build even more confidence in our child withins unique gifts (even if our child within isn't 100% sure what they are now)<br /><br />May my child within have the courage to trust the whispers of my childhood intuition and take the next step with Faith and Knowing that everything is working out for my child withins best interests...</span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />We send loving-kindfulness which does not mean that we approve or condone all actions, it means that we can see clearly actions that are incorrect or unskillful and still not lose our new connection.</span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />May my child within be reconciled to anyone who has hurt my child within in the past, because my child within has become awakened to its ancestral past, my child within is set free to create a bright, beautiful and wonderful future...<br /><br />May my child within speak up today and let my child withins needs be known...<br /><br />My child within has a strong and powerful voice, may my child within use it today in the service of recovery and all that my child holds dear.<br /><br />And finally, may my child within know that it is not selfish for my child to live my Childs daily recovery Purpose...<br /><br />And that as my child within lives my Childs recovery Purpose each and every day, my child within will be able to provide even more for me the child creates true abundance of a serene mind in all of my child withins affairs...<br /><br />May my child within follow through on all of my child withins highest intentions and make daily progress in pursuing my child meditational goals...<br /><br />For as my child within does, my child will be met with serenity and freedom in our most unexpected hours...We all have a child within hence the term for connection is our so that we can revel in our connections to our fellow children regardless of age, gender or ethnicity.<br /><br />The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</span></div>

Power and Authority Meditation using positive phrases

May our Child hidden Within find our freedom today... Freedom to recover who our child within wants us to be... Freedom to recover our chi...

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In the Ten Stages we are awakened to our nervous system which has been evolving for millions of years

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkoU7KUwR9-Qcbwfx-9zqIqa4oV653dzOlBdCus1uSNuYx6D1pnNTCKoTA5fm8ATMfvGRvQoV3RtlP1pLjOEF0pfhUiRsZ2eKKnXfAaKvG1VK071vos4sMxFrD12rOjiZZrbRQXgKtNyi_/s1600/tenstageshealthy.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkoU7KUwR9-Qcbwfx-9zqIqa4oV653dzOlBdCus1uSNuYx6D1pnNTCKoTA5fm8ATMfvGRvQoV3RtlP1pLjOEF0pfhUiRsZ2eKKnXfAaKvG1VK071vos4sMxFrD12rOjiZZrbRQXgKtNyi_/s320/tenstageshealthy.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">In the Ten Stages we are awakened to our nervous system which has been evolving for millions of years...so our nervous systems is a very powerful and intelligent system that is designed to keep us alive.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><i style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;">Which... is a good thing.</i><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The problem is... the nervous system tends to generalise and associate danger death and doom with anything that represents a threat.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">And... when we are trying to change or improve our recovery life... part of the deal is that we need to practice a recovery purpose.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Try new projects. Let go of old not functioning  relationships.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Speak up for what we really need. Set boundaries. Open our mind.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">All of these things are new... and they are uncertain.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">And... because they are uncertain... that means that our nervous system interprets anything that is uncertain or that could be a "risk" as the same thing as death.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">So... without conscious awareness... without our attention... without bringing in our child within relationship.... our scared and terrified nervous system can still run the show using blame and shame to stop our recovery in its tracks.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Without even consciously knowing it... our unrecovered nervous system can think that stopping an ingrained dissociation behaviour is just as dangerous as being cast out and banished from a tribe to live by and fend for ourself in the desert.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Or... the nervous system can think that recovery and starting the ten stages that will kill us...</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Or that losing our addiction and being "seen in recovery" is lethal...</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Or that opening our heart up and practicing loving-kindfulness will result in the same pain or worst from the past... and that we will die if we experience that kind of emotional pain again.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">It's not a bad thing that our old nervous system is trying to keep us safe.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The hard part is that while the nervous system thinks that anything that is uncertain or risky will lead to certain death and it will do anything it can to protect us...</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">This also means that any risk or uncertainty that is required to love, start recovery, build new healthy relationships, forgive someone or change our life is also seen as a threat by our ingrained nervous systems survival strategies.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">As a result... our nervous systems coping strategies doesn't want us taking any risks... risks that could hurt us again.... and risks that could help us change our life.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">So, the practice must be... to bring our conscious awareness to our life... and to work to send messages to our old nervous systems coping strategies that we are safe... and that it's okay for us to take risks that our heart... our child within.... and our recovery selves as nudging us to take.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Starting our ten stage program of healthy recovery won't kill us.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Opening our heart again to loving Kindness won't kill us.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Letting go of trying to control others won't kill us.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Living our Ten Stage Recovery won't kill us.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">But, when we deny the yearnings of our heart.... when we deny the yearnings of our child within... when we deny the calling of that greater destiny to our correct maturity that we know we are meant to live...</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We commit to a slow passive suicide of dissociation every day.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Because while our ancestors were focused on primarily just surviving.... we get the privilege to have our basic needs met and shift our focus to thriving... and living in our Recovery Purpose.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We need to dedicate our life to living our unique Recovery and make to decision regardless of the death threats to join recovery.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

In the Ten Stages we are awakened to our nervous system which has been evolving for millions of years

In the Ten Stages we are awakened to our nervous system which has been evolving for millions of years...so our nervous systems is a very p...

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We are wise. We already know. We have all the answers within us. Right... now.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNbgNTgOvvJyFI17v3CqG7rTGH8_cPwXSg5vYzzkwzfFR3AnFzfmK_jWeWkwJE5KQuefzrDjtLEQNmmZ6NHlxTHqecE0orMYXuHFdzCQuC11ZfRHUvhLAXh8Rt1lT_qnPK4hDqaZHzzx_t/s1600/tenstageshealthy.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="112" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNbgNTgOvvJyFI17v3CqG7rTGH8_cPwXSg5vYzzkwzfFR3AnFzfmK_jWeWkwJE5KQuefzrDjtLEQNmmZ6NHlxTHqecE0orMYXuHFdzCQuC11ZfRHUvhLAXh8Rt1lT_qnPK4hDqaZHzzx_t/s200/tenstageshealthy.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We are wise.<br /><br />We already know.<br /><br />We have all the answers within us.<br /><br />Right... now. <br /><br />Today, We want to re-iterate our passion for intuition and share with us how powerful the Ten Stages really are. <br /><br /> <br /> We have some words we want to share with you today about the power of our child within intuition.<br /><br /> <br /> We are born with child within wings, why prefer to crawl through life? NOW<br /><br /> <br /><br />The wings we are referring to is our intuition.<br /><br /> <br /><br />We have direct access to our child within  because it speaks to us through our intuition. <br /><br /> <br /><br />The voice of our intuition whisper and is not logical. It makes no sense. It will ask us to do things that are outside of our comfort zone, that go against the status quo and things that might freak out our family. <br /><br /> <br /><br />Our intuition will cause us to go against the grain. To feel left out and to go on an epic spiritual recovery quest to find our child withins purpose. <br /><br /> <br /><br />And when we arrive at the destiny of our recovery purpose. our intuition will get the credit for showing us the way, one foggy,  stage at a time. <br /><br /> <br /><br />You see, your intuition is literally the child within talking to you.<br /><br /> <br /><br />It's our own child within trying to get our attention, to guide us. <br /><br /> <br /><br />And, this perfect Child Within is wiser that we are and is connected to all time and space. It knows past, present and future. <br /><br /> <br /><br />So, when we are guided, we are being guided by a force that knows where we're headed. It can see 100 stages ahead. It sees how all the seeming "random" moments of our life are actually conspiring for our greatest good, even the moments where we feel like we're getting kicked in the teeth by life. <br /><br /> <br /><br />It's all a conspiracy for our benefit. <br /><br /> <br /><br />But, if you let irrational fear, which we call Survival Patterns, stop us from following our child within intuition - we get stuck, and our life shrivels up. <br /><br /> <br /><br />And then we get resigned that this is how it will always be. <br /><br /> <br /><br />But that intuitive voice never stops speaking. No amount of food, drugs or sex can numb it. <br /><br /> <br /><br />It remains, calling you into the foggy uncertainty of faith. <br /><br /> <br /><br />And the day will come where taking the leap out into the unknown will be our only next stage. <br /><br /> <br /><br />We do not need to be stubborn. We can relax and tap into our child within intuition. We can find it. We can follow it. </span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We are wise. We already know. We have all the answers within us. Right... now.

We are wise. We already know. We have all the answers within us. Right... now. Today, We want to re-iterate our passion for intuition and ...

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Who you spend time with is who you become.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhltQElMORvsEMCf4wYiYFmb_YYHrgb7JHHkDkIgZTaEjIz9SOmUaIeZf0cIE4Hv5fGtXULYERdI5cbxy8BobzisEBVQEI-yhHkIXEqouJg5AEQfZJUeuTW_OPJ2Z7-UPt4ZFzAV_UGx8ca/s1600/social+stage234.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhltQElMORvsEMCf4wYiYFmb_YYHrgb7JHHkDkIgZTaEjIz9SOmUaIeZf0cIE4Hv5fGtXULYERdI5cbxy8BobzisEBVQEI-yhHkIXEqouJg5AEQfZJUeuTW_OPJ2Z7-UPt4ZFzAV_UGx8ca/s320/social+stage234.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">"Who you spend time with is who you become."<br /><br />So, you want to be mindful of who you surround yourself with. Make sure you are around people who support your recovery growth, your purpose and who you're becoming.<br /><br /> <br /><br /><b><i>You don't want to attach to people who must remain attached to who you've been.</i></b><br /><br /> <br /><br />At this moment, you're a brand new person; it's time to surround yourself with people who see you as brand new.<br /><br /> <br /><br />Your Recovery is out there...<br /><br /> <br /><br />>Click here to learn how to find it!<a href="https://www.facebook.com/StagesSchool/">https://www.facebook.com/StagesSchool/</a><br /><br /> <br /><br />Our great wish is that you find your recovery group. <br /><br /> <br /><br />Where you fit in. <br /><br />Where you belong. <br /><br />Where you are seen. <br /><br />Loved and recognized. <br /><br /> <br /><br />You are worthy of these things. Know this, and welcome the Ten Stage Solution. <br /><br /> <br /><i>Remember to get out there, take action & make it real!</i></span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Who you spend time with is who you become.

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We should - be no longer at the whims of other peoples agendas

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhn5NOLooqyNRi7HGgu73e2vTvq66ItvAVQ_1Znc-S5pwX8eiiBUGEGjfR_LF6E7HmDIZVok8LfCRwlCrjHR8Kua41R6c6Ts71YNBI8IMtuerWYY7ZKAUrTh_k3XYVHwKT2jA3lwE4wmnfD/s1600/10stagesworkshops.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="112" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhn5NOLooqyNRi7HGgu73e2vTvq66ItvAVQ_1Znc-S5pwX8eiiBUGEGjfR_LF6E7HmDIZVok8LfCRwlCrjHR8Kua41R6c6Ts71YNBI8IMtuerWYY7ZKAUrTh_k3XYVHwKT2jA3lwE4wmnfD/s200/10stagesworkshops.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">When we connect with our recovery purpose - we find the recovery we were born to have. Our relationships improve, and we are surrounded by people who support this new direction in our life. We develop more energy in our body and instead of pushing snooze every morning we wake up with zest, excitement, and enthusiasm for the day. <br /><br />When we find our purpose, we wake up and create our day how we feel we should - be no longer at the whims of other peoples agendas. <br /><br />When we find our recovery purpose - we're free.</span><div style="background-color: white; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <br /></div> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We should - be no longer at the whims of other peoples agendas

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MBro DayHab:We ignore the doubts of others. (UPDATED)

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhvYYZditFD9H2GLavf5lyoQFWTU5CZyuOAn02oC_0R-pqq7t8ceRjMv0XvtgVS_6RRDmmT-yJisJDEbwQLE-TRkkHyas2wuxBBNiRmJvuZE4NazMwgob2igJXaLp8mhfA81q2gO_ffRaLw/s1600/10stagetrainers.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhvYYZditFD9H2GLavf5lyoQFWTU5CZyuOAn02oC_0R-pqq7t8ceRjMv0XvtgVS_6RRDmmT-yJisJDEbwQLE-TRkkHyas2wuxBBNiRmJvuZE4NazMwgob2igJXaLp8mhfA81q2gO_ffRaLw/s320/10stagetrainers.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />MBro DayHab:We ignore the doubts of others.<br /><br />And we constantly bounce back up. We are no longer victims but strong, powerful survivors.<br /><br />Remember to connect to our Child Within today in whatever way resonates with us, gaining our power and authority.<br /><br />Remember that we are supported by perfection, even now.<br /><br />Be aware of the problem, but be steadfast in participating in our solution.<br /><br />Focus on what we can control, make it bigger and bring it in close.<br /><br />Take what we can't control, make is small and push it far away.<br /><br />Dedicate our day to something bigger than our problem.<br /><br />Today, We commit to following through.<br /><br />Surround ourself with positive energy.<br /><br />Be a source of kindfulness for someone else.<br /><br />Loosen our grasp on all that we are trying to control.<br /><br />Leave room for our child within to function.<br /><br />Greet each person we meet today with  kindfulness and a smile, not because we're in a good mood (and if we are... thats awesome), but because it might just save their lives.<br /><br />We have no idea what others are going through today, so send the spirit of Kindfulness when we see something we would normally judge.<br /><br />Speak kindly to ourselves.<br /><br />Lighten the load and send loving-kindfulness to anyone who we are holding a grudge towards.<br /><br />Remember that life, our Recovery Purpose and this journey is a marathon, not a sprint.<br /><br />It's okay to slow down a little today.<br /><br />We find something in this very moment that we can be grateful for today.<br /><br />We have been given the gift of another day, use it wisely.<br /><br />We are being moulded by the presence of our child within into something marvellous, trust the process.<br /><br />Do not be discouraged. Tomorrow will take care of itself.<br /><br />Give your all to this day.<br /><br />Following your Child Within may seem foolish to others, but in the end, the only foolish thing is letting our fear and self-doubt win.<br /><br />So, today, in this moment, decide to make a Child Within out of ourselves and keep going.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

MBro DayHab:We ignore the doubts of others. (UPDATED)

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It’s no surprise we can fail to tune into our Child Within presence.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhy1Aq9t7Diq-OjxNEHli8rzWJtfCZqUQiopOOYwk8DkInbIlkym55PPmMOWzdlhXtmv9109rgrkMcBxo2gFO8YcaekhpKiF_CtKS_Gl7DjFE-6owTY916oQRiLVM5PkfhiRD8KJlS7rEo/s1600/child+within+abuse.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="678" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhy1Aq9t7Diq-OjxNEHli8rzWJtfCZqUQiopOOYwk8DkInbIlkym55PPmMOWzdlhXtmv9109rgrkMcBxo2gFO8YcaekhpKiF_CtKS_Gl7DjFE-6owTY916oQRiLVM5PkfhiRD8KJlS7rEo/s320/child+within+abuse.jpg" width="226" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">It’s no surprise we can fail to tune into our Child Within presence. How can we listen to the child within, when so many of us barely listen to ourselves? How can we feel their spirit and hear the beat of their heart if we can’t do this in our own life?<br /><br />When we meditate, it’s crucial we realise we aren’t raising a “mini me,” but a spirit of perfection throbbing with its own signature. For this reason, it’s important to separate who we are from who each of our child Within is. Child Within isn’t ours to possess or own in any way. When we know this in the depths of our being, we tailor our raising of them to their needs, rather than moulding them to fit our needs.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

It’s no surprise we can fail to tune into our Child Within presence.

It’s no surprise we can fail to tune into our Child Within presence. How can we listen to the child within, when so many of us barely li...

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Speaking up... speaking our truth with Trust and Consent. That's the name of the game.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjex2i4SdLZOFb2RUxgy_ESCX02v0T3xpETPTBKPODALaX6wLM5LS9Pr7J5sZCuYoSXMfBDaun2UFXf0MnnjQEXd7lslTinmSeEq55B3EeegEY2ANy0wIxP9etbaIZG9TpccMaOj4KPMpG7/s1600/Untitled+design+%25281%2529.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjex2i4SdLZOFb2RUxgy_ESCX02v0T3xpETPTBKPODALaX6wLM5LS9Pr7J5sZCuYoSXMfBDaun2UFXf0MnnjQEXd7lslTinmSeEq55B3EeegEY2ANy0wIxP9etbaIZG9TpccMaOj4KPMpG7/s320/Untitled+design+%25281%2529.png" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Speaking up... speaking our truth with Trust and Consent. That's the name of the game.<br /><br /><br />Here's the truth... not everyone will like it. Keep speaking from your heart. Keep speaking the truth with trust and consent. Keep our compassion and our empathy working under all circumstances.<br /><br /><br />Remember, this isn't a popularity contest. It's not about if someone "likes" or "follows" you. It's about us staying aligned with our Recovery Purpose... what we value most and who we really are, identifying with our child within.<br /><br /><br />This isn't about being liked by everyone... if we want to be liked by everyone we will never change our life or our recovery. When we can like ourself... rest easy with ourself... and when we serve others... that's what's most important.<br /><br /><br />Know this: when we trade the need to be liked by everyone for the need to speak our truth. our trust and our consent... we change our life and our own recovery. <br /><br /><br />Trade the need for approval from others to approving of ourself... and then let the chips fall where they may.<br /><br /><br />We'll rest easy... and remember... social media and ourselves has a delete button... use it. <br /><br /><br />And keep speaking up.<br /><br /><br />Remember to get out there, take action & make our Recovery Purpose real!</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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I have not had a bad childhood and I do not need to revisit my child within are The Ten Stages for me...

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiW3by3-Ma9BLvOom_abP8wa3IK1q7qxVqJFxyG_mivP3w95wfAW59SzvuPr4GVXwctuvUVi8NXCvaHEvXJokYt5a8GdtJ8qH7XkUx3GjoRHa6UHJQD6VYF1QJOttHvbQjR1CRsJUOj2o8Q/s1600/memories.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="172" data-original-width="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiW3by3-Ma9BLvOom_abP8wa3IK1q7qxVqJFxyG_mivP3w95wfAW59SzvuPr4GVXwctuvUVi8NXCvaHEvXJokYt5a8GdtJ8qH7XkUx3GjoRHa6UHJQD6VYF1QJOttHvbQjR1CRsJUOj2o8Q/s1600/memories.jpeg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">I have not had a bad childhood and I do not need to revisit my child within are The Ten Stages for me......<br /><br />There is one recovery habit we have that holds us back from living the life of recovery we want - and it's something that we all have in one form or another.<br /><br />What is this recovery blocking bad habit?<br /><br />It's the need to be right. Imagine how free our life would be if we didn't need to be right.<br /><br />What if we didn't need to be right in disagreements? What if we didn't need the last word? What if we didn't need to get other people on board with how we think things should be? What if we could give up the need to be right?<br /><br />So much time and precious energy is wasted on the need to be right in addiction recovery.<br /><br />We have developed a need addiction to being right.<br /><br />The question is, why?<br /><br />The survival programming in us believes that if we admit we are wrong, then we will die.<br /><br />It sounds insane when it's put that way, but it's true.<br /><br />Think about the last disagreement or argument we had... and be honest, did we need to be right?<br /><br />Did we need to have the last word? Did we really listen, or did we wait for our turn to speak and interject our opinion and manipulate the facts so that we were "right."<br /><br />Being right - when that need is there... and we are triggered... is never operating from a place of true power.<br /><br />The need to be right is the need of the limbic survival system.<br /><br />What if we didn't need to be "right" in the eyes of others?<br /><br />What if we could win an argument by allowing the other person to be "right"?<br /><br />What if we could simply listen to what others have to say and attempt to step into their experience and understand it, even if we don't agree with it?<br /><br />We can understand how and why someone feels the way they do without agreeing with them.<br /><br />And, a funny thing happens when we simply listen to someone and empathise with their experience (which is not the same thing as agreeing)...<br /><br />The fight tends to end.<br /><br />The disagreement tends to die down. The tension goes away.<br /><br />How can we do this?<br /><br />First, calm ourself down.<br /><br />Go for a walk.<br /><br />Meditate.<br /><br />Take a yoga class.<br /><br />Calm down our nervous system.<br /><br />Then, set our intention to simply listen to whomever we are in a disagreement with.<br /><br />Get curious about their experience without agreeing or trying to fix anything.<br /><br />Ask questions about why they feel this way and try to get to the underlying emotion.<br /><br />Then, repeat back what we heard them say... using their words and ask if we missed anything.<br /><br />They may clarify and share more... then reflect that back.<br /><br />This simple listening exercise... and surrendering the need to be right will create positive change in all our relationships.<br /><br />We don't need to fix or rescue them. We don't need to fix the problem. We don't need to be right.<br /><br />Just listen.<br /><br />Set our intention to understand. Get curious. Ask questions. Dive deeper. Reflect back what we heard.<br /><br />And - We can understand how someone is feeling.... without agreeing with them.<br /><br />And, We can agree they feel and believe what they do, without agreeing with the conclusions they've come to about why they feel that way.<br /><br />They are their own person.<br /><br />And so are we.<br /><br />Needing to be right is a strategy that will leave us isolated and alone... and without any meaningful relationships.<br /><br />Cultivating an ability to listen and empathise is a master skill when it comes to be successful in recovery and in life.<br /><br />Are we ready to give up the need to be right?<br /><br />What positive changes could happen if we did?<br /><br />Reply back and let us know.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

I have not had a bad childhood and I do not need to revisit my child within are The Ten Stages for me...

I have not had a bad childhood and I do not need to revisit my child within are The Ten Stages for me...... There is one recovery habit we...

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Our Ten Stage Recoveries are not shaped by our conditions

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjex2i4SdLZOFb2RUxgy_ESCX02v0T3xpETPTBKPODALaX6wLM5LS9Pr7J5sZCuYoSXMfBDaun2UFXf0MnnjQEXd7lslTinmSeEq55B3EeegEY2ANy0wIxP9etbaIZG9TpccMaOj4KPMpG7/s1600/Untitled+design+%25281%2529.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjex2i4SdLZOFb2RUxgy_ESCX02v0T3xpETPTBKPODALaX6wLM5LS9Pr7J5sZCuYoSXMfBDaun2UFXf0MnnjQEXd7lslTinmSeEq55B3EeegEY2ANy0wIxP9etbaIZG9TpccMaOj4KPMpG7/s320/Untitled+design+%25281%2529.png" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Our Ten Stage Recoveries are not shaped by our conditions, but by our decisions today.<br /></span>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our Ten Stage Recoveries are not shaped by our conditions

Our Ten Stage Recoveries are not shaped by our conditions, but by our decisions today. The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is ...

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We may not know it at this exact moment, but if we're procrastinating, getting easily distracted or trying to have a crystal clear picture of a recovery plan

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMZO01ccltQ5t0uo2ICfLgO8vDLEr8Z3cIaBQZBFMAGO23F7-1lpzI8HoKNsy8yoKt8NS_tSUc7ifCDsBhGMF2360AvDhA9neIqFWqFKq3m9Cq9qJfgzAu1ZzgPt5UfYndU_kyoq3-_KXD/s1600/dayhab+yellow.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMZO01ccltQ5t0uo2ICfLgO8vDLEr8Z3cIaBQZBFMAGO23F7-1lpzI8HoKNsy8yoKt8NS_tSUc7ifCDsBhGMF2360AvDhA9neIqFWqFKq3m9Cq9qJfgzAu1ZzgPt5UfYndU_kyoq3-_KXD/s320/dayhab+yellow.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We may not know it at this exact moment, but if we're procrastinating, getting easily distracted or trying to have a crystal clear picture of a recovery plan of how everything is going to work ahead of time, there's a lot more at stake then we realise.<br /><br />We cannot possibly know what tomorrow brings.<br /><br />We cannot possibly have a perfect recovery plan.<br /><br />We cannot possibly have clarity before we take action.<br /><br />None of this is possible upfront.<br /><br />That's why discovering our recovery, bringing it to life and thriving in our recovery is a daily adventure.<br /><br />It's a discovery process.<br /><br />Do we know what's blocking us from making recovery progress?<br /><br />The fact that we think we need a rock solid plan to bring our recovery purpose to life... that will ensure a specific solution on our life... that is what is stopping us from taking the first stage.<br /><br />It turns out that all the advice we were told as children was given to us under the assumption that all we are is a means to survive, to get by, to exist.<br /><br />Yes, survival is important. However, we are meant for more.<br /><br />We are meant for more.<br /><br />Which means, we've got to cultivate resilience and faith.<br /><br />Survival is not where we are meant to stop.<br /><br />Survival is a launch pad for our recovery.<br /><br />And, what's at stake is that if we do not get started now, then nothing short of our recovery purpose. why we were born is at risk.<br /><br />Do not look forward in fear, assuming the worst.<br /><br />Do not bring single focus to our demise.<br /><br />Do not assume the worst.<br /><br />Start to cultivate thoughts of recovery. Of faith. Of resilience and of action.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We may not know it at this exact moment, but if we're procrastinating, getting easily distracted or trying to have a crystal clear picture of a recovery plan

We may not know it at this exact moment, but if we're procrastinating, getting easily distracted or trying to have a crystal clear pic...

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It takes immense amounts of energy to hold down our feelings.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgpPNAotexFp-XjzEFgI4gvbMFi2Rz4oXIz-Wzh4JJo7F2DUcRemwqNmtvotgNyjDXYRYYyPa42cpSswc4B4SuRrKt_YkPL8hd0ehWeijuIM77kayXFDPUbEatAS6XorAQAmi_PReMiHfnQ/s1600/dissociation657seeds.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgpPNAotexFp-XjzEFgI4gvbMFi2Rz4oXIz-Wzh4JJo7F2DUcRemwqNmtvotgNyjDXYRYYyPa42cpSswc4B4SuRrKt_YkPL8hd0ehWeijuIM77kayXFDPUbEatAS6XorAQAmi_PReMiHfnQ/s320/dissociation657seeds.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Our Childhood repressed and suppressed feelings require counter-energy to keep them submerged. It takes immense amounts of energy to hold down our feelings. As these feelings are relinquished, the energy that had been holding down our negative charged dissociation is now freed for constructive uses.<br /><br />Handling an emotional crisis leads to greater wisdom and results in lifetime recovery benefits. Fear of life is really the fear of our emotions. It is not the facts that we fear but our feelings about them. Once we have mastery over our feelings, our fear of childhood diminishes.<br /></span>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

It takes immense amounts of energy to hold down our feelings.

Our Childhood repressed and suppressed feelings require counter-energy to keep them submerged. It takes immense amounts of energy to hold ...

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If we don’t design our own recovery, chances are we’ll fall into someone else’s plan.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiA9tcY1sCWSPYF2gjBePV1PuzI4Y9R-23MGs6L6jQ98SkrczI717HT0xxPK8WUjF6QCFDlaVjQeGdoUWf2vogGVxcLE_w7dhLV8BgadBqmoE1eWAj6M5YMmTt8tlECBNjHqkYoD1E_ku5-/s1600/%255BUNSET%255D" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="494" data-original-width="640" height="247" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiA9tcY1sCWSPYF2gjBePV1PuzI4Y9R-23MGs6L6jQ98SkrczI717HT0xxPK8WUjF6QCFDlaVjQeGdoUWf2vogGVxcLE_w7dhLV8BgadBqmoE1eWAj6M5YMmTt8tlECBNjHqkYoD1E_ku5-/s320/%255BUNSET%255D" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We cannot change our destination overnight, but we can change our recovery direction overnight.<br />If we don’t design our own recovery, chances are we’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for us? Not much.Ten Stages is the only healthy recovery believing strongly in self worth.<br /><br /><br />The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</span>

If we don’t design our own recovery, chances are we’ll fall into someone else’s plan.

We cannot change our destination overnight, but we can change our recovery direction overnight. If we don’t design our own recovery, chanc...

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In the Ten Stages we learn to release our child within and once released we have an incredibly rich inner life.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgi2DhNyyDSMSkm0pLMlDS-FFCThkL3kIc_pmjbaahNSCDcpshCT92kB9hrxkQh2kxFxvw708Gx359JtvbhF22vaopRDy_S5omvYIVqTjV9IxNx0huA2zWmaa9_u7GaVX5V_9mcMuPaoT_f/s1600/synchro45.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgi2DhNyyDSMSkm0pLMlDS-FFCThkL3kIc_pmjbaahNSCDcpshCT92kB9hrxkQh2kxFxvw708Gx359JtvbhF22vaopRDy_S5omvYIVqTjV9IxNx0huA2zWmaa9_u7GaVX5V_9mcMuPaoT_f/s320/synchro45.png" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">In the Ten Stages we learn to release our child within and once released we have an incredibly rich inner life. We become extremely perceptive, attuned more to how we act than what we say. For us, recognition, understanding, and security are our recovery oxygen.<br /><br />Our child within has their own peculiar way of organising and expressing things, too, which can be confusing for us at first.<br /><br />In our ongoing play recovery, patterns emerge that indicate how our child within is starting to re-connect managing his or her feelings. Our expertise consists in identifying and tracking these ways of coping, attempting to give voice to them in a way that speaks directly to our child within, and finally helping our child to recreate new ways of experiencing our world. In this way, we can become more open and free to explore our child's full range of emotional tools that will benefit him or her over our enhanced lifespan.</span><br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0px; overflow: hidden; padding: 0px;"> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: none; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0px; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"></li> </ul> </div> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

In the Ten Stages we learn to release our child within and once released we have an incredibly rich inner life.

In the Ten Stages we learn to release our child within and once released we have an incredibly rich inner life. We become extremely percep...

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We are wired to survive; which means we seek to avoid pain instead of choosing to feel good.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjex2i4SdLZOFb2RUxgy_ESCX02v0T3xpETPTBKPODALaX6wLM5LS9Pr7J5sZCuYoSXMfBDaun2UFXf0MnnjQEXd7lslTinmSeEq55B3EeegEY2ANy0wIxP9etbaIZG9TpccMaOj4KPMpG7/s1600/Untitled+design+%25281%2529.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjex2i4SdLZOFb2RUxgy_ESCX02v0T3xpETPTBKPODALaX6wLM5LS9Pr7J5sZCuYoSXMfBDaun2UFXf0MnnjQEXd7lslTinmSeEq55B3EeegEY2ANy0wIxP9etbaIZG9TpccMaOj4KPMpG7/s320/Untitled+design+%25281%2529.png" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We are wired to survive; which means we seek to avoid pain instead of choosing to feel good. It's this hard wiring that keeps us alive but it also holds us back from living our Recovery.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We are wired to survive; which means we seek to avoid pain instead of choosing to feel good.

We are wired to survive; which means we seek to avoid pain instead of choosing to feel good. It's this hard wiring that keeps us alive...

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We've spent so much time trying to fit in, bending ourself out of shape in order to belong

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjS_e9Ykxuy8ouybEK0bBJHNIy0It0nesdA5cTYjJMWz7JgYJizW-SfLVMX3wcllqf_H9Qv_LqyCHKS93NH7Rskc3bBQCHa9umH6kCDv50lbatuinJIP-H6M0k_2V9JjAbRnVe7CaAp_RUw/s1600/mbrodayhab.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="576" data-original-width="408" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjS_e9Ykxuy8ouybEK0bBJHNIy0It0nesdA5cTYjJMWz7JgYJizW-SfLVMX3wcllqf_H9Qv_LqyCHKS93NH7Rskc3bBQCHa9umH6kCDv50lbatuinJIP-H6M0k_2V9JjAbRnVe7CaAp_RUw/s320/mbrodayhab.jpg" width="226" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We've spent so much time trying to fit in, bending ourself out of shape in order to belong.... We've been like a chameleon for such a long time, changing to suit our environment....Now We are not sure who we are!.... Somewhere in all the pretending, role-playing and adjusting of our behaviour in order to be liked.. We've lost ourself.... When we sit quietly and peer into our inner world We don't always like what we see.... We have become something, someone else.... We've traded away our heart and our mind in the mistaken belief we would be accepted, loved and included.... </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">In truth We've lost who we are.... What the world now sees is a mirage.... we have lost our clarity, our original innocence, virtue and even our purpose.... We have attached ourself to the lives of others, believing our own life not to be worthy....  for the first time, we can see that this is not true... we are indeed whole.... It's time to stop changing and adapting in order to fit in.... As we look more closely we can see the child that we once were... still resides deep in our constructed self, occupying a unique place in our mind.... It's the part of us that knows real strength lives in kindness and compassion.... It's the part of us that doesn't need to pretend.... The child we once were is untainted.... It's the part of us that isn't corruptible, that isn't afraid to be itself.... Why should we hide the kind, perfect nature of our child?.... Why should we hide that beautiful innocence, that wide-eyed wonder that the child within us brings into our life?.... </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We are tired of believing that being an adult means denying our nature and spirit and becoming something else the world finds more acceptable.... We now allow our lightheartedness, humour and the eternal curiosity of our mind not afraid to grow to come to the fore.... We step willingly into the mental pose of our child hidden within.... From this vantage point we see ourself and the world differently.... This is a kinder, softer place.... we can feel more patience and compassion when we connect with this part of us.... We enjoy the gentle strength of our intuitive voice.... It brings with it more reason and compassion.... We meditate to spend more time in this place.... Our child Within has so much to teach us and we have so much to learn.... We are ready and willing to grow....And we do.... Connecting with our child within enables us to become more balanced, recovered and whole.... Going forward we walk hand-in-hand with our child within ....We will no longer neglect our child within for we have learned to come home to ourselves....</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We've spent so much time trying to fit in, bending ourself out of shape in order to belong

We've spent so much time trying to fit in, bending ourself out of shape in order to belong.... We've been like a chameleon for suc...

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DAYHAB We use social media the way an alcoholic uses drink.

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text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> </div> <br /> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br />When we finally reach and make the decision to studying our problems,<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhjUwNJf5uvXQ781B_V2e30Hhlvl7TpY3Yg4AGUzPScQVV9G3NS5S3ZulQO3bFdU5YTUhNSNcQt_fyWMQ0ZdkFc5zX-XERqAaY81hO3SL-TVJyAC0WGebmHqbLRrprMuqNISdF-k83ec4in/s1600/mbrodayhab.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="576" data-original-width="408" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhjUwNJf5uvXQ781B_V2e30Hhlvl7TpY3Yg4AGUzPScQVV9G3NS5S3ZulQO3bFdU5YTUhNSNcQt_fyWMQ0ZdkFc5zX-XERqAaY81hO3SL-TVJyAC0WGebmHqbLRrprMuqNISdF-k83ec4in/s320/mbrodayhab.jpg" width="226" /></a></div> with the ten stages we have become very proficient at dissociating. </span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">One of our favourite paraphernalia for our fix are Social Media,Google computers-games, films and books.<br /><br /> We use social media the way an alcoholic uses drink. <br /><br />We do not question WHY we would need this addiction. It is just accepted as a matter of fact that we have become slightly flawed and weak and would attempt to escape living life whenever possible. We are seen as different ‘defective’.</span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br />Social Media are still a favourite way of feeding our dissociation addiction. As an alcoholic has bottles hidden all over the house, We have Facebook,twitter, Instagram etc. What will happen if there is an empty moment, and we did not have a phone or tablet to whisk our mind away from actually living in the present moment? What would happen if we actually had to ‘be’ instead of constantly dissociating???<br /><br />The only way we have learned to deal with our difficulties is to dissociate. The idea of their being any other option is foreign to us. We even trained our children to deal with their difficult emotions by dissociating. When our children are very young and having trouble managing their emotions, We would tell them, “Go into the next room and do not come out until you have changed.” We have learned to become very obedient; we leave the room in a tantrum state, but soon will emerge, smiling, pleasant, and happy. Any vestige of a problem is gone without a trace.<br /><br />Having dissociative parents, you learn dissociation from them – both by being taught it directly, and by example. Parents who dissociate are unable to help a child go through their emotions. They are to help the child learn that an emotion is nothing to fear, but something that is very valuable and precious, helpful in living life. We sincerely believe that switching off an emotion is the best way to deal with it. <br />We had never heard of the concept of self-soothing, it was pleasant to do some so-called ‘self-soothing ‘ activities, and I felt mildly better when I did them. But the concepts of staying with an emotion, sitting with it until it changes, and using a self soothing technique instead of switching, are all foreign to us. </span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We are too terrified of emotions to ever do this. We are afraid of fear itself, and will go to immense means not to experience the emotion of fear, or any other emotion, without ever realising that we are doing this. We have control of ourself. We feel we can handle anything.</span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /> We become careful with organised groups of people, and with individuals who might not be safe. We learn what to look for, how to tell whether or not something was safe, how to tell whether or not we are accessed. Eventually, we realise we are safe, our children are safe and well on their way to healing, we all have our safeguards in place.We have no reason not to live in the present, We are relatively free from harm from external sources, so there was no longer a need to dissociate, so we are DONE with dissociation, right? we lived happily ever after, end of story?<br /><br />Obviously WRONG!<br /><br />Long ago, decades ago, We have made the decision that life was not worth living – it was something to ‘get through’ as smoothly and mindlessly as possible until we could die. The rule had been to imperceptibly stay as non-present as possible, while going about the business of doing what we had to do to ‘survive’, to pass as human. That was a rule we learned deep, deep down.<br />Einstein said: “I must be willing to give up what I am in order to become what I will be.” That can be exceedingly difficult. When we embark on this journey of recovery we have not realised that healing required CHANGE on our part. We wanted the constant pain and anguish to stop, but we didn’t want my actual self to be different. We did not want to have to uproot the very foundations of our beliefs and actions and metaphorically relearn how to walk again. We wanted to be free of the continual anguish we experienced, the continual need to cover up our lapses due to dissociation; the continual sporadic loss of time, the hopscotching nature of our abilities – sometimes being able to do certain things; other times have no concept of, or even any desire to have certain abilities.We wanted relief of all my symptoms, but I did not really want to “heal”.<br /> When a person is finally ready to start dealing with their addiction, they gradually realise that they then have to deal with what caused their addiction in the first place; what they had been unwilling/unable to face originally, what drove them to drink. Only now their problems were compounded by all the problems that alcoholism brings. “The worst would pass in a few days. I’d feel good and I’d think, “I’ve got it down pat.” But then I’d look at my life and feel bad. That’s the real pain when you’re an addict. USING HURTS, BUT REALITY HURTS WORSE.”</span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br />when we are not dissociating, we look at our life and realise this is so very different than what we have envisioned. We do not have a birth family, We do not have in-laws, We do not have blood relatives, We do not have a life partner. We give up an immense amount of ourself to insure that we would have all these things, and when we stopped dissociating, We realise that not only did we have none of those people in our life, We are also missing major portions of ourself. It has taken us along time to realise two things:</span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /> 1. How can you lose what you never had? I never did have those things, only a pretence.And 2. We now have things that are far more important and valuable than those ever were in reality.But. We are still addicted. We know we would not have survived if we had not had the skill of dissociation. It served us quite well. It saved our lives. Now we don’t want to rely on it; we don’t want to do it automatically we have identified three types of dissociation we struggle with:1. The first way is the simple practice of spacing out or shutting off. we use this for two different purposes:1. Avoidance when we are unwilling or unable to face things2. A learned way to be able to switch. There are many times when we cannot access the parts that have the information and skills we need in a situation. Throughout the decades we have learned that a way to handle this was just to shut off completely inside, and sooner or later the information we needed would gradually seep to the surface or some other place in my mind where it would become accessible to me.2. A second way we dissociate is to switch to other parts inside.It has taken us time to be able to tell when we am not ourself. we blend through most alter personalities, and it used to be easy to believe we are just being ‘us’. We’ve learned to be alert to various factors. One is what age we feel. Other ways we have found to know when I am not Child Within present are to feel what size the body seems, relative to other people or objects; Sometimes we look at a dog, and it feels as if the dog is shoulder height to me. Ooops.</span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"> No Child within present! Other ways are to recognise what the emotional tone is and what the values are, what sort of things are important to us. How do I want to spend my time? A numbing activity such as computer games? Oops. That is not a Child within choice for us. So who is out and why?<br /><br />3. The third way we dissociate is one that may be difficult to grasp if we don’t use it. If we do, We will definitely know what we are talking about. We will tell us that some people whom we have discussed this with have found this concept highly triggering. We found ourself talking to our guides about a ‘construct’. They asked us what we mean by that term; at the time we had not a clue.We have since learned that we create a construct when we are functioning through something that is not an alter. We are always looking for a perfect ‘formula’ that we could leave in place, and personally go away. Life was something to be endured, and gotten through as gracefully and safely as possible, while the real ‘us’ was tucked away somewhere inaccessible. When we are preparing to be in a situation which we may perceive as threatening, we automatically figure out what qualities would be appropriate and useful for that event; find parts inside that have those qualities; put them together and create an ‘artificial’ persona to deal with the situation.<br /><br />We do want to say that we do not believe all dissociation is from addiction. If a person is still around perpetrators, dissociation may still be necessary. But once dissociation is learned as the major means to handle difficult emotions, a person will continue to use it automatically from then on, and it greatly lessens the quality of our life.<br />Having decided we wanted to do away with this addiction and the pain it causes us, We find specific strategies helpful, when we are not dissociating our decision to stop dissociating: We would like to share these with you.We would like to start with a quote we found: “No one healing intervention will enable a person to manifest the full scope of his or her wholeness. To maximally heal it is important not to limit ourselves to a single modality but to incorporate several healing practices that encompass body, mind, and spirit.”<br />We at the Stages strongly believe it takes more than talk therapy to break through when there is severe trauma in the background. It takes physical actions, whatever form they may take. When we are faced with severe trauma, the fight or flight response gets activated. This shuts down the cortex; the part of our brain that can reason, plan and make sense of things. Pieces of the event, snapshot pictures, get recorded, but the meaning does not. They are memories that do not make sense. After the trauma, these unresolved emotions are frozen in the body. Think of what the physiological responses are to any emotion and what it means for these responses to be stopped before completion and remain in the body. There is an ‘act hunger’ remaining – the body wants to move through and resolve these physiological processes. The body remembers even when the mind forgets. <br />The body acts as our unconscious mind. At the ten Stages we have found a need to implement a full range of both play and safe drama therapies, to release our trapped body memories that are frozen into our child within.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</span></div>

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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6uRBqOIbO-CUs62dczWlyUjFPdpCk3exLupta1n_Veo3vcWLIUyXgIY5kqMgBd1h3_mi3499m-_kukGBdqOTHnoCPpXEkStKgSaedckmBG7BkTFFImhIFg-JZCXTMHuTX6uSi9KOQSgYr/s1600/synchro45.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6uRBqOIbO-CUs62dczWlyUjFPdpCk3exLupta1n_Veo3vcWLIUyXgIY5kqMgBd1h3_mi3499m-_kukGBdqOTHnoCPpXEkStKgSaedckmBG7BkTFFImhIFg-JZCXTMHuTX6uSi9KOQSgYr/s320/synchro45.png" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We need to know we can do anything we desire. When our child within is released to play by using its imagination, it’s not just imagination. When we stop them by saying they can’t do this or that, it stops them making it a reality in life.<br />What they are imagining can be a reality. What at this time we call imagination can be reality. We say it’s not possible, but everything is possible. We need to believe it, then we will have this capacity. When we rediscover what we can do, we can achieve our full potential as our released child within.<br /><br /><br />The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</span>

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