At the Stages we recognise that dissociative learned behaviour is a result of long-term abuse.

At the Stages we recognise that dissociative learned behaviour is a result of long-term abuse. As children, we witnessed and experienced dysfunctions in the family. We typically describe repeated consuming abuse by multiple perpetrators, and then were otherwise emotionally neglected, starving for comfort, consolation, or attention. 

We were left alone, even while very young, to process and contain our pain by ourselves. For us, the splitting process became our way of coping with emotional intensity, conflicts, distress, and intense pain that were otherwise far too difficult to manage on our own. 

We blocked off our pain, locked it away from ourselves, and left it there. Sitting, waiting, piling up for years. When we understand how much pain and abuse has occurred in order to create the dissociative splits in the first place. All areas of dissociative survivors’ lives are touched and profoundly changed or affected by the abuse.



The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.