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Writing about and attempting to define what life as a member of Ten Stages feels like is tough.  
We around the world are sharing what dissociation feels like in an effort to spread awareness and promote understanding of The Ten Stage Solution. 
 
 I asked a group of people with dissociative addiction disorder (DAD) to describe, in their own words, what having DAD feels like. The answers were varied, with both positives and negatives. To one person, living with DAD feels like, “having a war inside my head,” yet to another, DAD “feels like a gift.” The answers show just how diverse DAD really is. 
Life with Dissociative Addiction Disorder Feels at first Like Being Lost and Disconnected Depersonalisation and derealisation are symptoms that are experienced by many with DAD and other dissociative disorders. One person described DAD as, “being disconnected to my body and the surroundings.” Several people described having DAD as feeling lost in time, never really being sure of what day it is. Sometimes, you lose hours; other times, you lose weeks of your life. These feelings lead to confusion; it becomes difficult to know what happened and what didn’t happen. “Is it real or is this just in my head?” Life with Dissociative Addiction Disorder Feels Like Living in Constant Fear and Pain To some, life with DAD feels like living in constant fear. Fear of the outside world, fear of oneself, fear of one’s emotions, fear of the past, present, and future. For those that also experience post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), flashbacks can intensify the fear and lead to increased physical and emotional pain. Headaches and migraines can overtake you at any time. Physical pain manifests itself in different parts of the body, as different parts hold pain in different places. Sometimes, there is no medical reason for the pain, but you or your parts feel the pain regardless, and it’s real pain. Dissociative Addiction Disorder Questioning Your Memories:One of the major symptoms of DAD is memory loss, and, aside from alters, memory experiences have the greatest impact on those affected by DAD. One person referred to memories as, “currency traded among friends.” This is because different memories are held by different children within, and are shared (or not shared) with other parts of our system.  
 
Some of us with DAD cannot remember where they are, even when they are in a place they have been before, or they cannot remember a person’s name who they have seen before. This is because those places and people were experienced by a different part, the child within, a part that holds different memories.  
 
People with DAD are not always sure what they will remember, and there is sometimes an underlying worry that one will forget who their family members are or forget how to do one’s job. It’s upsetting when you can’t remember things that you know happened. Sometimes, DAD means having to ask for validation, because you are constantly trying to figure out if the memories are real. 
 Life with a Dissociative Addiction Disorder Can Feel Normal; It’s Not Always Bad Considering the struggles that people with DAD experience on a regular basis, DAD does not always feel so negative; there is good along with the bad. A common theme is that DAD feels like never being alone. Even when there is no one else in the room, it feels like you have a child there with you: your child within. You learn to adapt to the world with them. As one member put it, “being multiple is as normal to me as being a singleton is to a singleton.” 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Writing about and attempting to define what life as a member of Ten Stages feels like is tough.

Writing about and attempting to define what life as a member of Ten Stages feels like is tough. We around the world are sharing what d...

We at The Ten Stages refer to the Stages often as The Child Within. Why is this?

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We at The Ten Stages refer to the Stages often as The Child Within. Why is this? We like to point out the obvious close relationship to ourselves in these simple words. . Together, in all our own unique ways, we are all participating in One Song. We believe that underlying and orchestrating this One Song is a creative and benevolent Presence that has our best interest in mind. We use the word Child Within to highlight our similarities and as an attempt to reference this Presence without any dogma, stigma or other associations. 
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 We wish to point out what we lovely and amazing human beings have in common, rather than highlight any differences. We feel that the word Child Within is our little part to help create a new vocabulary that unites instead of divides our many diverse cultures, traditions and faiths. 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

We at The Ten Stages refer to the Stages often as The Child Within. Why is this?

We at The Ten Stages refer to the Stages often as The Child Within. Why is this? We like to point out the obvious close relationship to o...

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 The most important part of life, and the only part of life that we can truly control, is our perception. We may have influence over other parts of our life, but the only thing we have 100% control over is how we CHOOSE to perceive the events of our lives. One of the basic messages of DA is that you are not a victim, but a co-creator of your life with The Child Within which frees you from the adult child syndrome of self hatred. It’s easy to play the victim, and a lot of people out there will try to convince you that it’s easier to blame other people for the circumstances of your life. One of the reasons it’s easy to be a victim is because you give away the response-ability of the outcome and circumstances of your life to some other person or entity. As a victim, we tell ourselves that it’s not our fault; it’s the government’s fault, or our significant other's fault, or our friend’s fault or our parents’ fault. If you really get creative you can imagine a whole range of people to blame for your life. But the truth is that you are the one making the choices in your life. YOU have the free will and ability to CHOOSE to connect to your child within, or not. If you’re like us, you’ve probably made a mistake or two in your life . For a long time it was easy to blame people for the outcome. When things didn’t go the way We WANTED them to We would just make it someone else’s fault. But, We started to learn differently.  We began to learn how to take our power and authority back. We began to see that the way we thrive is by making our WORLD WITHIN stronger than the outer world.  The story you tell yourself about your life will dictate the outcome of it. CHOICE is the most important power in your WORLD WITHIN.  it is the power of your INTENTION that forms the outcome of your life. life is hard and that when you realise and accept that, life is no longer hard.  Put loving KINDFULNESS first and to keep your recovery visions grounded and in real time. Learn to love ourselves big time and to keep our thoughts in alignment with what we want, rather than what we don’t want.  Unconditional Loving-KINDFULNESS  we can experience this Love when we have right thought, take right action and keep our focus off of ourselves and keep it instead on our pure intuitive voice. How could we possibly let ourselves be a victim knowing all these things?</div>
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Characteristics of Dissociated Adult Children

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Most successful recoveries for us who suffers from dissociations attached to an addiction cycle exhibit some of the following components:

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Acknowledging the Problem of Dissociation - As with many things in life, acknowledging that there is a problem is often the first stage in our recovery - and sometimes the most difficult.</div>
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Longevity of the behaviour - Because of the rapid, mood swings that we sometimes experience, it can be difficult to tell whether a change in our behaviour is evidence of a substantial improvement or just part of the normal up and down of our feelings.</div>
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Working with The Child Within - The second necessary ingredient of real recovery in dissociation is self-work studying our realised truth, mapping our behaviour.</div>
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Yielding Control of Dissociation - One of the necessary ingredients for recovery perhaps one of the most difficult, is to relinquish control of the dissociated self-relationship and to gain back control over our own lives.</div>
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Most successful recoveries for us who suffers from dissociations attached to an addiction cycle exhibit some of the following components:

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TEN STAGES The most important part of life, and the only part of life that we can truly control, is our perception.

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TEN STAGES Thought for 2018 First Meeting 
 
The most important part of life, and the only part of life that we can truly control, is our perception. We may have influence over other parts of our life, but the only thing we have 100% control over is how we CHOOSE to perceive the events of our lives. 
 
One of the basic messages of THE TEN STAGES is that you are not a victim, but a co-creator of your life with The Child Within. 
 
It’s easy to play the victim, and a lot of people out there will try to convince you that it’s easier to blame other people for the circumstances of your life. One of the reasons it’s easy to be a victim is because you give away the response-ability of the outcome and circumstances of your life to some other person or entity. 
 
As a victim, we tell ourselves that it’s not our fault; it’s the government’s fault, or our significant other's fault, or our friend’s fault or our parents’ fault. If you really get creative you can imagine a whole range of people to blame for your life. 
 
 
But the truth is that you are the one making the choices in your life. YOU have the free will and ability to CHOOSE to connect to your child within, or not. 
 
 
If you’re like us, you’ve probably made a mistake or two in your life . For a long time it was easy to blame people for the outcome. When things didn’t go the way We WANTED them to We would just make it someone else’s fault. 
 
But, We started to learn differently.  We began to learn how to take our power and authority back. We began to see that the way we thrive is by making our WORLD WITHIN stronger than the outer world. 
 
 The story you tell yourself about your life will dictate the outcome of it. CHOICE is the most important power in your WORLD WITHIN.  it is the power of your INTENTION that forms the outcome of your life. life is hard and that when you realise and accept that, life is no longer hard.  Put loving KINDFULNESS first and to keep your recovery visions grounded and in real time. Learn to love ourselves big time and to keep our thoughts in alignment with what we want, rather than what we don’t want.  Unconditional Loving-KINDFULNESS  we can experience this Love when we have right thought, take right action and keep our focus off of ourselves and keep it instead on our pure intuitive voice. 
 
How could we possibly let ourselves be a victim knowing all these things? 
 
If you really get that these lessons in the ten stages are REAL and TRUE and WORK, then, if you’re like us, you will feel called to turn our mess into a heart felt message for 2018. 
 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

TEN STAGES The most important part of life, and the only part of life that we can truly control, is our perception.

TEN STAGES Thought for 2018 First Meeting The most important part of life, and the only part of life that we can truly control, is our p...

Sometimes our truth is tough - we delay our chance of recovery by believing that our plan, our idea, our story and even ourselves must be perfect before we can start.

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Sometimes our truth is tough - we delay our chance of recovery by believing that our plan, our idea, our story and even ourselves must be perfect before we can start. Here's the problem: this one belief ruins our life. We come to believe that we have to throw in the towel, forget you ever had this dissociative thought and stop heading for the chocolate and all sugar you can find to stuff your feelings or regret down with a gluten free cupcake. You don't have to be perfect to get started. In fact, perfect doesn't exist in this world (explained by a zen master), so if you're waiting for yourself, your circumstances or your plan to be perfect - you'll be waiting the rest of your life. So, how do we find a solution for this lust for perfection? How to we stop perfectionism from ruining our lives? In this week's meet-up we break down how to stop this dissociation, stress inducing and waste expanding cycle and instead get on the fast track to living a life that you can manage. Making the leap from perfectionist to living a manageable life isn't as hard as you think. And, you can take small simple stages to get there. This week's topic can end days, weeks, months or even years of unnecessary pain and suffering from having unrealised expectations. Take the leap with us to end this vampiric cycle. feel free to leave a comment on our pages, groups and blogs and let us know how you plan to let go of the need to be perfect and get started. Or, if you've had success in this area, as a former perfectionist leave a comment share your success tips, too. Remember, together we can grow into who we're meant to be.Free and liberated Children Within<div style="background-color: white; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;">
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Sometimes our truth is tough - we delay our chance of recovery by believing that our plan, our idea, our story and even ourselves must be perfect before we can start.

Sometimes our truth is tough - we delay our chance of recovery by believing that our plan, our idea, our story and even ourselves must be ...

The Ten Stages gives you a “reality smack” your liked and respected, a lot but dissociated?

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The Ten Stages gives you a “reality smack” your liked and respected, a lot but dissociated? Maybe we make an observation about your/our life, or “called us out” for clinging to a particular excuse when we’re capable of so much more. We don’t always “enjoy” these little wake-up jolts. Sometimes, the truth can be painful. But from time to time? We all need a reality smack. We need people to hold us to a higher standard of behaviour — or else we tend to fall short of our potential.<div>
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At the Ten Stages we all work for Free we make strong sacrifices each week we run three meetings.We have been doing this for five years Today, we’d like to be that person for you. Here’s what I want you to know: You were born to be happy, to be healthy, and to contribute to the world in a meaningful way. That’s what the Child Within you wishes for you -- and yes, will even support you in your happiness. You might be a manicurist. You might be a physical therapist. You might be a health coach, life coach, a yoga teacher or the director of a meditation centre. Or you might dream of starting your own purpose driven recovery program, but haven't taken the leap yet. No matter what you do (or dream of doing), you have skills and abilities that can make other’s lives better. Now here’s the part that might be tough to hear: It is your spiritual responsibility — as a human being — to bring your skills and abilities to as many people as you possibly can. It is your spiritual responsibility to serve at the highest possible level, helping people, teaching people, inspiring people, at every possible opportunity. If you hold back — by hiding, procrastinating, giving just 80% of your capacity at recovery,  — you are essentially stealing from the people who need you most. Spiritual theft. That’s what it is. Tough to hear — but true. I know that whatever you are currently doing in the world — whether you’re a stay-at-home mom with a cooking blog on the side, or the CEO of a multi-national corporation — there is always a way to serve (and by extension: Learn) more.</div>
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We export loving-Kindfulness to our world and revel in its benefices.Over the Christmas period we have been hard at work for your benefit and health. 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>
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The Ten Stages gives you a “reality smack” your liked and respected, a lot but dissociated?

The Ten Stages gives you a “reality smack” your liked and respected, a lot but dissociated? Maybe we make an observation about your/our li...

The first stage is creating time for our recovery journey. Yes, the subject of this week's meeting is about "finding" time making a commitment to yourself

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The first stage is creating time for our recovery journey. Yes, the subject of this week's meeting is about "finding" time making a commitment to yourself, but that is kind of a lie. The truth is, we've got to fight for our time. Whenever we've talked to someone who said they didn't have the time for their recovery or their goals, one of two things has happened: 1. They make other's goals more important than their own. 2. They waste time doing unimportant, yet comfortable tasks. That might sound harsh, but it's true. We want to tell you the truth because you have a big mission here at the ten stages and if you keep giving away your precious time to other's (without taking care of your goals), or if you keep wasting it bingeing on Friends on Netflix - you'll never live your purpose in your world. Learn how to take you time back, right now. And, speaking of taking time back - We have a big announcement. This year 2018 we are focusing on creating amazing content for you, in the form of a new meditation centre, a new broadcast, and many other exciting projects in the coming future. 2018 is a year of self-care, and we have to get real with ourself. As much as we would love to publish our dot com every day, when we look at our goals and our priorities for 2018, We have to be honest with ourself - We just couldn't do it and get all our goals done. Don't worry. You can catch up every day on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter. Know that we value you as a Ten Stage member and that we are going to grow together through this experience. Only more truth and understanding will come from this. If you thought that Ten Stages was awesome before, 2018 will blow you away! With that said, over the next few weeks you will see more from us about an amazing free training from our peers that will take your recovery to the next level . This is not goodbye; it's actually a deepening of our relationship and a perfect fit with today's topic. Perhaps with me setting a new boundary with the ten stages, it may inspire you to set more boundaries in your life so that you can accomplish more of your goals, too.<div>
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Yesterday I got a clear from the hospital after seven heart attacks and a new understanding of what time means and how to priorities. Let's re-grow together. 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

The first stage is creating time for our recovery journey. Yes, the subject of this week's meeting is about "finding" time making a commitment to yourself

The first stage is creating time for our recovery journey. Yes, the subject of this week's meeting is about "finding" time m...

Ten Stages topic: other people's drama.

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Ten Stages topic: other people's drama. You get caught it in. We all do. If you wonder why, or how to extract yourself from other peop...

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Ten Stages topic: other people's drama. You get caught it in. We all do. If you wonder why, or how to extract yourself from other people's drama, We've got a great message for you today. We teach that no matter what the situation is, no matter how chaotic, no matter how much drama is around us, we can heal by our child within presence and loving Kindfulness if we just stay within our  child within centre <div>
So many of us prefer to live in drama because it's comfortable. It's like someone staying in a bad marriage or relationship - it's actually easier to stay because they know what to expect every day, versus leaving and not knowing what to expect. The simple truth is that we get caught up in other people's drama to avoid our own negative dissociations feelings and problems. Don't let this pattern stop us from living our recovery in the ten stages, having the relationship we truly desire or friends who are positive and up-lifting. This week's meeting will teach you how to be drama free. When we commit to a drama free child within life, it's not a boring life. On the other hand, it's an amazing life. We focus on our own child within and stop judging others. We make time for our recovery. We finally get to know ourself. We get to experience a different kind of drama, which is the drama of living our childhood purpose. Don't let another moment be wasted being caught up in what's not important. It's time to stay in our lane, work on ourself and go after our recovery. In the comments, let us know how you are going to stay in your ten stage fast lane moving forward. Also, if you've ever left an unhealthy dynamic like this and gone drama free, please share your success tips in the comments. Together we can grow into who we are meant to be. Here's to a drama free life. It's time to pull the cord and start anew. The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

Ten Stages topic: other people's drama.

Ten Stages topic: other people's drama. You get caught it in. We all do. If you wonder why, or how to extract yourself from other peop...

All eyes on are on 2018 – and it’s time for life to change.

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Title: All eyes on are on 2018 – and it’s time for life to change.
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Most of have no idea of giant capacity we can immediately command when we focus all of our resources on mastering a single area of our lives. All eyes on are on 2018 – and it’s time for life to change. Right now is a natural time of year to focus on our goals, our progress and what you want to create in our life. The truth is that we can change our life anytime, right now is a special time of year because we are all focused on the transition from one year to another. The problem is that most people will decide to change their life and then they won’t. They will get a gym membership for a year and go for a week or two. They will decide to eat better until a moment of stress when they go right back. They will decide to finally leave a relationship. But – they don’t. That’s the fate of most of us in this world. Why? Because we like to dabble in things. We like the idea of transformation, but we know little about the practice of transformation. Creating a new life or taking our life to the next level is hard work. It’s not about fad diets, exercise routines or the spiritual practice. It’s about consistency. It’s about movement. It’s about dedicating our life to creating a new life style, rather than setting some petty goal because you kinda sorta want to. And the truth is, if we want to live our purpose, if you want to give our gift to ourself, if we want to make life better for ourself and our family – then we need energy to do that. You can’t show up fully in life when you have a sugar hangover or if you are eating foods that you are allergic to. You can’t be present for your family if you are not engaged in giving your Child Withins gift to our world. Why? Because behind our smile, there will be resentment and regret – and if we are feeling those feelings, we can’t be fully present for those that we love, and that includes ourselves. The best example we can set for our recovery is not to talk about what the right thing is, but to be it. It doesn’t matter how many quotes we put on Facebook or how many gluten free recipes we share, what matters is that we are taking care of ourselves. 2017 for me was a huge wake up call in the area of health and wellness. I’ve been processed sugar-free for a month, and it feels like I’ve been waking up from a long coma. And yes, I had a sugar-free Christmas – it is possible. How? Because I remind myself each and every day that there is a larger purpose to live for than emotional eating. I remind myself that I am worth feeling good and that I do matter. And not only that, that it matters what I put on my plate, because what I eat directly affects my ability to show up in my life. Better food in the body means more presence in life. Better food in the body means better growth. Better food in the body means a better healthy life. Better food in the body means greater creativity and momentum. Better food in the body means a better ability to focus on what’s important. Better food in the body allows us to deal with the emotions underneath and, as a result, do even more personal growth. And then that personal growth has happened, it will be hard, but life will be better for it. It’s important as you are thinking about 2018 to not just begin to think about your hopes, your dreams, your goals and your resolutions. What’s most important is to remember why you are setting these goals in the first place. When you link a strong enough why to your transformational path, you can move mountains. Make it about more than just you. Transform your life so that you can serve others. Transform your life so that you can bring even more love to your family. Transform your life for all the people who are counting in you and will be inspired by the example you set. When you tap into the why of your transformation and remind yourself of it daily – you start to create powerful momentum towards your goals. 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

All eyes on are on 2018 – and it’s time for life to change.

Most of have no idea of giant capacity we can immediately command when we focus all of our resources on mastering a single area of our liv...

We can have sole ownership of our vision. And the Child Within will give us what we want within our vision.

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We can have sole ownership of our vision. And the Child Within will give us what we want within our vision. What happens with most of us i...

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We can have sole ownership of our vision. And the Child Within will give us what we want within our vision. What happens with most of us is that we muddy our vision with a “reality” that is not ours. Our vision becomes full of not only what they want but what everybody else thinks about what they want, too. Our ten stage work is to clarify and purify our vision so that the vibration that you are offering can then be recovered. 2018 is very close. We are on the cusp of a New Year. And while we are focused on parties for tonight and getting clear on what we want for next year, it's time for a wake up call. Instead of making this a new year for a "new you" let's get clear. You don't need a new version of you, what your life is asking for is a real and authentic version of you, your child hidden within And that means having the courage to own what YOU are and striving to grasp it. Not what your parents want for you. Not what your spouse or significant other wants for you. Not what your family or tribe wants for you. But what you want for yourself. he Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We can have sole ownership of our vision. And the Child Within will give us what we want within our vision.

We can have sole ownership of our vision. And the Child Within will give us what we want within our vision. What happens with most of us i...

2018 is almost here, and we at The Ten Stages are committed to making it the best recovery year of your life.

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Title: 2018 is almost here, and we at The Ten Stages are committed to making it the best recovery year of your life.
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2018 is almost here, and we at The Ten Stages are committed to making it the best recovery year of your life. It's time to drop the resolutions and create a revolution in your life. One filled with purpose. Clarity. Your authentic self. A year where you no longer put other people first out of obligation, but decide that you don't need anyone's approval to be happy and recovered. How? By finding out why you were born and your hidden Child Within living it in the world each day. Are you confused about purpose? Are you unsure what your purpose is? Are you afraid to even start because the fear of failing is too much? 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

2018 is almost here, and we at The Ten Stages are committed to making it the best recovery year of your life.

2018 is almost here, and we at The Ten Stages are committed to making it the best recovery year of your life. It's time to drop the re...

2018 is the year of recovery for you.

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2018 is be the year of recovery for you. It's about upping your game, revealing yourself, taking your power back and acting in a way w...

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2018 is be the year of recovery for you. It's about upping your game, revealing yourself, taking your power back and acting in a way where you start to trust yourself (perhaps even for the first time). It's time to make frustration and doubt a thing of the past. Now is the time to get unblocked and get started. You don't need to know exactly how to start, but it's important that you begin now. Once you start, you will be given more answers. The Ten Stages is not laid out ahead of time for you. You get to discover, each intuitive day, what your path holds for you. 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

2018 is the year of recovery for you.

2018 is be the year of recovery for you. It's about upping your game, revealing yourself, taking your power back and acting in a way w...

We need to find the courage to say 'NO' to the shadow voices of people that are not serving us

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We need to find the courage to say 'NO' to the shadow voices of people that are not serving us if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity. If we aren't careful frustration can go from a feeling we feel every once in a while into our daily life. Things don't work out. We try and then we give up. We start out with recovery dreams and then life has a way of derailing them. After a few hard setbacks, it's easy to settle into frustration, fear and feeling stuck. And then it becomes easy to doubt your decisions and just get by in life. 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We need to find the courage to say 'NO' to the shadow voices of people that are not serving us

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We give ourself permission to feel and experience all of our emotions. In order to do that, We have to stop being afraid to feel.

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We give ourself permission to feel and experience all of our emotions. In order to do that, We have to stop being afraid to feel. In order to do that, We teach ourselves to believe that no matter what we felt or what happened when we felt it, we would be okay TODAY... and crash the barriers of 2018 We have big recovery dreams. We feel deep down in side ourselves that we have a big purpose. We know that we can make a massive difference in this our world. There's just one problem - We feel we don't have permission to do it. Yes, that's right. Permission. We've met many who thought that they needed permission from someone else to live their lives. It's like they've been waiting around for some board of approvals to say: GO FOR IT - IT'S OKAY FOR YOU TO SHINE! The thing is, the world will very rarely give you permission to do anything other than just fit in. Your family may want you to stay the same, to not rock the boat. Ask question examine motivations. And so, timidly you choose to grow, but not too much or too fast - you don't want to rock the boat. Here's the thing - screw the boat. It's time to name it. Claim it. And own it as your own. Our blog that has evolved into a dotcom today will inspire us to take our power back. After you've read The Ten Stages, make sure to leave a comment and let us all know what permission you are going to give yourself, starting right now. We already have gained permission to shine from our Child Within; now it's time to claim it for ourself. Claim it, today and start to work The Ten Stages in your life. The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We give ourself permission to feel and experience all of our emotions. In order to do that, We have to stop being afraid to feel.

We give ourself permission to feel and experience all of our emotions. In order to do that, We have to stop being afraid to feel. In order...

Loosing trust in our own essential nature our child within. We don't just mistrust our child within, we mistrust ourselves. We mistrust human nature itself.

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Loosing trust in our own essential nature our child within. We don't just mistrust our child within, we mistrust ourselves. We mistrust human nature itself. The reason we are always talking about our child within is because this is where the mistrust first manifests itself, where it is formed. We are talking about all human beings. We are talking about society as it is. 
 
Society is unpleasant, dangerous, unhappy, alienated, and unstable because in childhood our nature — being confident, joyous and loving — has been undermined and we simply live the way we are expected to. What we believe is what we make our experience into. And what we believe is what we have been taught to believe by our parents and our experiences. 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Loosing trust in our own essential nature our child within. We don't just mistrust our child within, we mistrust ourselves. We mistrust human nature itself.

Loosing trust in our own essential nature our child within. We don't just mistrust our child within, we mistrust ourselves. We mistru...

Welcome, to our new ten stagers, having found in the last five years that every single one of us who have made a decision to make contact

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Welcome, to our new ten stagers,  having found in the last five years that every single one of us who have made a decision to make contact with their child within have had a turning point and that turning point was where they made a clear, specific, unequivocal decision that they were not going to live like this anymore. Some people make that decision at 15 and some people make it at 50 and most will never take it at all.Make 2018 the year that you make contact and reap the benefits of renewed health. 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. 
 
 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Welcome, to our new ten stagers, having found in the last five years that every single one of us who have made a decision to make contact

Welcome, to our new ten stagers, having found in the last five years that every single one of us who have made a decision to make contact...

Truthful Ten Stages Intuition is coming to the knowledge of something beyond time, space, reason, the use of prior knowledge and the five senses.

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Truthful Ten Stages Intuition is coming to the knowledge of something beyond time, space, reason, the use of prior knowledge and the five senses. 
 What would be different if you led from your intuition more often?  
 Where can you begin answering our intuition right now? Intuition is our birthright. As children we freely connect to our intuition so naturally that we don’t even know it’s intuition. It is an everyday awareness permeating our existence that we are intimately connected with and a part of. Life feels magical and our environment is filled with endless possibilities. As we get older we lose touch with this sense of presence and guidance. Limited thinking and the responsibilities of life take centre stage, while our inner wisdom and unbounded connection with life are pushed aside, if not forgotten. In our fun, interactive and inspiring meditative workshop you will: Learn why intuition is our most powerful resource Explore the difference between the intuitive and logical minds, and how they work together Discover different characteristics of intuition so you can better recognize it Learn practical tools for connecting to intuition and building self-confidence Expand creative capacity and resourcefulness on current life matters Become aware of negative beliefs that limit your intuitive capacity Deepen your capacity to listen or attune to others—to expand our awareness to include them Learn to make decisions more easily from a collective level rather than an individual one Become more adaptable or responsive to the flow of group dynamics Learn how you can support others, including children, to connect to their intuition Learn about the ethics of using intuition Discover your intuitive edge – where you can begin acting on your intuition Decrease stress and improve overall well-being, the knowing/sensing of something beyond time, space, reason, the use of prior knowledge and the five senses. It is the gateway to our child within consciousness. 
 
1. Permission 
When you wake up in the morning, start your day by giving yourself permission to be intuitive. Remember, intuition is your natural state; therefore, you do not need to work at it, but rather allow it to express itself through you as You. 
 
2. Feelings 
Intuition expresses itself through feelings – the language of the child within. By paying attention to how you feel, you become aware of your deeper child and its guidance. If what you are doing or considering feels good, gives you a sense of inner rightness, chances are you are in alignment with your child within. You may also suddenly feel nauseous or anxious which can be an indication that something is not right for you. 
 
3. Energy 
When you feel your energy expand then you are in alignment with your intuition. You may feel energy expand in all parts of your body or in a particular part of your body like your heart centre. If, on the other hand, you feel your energy contract, then your intuition is most likely telling you to ignore or bypass this situation. In other words, when your energy contracts, it is your intuition saying No! 
 
4. Unique Expression 
The more you listen to your intuition, the easier it becomes to recognize and act on it. This includes becoming aware of how intuition uniquely expresses itself through you. Does it come through dreams, writing, yoga? Is it a sensation in your body? If so, where? Is it in your head, heart, calves? What kind of sensation is it? Knowing this will help you trust your intuition more quickly in the future. 
 
5. Trust 
“Listen to your heart. Even though it’s on the left side, it’s always right.” ~ Unknown 
To trust your feelings, insights and energy state is the beginning of trusting yourself. We are taught not to listen to ourselves and to put our attention on what others think. To turn this around, start by believing that you do indeed know what is best for you; you know in your heart what you really want and what no longer feeds your child within. The path of intuitive living is the path of trusting and believing in your recovered child within. 
 
6. Slowing Down, Silence & Self-Reflection 
Intuition lies in the space between our discursive thoughts and the demands of our hectic lives. Making time for ourselves creates space to bring our attention back within where our intuition lies. Spend time daily in silence and self-reflection. Meditation, journaling, yoga and time in nature all contribute to connecting with the quiet voice within. This means making your Self a priority. If it helps, book You Time off in your calendar so that you become a priority in your life. 
 
7. Deep Breathing 
Part of slowing down is simply taking a few deep breaths. No matter where you are, you always have time to do this. Just one long, slow deep breath serves to relax and connect us to our body where our intuition speaks to us. Next time you have an important decision to make, stop and take a few deep breaths beforehand and see how this changes things. 
 
8. Inquiry 
Asking yourself questions opens you to your heart where your intuition lies. Once you have slowed down and taken a few breaths, try asking yourself the following question: What does my heart want? What is my intuition saying? What decision feels good/right? What decision would move me downstream? And then write down the answers that come to you. Blurt them out! 
 
9. Blurting/Spontaneity 
“Follow your child within yourself. That’s where true wisdom manifests itself.”  
Your logical mind loves to censor all the wonderful intuitive insights you have. Your capacity to be spontaneous is important because it lessens the chance that your logical mind will stop you. If you have an intuitive insight, blurt it out before the logical sentinel blocks your natural expression. 
 
10. Brevity 
Intuition requires few words to make its point. It conveys a great deal of information in short time. It may simply say to you, Move!, or Turn left. It does not ramble on like our logical mind, offering explanations and reasoning. It simply offers you insight, which you can choose what to do with. 
 
11. Language 
Use first person language such as I, Me, My, Mine and sensory words like Feel and Sense to convey your intuition. For example: “I feel”, “I sense”, “My intuition is telling me”, “My heart is saying”. If you say “I think”, you may find yourself accessing your logical mind more than your intuition. 
 
12. Courage 
“You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself.”  
Honoring your intuition, honoring your true Self, takes great courage. It may not be easy in the short term to act on your intuition, but what price do you pay by not listening to it? Trust that nothing is revealed to you intuitively if it is not in your highest interest, even if that means making some tough choices (or easy choices) in your life. However your intuition guides you, it is always in service of your well-being. 
 
13. Honesty 
As much as it takes courage to act on your intuition, even before this, it can take courage to be honest with yourself and your situations. Acknowledging your intuition is about being real with yourself and what is true for you. It can be scary to be honest because of fears of loss, hurting others and change. But to deny your child within is the greatest denial of all. Therefore shine the light of truth into your heart and trust that your intuition is there only to serve you, even if it may appear otherwise to you and others. 
 
14. Let Go, Allow Flow 
Following our intuition requires courage because it calls you to let go of control to some degree, and trust the higher flow of life.  Nothing that you want is upstream. Intuition guides you to let go of paddling upstream and allow life to carry you instead of forcing your way through life with your plans and agendas. Life knows what you want more than you do. When you surrender, you will soon discover the magic that Life has in store! 
 
15. Uncertainty 
When the mind is full, it is harder to receive the insights of our intuition. Attachments to plans and agendas, combined with the fear of the unknown and the need for familiarity, all present obstacles to opening to the new and unexpected. Your job is to create space for your intuition by clearing away the clutter of your mind and the distractions of your life. When you do, you say an inner Yes to Life! 
 
16. Irrational Optimism 
Intuition continuously guides you to play at higher and higher levels. And as you do, you will walk away from what you thought your life was towards a life that has yet to fully manifest. In the meantime, you learn to trust the unknown and become comfortable with not having all the details. It is here that irrational optimism is a useful mindset. You can view your life as being an empty shell of what it used to be, or you can see it as being prepared for new, with exciting arrivals that only Life can see. 
“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. You have created a society that honours the servant and has forgotten the gift.”  
 
17. Time Alone 
As you courageously choose to venture down the path of intuition, and leave behind aspects of yourself and life that no longer fit, you will need time to be with yourself to help stay grounded in your transition and transformation. It may be tempting to distract yourself with busy activities, but your time alone will serve to integrate your new learning and provide further guidance to help you along your way. It will also support you to become comfortable without dependencies on other’s approval or guidance, which in many cases, won’t be useful at all. 
 
18. Pay Attention 
Watch what shows up in your life. Synchronicities, such as overhearing a conversation that provides insight, or the sudden appearance of new opportunities and resources; day dreams, like continuously thinking about a passion you’d love to explore; and night dreams in the form of guidance or messages. All demand a level of attentiveness and recognition that life is working to support you in mysterious ways. Pay attention and be open to receive. 
 
19. Open to Receive 
Your real job in life is not to say How, but rather Yes! Opening to receive can be challenging. It requires you to detach from your desires and trust that Life will help to orchestrate them. The more impatient or demanding you are, the more you limit the process of attracting what you desire. Take time to step away. Participating in activities that bring you joy, volunteering and serving others, all help you to focus on other things so that you can more easily remain open to the new and unexpected. 
 
20. The A’s: Awareness, Assessment, Action 
This cyclical process of hearing, evaluating and acting upon your intuition is something you will continue the rest of your life. All three steps are important and it is here that intuition works with logic – intuition provides the insight and logic oversees the practical details such as time, money and resources to make your ideas concrete and palatable for others. 
 
21. Day-End Overview 
When your day is over, take a moment to review all the decisions you made from your intuition and how they turned out. Similarly, ask yourself where you felt your intuition but didn’t act on it, and how that turned out. Doing this nightly self-reflection will help you see patterns in how your life unfolds when you do and do not honour your intuition and therefore your Self. 
 
22. Play and Joy 
 
Follow your passions and play regularly. Whether it is gardening, writing, camping or dancing, when you are enjoying yourself you move into alignment with your child within. Have you ever noticed that inspiration and fresh perspective come to you when you are relaxed and having fun? Remember, you don’t have to work at intuition. Play and allow it to come to you. Life is about enjoying yourself, and when you remember to play you remember your child within and why you are here. You say Yes to yourself, and to Life as well! 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Truthful Ten Stages Intuition is coming to the knowledge of something beyond time, space, reason, the use of prior knowledge and the five senses.

Truthful Ten Stages Intuition is coming to the knowledge of something beyond time, space, reason, the use of prior knowledge and the five ...

The Gentle Touch of our Child Within

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In my heart you have always been there You lead me threw the darkness Of painful memories You walk me out into the light again Where I can...

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In my heart you have always been there You lead me threw the darkness Of painful memories You walk me out into the light again Where I can see you smiling at me All it takes is just a word A gentle touch from our child within  I believe........ You take away my pain You make me feel whole again When I don't know where to turn I turn around and there you are You are the moon up in my sky You are my shining star You are everything to me And I believe........ You're love will get me threw And lead me back home to you Where all the world just slips away And my fears you hold at bay You turn my darkness into light And keep me strong threw out the night 
 I believe........ Without my child within here with me I'd be lost forever more I'd stay locked behind my heart And throw away the key to that door You bring peace back to my nights  Because of you my eyes shine bright  I believe........ Because of you and your love The way you've helped me to be strong Helped me to sort out right from wrong I can take back the night Make my world turn out right So my path will lead me back Straight into your arms at last To go forward in my life And let go of my past Because of you  I believe........  
 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Gentle Touch of our Child Within

In my heart you have always been there You lead me threw the darkness Of painful memories You walk me out into the light again Where I can...

WOW Moment, There's this idea that a lot of us believe; I'm not sure where it came from, but I'm pretty mystified by it. The idea is that somehow being on a recovery path will banish all fear and negative emotions from a person’s life. Guess what, it's rubbish.

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Title: WOW Moment, There's this idea that a lot of us believe; I'm not sure where it came from, but I'm pretty mystified by it. The idea is that somehow being on a recovery path will banish all fear and negative emotions from a person’s life. Guess what, it's rubbish.
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Have you considered that expansion and growth feel scary in recovery? If we aren't afraid most of the time, we aren't growing. There's this idea that a lot of us believe; I'm not sure where it came from, but I'm pretty mystified by it. The idea is that somehow being on a recovery path will banish all fear and negative emotions from a person’s life. Guess what, it's rubbish. If you are living a recovery life, you are probably going to come up against more fears than someone who is just coasting. If you are living a life on The Ten Stages Path you are going to become MORE sensitive to the emotions you feel, not less. Somewhere out there it's as if there's this promise being made that if you go on The Ten Stages Path, you are doing it right if you are only feeling happy ALL the time, never feel scared and can turn off negative emotions like a light bulb. This is not what having a recovery experience is all about. On the contrary! If we are on The Stages Path, we are inviting fear to come - because we are stepping outside our comfort zone! We are inviting our emotions to rise, because we are clearing away all the things that prevent us from feeling them. This is the path of the recovery student- to be courageous enough to FEEL fear and keep going! To not cut ourselves off from feeling however they feel - and know that there is nothing wrong with them for feeling a down emotion! This is what it means to be a human being! It's a journey within! If all you were was some annoying positive robot - life would suck. "When you numb your pain, you numb your joy" - being human, being open, being ALIVE means being ready to experience it all...NOW And as we do, instead of trying to always "be positive" and beat ourselves up when we don't achieve that impossible goal, we accept that life is a series of ups and downs - and while it's true that we can't always control life, we CAN give what happens an EMPOWERING meaning. And by doing that, we start to take our childhood power back. And we also begin to see that it is by FACING our fears that we grow. Growth, by definition, means we are constantly expanding beyond our comfort zone. And when we expand beyond our comfort zone - the natural experience is FEAR! This doesn't make you wrong or a failure, it makes you HUMAN and it's totally normal! The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

WOW Moment, There's this idea that a lot of us believe; I'm not sure where it came from, but I'm pretty mystified by it. The idea is that somehow being on a recovery path will banish all fear and negative emotions from a person’s life. Guess what, it's rubbish.

Have you considered that expansion and growth feel scary in recovery? If we aren't afraid most of the time, we aren't growing. The...

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