Either we want to recover, and live a life free from dissociation, or we could choose instead to continue to dissociate ourself and not recover.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEx7XeDnOR4t2_1RFDLg6t6a4Y455ZxyVfUuMMSY5H6iVgso9KWW9gNuMzjp59In3Ykr8YOQBBky4TemfD_qtwp66W7-r-5yow_SZ6ToIK3WvF34OR5JSgE1lfLB61EW0RLb7KUx2_AMfg/s1600/1-ten+stage+poster45.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="135" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEx7XeDnOR4t2_1RFDLg6t6a4Y455ZxyVfUuMMSY5H6iVgso9KWW9gNuMzjp59In3Ykr8YOQBBky4TemfD_qtwp66W7-r-5yow_SZ6ToIK3WvF34OR5JSgE1lfLB61EW0RLb7KUx2_AMfg/s200/1-ten+stage+poster45.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">At the ten stages the biggest changes come when we recognise and decide to stop dissociating ourselves."Ive just eaten a whole bag of sweets.Ive just drank a whole bottle of wine.I am watching television all the time". It is a great irony that we bemoan the symptoms of dissociation in our life, and then continue to inflict dissociation on ourselves. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We realised that we have used our past as an excuse to dissociate ourselves; We used our self</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> diagnosis as an excuse to dissociate ourself; we used our feelings as an excuse to abuse ourself. Of course it makes sense to hate yourself when you’ve been forced as a child to perpetrate dissociation. It makes sense, but it’s just perpetuating that abuse. It’s counter-intuitive instead to show yourself compassion, and break the cycle of dissociation. We eventually realise that if we really did hate what has been done to us, then we couldn’t continue to do it to ourself. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> </span><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Either we want to recover, and live a life free from dissociation, or we could choose instead to continue to dissociate ourself and not recover.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The choice comes to us, as stark as a fork in the road, and although it took much persistence to kill off old habits, refusing to dissociate ourselves any longer was the single most important step we can take in our recovery journey.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Either we want to recover, and live a life free from dissociation, or we could choose instead to continue to dissociate ourself and not recover.

At the ten stages the biggest changes come when we recognise and decide to stop dissociating ourselves."Ive just eaten a whole bag of...

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