Social unease comes from fear of embarrassment and betrayal.

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: Verdana, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17.9400005340576px; margin-bottom: 6px;"> Social unease comes from fear of embarrassment and betrayal. Scratch its surface and you’ll find a demand for acceptance and trustworthiness. Interpersonal anxiety can be reconfigured into a barometer for authenticity.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: Verdana, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17.9400005340576px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> Feelings of emptiness sound bad, but consider that “emptiness” is also a catchword in Eastern meditative traditions. The connotations are different, but related. The emptiness we feel when discouraged is tainted by meaninglessness. Life appears beset by hazard <span class="text_exposed_show" style="display: inline;">and doomed to death. But if we discover beauty in life’s uncertainty and transience, then that same emptiness feels, paradoxically, full. This deep concept, best approached through meditation, tells us emptiness is the </span></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVUJMTZD2MaH7PlfIy0-rz-EVtMejGnQjUaEvg27jp_B3HfYu4WsAyeeinSwIkJ_gkF-938cm8U7bk8Nk6d0B4P7Dj5yjdTdgnXpP7zP_h1O0HV8pB-KKs_vjjCfcUWcbqeiQNJu9atR9j/s1600/1-1-The+Ten+Stages234-007.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVUJMTZD2MaH7PlfIy0-rz-EVtMejGnQjUaEvg27jp_B3HfYu4WsAyeeinSwIkJ_gkF-938cm8U7bk8Nk6d0B4P7Dj5yjdTdgnXpP7zP_h1O0HV8pB-KKs_vjjCfcUWcbqeiQNJu9atR9j/s200/1-1-The+Ten+Stages234-007.jpg" width="129" /></a></div> flipside of plenitude. Post-traumatic despair might be closer to post-recovery bliss than we normally think.<br /> <div class="text_exposed_show" style="background-color: white; color: #141823; display: inline; font-family: Verdana, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17.9400005340576px;"> <div style="margin-bottom: 6px;"> Problems with focus are problems of dissociation. While suffering abuse as a child, I would escape to an alternate mental world that felt distant and safe. Detaching when stressed has caused problems in adulthood, but the ability to alter consciousness offers a surprising benefit: it facilitates entry into the heightened states valued by spiritual seekers. In the extreme, shifts of consciousness can impair reality testing, so they shouldn’t be pursued without responsible preparation and guidance. But while remaining mindful and grounded, I’ve been blessed to experience transcendent awareness with greater than average ease.</div> <div style="margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> Finally, the somatic symptoms that follow stress and trauma can serve as guides to bodily state. Attending to them has helped me better inhabit my body. Embodiment, in turn, promotes mindfulness and relaxation.</div> </div> </div>

Social unease comes from fear of embarrassment and betrayal.

Social unease comes from fear of embarrassment and betrayal. Scratch its surface and you’ll find a demand for acceptance and trustworthine...

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