Punishment doesn’t solve our child withins problems; it intensifies them.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgSRc8EEzmpqEJcq2-dQTtWc50xPvLwiEfBcfVcda8o9vsfSPMBWZgzbKc8NNm75zsKr0vPc0Vj8CBSHTT5mlBdVts6jVljJ0XvoyKw-sRcjvTtCxhGe1joyqO9eEf0n9RKO7tJdbhuQ_Cq/s1600/FotorCreatedchild+with+you.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgSRc8EEzmpqEJcq2-dQTtWc50xPvLwiEfBcfVcda8o9vsfSPMBWZgzbKc8NNm75zsKr0vPc0Vj8CBSHTT5mlBdVts6jVljJ0XvoyKw-sRcjvTtCxhGe1joyqO9eEf0n9RKO7tJdbhuQ_Cq/s320/FotorCreatedchild+with+you.jpg" width="226" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br />Punishment doesn’t solve our child withins problems; it intensifies them.<br /><br /><br />Want to know a secret about punishment?<br /><br />It requires constant escalation.<br /><br />In order to maintain the temporary effect of controlling behaviour, the punishment, or threats of punishment, must constantly be ramped up. we who had the experience of starting out with popping a tiny hand escalate to smacking a chubby little leg, then paddling a small bottom. Over time, as our children’s needs which have been driven underground emerge in ever-increasing behavioural issues, we found out often they the controllers are resorting to yelling and threats and physical punishment more and more often.<br /><br /><br />We who have experienced the use punishment-based parenting approaches other than physical punishment find that they must escalate and escalate to keep us under ‘control.’ Behaviour charts, time-outs, grounding, and removing privileges are some examples of non-physical punishment-based behaviour we have experienced. While these behaviour modification techniques may be less painful our child within physically, they still didn’t address the underlying needs being communicated by the behaviour and often are as destructive to the parent/child relationship.<br /><br /><br /></span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages<br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <h4 class="zemanta-related-title"> Related articles</h4> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0; overflow: hidden; padding: 0;"> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://tenstage.blogspot.com/2015/10/in-same-way-that-treating-brain-tumour.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/364028009_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; 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Punishment doesn’t solve our child withins problems; it intensifies them.

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