At this stage we have to jettison adult parental behaviour and relearn the language of our child within.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggeXRDGZzG8wNvHNiHRJ1CU_qHQhh6_5JlpEqnNv3WwR-GwPWtLYeA7_PYOrCgdbLF_4Y15ViEKT-gTKuhEtV7bd4Y7_EOlfkzAfNevWFNzD4r8Cdyp9YeJNl8VhBqIbMYZlAMhr6dySMz/s1600/1-Red+XP+tenstages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="176" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggeXRDGZzG8wNvHNiHRJ1CU_qHQhh6_5JlpEqnNv3WwR-GwPWtLYeA7_PYOrCgdbLF_4Y15ViEKT-gTKuhEtV7bd4Y7_EOlfkzAfNevWFNzD4r8Cdyp9YeJNl8VhBqIbMYZlAMhr6dySMz/s320/1-Red+XP+tenstages.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;">When we begin at the stages the journey inward to heal our emotional suffering, and try to avoid falling into the ruts of familiar behaviour that doesn’t work for us, we’ll start to notice the feelings as they approach and we’ll be able to watch the behaviour that follows those feelings, as you move deeper and deeper into that all too familiar rut.</span><div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><div> <span style="font-size: large;">At this stage we have to jettison adult parental behaviour and relearn the language of our child within.</span></div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br />How do you begin to undo that learned behaviour?</span></div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br />We have to make friends with our child within<br />The first thing is to recognise that our feelings are being relived by our learned parental behaviour and to make contact with our alienated child within we have to discount judgemental voices and reassure the child's simple belief system.</span></div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;">The stuck childhood emotional reactions have acted as a survival mechanism and the child needs to be thanked for keeping us safe a situation that feels like a threatening action from long ago that has resulted in negative emotions needs to be addressed in current reality. </span></div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;">Recognition is the first stage on our healing path, and indeed, the first time we see it might be as far as you get in halting the behaviour that follows.</span></div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;">We have to talk and reassure the child within that it is now safe to begin the process of letting go of some of its survival mechanisms. This becomes most successful with others who have suffered and are still suffering.</span></div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;">Remember we are working towards redundancy, not change, reassurance not blame.</span></div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br />Over time, we will feel healing and clarity begin. We’ll understand what triggered it and we’ll make the decision to start the process of redundancy because dissociation will have no benefit to us.</span></div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br />Recovery won’t happen overnight, but the more we repeat our new gentle, quiet process of redundancy, the quicker the extremity of our dissociative reaction will begin to subside.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. </div> </div>

At this stage we have to jettison adult parental behaviour and relearn the language of our child within.

When we begin at the stages the journey inward to heal our emotional suffering, and try to avoid falling into the ruts of familiar behavio...

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