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Title: thetenstages.com Studying the Search for our Truth
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thetenstages.com Studying the Search for our Truth Doing the Stages we begin to understand that we have the power to recharge our lives wh...
thetenstages.com Studying the Search for our Truth

Doing the Stages we begin to understand that we have the power to recharge our lives whilst stop being dependent on substances or other people as an act of escape into unreality/dissociation. We have constructed for ourself an illusion a constant unremitting search for a quick fix which robs us of both our self-esteem and security. At this time we start to acknowledge a rebirth that their does exist a truer self within that can heal and regain control of our lives, and that this is the reason – coupled with all of our unresolved childhood traumas!– that our lives has become so disturbed and dysfunctional. What are these childhood traumas and where do they originate every-time a child has been disrespected regardless of the reason.Every-time we disrespect a child thats abuse. Its not difficult to understand we can all relate to it and we all need to acknowledge it.

We understand when we communicate with the child within that at the core of our problems are all the traumas we experienced as a child. We acknowledge, and that’s why we come to the stages. When the child within can accept that when we can find a solution for the unresolved trauma of childhood coping strategies then the symptoms will start to become manageable and quickly loose power over our lives. All our dysfunctions will start to normalise instead of remaining constantly in the DRAMA of dissociation. This is a very fragile and delicate operation which requires truth trust and consent to be manifested to the satisfaction of the child within us.

The Stages seek to help search for a our version of the "Truth" and our truth when found, accepted will set us free from escapism/dissociation and we learn that for us there is only one truth. This one truth is based on our daily reality. Reality is what is, whether we see it or not. Although truth is not subjective, our perspectives on truth can be subjective. Until a person becomes enlightened to realised truth– and can see full truth of his life and history – his vision of truth will be partially distorted. He will believe things to be true that are false. His knowledge of cause and effect will be limited. He will lie to himself and be deluded.

Unresolved traumas block our vision from finding our truth. When we cannot resolve our traumas of childhood we are prevented from facing what has happened to us when we were at our most vulnerable.

We are forced to deny the painful and troubling reality surrounding our experiences, and until these experiences burst through our denial they will clouds our vision of who we are and what our rightful place in the world is.

The true self the core of who each of us is, lives resplendent in our truth. It is connected to truth, and sees it clearly. When we reconnect with our true self and align with it in the full light of consciousness, we come to instantly recognise our own personal truth which becomes a liberating peaceful force working at all times for our benefit, a whole and complete experience at this time a great weight lifts from us and for the first time we feel free. Our conflicts are starting to resolve themselves with the help of the guides on the study course and the introduction to our deeply buried intuitive voice.

Stage Two Study
We come to believe that meditation and the quietening of our created parental voice begins to relax the judgemental voices that we have picked up in our dysfunctional childhoods. The understanding that our creation of a God/Goddess/Universe/Creator/Spirit/Higher Power are externalised judgemental voices which collude in keeping us in a cage of safety and dull us down into non productive coping strategies. 
We awaken the healing wisdom within us when we open ourselves to that clear power of our meditations.At this stage the seeds of our authentic selves and trust in the healing power of the truth starts to permeate back into our consciousness. We move into a quite neutral space and we reawaken a sense of anxiety and fear. At this time we recognise that we need reassurance that all is well and the anxiety is an illusion.

We come to understand that since there is a form of universality within us, this is a our true self . We came to recognise that this God/personalised parental figure outside of us and beyond us, that this externalised God, who is essentially little more than an idealised, fantasy parent, can not save us and we are not being disloyal to reject it. The newly found self starts to reconstruct our lives.

Basically,The coping strategy of the old belief system tells us that we can’t take care of ourselves because we are too wounded as children, too completely damaged, but we still believe in our illusion that our idealised Mommies/Daddies can still save us! We just have to put our faith back in this illusory Mommy figure hopefully a better fantasised Mommy than we had the first time around not the one who participated in crushing our personality and making us into such a deranged dysfunctional person.

Stage 3 Study(rewrite)

Here in Stage 3 we examine our beliefs, addictions, and dependent behaviour in the context of living in a materialistic dominated society & culture. We explore affirmations and start to understand ourselves and how we are influenced in all aspects of our life. We study with our trusted friends a new life affirming belief that we can really take care of ourselves and heal our own wounds, and we will consciously decide that this externalisation of our split-off inner self – this external God of an-others creation – cannot save us. This is our movement away from dissociation.

This revised belief system shatters our unconscious, grandiose, and immature idea that we can be the king of our own self-proclaimed universe.

The dysfunctionally created belief of other or outside God that simply place it on something external, which allows us all the while to keep alive a façade of humility. When we speak of God or Higher Power we are really speaking of the my own unconscious, grandiose feelings about myself, which follow the exact template of our idealised image of our dysfunction parental figures.Since this is our created illusion for an equilibrium in our world and an explanation for our disastrous relationships, we feel under threat and are constantly rubber banded into our past or catapulted into a seemingly disastrous future We have created our explanation for what we see as a failed life.

Stage 4 Study

In stage four we share with our trusted compatriots and the Universe all those things inside of us for which we feel shame and guilt as we have come to identify them. Now that we have worked hard to believe that we do have a true and honest self within. We have come to understand at this stage that our old lives lived under the mounds of unresolved childhood trauma which we did not believe we ever had. We had thought in the previous stages that we had cleared all our blockages.Here we review without judgement and attempt through self reflection to understand the motivation that others have placed into our psyche.

We will look within, explore to find out what else might be just be within side us. We will take an emotional inventory of the traumas foisted on us when we were a child. These revelations might force us to discover that our parents really did mess us up worse than we first thought, and that we gain a realisation of the level of upwelling pain and anger coming from that discovery were at the roots of our dysfunctions and alienation.

That the old patterns of dysfunction and often addiction were really self-medication and the inevitable flight from reality. We do not do a “moral” inventory, that will only replay our childhood trauma just by studying our morals, our own “badness” and hurtful behaviour .The reasons are that the mere act of revisiting childhood trauma and the frozen self is that we have already been programmed to come to believe firmly that we had no true self. We have learned we were programmed to believe we are to be condemned at birth.

Therefore we are indoctrinated with a false unrealistic version of the self that attempts to root us into the deepest moral and inner goodness of an idealised fantasy society which reinforces our denial of our own inner truth. We are born perfect and must come realise the dysfunction is grafted on to us, with the overriding sick belief that we are born to fail. We are taught health is toxic and we create inside a numbing down to a zombie state of lack of emotions and feelings.We become an automaton and work at eradicating the beauty inside ourselves.

Stage 5 Study

In Stage five we come to recognise and enjoy our own intelligence, strengths and creativity, remembering not to hide these qualities from ourselves and others. With the newly found self-reflection as to where our acting out behaviour might have come from that is, an acknowledgement that our disturbed patterns are simply a replication of the traumas done to us when we were vulnerable and innocent and powerless in our own family as a child.

We will now start to understand all the negative things that others have done to us. We will reject these previous lists of perceived negativity drawn up by our tormentors and the people who sort to control us.

During this stage we will come to understand that by being forced to admit to this externalised God of another creation (which we have become convinced NOW is separate from the essence of us!) and to the controlling persons/adults/parents/teachers who buy into this deluded and dissociative philosophy. They rubbed salt into our already wounded self which only further traumatised us paralysing us both psychically and emotionally. We threw ourselves down a blind alley of despair, and further cut ourselves off the from deeper healing roots of ourself that we now realise has the power to heal us.

Step 6 Study

Having experienced the realisations we become willing to let go of guilt, shame and any behaviour that prevents us from loving ourselves and others.Now that having explored what was done to us and what motivates our dysfunctional behaviour –We strongly reject the conformity of belief that we need to be pleasing in the eyes of this external God (Mommy), on that basis will be ready and able to be loved once again. This belief which in the past had given us such a warm feeling inside, a dissociative feeling which we would mistakingly take for being a sign-marker on our path to love and enlightenment. We must always remember that no one but the family of the others is in reality responsible for our perceived “defective character,” but the responsibility is with Mommy herself! Mommy the one who will save us is the perpetual myth faced in this stage. She has everything do to with why our belief system are so messed up! We quietly meditate on compassion and loving kindness that their is a strong chance that Mommy was passing on her learned behaviour. We do not seek blame anyone neither do we discount the damage done to us. We simply let it lie as a product of our studies.We understand what has happened to us.

Even if the natural Mommy is not present, the conceptualised commercial mommy peers down at us from each advertising hoarding or if we switch on the television and tune to a soap we will see a mother figure posturing with its moral judgemental stance attempting to reinfect us with unrealistic aspirations

Stage 7 Study.

At this stage we can make a list of people that our learned dysfunctional lives have harmed and people who have harmed us, and take steps to clear out negative energy by making amends and sharing our grievances in a respectful way. We come to understand healthy alternatives to the behaviours that we could practice in our studies and discuss them at length.We start to recognise and understand the internal voices in our heads and where they originate.

We come to realise the disfunction use of the words forgiveness and gratitude as a term of abuse used to control us. The victimisation of foregiveness the granting of forgiveness only allows the abuser to redouble their attempts to exercise control over us and push us back into the dissociated past. "Please Mommy/God, now that We’ve admitted how bad we are, and how much We’ve hurt you, and how naughty We’ve been, will you love us again and tell us that I’m a good boy/girl? We’ll do anything you say. We really do love you, We really, really do. And We always did love you deep down, even though you did horrible things to us which we can’t seem to remember anyway because we were so pickled ourselves with booze/drugs/dysfunctional behaviour's to try to blot out the memories. Please tell us We are a good boys/girls again!"

The reinforcing guilt and shame that this stage addresses and the voices of judgement and shame that we recreate in our subconscious have once more to be addressed with a greater understanding in our stage 7.

Stage 8 Exercise Rewrite

The stages whilst we are a study course we have to look at our actions connected to our previous work. This stage is about learning to express empathy and understanding coming to increasingly appreciate the wonder of our newly discovered life and the blessings we do have. We learn to understand the suffering of others.

Now We are really going to change our viewpoint and perspective….. We are going to stop being a bad boys/girl s and be a good boys/girls again, and prove to us that We really were good boys/girls all along, even though deep down underneath all our grandiose façade We still think that We are the pathological, worthless, evil, vile, stinking, rotten, useless, hopeless, piece of dogs**t that our messages from the past always subtly and sometimes not so subtly taught us .This the reasons why we drank/drugged so much and so destructively... We start to perceive our life differently in the light of the mixed messages of childhood..."But now We are going to make it all right for the world, even though I’ve still never even come close to looking at the harm that you, Mommy, and you, Daddy, did to me. But We are the bigger person! We have already forgiven you – even though We really have no clue exactly what We have forgiven you for."

Change is found at this stage by acknowledging our inner child's voice by understanding at a deeply conscious level what we can accept that voice, without judgement confronting the denial in our own parental voice. What we cannot list or acknowledge we quietly rest in our self created playground of at this stage of the course.

Stage 9 Study.

In stage nine we acknowledge the length of our journey acknowledging that have come a long way.

We have learnt to trust our reality and daily affirm that we see what we see, we know what we know and we feel what we feel.

We promptly admit to dissociated behaviour and make amends to ourselves when appropriate, but we do not say we are sorry for things we have not done and we do not cover up, analyse or take responsibility for the shortcomings of others, or their learned abusive parental voice

We’ll start to change our ways. We have become so dissociated and split-off from our deep and churning inner rage and fury and misery and sadness over what was done to us that we’ll fool ourselves into believing that now we come across like the Best Little Boys/Girls in the whole wide world. At this stage is the recreation stage where thinking we have cracked it we set out to prove to others that we’ve changed.

On the surface WE WILL change. We’ll be sure we seem different. We won’t get plastered and get violent for no reason and puke all over the new carpets and drive like an intoxicated maniac and frighten the hell out of everyone and force you to live with a pink elephant in your living room. No, the only pink elephant left in our life will be the pink elephant of my entire unconscious, which We won’t notice anymore because it will just get in our way. We’ll smile and convince ourselves that we are reformed, even though underneath it We’ll still be as dissociated and deformed as ever.

Dissociation is not reality and until we come to a deeper understanding of what has happened to us no healing can take place, no meditation will work, no religious practice will have any meaning. We will remain deeply dysfunctional without the symptoms being visible the cancerous cells of our hurt psyche will proceed onwards.Our messages from childhood remain deeply entrenched paralysing us into our old states

Stage 10 Study

It is within this stage that we experiment with our newly found freedoms

We start to seek out new situations,jobs, and people that affirm our intelligence, perceptions, and self-worth and avoid situations or people who are hurtful harmful, or demeaning to us.

We take steps to heal our physical bodies, organise our lives, reduce stress, and have fun.

We seek to find our inward calling, and develop the will and wisdom to follow it.

We accept the ups and downs of life as natural events that can be used as lessons for our growth.

We grow in awareness that we are sacred beings, interrelated with all living things, and we contribute to restoring peace and balance in our life

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Now we will realise our dissociation. We will renounce clinging to a philosophy and the self that is full of holes, We will start to practice a new way of life, the art of becoming real. Living in our wonderful reality.(WOW the old parenting voice got very condemning at this point "I own you, you are nothing without me.Pay your debt to me.)

We will have gone deep inside the roots of our being to affirm our health. In our found reality, without just practicing splitting off from living in the present moment. We stop looking at our fantasy illusions and we stop making it look fancy to myself and others.

We will stop talking to God of another understanding in prayer because We have no idea who God really is. We will listen to the universe in meditation and be able to realise that We are affirming the deepest and most basic essences of our souls. We will have found ourselves and will now have a beautiful full capacity that I’m come home to myself at last!

Overrider for those of us deprogramming from the fellowships and have our self-worth invested in converting others. REMEMBER THIS IS A TAUGHT COURSE (not a cult, you pay for the course in your time spent and there is a cut of date everything after that is socialising and enjoyment.We do not have any groups, mentors, sponsors or gurus.This is about unlearning not learning we are all born perfect.)

Now that We have started to become enlightened and free from the twisted thinking ( theres not ours) that resulted in our dysfunction (that is, not dissociated) and no longer need an addictive process to achieve this dissociated state, We will understand real peace in our reality.We will not and go out and begin a mission to proselytise my version of “the truth.” We will renounce the idea that we have to manipulate others who use addictions to dissociate from their unresolved childhood traumas to follow their ( another form of recovery largely unreliable program) and to split-off from their ancient wounds just as we have done. We will renounce the idea that we have to convert anybody by insulting and degrading and pathologising them. We have to acknowledge that It will reinfect us and rebuild the sick selfs very grandiose ways to cajole other traumatised addicts of the dysfunctional paths into dissociating by requesting that they follow our adopted methods and The Ten Stages, but We will acknowledge this as our grandiosity and old outmoded coping strategy an enemy of our newly found reality and we will cease.

Our STAGE Guides are committed, experienced and sensitive and are essential to the changes we go through in our work together. Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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