We who have not resolved our troubled childhood issues have a propensity for violence

Welcome to our new year lets start as we mean to go on.Tackling some of our thorniest questions and resolving issues. We who have not resolved our troubled childhood issues have a propensity for violence, living life looking for a fight. From bickering with a partner to self-destructive behaviours of dissociation and addictions, to squabbles at work to outright  warfare, all violence stems from us who have not addressed the troubled child within and instead seek revenge outside.

Only when we who have confronted our parents, either face-to-face, or more essentially, within our psyches and fully resolved our child withins rage can we approach conflict in a mature manner. The unresolved, who remain unconscious of childhood betrayals, must idealise their parents. To them, the parents can do no wrong. For that reason they act out their denied rage on others.Thats right our Child Within at first is rage filled.

Collectively, We an immature culture or nation with a populace unwilling to investigate its collective trauma will unconsciously project its rage onto others—and create an enemy. Collective, unconscious rage hopes for an outlet in war. The unconscious nation always idealises its position. The culture or nation says things such as ‘We can do no wrong,’ ‘We are favoured by God,’ and ‘We are always right and always the victim.’ Violence begins in defence of the “noble” ideology of this self-righteous and immature people.

We who have communicated with our child within into maturity can approach conflict and an enemy in a nonreactive way. When an we work our program, he or she possesses power, authority, and consciousness to confront the raging child in another with detachment. We can approach a conflict, hear its issues, and resolve the matter in a safe, measured manner. If others become attacking, violent children, then our self-defence needs to remain detached, and not become an excuse to act out unconscious rage in return. Our  we ourselves need to approach self-defence in an enlightened manner.

There will be actual enemies and threats to our rights and security, but conscious confrontation and peaceful resolution of conflict is possible for us who are emancipated from childhood pain. Healed adults seek conscious, diplomatic ways to address a foe. Fighting fire with fire is a last resort. Actualised adults needn’t brutalise each other or jeopardise our own survival to resolve conflict, but can artfully, consciously, and efficiently convert a disturbance into peace.





The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages