Dissociation is a powerful method of control, a survival strategy lodged in the subconscious that rules our life today

Dissociation is a powerful method of control, a survival strategy lodged in the subconscious that rules our life today often created in the powerlessness of childhood as an escape from unacceptable levels of pain, doubt and disbelief as a comforter for abuse and disrespect.

We who have learned dissociation cannot handle the pain and vulnerability of growth are consigned to stay stuck in our subconscious childhood life. We must keep our true selves buried from the world’s eye and from our own. We cannot face our full range of feelings because this feels too dangerous. These feeling tell our truth. We must instead act out our dissociated inner truth – our buried pain and rage – in disguised form, through addictions and self-destructive behaviours and inappropriate relationships (most notably with our own children), and even physical illness. The body tells the truth when the conscious psyche cannot.




The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages