We looked up addiction in online dictionaries: “The condition of being habitually or compulsively occupied with or involved in something.”

We looked up addiction in on-line dictionaries: “The condition of being habitually or compulsively occupied with or involved in something.” 

That sounds accurate.”The state of being enslaved to a habit or practice.” Well, that certainly fits! “And the last one: “Habitual psychological and physiological dependence on a practice beyond one’s voluntary control.” That definition fit completely. We COULD NOT stop dissociating when we wanted to.We do not attach a moral judgment to the word “Addiction”. It is a simple statement of fact. We did not make the choice to voluntarily start using dissociation to get through life. We did not make the choice to continue to use it. We would not be alive today if We had not learned and used the skill of dissociation. But it is now beyond our control and is now unnecessary in our life. Naming this addiction at the Stages gives me tools to use so we can let go of it. 
We become able to be more patient with ourself and more effective in overcoming it....OK. So We know we are addicted. But exactly what are we addicted TO?


The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages