We encounter the child within that’s been in hiding. You see, because we hid it from others, we hid it from ourselves.

The deepest core feelings of the child within are grief, toxic shame and loneliness. We were traumatised by our parents abandoning us. We feel we are bad, as if we’re contaminated, and that shame leads to loneliness. Since our child within feels flawed and defective, We have to cover up our true child within with our adapted, false self. We then come to identify ourself by our false self. Our true self the child within remains alone and isolated.Forever seeking answers for its abandonment.

Staying with this last layer of painful feelings is the hardest part of the grief process. It’s hard to stay at that level of shame and loneliness; but as we embrace these feelings, we come out the other side. We encounter the child within that’s been in hiding. You see, because we hid it from others, we hid it from ourselves. In embracing our shame and loneliness, we begin to touch our child within..






The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

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