Our frozen child within is caused by intense fear during childhood.

Our frozen child within is caused by intense fear during childhood. It means that our child was deathly afraid of being abandoned, which means death. Our child was deathly afraid of not being loved, which also means death to a child hidden within. (Children can die, literally die from lack of love.)

Our emotion stays frozen because the child within is not safe to express our reality within our environment. Instead of expressing reality and being validated for who we are, we put on a show for the caretaker. This show is a mask which represents the False adult orientated Self. This mask is not who we really are, but is what the caretaker needs her to be. It is only when we wear this mask that we gain acceptance needed for us to continue growing up into adolescence. This is the acceptance that will do, however, that doesn't mean it is healthy. It's like a plant growing up with a disease. As long as we wear these fake masks and as long as the original child within stays frozen in our heart, we will never fully bloom into true freedom.We will always seek to recreate and find a solution to our original childhood problems.



The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

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