The Child Withins path – one connected to ourself, our intuitive voice requires we to stay true to ourself.

We can easily fall into the belief that practising Loving-Kindness means that we don’t stand up for ourself, or that we are a push over.



But, nothing could be further from the truth.



The Child Withins path – one connected to ourself, our intuitive voice requires we to stay true to ourself.



This means speaking up. This means holding our ground when needed. It also means being able to admit when we are wrong.



The Child Withins recovery path means connecting to our heart, our deepest truth and living from that place. And our heart is not a push over. Let me tell you.



Our Heart knows how much we are worth. Your Child Within believes in you. Your Child Within knows when you need to set a boundary and when you should get over your own ego.



And sometimes your Heart asks you to stand up for yourself.



But, that can be hard on the path because we don’t want to come off as mean, aggressive or a hypocrite. However, holding our ground and being firm is our child withins true nature.



The question is – how can you do it without being rubber banded back into our old coping strategies? we are only used to setting boundaries in a mean spirited way as a last resort. Why? Because we get so fed up that we finally pop open and anger and resentment comes flying out.



It’s actually unkind to hold in what you are feeling and bottle it up so tight that no one sees. There’s nothing of loving kindness about that and you get no brownie points from your child within for holding back your truth.



The key is to address things when they come up.



You have to be aware of our needs. We have to be able to tap into what our child within is thinking and feeling. You have to be able to see it from our child's perspective and yet be firm in holding our ground.



Most of us don’t need a lesson in wisdom; we need a lesson in applying the wisdom that we know. And we pretend to be in touch with who we are, but in reality we are afraid to stand up for what our child within believes in.



We can and should stand up for what we believe in. Drawing a loving line in the sand can be a powerful declaration to ourself, our Child Within and others that we mean recovery business.



Hiding behind a pretend smile or the lie of “it’s all good” doesn’t serve us or others.



We are being asked to set and hold boundaries for topics that are important to our child within at last.



This is vital to being a Stager, to developing a powerful Child Within practice and for expressing our self-worth in our world.



How can we express what we need to in our recovery in a way that is loving?

The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.