The monkey is off my back.... but the circus is still in town..Coming to a realisation to believe that we remain addicted even if we have stopped our behaviours for many years.

<br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; clear: both; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; margin-top: 20px; orphans: 2; overflow: hidden; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> </div> <br /> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> <br /></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjuAW_ix4unmGs_HTNH9dMqBCgaY4n1gA2Q9uFjui1chBJpY2lBB-xihBts6i7YTPXUKt8mb_010nZWJIlP7qk1_zEp8yFjoFLn71YD2xy21R4Q_Z-V5-2UtWZXSdmgo6eRKowO-5sdlCae/s1600/1-images+%25281%2529monkey.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="348" data-original-width="301" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjuAW_ix4unmGs_HTNH9dMqBCgaY4n1gA2Q9uFjui1chBJpY2lBB-xihBts6i7YTPXUKt8mb_010nZWJIlP7qk1_zEp8yFjoFLn71YD2xy21R4Q_Z-V5-2UtWZXSdmgo6eRKowO-5sdlCae/s320/1-images+%25281%2529monkey.jpg" width="276" /></a></span></span></div> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">The monkey is off my back.... but the circus is still in town..Coming to a realisation to believe that we remain addicted even if we have stopped our behaviours for many years. That our real addiction is to our dissociations escapist behaviour. Our roots of all our addictions. Several years ago we started wondering if the defences we commonly used could possibly be termed addiction. We knew they were habitual.</span></span><br /> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;"><span> </span><br />We knew they happened spontaneously, like a reflex, without time for us to stop and reflect whether or not this was the response we wanted to use; We knew that when we tried to use other responses it was exceedingly difficult and required much continual work on our part.We looked up addiction in online dictionaries: “The condition of being habitually or compulsively occupied with or involved in something.”<span> </span><br /><br />That sounds accurate.”The state of being enslaved to a habit or practice.” Well, that certainly fits! “And the last one: “Habitual psychological and physiological dependence on a practice beyond one’s voluntary control.” That definition fit completely. We COULD NOT stop dissociating when we wanted to.We do not attach a moral judgment to the word “Addiction”. It is a simple statement of fact. We did not make the choice to voluntarily start using dissociation to get through life. We did not make the choice to continue to use it. We would not be alive today if We had not learned and used the skill of dissociation. But it is now beyond our control and is now unnecessary in our life. Naming this addiction at the Stages gives me tools to use so we can let go of it.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;"><span style="font-style: normal;"> </span><br /><i>We become able to be more patient with ourself and more effective in overcoming it....OK. So We know we are addicted. But exactly what are we addicted TO?</i><br />Researching the term “dissociation” We found this definition by Dr. Bennett Braun: “the separation of an idea or thought process from the main stream of consciousness” (Braun, 1988). Everybody uses dissociation. People use it to screen out unnecessary stimuli. With un-traumatised people, this is a choice and not problematical. Any time a person is focused in on something to the exclusion of one or more aspects of present day reality, they are using dissociation. Everyone here has used this – perhaps when reading a book, or practicing a musical instrument, or figuring out income tax. That kind of dissociation is helpful<br />Another way to think of dissociation is as a method of dealing with trauma by not knowing about it. The memory of events may be split into separate components. Dr. Bennett Braun developed the BASK model; an easy way to understand this. BASK stands for Behaviour, Affect, Sensation and Knowledge.<br />If any one of these is missing in your memory of an event, then we are dissociating. “Behaviour” is the action associated with an event. in times of stress, we find ourself putting our hand on the back of our neck. We would do this unknowingly, with no conscious memories or reasons. This is a behaviour that originally we found meaningless. We become aware that when we do this, our mind would blank and we would lose all our thought processes.<br /><br />Affect is the emotions one has in response to an event.<span style="font-style: normal;"> </span><br />"An example of this happened to me recently when doing dishes. I became aware that putting my hands into the warm dishwater brought a feeling of terror to me. I had no idea why. I just had a sensation and an affect (emotion) but no knowledge.Sometimes I get knowledge of events from my past, but have absolutely no corresponding emotion or sensations to go with them." The affect (emotion) and sensations are walled off in a separate compartment. I can accept that this experience happened, but it certainly did not happen to “ME”, whoever “Me”might be. I can flip back and forth between feeling the emotion, or feeling the sensation, or having the knowledge, but I am unable to put them all together in one package and claim ownership. I have a simultaneous knowing and not knowing of disturbing information."<br /><br />Sometimes we dissociate sensation – We can have the knowledge that we were sexually molested. But we have had no physical sensations to go along with this – just the knowledge. We have a student who experiences the opposite – sensation is the one element she has NOT dissociated. She has all the physical feelings of events but no knowledge of what the events are. Whether or not you define yourself as having Dissociation, if you have experienced severe trauma and have not completely healed from it, you DO dissociate in a way which interferes with your ability to live your life the way you would choose. An alcoholic uses a chemical to dissociate; a good dissociative doesn't need alcohol. Our minds can do it for free!<br /><br />We have a Core identity our child within which is the original person born in the body. Through repeated trauma, if the defences of numbing and dissociation have repeatedly been used, the authentic self The Child Within, our core, the identity may become out of reach and its existence even forgotten. But as long as the body lives, the Child Within is alive, although parts may be cut off from the Child Within, or may have been led to believe the Child has died. The Child Within is the age of the body and usually goes by the birth name or nickname, although that is not always true.It took us a long while to accept the existence of a Child Within. We could not feel our child, see him/her, or hear the child within. Some of us were convinced they we had witnessed the Child within dying. Be aware, this is never true – the Child Within CANNOT die, if the body does not die. The Child Within can experience near death, and be unconscious, but it is STILL THERE.<br /><br />We gradually came to accept the fact that we do have a Child Within, and now most of us believe this, although we still have parts of us that refuse to recognise this<br />truth. We have been asked how the Child Within can be recognised. If you have watched a baby for a while, you will readily see the Child Within unless the baby has already experienced extreme trauma.<br /><br />Internal rules can point to the existence of the Child Within. If you cannot find your Child Within, ask yourself what rules all parts inside obey. A common one for survivors is “No outside children may be harmed”. Another principle of ours has been that no matter how much we don’t want to, we will stay alive for our children. These rules or principles that apply across the board obviously must originate from some central part of us. What is that central part?<span style="font-style: normal;"> </span><br />We have found it is invariably either the Child Within or the intuitive voice that is very close to the Child Within. Another way the Child Within can be recognised is by feedback from other people. when people respond to us, we gradually realised they were all responding to some common characteristics within us that we had not ever been aware that we had! We dubbed this the SHINE. We evidently exhibit these<br />characteristics no matter who we feel like inside.<br /><br />A way we recognise the ABSENCE of the Child with is when we feel boredom. The only times we experience boredom are the times in which we are not Child Within present; the times we do not have our inner intuitive voice available. At these times, nothing holds our attention, nothing seems worthwhile, there is nothing we can latch onto. Nothing outside of ourself will satisfy. We can be temporarily distracted by external things, but only when we find what is missing internally does our boredom really lift.<br /><br />Make no mistake, We are addicted to dissociation. When we chose this topic, almost a year ago, we thought – with a full year to work on this, we can easily break this addiction. Well, it did not happen! Just as many people use substances to avoid facing difficulties, reaching for a substance to soften the edges of harsh reality so they can slip through life more smoothly, We reflexively go away inside when we brush up against something difficult, and we are gone before we know it.<br /><br />The cause can be triggers when we are subconsciously reminded of something from our past, it can be difficult emotions, it can be boredom, it can be relationships we are not sure how to handle, it can be social situations – the causes seem endless. Any time we do not live in the present, in this moment and our life. We could still guide them, but it had to be at one step removed so that our own, original personality, the Child Within, did not show to take care of daily business.</span></span></div> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The monkey is off my back.... but the circus is still in town..Coming to a realisation to believe that we remain addicted even if we have stopped our behaviours for many years.

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At the core of the ten stages is our conception, that deep within we are perfect. We are born imbued with truth, a spark of the divine.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgIc4lxYVGbR4sxYGDZsagDQ332pqdXlXlwk8F4FQ3Nh6dJ8C1If3zxYatZU56f7JPQnTaTYTq0eVvPhULPow8R-kQruAdMHH7p7bnnJ5mQya8noZjE7X651tDTcV5xmEssXAIgDHcuW7MQ/s1600/within+child.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="192" data-original-width="192" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgIc4lxYVGbR4sxYGDZsagDQ332pqdXlXlwk8F4FQ3Nh6dJ8C1If3zxYatZU56f7JPQnTaTYTq0eVvPhULPow8R-kQruAdMHH7p7bnnJ5mQya8noZjE7X651tDTcV5xmEssXAIgDHcuW7MQ/s1600/within+child.jpeg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">At the core of the ten stages is our conception, that deep within we are perfect. We are born imbued with truth, a spark of the divine. And no matter what happens to us on our life’s journey, at the core of each of us remains a true and perfect self. We recognise and call The Child Within. This is one of the mysteries of life and also one of the saving graces of human existence. No matter what traumas we endured during our childhood, even during our troubled days in the womb, our core remains inviolate, untainted, sacred, and pure.<br /><br />But why are we sacred? Our humanity is sacred because of our capacity to interface with truth. Our true self is that juncture where our human limits interface with the expansiveness of the truth in all things.<br />Yet until we differentiate from our parents and their traumatic legacy, some degree of our true self remains buried and unknowable. An undifferentiated adult cannot live consonant with his or her true self and instead remains a reflection of limited parents.</span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br />If we remain subject to the damning, fearful, and coercive parental voices housed in our child within since childhood, we have not found our true voice or our true identity, but remain a reflection of those who wounded and attempted to control us. To embrace the truth of who we are we must each break from our parental voices, individuate, and become our own person—aligned with the truth that runs through ourselves and out into all things.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

At the core of the ten stages is our conception, that deep within we are perfect. We are born imbued with truth, a spark of the divine.

At the core of the ten stages is our conception, that deep within we are perfect. We are born imbued with truth, a spark of the divine. An...

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Emotionally Brutalised by our experiences of dissociation at an early age

<br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwMsj90uNWSnvMz5t81NeU_8RMUVSp5Rp7szrEgUa6Z808fq8IIAP__nQuDcxTcGDQ2f9h0lk33imhj96odB9Nhvcl-84inaX1yO8GaFhmphqUtGPiq9iLk44OpetKNGjACkUfZIHQYxU-/s1600/abstract-lights-broken-photography-light-bulbs-bulb-852x480.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="480" data-original-width="852" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwMsj90uNWSnvMz5t81NeU_8RMUVSp5Rp7szrEgUa6Z808fq8IIAP__nQuDcxTcGDQ2f9h0lk33imhj96odB9Nhvcl-84inaX1yO8GaFhmphqUtGPiq9iLk44OpetKNGjACkUfZIHQYxU-/s320/abstract-lights-broken-photography-light-bulbs-bulb-852x480.jpg" width="320" /></a></span></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Emotionally Brutalised by our experiences of dissociation at an early age, that has lead us into the jaws of addiction causing rejection of family, friends and society. This is not easily overcome, and is much more easily internalised. We can’t underestimate this trauma and its profound effect. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">This explains why we act out in so many self-destructive ways. To know the pain of the past and integrate its torture is terrible work. Yet, not to get beyond our pain and instead simply to act out our traumas or sink into conformity, depression, addiction, and conventional living destroys our gift as outsiders and truth seekers. And we deceive ourselves when we call criticism of our bad behaviour addiction.</span><br /> <br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> </div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Society may fear us and even hate us, but we can help to redeem them—and us all. Everyone can use our cathartic process of recovery as a paradigm for the profound change required for all of us if we are to survive. We need to come out of our dissociated sleep and change our addiction orientation into our orientation to life itself in this new form of recovery.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Emotionally Brutalised by our experiences of dissociation at an early age

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Being unaware of the ten stages is like being a pin cushion to a sensory stimulation bombardment that exists all around us

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvCFx1g-D32kMB09eUJA6yNHDCPkSujDRl4s01ucIIADwkwhmQVTxYHrrbhpw-h-WZFZXyEx9daaYKtDnqcPwWYQDNQuOMypSlQsIET-6WOcvq89tnbjfxIlKNO7R5-NtD_O-MHZLPJB-6/s1600/10+stage+and+did.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="789" data-original-width="940" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvCFx1g-D32kMB09eUJA6yNHDCPkSujDRl4s01ucIIADwkwhmQVTxYHrrbhpw-h-WZFZXyEx9daaYKtDnqcPwWYQDNQuOMypSlQsIET-6WOcvq89tnbjfxIlKNO7R5-NtD_O-MHZLPJB-6/s320/10+stage+and+did.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: courier new, courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Being unaware of the ten stages is like being a pin cushion to a sensory stimulation bombardment that exists all around us. The images, the colours, the words, the sounds, all attempting to grasp at and hold us locked into our constructed shadow selves where one's worth and needs drive all the actions of our machine like existence. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: courier new, courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: courier new, courier, monospace; font-size: large;">All the while, we tenuously believe everything to be of our own suggestion and doing, that we are autonomous and free. Only the conscious child within can see the wild dance of the modern world for what it is, and go beyond the stimuli to reach into the higher plains of their existence.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Being unaware of the ten stages is like being a pin cushion to a sensory stimulation bombardment that exists all around us

Being unaware of the ten stages is like being a pin cushion to a sensory stimulation bombardment that exists all around us. The images, th...

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Ten Stages has found that we cannot examine the workings of our mind from afar, if we are unaware of how our mind's continual thought-streams of low-presence grasping thoughts

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjd1thpOYuoGShk7MJzB7JIRM3Z2LbegCBGSJ8l3JK6FzGqXCbg-5WlCLWx5Cc7IZ-lKtrDEmi_ttD_-KgNlshc26R02m7xUsMr18WCnaGWSwMxwO51gRSNgDnN5W13x_nsL_9Mcj4c5Qx6/s1600/onelife56.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="789" data-original-width="940" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjd1thpOYuoGShk7MJzB7JIRM3Z2LbegCBGSJ8l3JK6FzGqXCbg-5WlCLWx5Cc7IZ-lKtrDEmi_ttD_-KgNlshc26R02m7xUsMr18WCnaGWSwMxwO51gRSNgDnN5W13x_nsL_9Mcj4c5Qx6/s320/onelife56.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Ten Stages has found that we cannot examine the workings of our mind from afar, if we are unaware of how our mind's continual thought-streams of low-presence grasping thoughts that has us trapped in a non-reality or an illusion of constant dissociation. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Then we are unaware that we suffer from an illness that affects the many individuals that make up the whole of this system, and it is a sickness whose symptoms reveal themselves as minds racing to nowhere, rambling over and over and upon themselves to the point of madness, and that usually end up creating or inviting negativity onto themselves and those around them.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ten Stages has found that we cannot examine the workings of our mind from afar, if we are unaware of how our mind's continual thought-streams of low-presence grasping thoughts

Ten Stages has found that we cannot examine the workings of our mind from afar, if we are unaware of how our mind's continual thought-...

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The deep Illusions that leads to dissociation addiction explained

<div dir="ltr" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNYPypK6KsLd6h5GF7nnyw7jLTVFzLWUxhv7EyO-2kTDgEccpPyVH023ZgDtBzWHSH8qIFxUnaWaaicf2Q6i6m2t2ASO_EczTNEdyQ5-Z102OpZWr3tpo_R0WkU3eNkxfiI3IE25Z1fD-J/s1600/onelife56.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="789" data-original-width="940" height="167" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNYPypK6KsLd6h5GF7nnyw7jLTVFzLWUxhv7EyO-2kTDgEccpPyVH023ZgDtBzWHSH8qIFxUnaWaaicf2Q6i6m2t2ASO_EczTNEdyQ5-Z102OpZWr3tpo_R0WkU3eNkxfiI3IE25Z1fD-J/s200/onelife56.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The deep Illusions that leads to dissociation addiction explained: Although society and most people – and of course popular music – hold being “in love” as the ideal state of human existence, they are all deluding themselves, literally. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Being in love is little more than the state of transferring onto some new person – our “love object” – all our repressed childhood hopes that our parents will finally come to rescue us. This hope, which is the root of all addictions, is so intense that if we actually believe that it can be fulfilled it sends us into the deepest emotional orbit, more intense even than heroin.</span></div> <div dir="ltr" trbidi="on"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">No wonder most of us desperately strive for it.But instead inherit the hole in the soul of no emotional maturity just the constant longing for love fulfilment and its next addictional fix. A constant bargaining with a love delusion dissociation.This societal programming has to be reversed so that self worth and self love can sprout into the happiness we so richly deserve instead of the delusion of love dissociation slavery.The Ten Stages addresses this problem of love slavery during its meetings tracking and exploding the myths of romantic love.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The deep Illusions that leads to dissociation addiction explained

The deep Illusions that leads to dissociation addiction explained: Although society and most people – and of course popular music – hold ...

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The Ten Stage message is based on loving-kindness and compassion for our individual truth and it has worked in this trying year in which I have experienced strokes, kidney failure seven heart attacks, two close encounters with death and the fitting of a heart pacemaker. I secretly doubted this program yet I amazed the hospital staff by using no pain medications and making speedy recovery regaining the use of my hands, speech and sight my faith has deepened and I know this works beyond our wildest dreams for everyone.Is it difficult no it is not.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhD1hNa4DBNKU5ry7suMR0j1qCOPl09L1VUp7viry9i_TuN-IxpvJ8RWSFehw7CrB7HJumhnAs29l_KprBxsz71wUv8rY3H_95GFZohrrlwEIEJo6sCUcYdWTV_2-a9IfD9aSb3MUDmL0kR/s1600/1-0d59d084b1e3f54dd3c76257b0fc2c84.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="312" data-original-width="293" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhD1hNa4DBNKU5ry7suMR0j1qCOPl09L1VUp7viry9i_TuN-IxpvJ8RWSFehw7CrB7HJumhnAs29l_KprBxsz71wUv8rY3H_95GFZohrrlwEIEJo6sCUcYdWTV_2-a9IfD9aSb3MUDmL0kR/s1600/1-0d59d084b1e3f54dd3c76257b0fc2c84.jpg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">When we hear the truthful strong messages in the ten stages we become shocked, defensive our childhood experiences weren't that bad we say because we have been used to being deceived and told how grown up, adult and smart and wise and enlightened and healthy we already are?<br /><br /><br />We are actively encouraged being told it was just fine for us to have our children. We have become used to being told that our abuse of our children is not really abuse and that our conditional love for our children really was love.<br /><br /><br />We have become used to being told that our own lies and insanity are actually perfectly healthy and normal. We are used to listening to false gurus and old prophets when we have problems. We are used to being told that our mindless behaviour was wise, and that we are doing the right thing by building a wall between our consciousness and the wrenching pain of our true, deep spirit of our child hidden within.<br /><br /><br />Lies we have got used to being told that our culture is healthy, our treatment of the earth’s resources was progressive, our romantic relationships are beautiful, our love for our parents was appropriate and warranted, our histories of abuse are overrated, our gurus are indeed gurus, our wars are largely justified, our petty prejudices are acceptable as long as we did not push them in others’ faces, and that our hatreds were rational.<br /><br /><br /><i>We are used to being placated and numbed and medicated and enslaved and psychically castrated by those who are profiting from our herd mentality. And we have always thought this was what love was.</i><br /><br /><br />We have become very uncomfortable that the ten stages would dare to contradict everything we hold dear. Challenge our so-called recovery vision, yet the ten Stages message resonated with us on some deep and long-forgotten level. We are not used to hearing the truth. It makes us curious. And it also makes some of us violently reject this message.I was one such person but this is a course of study and experiential loving action with all others.It is based on loving-kindness and compassion for our individual truth and it has worked in this trying year in which I have experienced strokes, kidney failure seven heart attacks, two close encounters with death and the fitting of a heart pacemaker. I secretly doubted this program yet I amazed the hospital staff by using no pain medications and making speedy recovery regaining the use of my hands, speech and sight my faith has deepened and I know this works beyond our wildest dreams for everyone.Is it difficult no it is not.</span><div class="sharedaddy sd-sharing-enabled" style="background-color: white; border-radius: 0px; border: 0px; clear: both; color: #373737; font-family: "helvetica neue", helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 19.5px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; zoom: 1;"> <div class="robots-nocontent sd-block sd-social sd-social-icon-text sd-sharing" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-left-width: 0px; border-radius: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-top: 1px solid rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.13); font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 5px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 584px; zoom: 1;"> <div class="sd-content" style="border-radius: 0px; border: 0px; float: right; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: -2px 0px 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 479.609px;"> <ul style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; list-style: square; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px !important; vertical-align: baseline; zoom: 1;"> <li style="background: none; border: none; display: block; float: left; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; list-style: none; margin: 0px 5px 5px 0px !important; outline: 0px; padding: 0px !important; vertical-align: baseline;"><a class="sharing-anchor sd-button share-more" href="http://wildtruth.net/sermon-on-the-mount-radical-new/#" style="background: -webkit-linear-gradient(top, rgb(247, 247, 247) 0%, rgb(239, 239, 239) 100%); border-radius: 3px; border: 1px solid rgb(221, 221, 221); box-shadow: rgb(255, 255, 255) 0px 1px 0px inset; color: black; display: inline-block; line-height: 1; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration-line: none; vertical-align: baseline;"></a></li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Ten Stage message is based on loving-kindness and compassion for our individual truth and it has worked in this trying year in which I have experienced strokes, kidney failure seven heart attacks, two close encounters with death and the fitting of a heart pacemaker. I secretly doubted this program yet I amazed the hospital staff by using no pain medications and making speedy recovery regaining the use of my hands, speech and sight my faith has deepened and I know this works beyond our wildest dreams for everyone.Is it difficult no it is not.

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Can you make it simple? This is the question asked. The problem is that it is very very simple because its written by a child within.

<br /> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: white; color: black; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> </div> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg45hDRA0gvMpU63o9qWouti_cBS5dgF1Xmh7KsFEMAsQNKpIrvPPP-u7vpYNw8RYlQm9Gjq9Z1oMwURmZy7u7YwEU2KCJCkYjyScoi47MVE2ZXUmfcDl-J_fisXL6Di5AkIdtAhZCV9CpY/s1600/marb234-28.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="413" data-original-width="620" height="133" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg45hDRA0gvMpU63o9qWouti_cBS5dgF1Xmh7KsFEMAsQNKpIrvPPP-u7vpYNw8RYlQm9Gjq9Z1oMwURmZy7u7YwEU2KCJCkYjyScoi47MVE2ZXUmfcDl-J_fisXL6Di5AkIdtAhZCV9CpY/s200/marb234-28.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Can you make it simple? This is the question asked. The problem is that it is very very simple because its written by a child within.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">It’s not over. It’s not too late to join us.<br />And what’s to come can be so magnificently simple, if we can but know that we are guided in every moment and learn to trust that guidance of our freed intuitive voice.<span> </span><br /><br />There is a gap between what we know is possible in our lives and our current life circumstance.<span> </span><br /><br />We have come to think think it’s a dance between our shadow self, a grown up self and our child within.<span> </span><br /><br />That is to say, our child within and our now aged human body.<br /><br />Our Child Within is Infinite, and yet we are limited. The play between these two co-existing realities creates the friction that can move life excitingly forward.<br /><br />We aspire, we aim to better ourselves, to reach a higher level – not because of the success of money, but rather because – whether we know it or not – we aim to embody our Child Withins potential here on Earth.<br /><br />That potential is nothing short of Infinite. That our child within is the embodiment of Love. That potential means we are free. That potential is connected to  ourselves and others. That potential knows that we never walk alone and that we are indeed truly limitless.<br /><br /><br />Yet – at the exact same time, we are limited. We are fragile. We are imperfect, broken at times and not connected. We are not free.<br /><br /><br />It is the purpose of life to reconnect to our Child located within in what seems to be a limited life.<span> </span><br /><br />To do this, we must begin to see the circumstances of our lives with the new eyes of our child within.<br /><br />We can choose to see that, even in hardship, we can find our Child hidden within.<br /><br /><br />When we find our Child, we can know that we are not alone.<br /><br /> Our loneliness is our Child calling us. And that instead of medicating our pain in dissociation , to face it.<br /><br />We can find ourselves stuck. And we are stuck because we are not honouring this calling out of our Child.<span> </span><br /><br />The way to honour our child is not just with green juice dissociation, gluten free food and yoga – but with our courageous contact.<br /><br /><i>The fear of truthful action directed by ourselves that terrifies our mind.</i><br /><br />If we want to look at what we really know, look inside our actions and dissociations.<br /><br /><i>Knowing something and understanding something are two different things.<span> </span></i><br />Let’s switch from understanding to embodying our child withins calling.<br /><br />Take that risk. Trust ourselves. Love ourselves. Embody our Child Withins calling. Take risks on behalf of our Child.<br /><br />We will become intuitively guided; we are and naturally have power and authority.<br /><br />The best is truly yet to come if we can but trust our intuitive voice.<br /><br />When it feels like nothing is happening, know that many times our Child is silently working within us before we can see anything change externally, but others can.<br /><br />Get in Contact. And know that in this moment – we are exactly where we’re supposed to be.</span></div> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Can you make it simple? This is the question asked. The problem is that it is very very simple because its written by a child within.

Can you make it simple? This is the question asked. The problem is that it is very very simple because its written by a child within....

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We sense that with patience and perseverance we can bring the light of our original truth into all the dark and unconscious recesses of our constructed shadow self

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6uaTWdnZhM0sro0K90yXdQf3s0L1aTTYF14U8S5BXiqdrMyoJUaOntZmNOfmzc-OkJ3mdwBIhCyp1T6_0oOTXNyrpFdxeEa2PB-BMBcipNOHOOZ72cSTel6IEeOnkgcHXKlJXyuz-F-El/s1600/1-child+abuse.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="698" data-original-width="698" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6uaTWdnZhM0sro0K90yXdQf3s0L1aTTYF14U8S5BXiqdrMyoJUaOntZmNOfmzc-OkJ3mdwBIhCyp1T6_0oOTXNyrpFdxeEa2PB-BMBcipNOHOOZ72cSTel6IEeOnkgcHXKlJXyuz-F-El/s320/1-child+abuse.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br />The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com..</span><span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">as our child hidden Within we originally intuited our basic birthright of truth but our godlike parents contradicted us. </span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">They claimed to love us but often behaved differently. Our confusion as children is understandable: in needing to believe in the goodness of our parents we, in our dependency, had no choice but to doubt ourselves. They lied to us, and where they did we became dissociated. We became as they were.  Now we are adults. We no longer live under their influence, however mild or extreme it was, or under the historic social systems that support them. We have options.</span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"> This is the privilege of adulthood, and the privilege of the insight that comes with it. We again intuit truth and discover that when we are honest we do not die, but instead feel affirmed. This leads us to believe that the truth at our core is more powerful than the lies imposed upon us by our upbringing. </span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We sense that with patience and perseverance we can bring the light of our original truth into all the dark and unconscious recesses of our constructed shadow self and into all the paralysed sides of our personality. We sense that we can become fully conscious, which by definition is awakened.</span></div> </div>

We sense that with patience and perseverance we can bring the light of our original truth into all the dark and unconscious recesses of our constructed shadow self

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Born in the North of England practiced worldwide The Ten Stages has become one of the greatest human exploration and adventure practices. It is about rebuilding our own autonomous healthy self worth , a renewed childhood experience of what it means to be truly restored to a sane healthy life.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrS1rUpyj9qMDzEy53DPZ3m58XPbV7Klvfjh90YxoZwnRY3tjjnVJ0zmnHu314R-1yE6aRR0MW3XlOCczG5913DQD-WdDpeuiPfzbbgL-TqXL5mAcFoA9-wmml5PNKrfQHaobzADuZXxeX/s1600/DSC_0464.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrS1rUpyj9qMDzEy53DPZ3m58XPbV7Klvfjh90YxoZwnRY3tjjnVJ0zmnHu314R-1yE6aRR0MW3XlOCczG5913DQD-WdDpeuiPfzbbgL-TqXL5mAcFoA9-wmml5PNKrfQHaobzADuZXxeX/s320/DSC_0464.JPG" width="320" /></a></div> <span class="_5yi_" style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 17px; font-style: italic; line-height: 28px; white-space: pre-wrap;">Born in the North of England practiced worldwide The Ten Stages has become one of the greatest human exploration and adventure practices. It is about rebuilding our own autonomous healthy self worth , a renewed childhood experience of what it means to be truly restored to a sane healthy life. </span><br /> <span class="_5yi_" style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 17px; font-style: italic; line-height: 28px; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span> <span style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 28px; white-space: pre-wrap;">When we trump a our right to make autonomous decisions we send a powerful message to others that we are incompetent and play a victims role. By giving us this stigmatised label We teach ourselves not to trust. We teach that this experience is a pathology rather than an opportunity for self-study and growth. We have been taught that our “symptoms” or “defences” are problems rather than a window into a world of deeper meaning and history. We teach that life’s answers are outside of ourselves, that the truth is not within us, and that our best bet is not to look within for guidance. The Ten Stages is a autonomous self teaching practice owned by yourself and completed by yourself. We meet ourselves sometimes for the first time on a level playing field of recovered self esteem and acknowledge that we have the choice to be free.</span><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <blockquote class="tr_bq"> It is  the greatest human exploration of our inheritance  an adventure based recovery practice of singular kindness that spreads out to encompass our whole planet and it is available to each and every one of us as a health based individual........NOW</blockquote> <div> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

Born in the North of England practiced worldwide The Ten Stages has become one of the greatest human exploration and adventure practices. It is about rebuilding our own autonomous healthy self worth , a renewed childhood experience of what it means to be truly restored to a sane healthy life.

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"The only real valuable thing is our intuition." - Albert Einstein

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiuGDWow0qIkbkRnq2rmQXgjvAEFf8Rl8s3ww9baIaUKT4AyPO991S2c6bUtLcKIWK4mAxKWyPhRZw10WldP9BldrXPbdoS1HjDF0f04xv5S4nXsPjhAKv4UeEvQsNgcgDBJNCZL1TT9EUS/s1600/1-1-1-going-marseille600.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="300" data-original-width="600" height="160" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiuGDWow0qIkbkRnq2rmQXgjvAEFf8Rl8s3ww9baIaUKT4AyPO991S2c6bUtLcKIWK4mAxKWyPhRZw10WldP9BldrXPbdoS1HjDF0f04xv5S4nXsPjhAKv4UeEvQsNgcgDBJNCZL1TT9EUS/s320/1-1-1-going-marseille600.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><i>"The only real valuable thing is our intuition."<br />- Albert Einstein</i></span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><i>"The more we trust our intuition, the more empowered we become, the stronger we become, and the happier we become."</i></span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">We are discussing our choices in regular life that scare us.<br />THOSE are the choices that we have to make. Why? Because the messages we get from our intuition, are calling us out into our truth – and we are naturally scared of our truth. It’s just the way that it is.<br /><br />So, if we are too scared to make a choice: to quit a job, to start a business, to leave the relationship – and we know we must make this choice or live an unfulfilled life – then <b><i>THAT</i></b> is the choice that will lead us to our liberation and fulfillment.<br /><br /><br />It’s not that we aren’t intuitive - it’s that we are scared of our intuition, and hence we hide out in our dissociations and ultimately in our addictions that few of us return from.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, FreeMono, monospace; font-size: 12px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, FreeMono, monospace; font-size: 12px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, FreeMono, monospace; font-size: 12px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, FreeMono, monospace; font-size: 12px;" /><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

"The only real valuable thing is our intuition." - Albert Einstein

"The only real valuable thing is our intuition." - Albert Einstein "The more we trust our intuition, the more empowered we...

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Abuse and disrespect during our childhood creates within us a lost, fearful and frozen child.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhklNjEeKRrSytlQ6HZpDOQeDEpFewmds761VSNyK47EcPBLl_EjEDLgsq9RIWqnm45_tTVsarVUo7lGWktuDP7LSjS1ev8e5TOw7CHxpRKMyH3EQnKd3m6tS0QaO291Qq1Vdvo8B3jGGXJ/s1600/onelife56.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="789" data-original-width="940" height="167" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhklNjEeKRrSytlQ6HZpDOQeDEpFewmds761VSNyK47EcPBLl_EjEDLgsq9RIWqnm45_tTVsarVUo7lGWktuDP7LSjS1ev8e5TOw7CHxpRKMyH3EQnKd3m6tS0QaO291Qq1Vdvo8B3jGGXJ/s200/onelife56.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Abuse and disrespect during our childhood creates within us a lost, fearful and frozen child. If we are unable to reach this </span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">child within then we may never recover our true selves. We prefer to dissociate from the sufferings of childhood, so we bury our memories and hide from them. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We dissociate</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> from seeing deeply into the causes of our early suffering. Whenever the memories arise, however fleetingly, we think we cannot handle them and we deflect them into the deepest realms of our unconscious mind.We DISSOCIATE We are frightened of further suffering. As a result, the child hidden within may not be seen for a long time. Yet we have to find a way to reach our child within and make it into a safe reality. We have to regress the fear and address the dissociation, because that is the way to awakening into our true reality.</span><br /> <div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />No matter what kind of happy pretend face we present as an adult, there is also a dissociated little boy or girl inside us. This child within colours everything we do, generating our fears, insecurities and self-loathing, damaging our relationships and our life. That child within is you, is me, and we must extend a hand to that child so we can understand, defuse and transform the energy of our suffering. Kindfulness and the ten stages are the way through to the child within. We have to make contact exactly where we are caught by the past events, fearful, and angry at being neglected for so long.<br /><br />We must touch the seeds of childhood suffering from an adult state of Kindfulness and awareness, making it safe for that child to come out from behind closed basement doors. As adults, we can no longer run away, dissociation has ceased to be an adequate coping strategy. We must have the courage to bring healing to our soporific </span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">child within and thereby transform ourselves. And the stages we take are not only to heal ourselves we somehow connect to all children within, those of our ancestors and descendants and everyone else in the world. Because once we cultivate the seeds of Kindful healing in ourselves, the energy of these seeds extends into all that we connect with, in a quantum leap through time and space from our cellular memories to everyone else’s. With awareness, we take our child within into our daily life: we go on picnics, take walks, sit at the dining-room table, do the dishes together. We’re patient, realising that we’re on a splendid adventure to end a cycle of suffering that may have persisted over generations. Thus we are healing and transforming ingrained patterns transmitted to us from our ancestors and through us to our descendants, patterns that built up over time like corrosive rust and amplified the fears and suffering of our</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> child within.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <div> </div> </div> </div> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Abuse and disrespect during our childhood creates within us a lost, fearful and frozen child.

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Dissociation is a disorder involving a disturbance of our identity

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEheaMxMxXqGSJQ7l3KMTeIz76XpXak-KCqKviW4MdjCiZum2j9EvjXRfB5BX1xDbdSav_KHF8KlveE6VYPMpT61R1C-mk_KFHYunhvKwN2pm4yC2tlQV-B-rdjzFY_PB3R_zTVL3dxKG9_Y/s1600/1-trauma123.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="614" data-original-width="522" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEheaMxMxXqGSJQ7l3KMTeIz76XpXak-KCqKviW4MdjCiZum2j9EvjXRfB5BX1xDbdSav_KHF8KlveE6VYPMpT61R1C-mk_KFHYunhvKwN2pm4yC2tlQV-B-rdjzFY_PB3R_zTVL3dxKG9_Y/s320/1-trauma123.jpg" width="272" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Dissociation is a disorder involving a disturbance of our identity in which two or more separate and distinct personality states control our behaviour at different times. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">One identity may be different from another, and when we are under the influence of one of our identities, we may forget our experiences when we switch back to the other identity.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">When under the control of one identity, we are usually unable to remember some of the events that occurred while other personalities were in control.It appears that we have disappeared into a fog of dissociation. We may experience time loss, amnesia, and adopt different mannerisms, attitudes, speech and ideas under the influences of different personalities or DISSY masks. We are often unaware of the different lives we lead or our dissociated state in general, feeling as though we are looking at others life through the lens of someone else, and even being unable to recognise ourselves in a mirror. The Ten Stages are the only answer for this basic dysfunction of addiction and gently takes us back to recognise our self defeating self constructed masks. .</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Dissociation is a disorder involving a disturbance of our identity

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Emotional growth and mental health -- you cannot change the past, but you can change its impact.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhTfy5bdXoiN4RL0yuK1SG1GBlcyeGtMmAMRzMZv83f2ZzB_-b1H-zGOJiSJgjRehfuDGaKyiCKzlEGKY0VYH53gOURDLOHEEVxns7lg0-G9AevMdO_HF9wmFaSLZr8sYd-ufqZETjQ9jp/s1600/553237168-Zen-Child-Quote.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1078" data-original-width="745" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhTfy5bdXoiN4RL0yuK1SG1GBlcyeGtMmAMRzMZv83f2ZzB_-b1H-zGOJiSJgjRehfuDGaKyiCKzlEGKY0VYH53gOURDLOHEEVxns7lg0-G9AevMdO_HF9wmFaSLZr8sYd-ufqZETjQ9jp/s320/553237168-Zen-Child-Quote.jpg" width="221" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Emotional growth and mental health -- you cannot change the past, but you can change its impact. Children are impressionable -- they pay desperate attention to the social and emotional support system they find themselves in. They cannot survive on their own, so they learn very deeply what works with the adults around them -- that way they have a better chance of surviving. This is the theory of attachment and bonding.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">When childhood traumas are immediately followed by effective emotional support, the effects are ephemeral. Where insecure attachment prevails, the results can, in severe cases, disable that individual for a life time -- indeed until they can be persuaded, with enough emotional support, to revisit the trauma, and place it firmly into its childhood context.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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Polarisation of the shadow self self numbing Part of The First Stage of the TEN STAGES

<div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Syncopate; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Syncopate; font-size: 12px;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilnYFC74PB4a6FUegnma405iZLBUvWQ5B2YI4LJX_z6I3yGJDPE37HA5nLSjFriYF6nB-iIIqbFobpXKa6q1l3IjnXy0iZiZa25Z8U1O5yOOVo5WqaT4sB4m8b5Ru6PwRji2KK0Lw0RpdW/s1600/Stage+one.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="50" data-original-width="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilnYFC74PB4a6FUegnma405iZLBUvWQ5B2YI4LJX_z6I3yGJDPE37HA5nLSjFriYF6nB-iIIqbFobpXKa6q1l3IjnXy0iZiZa25Z8U1O5yOOVo5WqaT4sB4m8b5Ru6PwRji2KK0Lw0RpdW/s1600/Stage+one.jpg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">Starting Stage One. When outer influences intrude in our current life or from our family of origin, through derogatory attitudes, prejudices, unrealistic expectations, or when shocking or traumatic interactions happen, our child within can take over leadership from our Shadow Self. The child within can also take on historical family losses and burdens, and take in outer family system depressions, illnesses and emotional heaviness. As one part of self takes on an extremely protective role it unbalances the entire inner system and takes over the leadership responsibilities from the Authentic Self. When the parts of self become polarised, intense inner conflict and inner competition ensues within.<br /><br /><br /><u>Trauma of our childhood current and ancestral</u><br />When the people that we love, primarily live, identify, and express from one or more extreme parts of themselves, we will find ourselves adjusting our personalities in extreme ways to balance with and interact with them. When our outer interactions are unbalanced, we move out of our centre of our Authentic Self to belong and harmonise with our group or ancestral family system. The same thing happens in our inner family system. When trauma occurs - when we are abandoned, rejected, shocked, scared, or abused physically, sexually or emotionally - our inner family system polarises into diss-functioning extremes.<br /><br /><br /><u>Polarised Killer Shadow Self</u><br />Highly polarised shadow self are very rigid and defended. To try to change any part of ourselves without considering the often dysfunctional family system that it operates in - will activate strong resistance. It is helpful to be respectful towards the parts of ourselves that feel scared and defended as they are just trying to do their job to keep us damaged. Most people are polarised in their external family systems.<br /><br /><u>Ancestral Exiles </u></span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Syncopate; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">Any part that was hurt, rejected, scared, or shamed as child will often go into hiding and be repressed. These highly charged emotional sub-personalities become the exiles of our inner family system. These exiles are often overwhelmed with feelings of rejection and unlovability. Like any exiles, these parts become desperate to express themselves. They long for opportunities to break free and share their stories and their pain. They desperately want to be loved, listened to, accepted, and cared for. Often exiles also carry most of the feelings for the inner family system, because the other more managerial parts of self often dump their unwanted feelings onto the exiles to get on with the process of functional living.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Syncopate; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /><br />These hurt and rejected inner parts are very vulnerable, and if they are not brought forward into the light of consciousness with care and maturity, they can flood us with uncomfortable feelings and memories. They are also in danger of looking for love in unhealthy ways. They tend to want to look to redeem their inner pain in the same kinds of unhealthy situations that hurt them in the first place. These hurt and exiled parts of self will seek love, acceptance, and protection from the very types of people that cannot give it to them. This sets up a hopeless and repeating pattern of both inner and outer rejection.<br /><br />Many people mistakenly think that their sub-personalities are their Authentic Selves, as "shadow managers" can often be quite highly functioning, and even inspiring at times. Shadow Selves, however, live in constant fear and dread of the escape of the ancient ancestral voices of our past generations.<br /><br />It is important to note that the shadow self does not accept all parts of the self like the child within does. Shadow Selves try to control life in such a way as to avoid any person or situation that might trigger the emotional pain of the past. This control and repression can sometimes look very noble, spiritual, creative, and highly achieving. Highly functioning shadow selves can fill our lives with edifying and creative activities that in the long run feel empty, because they are done from avoidance of, and compensation for past emotional pain instead of self-acceptance.<br /><br />Our Shadow Self can be highly functioning and efficient in the world. We can accomplish great things - but in an unbalanced way - that is out of touch with the child within. Shadow selves in contrast to the child within are a forced and extreme role that polarises away from inner pain of our addictive nature. Shadow Selves must expend enormous amounts of energy to keep the repressed need, hurt, fear, and painful memories and sensations buried. From this place of dissociation we strive, control, try to be a perfectionist, or to gain approval, or we live in rigid denial of what is arising within.<br /><br />The Shadow self is ruled by ancient ancestral voices must sacrifice its-selves for the eternal dtysfunctioning shadow self and can rarely relax. The more competent these shadow selves</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"> become, the more we rely on them, and the more the child within is denied. Most often we can feel lonely, overwhelmed, and exhausted. Like the lost ancestors, our child within need love, balance, nurturance, fun, acceptance, care and rest. These ancestral voices from a long dead past - only being a redundant part of shadow self - come to believe that everything depends on them. The more they accomplish the less they believe in - or are willing listen to the wisdom of the perfect child within.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Syncopate; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /><br />When we become overwhelmed and exhausted with all the perceived responsibilities, the ancestors can become once more activated, and can threaten to take over our shadow selves. When the ancestors take over we can be uncontrollably flooded with difficult feelings. The emergency selfs firefighters will then swoop in to help us dissociate, or to douse the dreaded exiled feelings, with little regard for the consequences.<br /><br /><br />The techniques that the firefighting shadow self uses, include extreme and numbing activities such as self-mutilation, binge eating, drug or alcohol abuse, excessive eating or sexual activity, physical illness, or other extreme forms of dissociation. The aim of our self destructive firefighting self is to engage in any dissociative, distracting, or self-serving activity that will numb or distract from intensely arising emotional pain triggers.<br /><br /><br />This extreme mode of coping with emotional pain is the place that all unbalanced, addictive and obsessive behaviours come from. And while we appear controlled and organised and highly rational, the shadow selfs firefighters will use any means to numb emotional pain. These extremely self-focused behaviours often leave a wake of chaos and destruction , in relationships and in our physical body.<br /><br /><br />We struggle against some form of self-rejection and repression . When we understand the inner workings of our perfect child within, we can see becoming unconditionally present is a necessary practice to incorporate into our life.<br /><br /><br /><u>Restoring Balance, Harmony, to our child within</u><br /><br />Our perfect Child within already has everything encoded within itself to heal. Even the most conflicted inner internal addictive behaviour when challenged by the reality of the child within can heal itself - if the process of listening to all perspectives of our inner shadow world is honoured. When our freed child within takes its true seat within a reformed consciousness we will enjoy the process of seeing and expressing the new creation of our resurrected selves.<br /><br /><br />It is a relief and a joy to creatively explore and sort out the map of our psyche and understand how we uniquely operate. Through inner self-acceptance, the gifts and strengths that we buried along with our pain are finally able to come to the forefront for expression in our daily life.<br /><br /><br />It is most helpful however, to do this inner work when we are not living in a dangerous or triggering outer environment. Parts will have a hard time leaving their roles when they are continually be activated by other people. Often it is important to find a quiet time away from the stresses of life to explore the inner parts of our psyche.<br /><br /><br />It is profoundly relieving to discover firsthand that all parts of ourselves want to harmonise and contribute to our best life. Every part of us has a valuable role to play, and each part will eagerly leave their extreme roles given the love, self-acceptance, and inner nurturing that we can provide through our Core/Authentic Self the child within.<br /><br /><br />Our Creative Child Within can be a profoundly moving and fun process where we come to respect and appreciate all of the recovering parts of ourselves that have kept us safe, helped us function, and brought us intact to this present moment.</span></div> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Polarisation of the shadow self self numbing Part of The First Stage of the TEN STAGES

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The Aim of our Recovery is Self Autonomy

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7fr6c2tEbp414Qayt54NcXgJkNA-IMdo49ozCHak30cE-cz3LQKcJg-ZHqD4QfTx4aBEd9LteJ7JzoMgyZHBzFcWsDqC5x7IDVA8ut6AzFjpBn7wAgYS_eh2umdftv6LAx6rLvMoAwdh2/s1600/Stage+one.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="50" data-original-width="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7fr6c2tEbp414Qayt54NcXgJkNA-IMdo49ozCHak30cE-cz3LQKcJg-ZHqD4QfTx4aBEd9LteJ7JzoMgyZHBzFcWsDqC5x7IDVA8ut6AzFjpBn7wAgYS_eh2umdftv6LAx6rLvMoAwdh2/s1600/Stage+one.jpg" /></a></div> <br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Syncopate; font-size: 12px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">We can think of our Shadow Self as a demented mediator that seeks to depolarise the conflicts of our consciousness helping to sort out all of the varying needs that we have created inside ourselves. Our parts of the shadow self do not disappear when our dissociated Self takes up its false leadership. They simply become less extreme and they begin to hide all our unique gifts and purposes within their less dissociated roles. Sometimes our child within can develop gifts so profoundly they can even step into the leadership at times when given permission from our Shadow constructed Self. But without help and support will withdraw from leadership when the Shadow Self feels threatened.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Aim of our Recovery is Self Autonomy

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We are intent on building healthy self worth our goal is autonomy.Fellowships, religions, cults, gurus sponsors and mentors can and do become manifestations of the worst of our family systems.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjXfxZ0Fu4rntPc54QkhQrgcuy9Eg9XUmt_d34M6Jx-Y4a3DRZrxLMYrjTX6AUptlFsBZSKntKj6XkHcPCFIN2HvoSYr307CjRlu7tv9Mga8LtN1zO_M2Wi42AQwztiHnNQS_Vjcntn75Y8/s1600/brorecoveery.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="300" data-original-width="1200" height="80" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjXfxZ0Fu4rntPc54QkhQrgcuy9Eg9XUmt_d34M6Jx-Y4a3DRZrxLMYrjTX6AUptlFsBZSKntKj6XkHcPCFIN2HvoSYr307CjRlu7tv9Mga8LtN1zO_M2Wi42AQwztiHnNQS_Vjcntn75Y8/s320/brorecoveery.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We at the ten stages are intent on building healthy self worth our goal is autonomy.Fellowships, religions, cults, gurus sponsors and mentors can and do become manifestations of the worst of our family systems. They adhere to the same underlying dynamics of families but replace familial depression with an alluring, grandiose face, which is why so many underdeveloped souls seeking love swim in and get ensnared in their tentacles. And uncomfortable as it is to get swallowed by the beast, it’s an old and familiar tale – an adult recreation of the child’s dilemma of needing to fit into his family at all costs in order to survive.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We are intent on building healthy self worth our goal is autonomy.Fellowships, religions, cults, gurus sponsors and mentors can and do become manifestations of the worst of our family systems.

We at the ten stages are intent on building healthy self worth our goal is autonomy.Fellowships, religions, cults, gurus sponsors and ment...

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The deepest wound. My wound, your wound, Was the first, the most cutting, The damage done, Before we even knew who we were.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEihozQty8DVu88WN0Bud5j_ltO8Sb8frf9ivwyfcG2gQHGkB0KbnTFx6KzkYz1-pTyS9EChFp5yreZIXmCoyImfW2R3ZC6Tt7028O4au0sOlSJQ_m_mN1kc2cwRgBQdDmmdieC4nHRwNDUr/s1600/fraserjr.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="768" data-original-width="768" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEihozQty8DVu88WN0Bud5j_ltO8Sb8frf9ivwyfcG2gQHGkB0KbnTFx6KzkYz1-pTyS9EChFp5yreZIXmCoyImfW2R3ZC6Tt7028O4au0sOlSJQ_m_mN1kc2cwRgBQdDmmdieC4nHRwNDUr/s200/fraserjr.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The deepest wound.<br />My wound, your wound,<br />Was the first, the most cutting,<br />The damage done,<br />Before we even knew who we were.<br /><br />Just starting to look out,<br />To relate, to feel love,<br />Ready and willing to feel<br />The love we arrived with.<br /><br />Born with so much love within,<br />And ready to receive<br />All the love in the world,<br />A gift from love to love and back again.<br /><br />We the unprotected, the vulnerable,<br />The innocent, the naïve,<br />The trusting, the powerless,<br />Without a defense, without a guard.<br /><br />Ready, available, naked,<br />Then the cut, the hurt, the wounding.<br />We never saw it coming,<br />And never knew when it was done.<br /><br />Our experience is our “normal.”<br />That is how it is,<br />Without questioning, without realizing, without knowing<br />That it was wrong, that it hurt,<br />That it was permanent.<br /><br />We thought we were born in love.<br />That was all we came with,<br />Open, available, unconditional loving beings.<br />But we were in harm’s way,<br />Innocent little children,<br />Willing to suffer without knowing what suffering is.<br /><br />Willing to receive whatever came our way,<br />Taking the pain of rejection and indifference,<br />Of control and training without being seen or known,<br />With acceptance, without complaint.<br /><br />We were struck down,<br />Not knowing that we were with assassins<br />Who took our hearts from us<br />And tore into them without regard.<br /><br />We forgive them, the wrongdoers,<br />For they know not what they do.<br />We blame ourselves:<br />We should have been different,<br />Easier and no trouble.<br />Oh, how I tried to be that.<br /><br />If only we were different somehow,<br />Then our natural loving selves would have survived<br />The confusion, mistrust and disappointment,<br />And the innocence that was taken, gone forever.<br /><br />When our indestructible selves were under attack,<br />And starved or given conditional love or no love at all,<br />It was time to do something:<br />Defend, attack, scream;<br />Adapt, withdraw, comply, suppress;<br />As we tried to make it all alright.<br /><br />It was time to recreate someone new.<br />We adapted and made ourselves better than we were,<br />More acceptable and more lovable, perhaps,<br />If that were even possible—<br />People who might get what they came for.<br /><br />My false self, my fake identity,<br />I always thought that was me.<br />I tried to be the person I thought I should be,<br />And thought that was me.<br /><br />Now, surely, the love will come.<br />I tried so hard to be the person<br />That I thought you wanted,<br />That I wanted to be.<br />But no one ever did love my false self,<br />Not even me.<br /><br />So I failed and the love didn’t come,<br />Not way back when I was my natural self,<br />And not when I changed into somebody else.<br />What more could I have done?<br /><br />I’ll be whatever you need me to be<br />To earn your love.<br />I’ll submit to you and kiss your feet,<br />If that’s what it takes<br />To make the not-OK feel OK.<br /><br />I’ll be someone who pleases you,<br />So that you delight in me.<br />I’ll have no needs of my own,<br />Never a trouble to you.<br /><br />Whatever you need me to be,<br />I’ll pretend to be that.<br />I promise to heal your deepest wound,<br />And then you can pretend to heal the wound of the pretend-me.<br /><br />If what I am isn’t enough,<br />I’ll try and try, again and again,<br />Or tell you that you are wrong,<br />And you should change.<br /><br />Can you be enough to heal my deepest wound?<br />I’ll dance and sing for you,<br />And make you laugh out loud.<br />I’ll cry, plead and beg,<br />Or be very, very good.<br /><br />I’ll act as if you were my mother.<br />To you, I’ll be your father,<br />Playing the past out,<br />Unconsciously projecting and transferring<br />Over and over again.<br /><br />I’ll be upset and angry.<br />Perhaps that will work.<br />I’ll control you,<br />And make you into what I want.<br /><br />Be what I need,<br />And I’ll be what you need.<br />We can be two created false selves,<br />Trying to heal who we thought we were.<br /><br />I am a damaged child,<br />And so are you.<br />It is where we start and end,<br />Or so we think.<br /><br />But we were not born that way,<br />That is not how we began.<br />Innocent little beings,<br />Ready for love to flow,<br />Adorable little things, just perfect as we were.<br /><br />Who are we now?<br />Not who we thought we were,<br />But my damaged child believes in itself,<br />And wants your love.<br /><br />I’ll give you all the love you need,<br />But it will never work out,<br />As my false self tries to heal your “damaged child,”<br />And wishes for your false self to heal me.<br /><br />We the survivors, one and all,<br />Have adapted and recreated ourselves.<br />We knew not what we did,<br />But did what we had to do.<br /><br />It was the only way<br />To live among the damage-doers,<br />As we found our place in the generational line<br />Of damage done to damage-doers,<br />For that’s what we become.<br /><br />For all of us<br />Are damaged children,<br />And the first cut<br />Was the deepest.<br /><br />The first cut was the most profound,<br />For it told us who we were,<br />Unworthy of the love that was our birthright,<br />As we assumed it was all normal<br />And that we were not.<br /><br />That early damage changed me for life,<br />Making me believe I was not OK,<br />I was too much, and not normal,<br />So I changed as I tried to be “normal enough”<br />For those who made me feel not so,<br />Not seeing that it was they who were not.<br /><br />They never did notice what they did,<br />And they never changed,<br />For they were already not who they really were,<br />And carried their deepest wound, too.<br /><br />The unloved, wounded child,<br />Carried along for life,<br />Never knowing what it is to be loved,<br />To be loved for no reason at all,<br />Just for the way he [or she] is.<br /><br />Who I was wasn’t loved,<br />So I changed and then found<br />That what I became wasn’t loved, either.<br />They didn’t even notice how I changed,<br />And there was no bonus love for effort.<br /><br />I changed as best I could,<br />But that was rejected too.<br />Love didn’t come, and it was my fault,<br />But there was nothing more I could do.<br /><br />They didn’t have the love they came in with,<br />Gone long before I arrived,<br />And I thought it was all because of me,<br />That they really had something I could get,<br />If only I could figure it all out.<br />But all along the bank was empty.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">What I have made myself into<br />Is not free to love you.<br />I give because I want,<br />And what I want, you don’t have.<br /><br />I am a wounded self who has forgotten who I am,<br />Trying to love another wounded self<br />Who has forgotten who she is,<br />Trying to love me back.<br /><br />All selves are made up in one way or another,<br />But that is not who we are.<br />We are the baby that came out of the womb:<br />Open, innocent, not seeking or wanting;<br />And not lacking, nor experiencing neglect.<br /><br /><br /></span><br /> <blockquote class="tr_bq"> <i><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">It is the baby who is unconditionally loving,</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Born to be itself just as it is,</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Accepting whatever comes its way,</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Without knowing what it wants.</span></i></blockquote> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />An infant doesn’t tell its parents how to be,<br />Or what they should do.<br />It doesn’t make them wrong or criticize,<br />Or think it knows best.<br />They are free to do whatever they do.<br /><br />So I open myself to you,<br />And willingly receive what you have,<br />Including the demands of your wounded heart,<br />And who you think you should be,<br />And I bring the same to you.<br /><br />There is no need for us to hide<br />Our innocence and our natural, loving hearts,<br />Each heart ready and willing to love and be loved,<br />Because that is what we were born to do.<br /><br />My heart was born to do the same as yours,<br />So how are we going to do that?<br />Let’s love all aspects of ourselves.<br />Let’s love our trying and failing.<br /><br />Let’s love our false selves,<br />The selves that we are not.<br />Let’s love the part of ourselves that is quietly calling for love,<br />And the part that thinks it should be unconditionally loving.<br /><br />Let’s connect with who we really are,<br />Loving hearts with no agenda,<br />No demands or expectations or hopes,<br />And no trying to be what we think the other wants.<br /><br />Let’s be with what we truly are:<br />Nothing to do, nowhere to go,<br />Just here now, as we are,<br />Me accepting of you and of myself,<br />And you accepting of me and yourself.<br /><br />I love you because I do,<br />With all my heart,<br />For no reason and with no agenda,<br />Because that is what I was born to do.<br /><br />I can only love you when I feel love for myself,<br />And then I don’t need you to do that for me.<br />When I feel my love for me,<br />The love is felt for you,<br />And then back again.<br /><br />I can’t love you without loving me,<br />Because that would be fake.<br />I can’t love me and then not love you.<br />To think that is even possible would be a mistake.<br /><br />I want you to love you, and also me,<br />Without the effort of trying,<br />Of planning and thinking,<br />Without having a job to do.<br /><br />You don’t have to be good enough for me,<br />Because you were never not so.<br />How could you be?<br />When all that you are is everything,<br />When what you are is me.<br /><br />Let’s love, and be done with the trying.<br />Let’s allow in the love we thought we didn’t deserve.<br />Let’s be done with trying to be what we think the other wants,<br />In the hopeless hope that we will then earn a love that was always free.<br /><br />Free to love with nothing to fix<br />And nothing to mend,<br />For we were never broken,<br />And now all that can end.<br /><br />Let’s just allow ourselves to love<br />And to be loved for no particular reason,<br />Getting what we came for,<br />And doing what we were born to do.</span><br /> <br /> <div> </div> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The deepest wound. My wound, your wound, Was the first, the most cutting, The damage done, Before we even knew who we were.

The deepest wound. My wound, your wound, Was the first, the most cutting, The damage done, Before we even knew who we were. Just starting ...

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We compensated for lack of nurturing as a child by immersing ourselves in fantasy.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg8k_iIvTzfG7XWcevxyijehcKBpIy5Qg16FhWOZhjtHmFiCPrUFlcMZ7UxpHmlwztqaLxzFdhU97aQcN3JpUaWGy7hiF89NtEQiObJYXLPGY0bora2daucDcdHZ6CVV3IsTLkA6pqy_snZ/s1600/theten234.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="300" data-original-width="1200" height="80" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg8k_iIvTzfG7XWcevxyijehcKBpIy5Qg16FhWOZhjtHmFiCPrUFlcMZ7UxpHmlwztqaLxzFdhU97aQcN3JpUaWGy7hiF89NtEQiObJYXLPGY0bora2daucDcdHZ6CVV3IsTLkA6pqy_snZ/s320/theten234.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace;">We compensated for lack of nurturing as a child by immersing ourselves in fantasy. Fantasies of being rescued or being the rescuer abound. Knights, dragons, romance novels- getting high from fantasy becomes habit.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace;">When we play with fantasy, we can get high in about 10 minutes, and stay there for 2-3 hours. Endorphins are released into their system, relieving emotional pain and alienating our child within further.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace;">We begin relationships by trying too hard to please and connect. We are driven to find someone to tell us that we are loveable and loved; to find someone who will rescue us from our inability to care for ourselves; rescue us from their loneliness, emptiness of our childhood, lack of self-love, inability to feel safe in the world without someone to protect us. We look for a relationship to make us feel whole and abandon our child within once more.</span></span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We compensated for lack of nurturing as a child by immersing ourselves in fantasy.

We compensated for lack of nurturing as a child by immersing ourselves in fantasy. Fantasies of being rescued or being the rescuer abound....

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At the core of all addictions is abuse. By abuse what we mean is emotional loss in childhood

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg2d4bn-NfsEsHUZlpnK-HZnSN9qeJzvM6LdJ0KACxSq1aqta62HD-PPmQlQz76BIszKXKnphaOMvdSPdmwZXaUY7J8vMhLumKq0yVvUyLYXArhyphenhyphenEq6KurxkbE6LUnQ6CJoZZojNuQ2yeOA/s1600/imagepot67.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="183" data-original-width="275" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg2d4bn-NfsEsHUZlpnK-HZnSN9qeJzvM6LdJ0KACxSq1aqta62HD-PPmQlQz76BIszKXKnphaOMvdSPdmwZXaUY7J8vMhLumKq0yVvUyLYXArhyphenhyphenEq6KurxkbE6LUnQ6CJoZZojNuQ2yeOA/s1600/imagepot67.jpeg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">At the core of all addictions is abuse. By abuse what we mean is emotional loss in childhood, and in the case of severe addicts, you can see — and large-scale population studies show — that there is significant childhood abuse such as family violence, addiction in the family, sexual and emotional abuse, physical abuse, a parent being mentally ill or in jail. These adverse childhood experiences have been shown to exponentially increase the risk of addiction later on in life. That’s one set of difficult experiences.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">There’s another set of difficult experiences that’s a bit harder to distinguish, and that’s not when bad things happen but when good things don’t happen. A child has certain fundamental needs for emotional development and also for brain development. If you look at the human brain, it develops under the impact of the environment. The potentials are genetically set, but which genes are turned on and off depends very much on the environment. So for example, in the case of addiction, the brain’s reward circuitry is impaired… the person’s circuits, which have to do with the chemical dopamine and which give you a sense of reward incentive and motivation, are not well-developed. Those circuits need the support of the environment to help them in their development, and the essential quality of the environment is a mutually responsive relationship with the parent or caregiver.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">So in families where the parents are overly stressed or aren’t able to be emotionally present with the children, in the case of sensitive children, that can interfere with their brain development. The children will look for reward elsewhere.The Child will dissociate When we’re looking at psychological pain at the heart of all addictions and addictive behaviours, they have one intended purpose: to soothe pain or to escape from pain or stress. So whether we’re looking at the psychological side of addiction, which is needing to escape from pain or stress, or the brain physiology side, which is the underdeveloped reward circuits in the brain, we’re looking at the impact of our childhood.</span><br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

At the core of all addictions is abuse. By abuse what we mean is emotional loss in childhood

At the core of all addictions is abuse. By abuse what we mean is emotional loss in childhood, and in the case of severe addicts, you can s...

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Sometimes the truth hits like a bucket of cold water, spluttering we surface as the old gives way to the new.

<br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; clear: both; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; margin-top: 20px; orphans: 2; overflow: hidden; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> </div> <br /> <div dir="ltr" style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: left; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhCjLVYNVbEb1kuPAYs3NAUnvHI1lPq4vjyYaGQZA7kjmmfaVcvoIimEa6sEdEnIQOP9W-lmlHE5IA3zB6nQJX-q1rFkncxQyYEdbFjVqUXB3b7ufF5i8rypEZgTwUZbxiGHybZJ5lCvp4T/s1600/recovery10.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="1280" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhCjLVYNVbEb1kuPAYs3NAUnvHI1lPq4vjyYaGQZA7kjmmfaVcvoIimEa6sEdEnIQOP9W-lmlHE5IA3zB6nQJX-q1rFkncxQyYEdbFjVqUXB3b7ufF5i8rypEZgTwUZbxiGHybZJ5lCvp4T/s320/recovery10.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <div style="margin: 0px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Joining The 10 Stages  starts the emotional healing process, if it goes well, it risks much. </span></div> <div style="margin: 0px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Basically at risk is our false constructed self, which is all most of us have. It’s how we’ve been defining ourselves for most of our entire conscious lives – ever since we created it to fit into our childhood families. </span></div> <div style="margin: 0px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div style="margin: 0px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Healing attempts to help us understand ourselves and to modify this false shadow self, to help us manifest our recovery our true self that lies underneath, dormant or partially dormant for years.We know our truth but have not been able to manifest it until now.</span></div> <div style="margin: 0px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />When this process succeeds, the consequences are great, and often seemingly negative. Becoming honest is a betrayal of all our false relationships – be they with friends, parents, partners, family members, colleagues, or with society as a whole. It throws our old dynamics into turmoil, which can be especially painful if there is much interdependency in our history. </span></div> <div style="margin: 0px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div style="margin: 0px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Our belief systems are turns upside down and now we taste real freedom and real recovery for the first time.Sometimes the truth hits like a bucket of cold water, spluttering we surface as the old gives way to the new.</span></div> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0px; overflow: hidden; padding: 0px;"></ul> </div> </div> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Sometimes the truth hits like a bucket of cold water, spluttering we surface as the old gives way to the new.

Joining The 10 Stages  starts the emotional healing process, if it goes well, it risks much.  Basically at risk is our false const...

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As we journey forward in the ten stages , different parts of ourselves live at different stages of healing from dissociation.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrJjsSfzz_I_yTz6ydSavlcfmpf8lPHPVfDggz8ftw4X7CnEbkNuDBL-a_1lMnyXyhVrz6KOpK9TFa0ApG5YyYDlQ5nMbi2kpghRG0Cp_ZGQX33AlBy8Um2TiiG-wbzRJ4QBqTjD8SKj5l/s1600/10428672_10154666833615702_3280276145782273141_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="432" data-original-width="324" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrJjsSfzz_I_yTz6ydSavlcfmpf8lPHPVfDggz8ftw4X7CnEbkNuDBL-a_1lMnyXyhVrz6KOpK9TFa0ApG5YyYDlQ5nMbi2kpghRG0Cp_ZGQX33AlBy8Um2TiiG-wbzRJ4QBqTjD8SKj5l/s320/10428672_10154666833615702_3280276145782273141_n.jpg" width="240" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">As we journey</span><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"> forward in the ten stages , different parts of ourselves live at different stages of healing from dissociation. Some parts can be amazingly healed and insightful, while others can remain buried and out of touch. Our different parts traverse the various stages at their own speeds, seemingly independently – but ultimately connected to our core of perfection by our universal thread of truth.</span><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The most primitive stage on life’s healing journey is that of contest. This is the stage of grandiosity, acceptance by the norm, dissociated happiness, and approval by the historic parents. The parts of us that are winning the contest stop our journey before it has even begun. Here we deny our deepest traumas so intensely that we fool even ourselves into believing they never happened – and that we are already healed. It is for this reason that dissociation mimics enlightenment. Here we idealise the ancient historic parent, which allows us full unconscious liberty to replicate the worst of our past in our present. Here we do not look beneath our surface, and if fate goes our way, we will never have to. We remain happily distant from the misery lurking in our guts.</span><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Yet where parts of us lose the contest we evolve into the second stage: suffering. This is the stage of depression, failure, misery, and inertia. Here we wallow in seemingly purposeless pain. The silver lining around our cloud of parental idealisation has been stripped away, but the cloud remains intact. We still wish to be rescued by our parents and their replicated stand-ins, but we lack the requisite pain tolerance to be able to acknowledge the impossibility of this. Here we live in tortured ambivalence, and we spend out hours and days trying to get others to love us in the way our parents never could. Part of us wishes to devolve back into the seeming pleasure of grandiosity, but the healthier part recalls how cruelly that route already failed us.</span><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Those parts of us with the capacity to face our terrors enter the third stage: grieving. This is the stage of purposeful struggling. Here we unearth the truth of our past, which allows the eruption of the stinking cesspool of our buried traumas. Here we witness the horror lurking behind idealisation/normalisation of the parents and we work to disassemble their lies. Our honest confidence leads us into the face of the hurricane, because our child within and its allies tell us that blue skies lie on the other side. Here we are humble, here we confront the truth of the worst of our historic parents legacy, either in interaction with them or through whatever means will best help us integrate the truth, and through this our journey rages forward.</span><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">With each dissociated demon we conquer we take a further step into the fourth stage: enlightenment. This is the stage of emotional integration, psychic balance, and inner peace. Here lie our deepest goals. All want to know truth, and the enlightened person achieves it – in all parts of ourselves that arrive in the final stage. Here we grow able to distinguish light from shadow and water from mirage. Here we nurture the evolution of our primitive dissociated sides instead of expressing them destructively. Here we devote the best of ourselves to healing our traumas. Here we no longer traumatise others in the very patterns in which we were traumatised, but instead replicate the best of ourselves – and generate beauty in the world around us. Here, having healed our trauma, we share freely of our gifts, because now our gifts are accessible.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

As we journey forward in the ten stages , different parts of ourselves live at different stages of healing from dissociation.

As we journey  forward in the ten stages , different parts of ourselves live at different stages of healing from dissociation. Some parts ...

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Becoming awakened to the ten stages is an introduction into a new way of life.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKASKOC6bX9Wk2224NUsUMVH-vASRwBkilMPXFrnVUE-OC4Fxce1SkriwOzSv-sesU4dkPcO3LBxpxll9Hrm472k3hbkJP7MSmNKMtEzf1XCf-za7zBOiotFjSwkx6DSY0IyMWPgoiUvYe/s1600/WWW+design10STAGES.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="800" data-original-width="800" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKASKOC6bX9Wk2224NUsUMVH-vASRwBkilMPXFrnVUE-OC4Fxce1SkriwOzSv-sesU4dkPcO3LBxpxll9Hrm472k3hbkJP7MSmNKMtEzf1XCf-za7zBOiotFjSwkx6DSY0IyMWPgoiUvYe/s320/WWW+design10STAGES.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Becoming awakened to the ten stages is an introduction into a new way of life. Although we can and do intercede with others , we often do not. We live in a new and different world. Our mental make-up has changed . This is often painful . We may be attracted to some, but on a new level we have become incompatible with the mass.<br /><br /><br />We who have undertaken the path of healing, the path of resolving our deepest childhood traumas, are changed by it. We are no longer a like. We can relate to them, but they can no longer relate to us, because they have no frame of reference by which to understand us. We will judge them accurately, and they will only misjudge us in return labelling us as judgemental. We will breathe outside the box in which they operate.<br /><br />This will be painful for us. We will often lack for company. We will know loneliness. We will know isolation. We will not always enjoy it. We will want approval from others who will not be able to give it. <i>They will not be able to rescue us.</i><br /><br /><br />It is hard to be become awakened. Most have in our planet’s history died out quickly. Many of us do not find suitable friends. We have to learn to be alone. It is easier to join the flock and find our partner within its folds.<br /><br />There is hope for the awakened. As we live a long time, we are compelled to struggle for the Ten Stages and the key, the child within. Perhaps we will catch hold and someday become more. Even if we do not prosper on a physical level, our ideas can already are instituting that change within ourselves. This is a wonderful time for ten stage change. Our world is opening. Our world has a new and powerful truth filled message.<br /><br /><a href="http://wildtruth.net/on-being-a-new-species/#"></a></span><br /> <div class="sharedaddy sd-sharing-enabled" style="border-radius: 0px; border: 0px; clear: both; line-height: 19.5px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; zoom: 1;"> </div> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Becoming awakened to the ten stages is an introduction into a new way of life.

Becoming awakened to the ten stages is an introduction into a new way of life. Although we can and do intercede with others , we often do ...

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So what is Dissociation (being split-off from one’s deepest truth) which mimics recovery– but it isn’t recovery.

<br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; clear: both; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; margin-top: 20px; orphans: 2; overflow: hidden; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> </div> <br /> <div dir="ltr" style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: left; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiFxaBzY7yIfHha7rDY9p4RJOW9umy7kBoi3Zi9OwVmcBa6YJHA9GkFdYGYR91BK8eSy_eDTFnOBUW5SVXkLHFuf-ZZG1ltlTQhyphenhyphenAyDF1gls02uD9Ae0T3chQC4wrvEvPEpi9ijgSbPdClX/s1600/recovery10.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="1280" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiFxaBzY7yIfHha7rDY9p4RJOW9umy7kBoi3Zi9OwVmcBa6YJHA9GkFdYGYR91BK8eSy_eDTFnOBUW5SVXkLHFuf-ZZG1ltlTQhyphenhyphenAyDF1gls02uD9Ae0T3chQC4wrvEvPEpi9ijgSbPdClX/s320/recovery10.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <div style="margin: 0px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The most painful deep seated education within the ten stages is to deal with our dissociations.This will cause us considerable amounts of pain and suffering. So what is Dissociation (being split-off from one’s deepest truth) which mimics recovery– but it isn’t recovery. We who are dissociated live in great peace. But this is only because we have blocked our negative feelings. As a recovered we resolves our negatives feelings, and thus our peace is not false. Emotional detachment, in recovery, can mean two different things. In the first meaning, it refers to an "inability to connect" with others emotionally, as well as a means of dealing with anxiety by preventing certain situations that trigger it; it is often described as "emotional numbing" or dissociation, depersonalisation or in its chronic form depersonalisation disorder. In the second sense, it is a decision to avoid engaging emotional connections, rather than an inability or difficulty in doing so, typically for personal, social, or other reasons. In this sense it can allow us to maintain boundaries, psychic integrity and avoid undesired impact by or upon others, related to emotional demands.<br /><br />We who are dissociated do not suffer. But this is only because we have abandoned our healing process and numbed our pain. Enlightenment grows from the fertilised soil of suffering.<br /><br />we who are dissociated call ourselves recovered. But this is only because we have  no conception of what recovery is. Recovery is the polar opposite of dissociation.<br /><br />WE who are dissociated are not easily emotionally ruffled. But this is only because there lies a thick wall buffering our hidden, vulnerable self from the sharp and often honest edges of the world. We who have scaled the rocky walls of dissociation become the recovered. we are much less protected, but have such a deep core of self-love that we can defend ourselves with the pristine armour of gentlness.<br /><br />We who are the still dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness. But this is only because we completely deny the harm done to ourselves – and the deep damage remaining. We the enlightened forgive spontaneously and without effort because we have fully embraced our dissociated parts and grieved every honest ounce of our childhood misery.<br /><br />We who are still dissociated are extremely self-confident. But this is only because our self-deceptive armour is impenetrable to self-reflection. The self-confidence of recovered enlightenment is fed by the universal spring of life.<br /><br />We who are dissociated gravitate naturally toward leadership roles. But this is only because we are experts at leading ourselves away from our childhood heart’s true course. We who have become recovered enlightened  leads right to the heart of the matter.<br /><br />We who are dissociated have gone through hell to get to where we’re at. But we still fail to realise that we’re still stuck right in hell. Recovered Enlightenment is the freedom of emotional integration.<br /><br />We who are still dissociated feel we have found their true self. But this is only because we equate our true self with no self at all – or at best a false self or ego based on a distorted sense of consciousness. Recovery is the true child within linked with our conscious mind.<br /><br />We who are dissociated consider ourselves paragons of spirituality. But this is only because our spirits are so buried behind walls of denial that we have no conception of what spirit is. Recovery is the passionate spirit of the child held by the consciousness of the adult.<br /><br />We who are dissociated are quite motivated, sophisticated, and convincing. But this is only because we perennially risk returning to suffering if we do not convince everyone of our lies. Recovery brings a motivation to spread the truth that is everyone’s birthright.<br /><br />We who are dissociated act decisively. But this is only because we cannot see or question our unconscious motivation. We The enlightened is also decisive, but only because we have no unconscious, because in our healing process it, like a now-useless appendage, has dissolved.<br /><br />Dissociation is contrary to Recovery.Behind dissociation lies unresolved trauma, and only once trauma is resolved can the light of consciousness enter the core of our being.</span></div> </div> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

So what is Dissociation (being split-off from one’s deepest truth) which mimics recovery– but it isn’t recovery.

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We have spent so much time focused on what we can’t control

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6kYEEVgG5Wap_gQjbuXgF6oDXgx2tqkzphS8iBYykrYsqGRGUpk7pJgMXSQfRKImnuX7zjXusHCBdsnwb_Y7r6VypGUlFr4wcy2mJS2qZkLAX-0yiJ0Kv8zsWJEtAHzz-TlT4ZhHHM8Ir/s1600/1-trauma123.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="421" data-original-width="469" height="287" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6kYEEVgG5Wap_gQjbuXgF6oDXgx2tqkzphS8iBYykrYsqGRGUpk7pJgMXSQfRKImnuX7zjXusHCBdsnwb_Y7r6VypGUlFr4wcy2mJS2qZkLAX-0yiJ0Kv8zsWJEtAHzz-TlT4ZhHHM8Ir/s320/1-trauma123.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <br /><br /><span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We have spent so much time focused on what we can’t control that we get so caught up only in that, and as a result, we feel totally powerless over our lives in recovery.<br /><br />And while it’s important to be aware of what’s wrong and what we cannot control, our power is not found there. Our power is found in focusing on our child within and releasing its intuitive voice. By focusing ONLY on the problem, we tend to create more “problem.” reinforcing trauma that we acutely feel fro our childhoods.By becoming aware of the “problems” of the child within and then focusing on contact, we begin to take re-empower ourselves.<br /><br /><br /><br />If you don’t know what the solution is to your circumstance, why not ask your child within ?<br /></span><br />The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We have spent so much time focused on what we can’t control

We have spent so much time focused on what we can’t control that we get so caught up only in that, and as a result, we feel totally powerl...

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