We still inhabit a nursery nightmare where abuse or trauma is going to happen ‘next’ and the only remedy we know is not to look – to deny.

  
To maintain confidence, while still being able to share our histories we who are attending courses have to be taught that when talking about the group to others we leave all the identifying material about the other member out of the conversation, and we say what became activated for us as a course member. our reaction is ours to share, and the origin of it, the details of it, are kept confidential. 
Because many of us come from dysfunctional backgrounds our sole means of gaining self worth was to dissociate into gossiping about others often we re-seek out inappropriate people to share our and others private confidential inner course work to falsely inflate our low self-worth this is damaging to us and others in that all trust is once more lost.



We are here to maintain a healthy contact with our child within and will not tolerate inappropriate behaviour between sexes. Romance is often used as a method of powerful dissociation and often has similar results as drugs or drink. Shaking hands is OK. Hugging is not. Many of us have been abused. So we need to understand that we run under the conditions of TRUTH, TRUST and CONSENT.

The Stages is intent on restoring dignity and respect to sufferers from emotional distress. We are adult human beings, with full human rights, except they are currently operating on infantile survival strategies. We need restoration to re-invent ourselves together – we’ve done what we can, and now need support with the remainder. In other words, it is essential to enlist our own determination to deal with childhood from the inside. This is a course of adult emotional education in a playground. There is no danger that we do not wish to rid ourselves of our painful symptoms of ruined relationships and near fatal addictions – we just need support and guidance as to how to do this. Truth, Trust and Consent are essential ingredients, since the co-operation and determination of us is crucial to any re-evaluation of the ‘frozen Childhood Emotions’. 
Bringing our emotional survival strategies up to date, and our symptoms lessen and finally after redundancy evaporate. Our key is to appreciate and convey that every emotional resource is being used by our child within to prevent our dreaded truth coming out into the daylight of an adult world – the process of denial is heaviest in the best endowed mental survivalists. We are deluding ourselves as to the real true root of the pain and numbness. We have the knowledge that any and all infantile damage is well and truly over – but deep within ourselves the reasoning fails to permeate. We still inhabit a nursery nightmare where abuse or trauma is going to happen ‘next’ and the only remedy we know is not to look – to deny. Reversing this scenario at the Stages, allows the glories of adulthood to blossom.

The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages